Exploring with women

[dizzylia]

What "father" thing is that?

Weren't you called Father or something at the ticket counter?

 

[TheDagda]

Weren't you called Father or something at the ticket counter?

I had completely forgotten that! Yes, I was. I was wearing my utilikilt , but apparently the guy behind the counter didn't notice that. He did notice that I had on a black shirt with a high, straight collar, and from that apparently deduced that I was a Catholic priest.

I didn't feel obliged to correct him, but we did get a chuckle about it later. Thanks for reminding me. *smooch*

 

[dizzylia]

I had completely forgotten that! Yes, I was. I was wearing my utilikilt , but apparently the guy behind the counter didn't notice that. He did notice that I had on a black shirt with a high, straight collar, and from that apparently deduced that I was a Catholic priest.

I didn't feel obliged to correct him, but we did get a chuckle about it later. Thanks for reminding me. *smooch*

I still find it highly amusing. I guess it just goes to show how well people actually bother to look at other people. Or maybe it's just that this particular ticket person had no powers of observation. Kind of worrisome in a way, seeing as it was an airport.

 

[dizzylia]

*peeks* Does anyone still read this? There's still lots to discuss if anyone's interested. But I don't want to just talk to myself.

 

[Guest]

Back Again

Now that I am back, I would love to see this thread revived! We need to recruit some newcomers...

 

[Guest]

And I agree there's LOTS to discuss. I promise to keep my end up.

 

[Guest]

OK, I'm going to ask in my littlest, most sheepish voice, who else has experimented with spanking? And were your experiments, um, successful?

 

[dizzylia]

OK, I'm going to ask in my littlest, most sheepish voice, who else has experimented with spanking? And were your experiments, um, successful?

I must admit, spanking is one of those things that has never appealed to me, primarily because I don't understand what the allure is meant to be. What draws you to it?

 

[Guest]

I wasn't, or at least hadn't been, drawn to it at all! You might say that it was thrust upon me and, even as it was happening, I was surprised that on some level I was liking it...

I've yet to try it on a truly consensual basis, knowing in advance that it was to be on the menu, so to speak. But I have to admit that in the moment, it seemed to intensify other sensations.

 

[dizzylia]

What about it did you enjoy?

 

[Guest]

And to think you used to accuse me of asking hard questions! Two things: first, have you ever noticed that if you're aroused on some level, you're more easily excited on others, too? I realize that's not very clear, but I think that's why those Friday the 13th and other horror movies are so popular with teenagers. They get the adrenaline flowing and it's not such a great leap from anxiety to anticipation to desire.

When it was happening I was already hot and it made me hotter. Wouldn't have worked as foreplay, that's for sure.

The other reason I think had to do with the fact that rightly or wrongly, I was feeling guilty about something that I had done, and I wanted to let the person I was with express her feelings about that.

 

[dizzylia]

That does make sense, actually. But yeah... definitely wouldn't be high on the Foreplay list for me, either. I'd be more like, "get the f*** off me!" I'm like that with tickling, too. If it's first, eh. I'd rather roll over. *cough*

 

[Guest]

One other thing: because of the position I was in, and I'll leave that to your imagination, I couldn't tell when the next slap would land, even though I knew there would be more. Talk about anticipation!

Makes me wonder about blindfolds, too, for the same reasonn.

 

[dizzylia]

Makes me wonder about blindfolds, too, for the same reasonn.

Ooh, now blindfolds I can understand. Mmmmm. There is something extremely exciting about not knowing what your lover(s) might do next.

 

[sweetnlovely]

Hi! I haven't been on in ages, but your spanking discussion sparked my...um, interest.

I have to admit, I do occasionally enjoy it...if I'm in the right mood. (SHHH, it's a secret...lol)

My hubby and I will occasionally play with that angle, but it's not usually a full out, BDSM kind of thing...more of a smack on the ass here and there...I can't tell you intellectually why I enjoy it, but I guess part of it is the naughty, taboo angle of it...okay, heck, I have no idea.

Wouldn't like it as an every day type of thing....although, when we met our "friends", she gave me a couple of light smacks right...there...and it felt amazing! (yes, phyl, I FINALLY got to play!!!!!)

 

[dizzylia]

Hiya, sweet! It's been a while!

As for spanking, I guess I thought of "light spanks" and "spanking" as different things, which is silly of me, I know. Light spanks, hell yeah. Physically, they make the nerve endings tingle and bring a little more blood to your skin. The only thing more surprising is fingernails scraping across my ass. Mm. Mm. Mmmmm.

 

[sweetnlovely]

Oh, and I'm with you on the blindfold thing...having it on, and putting it on someone else...kind of empowering to know your lover can't see and object to anything you're doing...kind of liberating, isn't it?

 

[dizzylia]

Oh, and I'm with you on the blindfold thing...having it on, and putting it on someone else...kind of empowering to know your lover can't see and object to anything you're doing...kind of liberating, isn't it?

Liberating or captivating, depending on the situation. My favorite is being tied up and blindfolded, though that takes a hell of a lot of trust. Hmm.. okay, maybe not as much as some things, but I wouldn't let just anyone do that, that's for sure.

 

[sweetnlovely]

Oh, yeah... I like that too! We do that fairly often, but seeing as I've been with the same partner for a long time, the trust issue isn't a big deal, and even if it were to happen with our couple friend, I know hubby'd be there to keep things within my comfort level...so the sky's the limit..yummy!

 

[dizzylia]

Oh, yeah... I like that too! We do that fairly often, but seeing as I've been with the same partner for a long time, the trust issue isn't a big deal, and even if it were to happen with our couple friend, I know hubby'd be there to keep things within my comfort level...so the sky's the limit..yummy!

That sounds like a pretty fantastic arrangement.

 

[sweetnlovely]

For the most part...it's worked so far, although we've only tried it once. Still trying to compute some of it...lol. Some much action, so little brain space to absorb it all...

 

[bmw1080]

Hi, thought I would drop into the discussion as I use the blindfold with my partner of the time once we are comfortable with each other.

I find that it provides excitement and tension. invariably I will set the scene before I blindfold her by starting 2-3 days out and talking about what I want to do with her sexually, then lead into talking about tying her up (which we would have done previously) and then leading into talking about using a blindfold and the heightened sexual experience that she will have.

This has always worked for me. All of the women have said hwo great it was as an experience and how sexually turned they were. Part of it is the mystery of what is going to happen next.

I find using toys etc makes for an eventful time.

Cioa B

 

[dizzylia]

Ah yes, the build-up. Always a fantastic tool. Of course, in this house that often builds to... nothing. Due to other variables. (ie: kids)

 

[Guest]

LOL "Often" but not always, I hope

I'd let you tie me up anytime, Diz. In that corset of yours I'll bet you're quite the commanding presence!

 

[sweetnlovely]

I agree with bmw about the toys...when you're blindfolded, you have no idea what it is, and can just lay back and enjoy the sensation..
Yeah, we have those interruptions too, usually at the climax of the plot...frustrating as hell.lol

As for build up, hubby once tied me to the bed, slapped on a blindfold, spoke some very naughty words bout what he'd do to me...then went downstairs to watch tv while I laid there and fantasized...ohm