Does It Really Matter What Anyone Else Thinks?
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LordLucan74
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juicylips said:Do you go with the flow of opinion or do you buck the system?
On Lit?
On your job? Personal life?
Do you take risks and do they pay off or not?
Tell me.
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JL, nice to have a chance to say hello to you!
I really do not care a bit what any one thinks or says on LIT. Most here are rather disengenuous. You seem real. Most are not quite there yet. They are "works in progress." Most can't even figure out what they want or where they stand...
What I thrive on is the questions of life.... Not the answers to the questions. It is the mystery that makes life grand. I think Rilke once spoke to that point.
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Of course it does.
That is assumming you hang and live with people you respect and want respect from in your personal life. Certainly at works it matters or you will find yourself promotionaless (sp) or without a job.
On lit.........once again, if I respect that person or want respect from them than yes it matters, otherwise who cares what they think.
That is assumming you hang and live with people you respect and want respect from in your personal life. Certainly at works it matters or you will find yourself promotionaless (sp) or without a job.
On lit.........once again, if I respect that person or want respect from them than yes it matters, otherwise who cares what they think.
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Sometimes going with the flow can be fun. A lot of the threads here are just kind of go with flow, humorous, flirting kinds of things. Do I enjoy enagaging in them, yes. But it is real hard for me to classify myself as one way or another. Every now and then, this little alarm clock goes off inside off me, and I hear my inner voice say:
"What are you doing? Are you happy with this? Is this how you want to live your life?"
It's usually around then, that I find myself taking the path that is less traveled. And then sometimes it's the less traveled path that leads me to this same questioning.
I never read the manual on life so I'm just kind of ad libbing as I go along. I do take risks from time to time. I believe it's only when you go beyond what you think you are capable of, that you grow.
"What are you doing? Are you happy with this? Is this how you want to live your life?"
It's usually around then, that I find myself taking the path that is less traveled. And then sometimes it's the less traveled path that leads me to this same questioning.
I never read the manual on life so I'm just kind of ad libbing as I go along. I do take risks from time to time. I believe it's only when you go beyond what you think you are capable of, that you grow.
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Re: Re: Does It Really Matter What Anyone Else Thinks?
I would rather be honest and right, than popular...On LIT and elsewhere.
I have few friends, but the ones I have are excellent ones.
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I would rather be honest and right, than popular...On LIT and elsewhere.
I have few friends, but the ones I have are excellent ones.
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Hmmm. Well, the older I get the more I just don't give a shit what certain people think. I tend to get myself into trouble once in a while at work because I will call a fucking idiot a fucking idiot and that my friends, is not PC.
Sometimes one has to stand up for what they believe in, and then take any flak that comes your way. Just life don't ya know?
Risk taking is part of my job description at times. Sometimes you just have to bite it bullet and dive in.
At lit I tend to be more 'mellow'. Mainly because of the way words can be twisted so easily without the phsyical intent being seen. I usually try my best to get the message across with the little smiley fuckers.
I have always bucked the system. It is my makeup. I hate to see idiocy and stupidity being done simply because 'thats the way we've done it for the last forty years' syndrome. Believe me, I have seen enough of that thinking in my line of work. Don't need to see any more of it so my tolorence has dropped for that stuff.
In my personal life I have friends and family that know how I get and how I am. They seem to like me so what others think of me doesn't really bother me.
Above all, when it gets a bit hard or tough on the ol' mind, I go to the gun range and relax for about two hundred rounds or so.
I am me, and that is all there is. Take me or leave me I can't cahnge too much from my path because it works for me.
Sometimes one has to stand up for what they believe in, and then take any flak that comes your way. Just life don't ya know?
Risk taking is part of my job description at times. Sometimes you just have to bite it bullet and dive in.
At lit I tend to be more 'mellow'. Mainly because of the way words can be twisted so easily without the phsyical intent being seen. I usually try my best to get the message across with the little smiley fuckers.
I have always bucked the system. It is my makeup. I hate to see idiocy and stupidity being done simply because 'thats the way we've done it for the last forty years' syndrome. Believe me, I have seen enough of that thinking in my line of work. Don't need to see any more of it so my tolorence has dropped for that stuff.
In my personal life I have friends and family that know how I get and how I am. They seem to like me so what others think of me doesn't really bother me.
Above all, when it gets a bit hard or tough on the ol' mind, I go to the gun range and relax for about two hundred rounds or so.
I am me, and that is all there is. Take me or leave me I can't cahnge too much from my path because it works for me.
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Yes, it matters to all social creatures what others think of them. There are few truly asocial humans in this world, and most of those we'd be better off staying well away from.
Sandia nailed it when he said I think it sounds cooler to say I buck the system. So I'm a gonna go with that one. Very clever, that is. Best answer of the lot.
Sandia nailed it when he said I think it sounds cooler to say I buck the system. So I'm a gonna go with that one. Very clever, that is. Best answer of the lot.
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sigh said:
Sounds like someone needs to learn to march to the beat of their own drum rather than waiting for someone else to drum for them...
You can either set the tone or have it set for you.
And that "spiel" about social vs asocial is a load os crap....
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LordLucan74 said:Sounds like someone needs to learn to march to the beat of their own drum rather than waiting for someone else to drum for them...
You can either set the tone or have it set for you.
And that "spiel" about social vs asocial is a load os crap....
Okay so you want to live on an island of one, bully for you. It is oftimes social and economical suicide marching to the beat of one own's drum. I have opinions that I don't mind saying that go against the grain but in many cases I temper what I am going to say and/or do in the interest of self preservation.
I call that caring about what others think.
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juicylips said:
I am generally go with the flow, so long as I LIKE the flow. I won't go along with the crowd if I think the crowd is, well, wrong.
I'm more or less who I am wherever I am, whether it's at Lit, at work, or in my personal life. Although here at Lit maybe my cheekiness gets turned up a notch or two more than I would dare at work right now (since I'm still new there and all).
Of course I take risks. I read once that the amount of experience and enjoyment you get out of life is directly proportional to how much you risk. So if ya wanna live big, ya gotta risk big. And I like big.
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Usually I go with the flow.....Until an someone or something oversteps the limits....I'm easy going, I am NOT a door mat....
Freedom of speech is the hot topic here right now, I'm all for it....But is there not a drop of human decency left in the world????
Freedom of speech is the hot topic here right now, I'm all for it....But is there not a drop of human decency left in the world????
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Hanns_Schmidt said:
Watch it Hanns the sky is gonna split open and strike you down.....
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Hanns_Schmidt said:
You and I agreeing I think the friggen apolcolypse is upon us...............
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Hanns_Schmidt said:
Awwwwwww admit it baby, you are warming up to me........
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Hanns_Schmidt said:
I LOVE it when you play hard to get.......
I really like coolvilles answer, and foxinsox's, too.
I've spent my first 40 years trying to please everyone else, and it left me empty and miserable. Sure, the things i did on my own gave me pleasure, but when trying to live as others wished me to, when manipulated and forced into it, thats something else entirely, and I finally snapped and just completely stopped.
I am a very strong woman and often take every risk imagineable, I can't seem to stop myself. Usually it pays off, sometimes its a disaster. But the people that know me well say I have alot of guts....I like that. You never know what might be, until you try.
In my jobs, I needed to be there, and simply accepted things as they were, or delicately tried to present what might be a better way. In that, theres always growth, either way the ball bounces.
On lit, well...I don't see that this question really applies. Theres nothing here to buck, or roll with. Either you like it and stay and play, or you don't.
Am I missing something here?
Nice to see you jl.
I've spent my first 40 years trying to please everyone else, and it left me empty and miserable. Sure, the things i did on my own gave me pleasure, but when trying to live as others wished me to, when manipulated and forced into it, thats something else entirely, and I finally snapped and just completely stopped.
I am a very strong woman and often take every risk imagineable, I can't seem to stop myself. Usually it pays off, sometimes its a disaster. But the people that know me well say I have alot of guts....I like that. You never know what might be, until you try.
In my jobs, I needed to be there, and simply accepted things as they were, or delicately tried to present what might be a better way. In that, theres always growth, either way the ball bounces.
On lit, well...I don't see that this question really applies. Theres nothing here to buck, or roll with. Either you like it and stay and play, or you don't.
Am I missing something here?
Nice to see you jl.
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Backyard sweaty said:
The other possibility is that others like the "drum beat" and march along with you. In my case, some do and some do not. I am not short on those who march with me, so I have avoided social suicide. And, thus far, my economic situation is favorable as well.
My "island" is actually rather busy, populated and prosperous. Hardly an "island of one."
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"Why am I such a misfit. I am not just a nit wit"
" What's the matter with misfits......that's where I fit in."
I've always gone with what I think is right. It's not always the popular thing to do, neither is it the popular way to go. It's always been what I thought was right at the time. If it felt right, I'd go with it, if not, then no. I have never "belonged" to any crowd or group. I was an "in house" independant in my frat house. I go where I like and hang out with who I like. My frineds are both popular, and not so popular, but friends of mine nevertheless.
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" What's the matter with misfits......that's where I fit in."
I've always gone with what I think is right. It's not always the popular thing to do, neither is it the popular way to go. It's always been what I thought was right at the time. If it felt right, I'd go with it, if not, then no. I have never "belonged" to any crowd or group. I was an "in house" independant in my frat house. I go where I like and hang out with who I like. My frineds are both popular, and not so popular, but friends of mine nevertheless.
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