feeling sick tonight

[pabloback]

met somebody on a blind date tonight,
although we have gotten on really well on the phone talking and have a lot in common, actually in the flesh was a real turn off for me.
what made it worse was the fact that i pushed real hard to meet her and gave her a really hard time about personalities are what matter not physical looks and how beauty is only skin deep.
she is really attracted to me now and it was tough letting her down . i really like her but only as a friend
now i feel a complete shit
life is a real bitch

 

[lilminx]

met somebody on a blind date tonight,
although we have gotten on really well on the phone talking and have a lot in common, actually in the flesh was a real turn off for me.
what made it worse was the fact that i pushed real hard to meet her and gave her a really hard time about personalities are what matter not physical looks and how beauty is only skin deep.
she is really attracted to me now and it was tough letting her down . i really like her but only as a friend
now i feel a complete shit
life is a real bitch

That is a bummer- That's happened to me so many times- except that I often find that the guy wasn't completely honest about his looks. I try to be nice on the date b/c I want to make the best out of a bad situation, but then he takes my politeness as interest in him.
If you're not physically attracted to her, there's nothing you can do about it. Next time you talk to her, just tell her that you didn't feel any chemistry on the date...

 

[pabloback]

good advice thanks

 

[MissTaken]

Sorry you are so down Pablo. It is difficult because no matter how great the connection appear to be, physical chemistry needs to be there as well.

And you aren't a shit, you are only human.

 

[PacificBlue]

I hope you won't feel badly for long. You didn't do anything wrong and you don't need to worry about what you said about beauty being only skin deep. If there isn't any physical attraction there's no point in trying to force it. She will be ok, you will be ok. Better to end it now than draw it out any further. Honesty is always the best policy even if it hurts, I think.