Submissive… or Just in Love with the Fantasy?

[barefootgirl69]

Submission during intimacy or only in the bedroom, isn't that a bottom?

 

[Oralexplorer]

Thank you for all the thoughts and explanations you put into this. You're certainly helping me get a better feel for what possibilities around in this type of relationship/scenario. It is such a relief to find people willing to explore and explain. There are so many facets to BDSM and it boggles my mind that, *cough*, somebody, *cough*, meaning my husband, could have no desire for even a taste of it. I suppose it takes a certain raw bravery to explore some of these aspects of yourself and others.

It does take a bit of vulnerability to put yourself out there given all perceived ideas about it.

 

[seela]

Submission during intimacy or only in the bedroom, isn't that a bottom?

I don’t think so. You can be submissive only sexually or only in the bedroom.

Top/bottom refer to the activities without necessarily being dominant or submissive. Like you can spank/get spanked just because it turns you on. It doesn’t make you dominant/submissive in regards to the other party.

D/s is about the relationship/dynamic. Top/bottom is about the activity. Or maybe, D/s is *why* we do, T/b is *what* we do.

 

[Oralexplorer]

I don’t think so. You can be submissive only sexually or only in the bedroom.

Top/bottom refer to the activities without necessarily being dominant or submissive. Like you can spank/get spanked just because it turns you on. It doesn’t make you dominant/submissive in regards to the other party.

D/s is about the relationship/dynamic. Top/bottom is about the activity. Or maybe, D/s is *why* we do, T/b is *what* we do.

I think also this post might help

https://forum.literotica.com/threads/whats-in-a-label-words-of-wisdom-from-stella-omega.1360492/

 

[Erosfan]

Totally agree with you, "anything" at the starts just leaves a whole lot of empty spaces. Once you know each other well and all the communications has happened and you know each other limits then anything within that limit is possible. The limit is ofcourse what you set.

I love this. At times, I really enjoy being pushed to my limits, and beyond. It a thrill to go that little bit extra. I don't want to get too crazy with this, I just want to explore, safely.

 

[Oralexplorer]

I love this. At times, I really enjoy being pushed to my limits, and beyond. It a thrill to go that little bit extra. I don't want to get too crazy with this, I just want to explore, safely.

That's the key word, it's boring but it distinguishes a dynamic from anything else. "Safely".

 

[AprilTwenties]

Bit of both, boo. I was brought into this by reading about my now-owner's exploits. She's a streetwalker. But she was also married and shit, y'know? Drink and drugs and all that stuff. That was a big 360 for me, but a turn on all the same.

I found she lived, like, the next city over and sought her out. Met her and she turned me out and I do all the shit that she used to do - drink and drugs - and I sell myself on the streets for her. That was, like, 14 years ago.

So, fantasy becoming real life. Happily so, boo.

A x

 

[Ssbbw4u1974]

I played the part of a submissive for a few years to a DD type..
I needed it at the time.
In reality, it's not my style anymore..