Faux Master (aka the "imperfect" Master)?

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I started another thread about the "perfect" Master, including "dream" masters and it became a very interesting thread regarding expectations, realities, etc. So, once again, for my edification and to get an even more complete picture, I'd like to hear about the negative qualities that would make you say, "This isn't a real master. This is a faux master."

I'd especially like to hear about qualities that seem on the surface to be "masterly" but when you get down to the nitty-gritty, to reality, they ring hollow. So, in what ways have you seen or, if you're willing to share, personally interacted with a Dom who failed to live up to his own hype?

Or, put it another way, as a sub (or master)--what pitfalls in the road are there that a Dom can easily fall into and end up being a faux rather than a real master? What misconceptions can they have about themselves and their role--either when they start, or sometime in the relationship--that will make them a fake Dom, rather than the genuine article?

I'm assuming this one's harder to answer than the "perfect" master thread--and likely more personal. So thanks in advance...many grateful thanks, for offering any thoughts, advice, insight you may have on the subject.

 

[FurryFury]

This is harder.

Just off the top of my head, when they say things like "rinse off the ginger" or "lube it lightly" you know they don't know shit about figging. *smiles sweetly*

Oh there is so much more but I'm still dizzy and there are better people than me to speak to these issues.

Fury

 

[catalina_francisco]

I actually don't find it harder, except in that it may be difficlt to explain it to someone who doesn't pick up signals or who might be easily mesmerised by someone simly because they say they are a Dom/me. The short answer would be you take time and notice of the slip ups, the inconsistencies in their stories and behaviour, a asual attitude about knowing what they are doing or worse still telling you how something is done when you know it is not. One other thing for me is when they are more occupied with being seen and publicly acknowledged then having a private and real D/s scene and relatinship. Also as I said in the other thread, someone who has very real expectations of unrealistic behaviour such as obediance always regardless of illness, trauma, stress etc; expects a sub to be seen and not heard unless spoken to and given permission to speak 24/7; expecting a sub to take whetever they dish out without any reaction in a less than enthusiastic and overjoyed way; expecting respect without earning it; posting or ging to chatrooms under a username of Lord or Master or Mistress xyz. And the list goes on but midnight approaches here so rush away I must....oh and definately one who claims to have never made a mistake, misundersood a sub at some time, or done anything wrong.

Catalina