Does your SO know you write smut?

[j267]

In my case no and if she found out I'd be dead.

 

[M_K_Babalon]

That's sad to hear. As far as I; I'm sadly single. Me writing erotica is no secret.

 

[lovecraft68]

I write my first smut for my wife, she was the one to push me to keep writing and try posting stories here.

 

[Wonderer67]

She proofreads my stories and occasionally gives me some suggestions.

 

[EmilyMiller]

In my case no and if she found out I'd be dead.

Yes. And he reads it too.

Em

 

[PeytonMirabelle]

Yes, and is not bothered either way. Doesn't hold it against me but doesn't read my work either ... which leaves me with mixed feelings.

 

[djrip]

My writing started off as fantasies to share with her. But it took on a bit of a life of its own from there.

 

[AG31]

No.

 

[Phantom300]

Unfortunately, no. Sometimes I wish I could share it, but I know some of the Taboo things I have covered would not go over well.

 

[madelinemasoch]

None to speak of. She would if she were here.

 

[MelissaBaby]

Yes. And he's been a character once or twice.

 

[DustofFallenStars]

Yes, but also no.

I only published my first story recently and as I wasn't sure I would actually click 'publish' until the last minute I didn't mention it until after it was up and getting good reviews. Even that took a while because finding time/space to communicate privately with my partner is quite difficult in our living situation.

The situation is still all a bit recent, and at the time I said I wasn't sure if I wanted them to read it or not, but I've since said I'd like them to read it but not force or pressure them to do so.
They consume considerably more erotica than even I do, so that's a distinct possibility.

Except I've also caught the bug and started writing a second story - but I haven't told them about that yet. Again it's not secret; I don't want to keep any of this from my partner, it's just difficult to get them alone for private conversations.

Also, I might *not* want them reading this one, as it's a bit more.. confronting.

 

[burgwad]

No, and it makes this hobby sometimes feel like an addiction.

 

[NoTalentHack]

Yes, but she doesn't read most of mine. Too depressing. She really liked Overcoming Burnout, though, and she's been incredibly supportive.

 

[Rob_Royale]

Yes and she's supportive but no interest in reading it.

 

[Zootonius]

No. If I hadn't done a few taboo stories, I think she'd have been accepting of my creative outlet. But the taboo stuff would be a bridge too far.

 

[Smuttyandfun]

My SO reads every story for me. Which is nice, because I always miss something no matter how times I read it over.

 

[EroticCupcake]

I'd be curious how your SO handles your descriptions of sex. This is how it would go at my house:

That girl is too much like me and is a violation of privacy.

That girl is not enough like me and is there something I should know?

I actually think this reaction is reasonable...curious how you folks navigate that minefield.

 

[MediocreAuthor]

Does your SO know you write smut?​

Yes. Not particularly thrilled about it either. Lol

I don't know how many husbands like their wives write erotica for strangers... But yeah. I haven't had the easiest time with it.

Still, I get some support, especially when I started making a few bucks with commissions.

In my case no and if she found out I'd be dead.

Honestly, I'd try to ease her into the knowledge. Keeping secrets in a relationship is unhealthy, generally speaking.

I know that telling your S.O. about your writing can be hard, but it'll only get harder once you've been writing longer.

 

[MediocreAuthor]

Yes, but she doesn't read most of mine. Too depressing. She really liked Overcoming Burnout, though, and she's been incredibly supportive.

To be fair, Overcoming Burnout is very good. I wanted to read that to mine as an example of non-filty erotica.

 

[Smuttyandfun]

I'd be curious how your SO handles your descriptions of sex. This is how it would go at my house:

That girl is too much like me and is a violation of privacy.

That girl is not enough like me and is there something I should know?

I actually think this reaction is reasonable...curious how you folks navigate that minefield.

I never get those kind of comments. Usually, I just hear the story is good, or it's okay. And then I wait to see how it does.

 

[AchtungNight]

Yes and she's supportive but no interest in reading it.

Sadly, my last SO was like this. I hope for a more supportive relationship next round. We shall see.

 

[bumpercars]

My partner knows, and she reads and edits the stories that mesh with her kinks. Not all of my stories do, and she's okay with that.

 

[ronde]

My wife knows and is OK with it though she doesn't read my stories. Now, if I wrote horror stories...

 

[Bramblethorn]

My partner beta-reads mine, and I do the same for her.

I'd be curious how your SO handles your descriptions of sex. This is how it would go at my house:

That girl is too much like me and is a violation of privacy.

That girl is not enough like me and is there something I should know?

I actually think this reaction is reasonable...curious how you folks navigate that minefield.

My partner doesn't need to do that sort of analysis because she knows if I was sleeping with somebody else I'd just tell her, preferably beforehand, and she knows that if I told her she'd say something like "have fun, play safe!"

The only time anything like that has come up for us is in a non-sexual aspect of a story. I presented a character who found it very hard to apologise when she'd hurt somebody, even when she regretted it; instead she'd do things like pampering them or making them cookies as the closest she could get to "I'm sorry". My partner read it and asked if that was based on her, which it was, and we talked a little about that but there wasn't any great drama. If anything, I think broaching that via a story made it a bit easier for us to talk about that behaviour IRL.