Do Your Friends/Spouses/Co-Workers Know?

[Whispersecret]

Hello_Nurse posted on another topic that she would get fired from her job if they knew she was involved in a kinky web site. After reading that, I got to wondering how many other Literotica pleasure seekers keep their interests a secret. Certainly, no one I work with knows that I read and write erotic fiction. I teach elementary school. Imagine the scandal. Mr. Whisper doesn't either, but I may tell him soon. Is there any brave/foolish soul out there who has openly told people that they frequent this site?

 

[Xander]

Well, Some friends know. But not all.
Some family too. Except the stuck up of the pack.
One or two of my colleagues also know. But that is because they drift through the site as well. They kinda reconised my profile.

 

[Angel]

I dare someone to fire me from my job for reading/writing porn. I'd sue so fast that I'd be able to get enough cash from them to sit home all day and read more porn!!!!

Most of my *Online* friends know, because I usually make them read my stories. Of course they always tell me they love them and they are probably lying or just like them because it's ME.

My boyfriend knows that I visit the site because I'm usually posting on the boards when he's right here. I don't know if he knows I write it or not, cuz I don't show him. That has nothing to do with the subject tho, because I don't show him any of the other stuff I write either. I like to Have SOME private things.

As for IRL, coworkers are fully aware that I like porn. I even trade porn tapes with my boss. LOL.

Honestly..I could care less what people, Online an offline think about me at all. I mean I'm still the same person whether they like or respect me, or If they dont. And If not, hey I figure it's their loss.

 

[HiJincs]

I found this site last year and started out reading the wonderful stories that some of you write. In November I found the BB. I read it for a couple of months before I told Luci about it. Now, she and I read the BB every night together. She and I sit in the same office on separate 'puters. Often, we are reading different threads and the laughs are loud and long. We share our thoughts about the more controversial topics. We have tried a number of the things we have read on this BB.

I have told a few friends about the site also.

I think all of you are great.

Even you Bruiser!

 

[Sammyjo]

NO!!! No one knows, but you all. There are people that know of my love for porn, toys, sex, etc., but not that I visit this site. It's probably best that way, then I can say things about people without them finding out about it....LOL

 

[Fletch_99]

I've told every one, about this site, even my mother, how about that one. In hope's that they too, would, if they have the need to ask a question or answer a reply.

This site is great, and i just wanted to share it with every one.

Where i work, it's all males, so of course they would enjoy it.

Whether or not my wife knows, is a different story, i'm sure if she wanted to pry though my files she'd know, but as of late she's had a lot on her mind.

 

[Guest]

I'm sorry to keep bringing back old posts, but I registered here in March and I'm finding so many good (but old) posts. It's a shame that some people feel they must "hide" their true selves. I'm surprised at how many people all over the world feel they have to hide though.
I live in one of the most conservative midwestern states out there (Nebraska) and I have never purposely hidden myself to anyone. I am a 22 (almost 23) y/o woman with a well respected job. I am very active in my community.
I openly came out during high school that I was (and still am) an active bisexual. I have had various written works published locally (and writing erotica is one of my favorites). And I am very open and active in the Swinging and D/s lifestyles. I feel is someone doesn't like me for who I am then it is their loss. I don't hide, change, or mold for anyone.
I hope that others out there will soon come crawing out of their various closets and enter the world for who they really are.

-Lindsay

 

[Gil]

I'm self-employed, so I guess the answer is yes!

 

[Softly]

Yes, my husband knows. At first, just reading
the stories he was not overly inpressed. Then, when I showed him the "wit" and "exchanges" in the BB he revised his opinion of the site. He has written two stories himself: "How did you know?", and
"Imagine being Sugar" under the name of
SEAL 6. If I can get him to write about some of his SEAL exploits, you will be amazed!

 

[Laurel]

A few people at the agency I used to work at know. My sister knows. That's about it - none of my friends know, and none of either of our families (mine or Manu's) know. Not ashamed of the site - far from it. We're just not the sort of people who tell everyone about our lives. Sex is a pretty personal thing, like religion or politics, and while I don't think it should be a taboo dirty secret, I don't think my sex life or interests are everyone's business.

 

[Wizard]

I only work with about 5 others and some do know and the others would not be surprised and say something like "where else would he be"
I can't tell how many folks I have told to check this place out and they love it now too , but no can't get fired for this .....Maybe for screwing in the office or on the shop tables or something....Maybe I think I could get away with it though.

 

[DrTom]

Sometimes, the less people know of what you do, the better off you are.

 

[Renee]

My spouse knows. My friends and co-workers do not. It's not that I am afraid of telling them, or being judged, I just really haven't had a reason to tell them. As I am sure they do not tell me everything. I see no reason in sitting down for dinner with them and as they talk about the weather or, the Sopranos or whatever else we discuss, I answer.. sooo I've been broadcasting my loss of virginity, sexual preferences, and lately I am being sold at an Auction on this site Literotica ... somehow it just doesn't seem to go with the theme of the conversation.

[This message has been edited by Renee (edited 04-11-2000).]

 

[Skibum]

because I hope to work in the education field I too have to keepmy Literotica activities to myself. My wife knows that I do 'try' to write erotica, but she is computer illiterate (except for Solitare), so she has no interest in the BB or the internet in general.

 

[Stump]

Being in the Military, i have to keep what i do to myself. I have told 2 or 3 of my closest friends. If my supervisors found out, i would get kicked out.

 

[Guest]

I can see why, with the military and all, you need to keep your personal life a secret Stump. It's still a shame though.

Maybe that's why I never wanted to go into the military? lol, that or not wanting to do all that work and going through all that training!

P.S.
Is everything okay
from last night hon?

 

[Sonora]

No. The people of town I live in are VERY judgemental and appearance is EVERYTHING. (I live here because of my job. Gotta get a different job!)

 

[Luci]

My guy and I read this BB every day, usually together. But I have not mentioned this site to any of my friends or family, mostly to keep my private life 'private'. But if asked about it I would not deceive anyone, just not volunteer the information.

 

[StarryEyz]

Let's see...I write and immediately let my husband proofread.

I had to live with my parents during a particularly creative cycle last year during a move, and my mom found one of my stories on the printer (oops!). She proceeded to say "Who would want to read that type of thing?!" (ROTFL!!!) Then she said "Just don't let your father find out." If only she knew that he read over my shoulder one night when I didn't notice and piped up with, "You forgot a comma..." and smiled and left the room. So I guess it is safe to say they both know. Though what they acknowledge and what they know are two separate issues. (Earlier that same week, my father and I got into a fight and he asked how he could have raised someone who had such lacking morals...go fig.)

Who else? My kid sister (22 years old...but still a kid.)

Then there is our boyfriend of 2 years(who used to be a co-worker of my husbands. I guess he still is if you think of it a little sideways. At least they do still "work" together.

). And our girlfriend of 6 years, who lives with us part of the year.

As for current co-workers, I have one site superintendant who I inspires wonderful fantasies in me, so I send him my stories, but since he is in them, he doesn't pass them around the jobsite. I am thinking he could work into something pretty fun. I am hoping the stories kind of let him know where I stand. I am thinking of turning him on to this BB site, but I don't know if I want him to be reading my posts as well. And I have a cohort in our corporate office who is just as twisted as me. She is really cool and I shared my writing with her and I sent her the link for this BB today. So I guess she'll be reading about me soon.

You do leave yourself very open to judgement if you let people in on your private life indiscriminately. I have been very lucky to have these 5 great people who share not only my openmindedness, but also share with me thier joy and imagination. Each one has asked me to write something for them or about them and that has been thier invitation to me to open up little by little to them. Taking time with each person and finding thier limit of what they can enjoy has paid off. I have a wonderful group of proofreaders around me and a great audience encouraging me to be whatever it is that I find inside. And surrounded by this much love and support, I am free to look inside and not be afraid of what I may find. Because I know I have people who really know me who I can talk to and bounce things off of.

But I have to say...my husband is the only one who can accept every single part of me and my sexuality completely. One doesn't want to know about my liking gay men's porn. One doesn't want to know about TV fetish. One can't accept that I don't masterbate. Ever.
But that is ok, because I still feel like I am very lucky to have 5 people who I can feel open and honest with.

 

[OldDog]

No one where I work (private college) most of the time has a clue. They're mostly in the "nice people" category who would have to pay to get a clue, but wouldn't know what to do with one once they had it!!! I don't waste the time to even consider discussing my personal choices because it just wouldn't matter much -- Then, they could be the wildest bunch I've ever known, just real good at hiding the evidence!!!

[This message has been edited by OldDog (edited 04-14-2000).]

 

[Bossy Aussie]

No one knows...except you guys, of course!

Nope. I'm too chicken to tell anyone.

Bossy

 

[SillyRabbit]

The only one who knows is my husband and even then I click the X when he walks in the room. I don't want to have to explain to anyone why I like to read about incest, lesbian, non-consent and non-human stories. I can barely admit to having vanilla sex, much less share my extremely hardcore, yet private, fantasies. Maybe I need therapy or maybe I just need to keep quiet

 

[SillyRabbit]

The only one who knows is my husband and even then I click the X when he walks in the room. I don't want to have to explain to anyone why I like to read about incest, lesbian, non-consent and non-human stories. I can barely admit to having vanilla sex, much less share my extremely hardcore, yet private, fantasies. Maybe I need therapy or maybe I just need to keep quiet

 

[Megumi]

I've mentioned this site to some of the people I hang around with, but I've never said exactly HOW much time I spend here. I'm a pretty reserved person in rl, but when I get to know someone well I let my guard down and I'm pretty open about everything, including my own sexuality. It's interesting to see people's reactions when I do this, because in this part of the States it's almost unheard of for women to be contemplating sex, let alone voicing their opinions aloud!

 

[Guest]

I have a lil P.S. to add here.

I have an account with Yahoo, and on my profile, I have Lit listed as my #1 fave site. There is a direct blue link to this lovely place on it.

Also, I have listed The Hun on my profile (and several people have told me they've checked it out and loved it). It should just be a matter of time before Lit becomes that popular.