Endless Curiosity

I wasn't planning on getting involved in the fisting conversation, but this is fascinating. So ... if I don't want to give a man a blow job, anal fisting him is an adequate substitute? I had no idea that was the alternative!!

um.....not for every guy.
Some of us are not into receiving fisting.
 
Fisting is a perfectly legitimate topic.

Just because most guys aren't into it doesn't make it a bad topic.
I mean, it's just like other sex acts where preparation is key....as well as consent. ;)
 
I wasn't planning on getting involved in the fisting conversation, but this is fascinating. So ... if I don't want to give a man a blow job, anal fisting him is an adequate substitute? I had no idea that was the alternative!!

It's like a locomotive engine once you get your rhythm going.
Choo Choo!
 
I'm dropping off the Thirsty Thursday question a bit early:

Lit friends, where do they rank? Everyone talks about keeping expectations low, but are you open to having friends go real time or do you prefer to keep lit friends in their place? Would you put yourself out for one? If so, how far?
 
I'm dropping off the Thirsty Thursday question a bit early:

Lit friends, where do they rank? Everyone talks about keeping expectations low, but are you open to having friends go real time or do you prefer to keep lit friends in their place? Would you put yourself out for one? If so, how far?

It depends on the connection I would share with them.
 
I'm dropping off the Thirsty Thursday question a bit early:

Lit friends, where do they rank? Everyone talks about keeping expectations low, but are you open to having friends go real time or do you prefer to keep lit friends in their place? Would you put yourself out for one? If so, how far?

I don't see a difference in ranking between Lit friends and neighbor friends, or school friends, or friends you might have met at the mini mart. If my expectations are low, it's because someone I meet online may never share the same things with me as someone I meet at the mini mart. We can't hear each other's laughter. We can't feel each other's warmth or look into each other's eyes and know we're thinking the same things. On the other hand, I am usually more genuine with online friends because I don't feel like I'm being judged or evaluated. And I have more time to think before I say stupid things. Sure, there's a difference. But it's not a difference in ranking or importance or quality. It's a difference in flavor. I have mint chocolate chip online friends, and rocky road in-person friends. And sometimes my online friends become my in-person friends. I like that. If we keep our expectations low, I think that might be because trust issues are at play. There are people online who are not genuine, and there's no recourse, nothing to keep them from saying or doing things that might hurt... they may be thousands of miles away and there's nothing we can do if they just disappear once we start to invest ourselves in them. Acquaintances, even, are the same to me. I may spend time chatting with a neighbor because I see him on the street. We don't get that involved. And I may interact with someone on the boards because we're both posting in the same thread. No difference to me.

Would I put myself out for one? Yes. Without a doubt. But I do that every day for complete strangers. So I'm an anomaly there. Still... if I value their friendship, online or in-person, I will do what friends are supposed to do. Put themselves out for each other. As far as I can.

Sorry that was very long. :eek:
 
I'm dropping off the Thirsty Thursday question a bit early:

Lit friends, where do they rank? Everyone talks about keeping expectations low, but are you open to having friends go real time or do you prefer to keep lit friends in their place? Would you put yourself out for one? If so, how far?

I don't separate lit friends from regular friends. A friend is a friend is a friend. Wouldn't hesitate to take it off line at all, if the opportunity presented itself. It rarely does. As I said in another post, I'm just me. I put myself out there fully, with no reservations, if my gut tells me that it is safe to do so. I'm just a weird dude in that fashion. For me it doesn't have to be a sexual connection either. I just think one can never have too many good, solid people in their lives, and there are people here who are really the sale of the earth.
 
I don't separate lit friends from regular friends. A friend is a friend is a friend. Wouldn't hesitate to take it off line at all, if the opportunity presented itself. It rarely does. As I said in another post, I'm just me. I put myself out there fully, with no reservations, if my gut tells me that it is safe to do so. I'm just a weird dude in that fashion. For me it doesn't have to be a sexual connection either. I just think one can never have too many good, solid people in their lives, and there are people here who are really the sale of the earth.

This. I have several lit friends who I've met and are now RL friends. I don't make friends easily but once you're a friend, you're stuck with me. So would I put myself out for one of them? In a heartbeat.
 
I wasn't planning on getting involved in the fisting conversation, but this is fascinating. So ... if I don't want to give a man a blow job, anal fisting him is an adequate substitute? I had no idea that was the alternative!!

It works well for us, yes. The only thing is that Aussie has to trim her claws.
 
Unfortunately, never the twain shall meet. But the mind is the most powerful friendship organ, so it's all good.
 
This. I have several lit friends who I've met and are now RL friends. I don't make friends easily but once you're a friend, you're stuck with me. So would I put myself out for one of them? In a heartbeat.

I'll 3rd this.

If we're close online, then we can be close offline as well.
 
I don't see a difference in ranking between Lit friends and neighbor friends, or school friends, or friends you might have met at the mini mart.
*Snip*
Would I put myself out for one? Yes. Without a doubt. But I do that every day for complete strangers. So I'm an anomaly there. Still... if I value their friendship, online or in-person, I will do what friends are supposed to do. Put themselves out for each other. As far as I can.

Sorry that was very long. :eek:

:heart:

Annnnnnnnnddd.... I don't think I need to add my response to this particular question. :)
 
I'm dropping off the Thirsty Thursday question a bit early:

Lit friends, where do they rank? Everyone talks about keeping expectations low, but are you open to having friends go real time or do you prefer to keep lit friends in their place? Would you put yourself out for one? If so, how far?

I count my Lit friends as friends.

Some are closer friends, some are not.

I count them as friends totally. I try to be there for them.
 
I'm dropping off the Thirsty Thursday question a bit early:

Lit friends, where do they rank? Everyone talks about keeping expectations low, but are you open to having friends go real time or do you prefer to keep lit friends in their place? Would you put yourself out for one? If so, how far?

When I joined Lit, I never intended to meet anyone in person. I saw it as an outlet and a way to take my mind off of my retched abusive marriage that was in the process of crumbling. Not long into my time here I stumbled across the profile of a certain super sexy litster *cough* cjontherocks *cough cough* and that whole me not wanting to meet anyone in person thing went right out the motherfucking window.

But after spending a lot of time, well a couple weeks lol, chatting and emailing and Skype calling and joking about meeting up, I had to be somewhere that was half-way between where we live, I sent him the address to my hotel and told him I wouldn't be upset if he showed up.

Long story short, he showed up. My divorce went through and I've never been more happy or excited about life as I am right now.

He came to my home, he's met my family and friends. So it's definitely melded from Lit to real life.

Now, I have met one other litster for lunch and we are great friends. I tried to meet up with my fav female litster when I was in her home state, but our schedules didn't mesh.

I am protective of my identity because of my career and such, but there are definitely people here who I consider friends and would be friends with outside of the boards.

I am naturally shy and guarded and this place has helped me out with that part of me, I think.
 
I'm dropping off the Thirsty Thursday question a bit early:

Lit friends, where do they rank? Everyone talks about keeping expectations low, but are you open to having friends go real time or do you prefer to keep lit friends in their place? Would you put yourself out for one? If so, how far?

My Lit friendships run the same course as my real time friendships. Casually friendly to most, the occasional close friend, and one or two on the road between. If that rare, strong bond forms I’d certainly be willing to put myself out.

The only real difference is that I am more circumspect with regard to identity on Lit. I don’t necessarily want acquaintances, parents, or workmates privy to my sexual preferences or interests. My private life is just that, private. I suppose that means I’m also circumspect off Lit, just in a different way….

Bottom line, I like my privacy and prefer to choose who I let into what part of my life. Close Lit friends know my real world information because they are, in fact, part of my real world. :)
 
Hey friends, chicken enchiladas for dinner. First come, first serve.
 
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