Endless Curiosity

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

I am unsure about this one.

I have seen just as many stories about people who fall in love on line, meet up and end up not liking each other as I have seen the opposite. Are platonic friendships any different? More to the point, are our expectations of platonic friendships so very different from our expectations of romantic relationships so as to allow for a more positive outcome for platonic relationships?

Probably I would put myself out there for a few people I have met on here, yes.

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

Bring it.

Dear Lord, so not on the table!

Only when you are least expecting it! :innocentface:

Okok, no fisting. Sheesh!

 

[ViciousTease]

I'm dropping off the Thirsty Thursday question a bit early:

Lit friends, where do they rank? Everyone talks about keeping expectations low, but are you open to having friends go real time or do you prefer to keep lit friends in their place? Would you put yourself out for one? If so, how far?

Quoting myself just feels wrong.

To answer the question, I have met a few here that I would like to pursue a real world friendship with. It hasn't happened, but I'm open to the idea.

 

[ViciousTease]

It's Naked Friday ...

If you were going to “play” (which of course excludes everyone who posts in this thread ) would age matter? Everyone says looks are immaterial, but would you cross age barriers online that you wouldn’t cross real time?

Bonus: Do you want pictures of your potential play partner or do you prefer to just stick with the image in your mind?

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

It's Naked Friday ...

If you were going to “play” (which of course excludes everyone who posts in this thread ) would age matter? Everyone says looks are immaterial, but would you cross age barriers online that you wouldn’t cross real time?

Bonus: Do you want pictures of your potential play partner or do you prefer to just stick with the image in your mind?

oh! ME!ME!ME! I have an answer to this one..
Age does matter to me. Since I tend to get attached, I prefer to not even entertain the young cubs because, let's be honest here... What do they "really" want?? Eh? Am I right? Plus, I just see no way of connecting with someone young enough to be my son. That's just, in a word "creepy" to me. (Sorry to all the cougars out there!)

Ok, as far a older, meh...I don't mind as much, I tend to stick within a 15 year range in either direction, though.

And, while y'all think I'm kidding here, I truthfully do not play online very often, if ever anymore, so I wouldn't need your picture because we'd just be talking about everyday stuff. If things were to develop, though, yes, I require multiple exhibits of photographic evidence.

 

[Amalgamation]

It's Naked Friday ...

If you were going to “play” (which of course excludes everyone who posts in this thread ) would age matter? Everyone says looks are immaterial, but would you cross age barriers online that you wouldn’t cross real time?

Bonus: Do you want pictures of your potential play partner or do you prefer to just stick with the image in your mind?

I think I do have age barriers, but it's not an intentional thing. I can chat with anyone, but only those close to my age or older..(many times older), seem to be able to jive and connect with me on the level required to play. In real time, I stick close to my age or older, so perhaps that preference bleeds into my interactions here. As far as pictures? I love pictures. Sending, receiving. I don't like relying on the picture in my head. I like to have a real an image as possible.

 

[Amalgamation]

oh! ME!ME!ME! I have an answer to this one..
Age does matter to me. Since I tend to get attached, I prefer to not even entertain the young cubs because, let's be honest here... What do they "really" want?? Eh? Am I right? Plus, I just see no way of connecting with someone young enough to be my son. That's just, in a word "creepy" to me. (Sorry to all the cougars out there!)

Ok, as far a older, meh...I don't mind as much, I tend to stick within a 15 year range in either direction, though.

And, while y'all think I'm kidding here, I truthfully do not play online very often, if ever anymore, so I wouldn't need your picture because we'd just be talking about everyday stuff. If things were to develop, though, yes, I require multiple exhibits of photographic evidence.

Exhibits? Like a museum? Lol

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Exhibits? Like a museum? Lol

what can I say? I grew up watching Perry Mason with my grandmother..lol

 

[Amalgamation]

what can I say? I grew up watching Perry Mason with my grandmother..lol

*hums the theme song*

 

[makemewet69]

It's Naked Friday ...

If you were going to “play” (which of course excludes everyone who posts in this thread ) would age matter? Everyone says looks are immaterial, but would you cross age barriers online that you wouldn’t cross real time?

Bonus: Do you want pictures of your potential play partner or do you prefer to just stick with the image in your mind?

I prefer older men, I don't really chat with younger ones. Since meeting CJ, who's 19 yrs older than me, I don't "play" with anyone except for him. I can, I just don't have any desire to. I used to play around a bit on here quite a bit via PM and email, the majority being older Dom types. It's just my preference. Nothing is wrong with the younger guys, I just have my preference like I'm sure everyone else does.

 

[Endless_Night]

It's Naked Friday ...

If you were going to “play” (which of course excludes everyone who posts in this thread ) would age matter? Everyone says looks are immaterial, but would you cross age barriers online that you wouldn’t cross real time?

Bonus: Do you want pictures of your potential play partner or do you prefer to just stick with the image in your mind?

Hmmm. I am going to say yes. Theoretically, no, it shouldn’t matter as long as we’re talking consenting adults, but too young for me is just plain creepy. Significantly older would be less of an issue. I think, as a range, I’m going to have to throw in with RA and say about 15 years either way.

Not doubt I’ll be in the minority, but I’m going to say no pics. For one, I’m very much a mental fantasist when it comes to sex. If I’ve chatted and built up a desire for someone I probably already have a picture in my head that I am more than happy with.

For two, I’d need to reciprocate. Body parts may turn out okay (<—-See feet ), but on the whole I am just not photogenic. Seriously. I think it may have to with my type of fairness. Everyone else comes out with perfect normal looking skin tones and I come out looking like a ghost. A pasty ghost. I am not kidding.

* * *

So, VT. We've had Thirsty Thursday and Naked Friday. Do I sense a theme?

 

[Workingman0315]

It depends on the connection I would share with them.

Still pretty new here and i would say have not yet met too many people that could meet out side of lit

 

[ydahecnot]

Age matters not, the connection does. I've had fun with women in their 20s as well as with women a few years older. And as far as needing, um, evidence, it depends on her comfort zone regarding such

 

[Endless_Night]

Age matters not, the connection does. I've had fun with women in their 20s as well as with women a few years older. And as far as needing, um, evidence, it depends on her comfort zone regarding such

There was a poster in the personal's section a year or so back. He demanded voice "proof" of any woman in within the first or second PM. Not someone he'd been chatting with, mind, but any woman who he was even considering a connection.

Once or twice he'd answer a woman's personal and she wouldn't be willing to jump through the hoop. He'd then go back into the thread of her personals add and "warn" any men reading that she was probably a man.

Boy, that got interesting.

 

[ratherabsurd1]

People are so crazy. And they think we will never catch on LOL

 

[Workingman0315]

It's Naked Friday ...

If you were going to “play” (which of course excludes everyone who posts in this thread ) would age matter? Everyone says looks are immaterial, but would you cross age barriers online that you wouldn’t cross real time?

Bonus: Do you want pictures of your potential play partner or do you prefer to just stick with the image in your mind?

Not sure age does matter well i am young still so maybe 30 years up and well of course must be over 18 for the low end.
I do like pictures does not need to be naked but a little something preferably fresh just to say this is taken just for you

 

[AbsintheFather]

I don't play with people under my daughter's age. (30) It makes me think of my girls and their friends and that seems creepy. I have played with older women, although lately there's fewer of them. I prefer people closer to my age and married. You just have more in common together. I realize were not getting married here, but I like my online friendships to be more than just sex.

Photos are not necessary at all if the writing is good. In fact they can really be a double-edged sword, either being a turn-on or off. I don't send them too often myself. On the plus-side, I had one friend who would send me photos daily of what she was wearing under her clothes. It was very inspiring and led to lot's of hot chats and inspired vignettes throughout the day.

 

[ydahecnot]

I don't play with people under my daughter's age. (30) It makes me think of my girls and their friends and that seems creepy. I have played with older women, although lately there's fewer of them. I prefer people closer to my age and married. You just have more in common together. I realize were not getting married here, but I like my online friendships to be more than just sex.

Photos are not necessary at all if the writing is good. In fact they can really be a double-edged sword, either being a turn-on or off. I don't send them too often myself. On the plus-side, I had one friend who would send me photos daily of what she was wearing under her clothes. It was very inspiring and led to lot's of hot chats and inspired vignettes throughout the day.

Now there's a damn good friend

 

[SassySheDevil]

I don't see a difference in ranking between Lit friends and neighbor friends, or school friends, or friends you might have met at the mini mart. If my expectations are low, it's because someone I meet online may never share the same things with me as someone I meet at the mini mart. We can't hear each other's laughter. We can't feel each other's warmth or look into each other's eyes and know we're thinking the same things. On the other hand, I am usually more genuine with online friends because I don't feel like I'm being judged or evaluated. And I have more time to think before I say stupid things. Sure, there's a difference. But it's not a difference in ranking or importance or quality. It's a difference in flavor. I have mint chocolate chip online friends, and rocky road in-person friends. And sometimes my online friends become my in-person friends. I like that. If we keep our expectations low, I think that might be because trust issues are at play. There are people online who are not genuine, and there's no recourse, nothing to keep them from saying or doing things that might hurt... they may be thousands of miles away and there's nothing we can do if they just disappear once we start to invest ourselves in them. Acquaintances, even, are the same to me. I may spend time chatting with a neighbor because I see him on the street. We don't get that involved. And I may interact with someone on the boards because we're both posting in the same thread. No difference to me.

Would I put myself out for one? Yes. Without a doubt. But I do that every day for complete strangers. So I'm an anomaly there. Still... if I value their friendship, online or in-person, I will do what friends are supposed to do. Put themselves out for each other. As far as I can.

Sorry that was very long.

This is how I feel. A few of my lit friends have been totally incorporated into my life. They talk to my family etc. I have met a couple and would love to meet many more. To me, they are no different than the friends whom I have here in person or Facebook etc. Hell I talk to them more than most of the Facebook people lol

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

It's Naked Friday ...

If you were going to “play” (which of course excludes everyone who posts in this thread ) would age matter? Everyone says looks are immaterial, but would you cross age barriers online that you wouldn’t cross real time?

Bonus: Do you want pictures of your potential play partner or do you prefer to just stick with the image in your mind?

Age doesn't really matter to me any more than looks do. It's a mental connection on here, and either it sizzles or it fizzles, regardless of how the other person might be categorized. In real life it would probably be different for me, and like many others I would prefer someone around my age or older. So I would have to say that yes, I would cross age barriers here that I wouldn't in real life.

Bonus Q No pics, thank you very much. I really don't care what you look like. And as to cock pics, well.. you seen one, you've seen them all Sexual delight for me is SO not about dick size. On line is pretty much fantasy, I'll stick with what's in my head

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Age doesn't really matter to me any more than looks do. It's a mental connection on here, and either it sizzles or it fizzles, regardless of how the other person might be categorized. In real life it would probably be different for me, and like many others I would prefer someone around my age or older. So I would have to say that yes, I would cross age barriers here that I wouldn't in real life.

Bonus Q No pics, thank you very much. I really don't care what you look like. And as to cock pics, well.. you seen one, you've seen them all :rolleyes: Sexual delight for me is SO not about dick size. On line is pretty much fantasy, I'll stick with what's in my head

This, until you've been with a man whose dick is smaller than a 13 year old's... And HE has a hang up about it....
Then. Yes, it's all about the size .

 

[emsway]

It's Naked Friday ...

If you were going to “play” (which of course excludes everyone who posts in this thread ) would age matter? Everyone says looks are immaterial, but would you cross age barriers online that you wouldn’t cross real time?

Bonus: Do you want pictures of your potential play partner or do you prefer to just stick with the image in your mind?

In real time I can't see myself with anyone more than 10 years younger. On Lit I have no real rules regarding age, but I need to feel a connection to the person before engaging in any intimate activities. I'm a five date kinda girl. Usually. There have been some notable exceptions. The really good connections usually happen with people closer to my age, with similar life experiences. With some notable exceptions.

 

[ydahecnot]

oops misfire

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

This, until you've been with a man whose dick is smaller than a 13 year old's... And HE has a hang up about it....
Then. Yes, it's all about the size .

Haha! Too soon, sorry
But then again, your one sounded like it was all about the hang up. Me, I enjoy a small prick every now and again

 

[RubenesqueAphrodite]

Haha! Too soon, sorry
But then again, your one sounded like it was all about the hang up. Me, I enjoy a small prick every now and again

yeah, his issues go way beyond his Dingaling, though. I made the cut final, and now I'm an "evil person who lied about giving second chances.". among other rather choice words he couldn't even spell.

But, yanno? What gripes my ass about it? I'm actually still concerned that this yahoo isn't getting the appropriate care and treatment for his mental illness...

I am a spectacular bitch when called to be, but rarely do I ever truly feel the need to be one.


And +1on the small dick.. they come in handy for certain...um.. activities..