Do you share your fetishes with your partner?

[Ash999]

I just answered this question on another thread, so here's my answer I posted there:

I've opened up about my fantasies to my girlfriend, and she has never judged me. We share some of the same kinks which makes it easier. She never judged me for them and has embraced the ones we don't share. She has never shot down any idea and has been completely open to me. Knowing I'll never be judged for my interests is a major attraction. I have fallen more in love with her because of it. She truly is amazing and I can't wait to spend my life with her. Sorry for the ramble, but I'm madly in love with her.

Lucky BF, U!!!!

 

[Bigboobbabe]

My current partner and I share our fetishes.
We will put on fetish porn when we are getting hot with each other. Sometimes our play mimics the porn we are watching.

 

[cadman7777]

You never know until you open yourself up and find out. She may be waiting on you feeling the same way. Open , honest communication is key with no judgement as others have already pointed out. Best of luck and hope you give her a chance to decide if she likes or doesn’t like your interests.

I have hinted in fun but the reactions are never goodd

 

[TonyF862]

Same thing happened to my wife

I just answered this question on another thread, so here's my answer I posted there:

I've opened up about my fantasies to my girlfriend, and she has never judged me. We share some of the same kinks which makes it easier. She never judged me for them and has embraced the ones we don't share. She has never shot down any idea and has been completely open to me. Knowing I'll never be judged for my interests is a major attraction. I have fallen more in love with her because of it. She truly is amazing and I can't wait to spend my life with her. Sorry for the ramble, but I'm madly in love with her.

Same thing happened to my wife and me when we began opening up about things. At that point we’d been married for 29 years, but it took the level of intimacy to a level I’ve never imagined. And our sex life has been absolutely on fire ever since.

 

[Icekiller56]

Lucky BF, U!!!!

I am very lucky and fortunate

 

[Icekiller56]

Same thing happened to my wife

Same thing happened to my wife and me when we began opening up about things. At that point we’d been married for 29 years, but it took the level of intimacy to a level I’ve never imagined. And our sex life has been absolutely on fire ever since.

In glad that you got to the point where you can open up to each other and got to experience that. Why did it take 29 years? Out of curiosity

 

[Mu5tang]

My wife travels for 2 week training classes every 6 to 9 months. About 40 co-workers from around the country meet in Cincinnati. I told her there has to be a few that are 'hooking up' while away. She giggled and said she definitely knows of one. Her close girlfriend, who is married, has "played" a time or 2 with another married guy. Only 'as the need' hit, she said. One of those, at the bar, feeling good and needing a good fuck before bedtime needs. I asked her if she ever felt such a need. She smiled and said, I have fingers. I told her if its just a fuck, that she could have a "hall pass" the next trip, but only if the guy calls and asks me first. She told her girlfriend I gave her permission. And the girlfriend aggranged her own "married fuck friend" to oblige. He did call and ask if he could fuck my wife's brains out. And that he did many times during the last 3 days of their conference... even included her girlfriend.

 

[Dreamer110]

My wife travels for 2 week training classes every 6 to 9 months. About 40 co-workers from around the country meet in Cincinnati. I told her there has to be a few that are 'hooking up' while away. She giggled and said she definitely knows of one. Her close girlfriend, who is married, has "played" a time or 2 with another married guy. Only 'as the need' hit, she said. One of those, at the bar, feeling good and needing a good fuck before bedtime needs. I asked her if she ever felt such a need. She smiled and said, I have fingers. I told her if its just a fuck, that she could have a "hall pass" the next trip, but only if the guy calls and asks me first. She told her girlfriend I gave her permission. And the girlfriend aggranged her own "married fuck friend" to oblige. He did call and ask if he could fuck my wife's brains out. And that he did many times during the last 3 days of their conference... even included her girlfriend.

Well that worked out rather well. I imagine you discussed it when she got home.

 

[Mu5tang]

Well that worked out rather well. I imagine you discussed it when she got home.

Yes.. as well as watched a couple videos she made from it.

 

[Dreamer110]

Yes.. as well as watched a couple videos she made from it.

So much better. So obviously you're good with it.

 

[Mu5tang]

We had discussed it several times before making it a reality.

 

[Dreamer110]

We had discussed it several times before making it a reality.

Same here. But I'm really jealous you got a video. Lol

 

[StrongMaster7]

My wife has told me from Day One, quite truthfully, that she has very little interest in sex, especially compared to me. She know I love big tits and adult breastfeeding from my actions and talk in bed, but her "menu" of sexual activities is very short. So, no, I don't tell her all the other things I'd love to do that I know she would never consider doing. Why would I want to start a fight, or make her feel inadequate?

 

[Britva415]

"Share" as in, inform/communicate?

Or "share" as in, we both have the same kinks and act on them together?

My wife knows about my rope bondage and spanking kinks. She isn't among those who participate in them with me.

And they're my kinks, not my fetishes.

It doesn't make her feel inadequate. She understands that I don't want extramarital kink because I don't love my wife, I want it because I do.

 

[Mu5tang]

Same here. But I'm really jealous you got a video. Lol

I got 3 videos... they are on her phone only. She gaurds them. 1 in particular is 48 mintues of her getting it relentlessly.

 

[Dreamer110]

I got 3 videos... they are on her phone only. She gaurds them. 1 in particular is 48 mintues of her getting it relentlessly.

Oh sure, rub it in. Lol. If it was on my phone I'd never put it down.

 

[Mu5tang]

Same here. But I'm really jealous you got a video. Lol

You let her play too?

 

[Dreamer110]

You let her play too?

She has yes.

 

[Mu5tang]

If she ever gets another opportunity ask her to make you a video. Is it a secret thing? Like the guy thinks she is cheating?

 

[Dreamer110]

If she ever gets another opportunity ask her to make you a video. Is it a secret thing? Like the guy thinks she is cheating?

At first yeah. But I think he figured it out.

 

[Ash999]

My wife travels for 2 week training classes every 6 to 9 months. About 40 co-workers from around the country meet in Cincinnati. I told her there has to be a few that are 'hooking up' while away. She giggled and said she definitely knows of one. Her close girlfriend, who is married, has "played" a time or 2 with another married guy. Only 'as the need' hit, she said. One of those, at the bar, feeling good and needing a good fuck before bedtime needs. I asked her if she ever felt such a need. She smiled and said, I have fingers. I told her if its just a fuck, that she could have a "hall pass" the next trip, but only if the guy calls and asks me first. She told her girlfriend I gave her permission. And the girlfriend aggranged her own "married fuck friend" to oblige. He did call and ask if he could fuck my wife's brains out. And that he did many times during the last 3 days of their conference... even included her girlfriend.

Attaboy!!!