Do Family, Friends, Co-Workers know you're into BDSM?

[Dhabidommetrix]

I was wondering if anyone close to you knows that you are into bdsm? How did they find out? Do you share your experiences with them?

Once upon a time I was at a convention with a female business associate who happens to be vanilla in nature. Somehow the topic of handcuffs with sex came up and she asked me if I ever did that? Then I shared with her my life as a domme. I told her about a few of my subs who are into it. We then talked and joked about some of the stories I shared.

Kindly feel free to share yours.

 

[masterslave00]

My wife's sister knows - she once caught me performing for on-line mistress and blackmailed me into performing for her too over period of several months. Gladly she lost all interest after that, but the threat of further blackmail is still there...

My best friend's wife knows too - we have confessed our mutual dissatisfaction with vanilla partners to each other and engaged in secret switch relationship for several years.

 

[Wonderer67]

My sister knows.

Once she was visiting and she missed her train back to the city, so we found a little neighborhood bar and had a few drinks and chatted.

I knew her and her bf are nudists (my wife and I are too Altho we’ve never been nude together before - not my thing).

Anyway, over a few drinks she shared that her bf likes to be spanked. I admitted that so do I. We didn’t get into gory details, but shared that we practice orgasm control and that I am submissive to my wife and enjoy golden showers, charity and being spanked.

 

[BiBunny]

Family, no. Absolutely not.

Friends, yes, and some of my coworkers I consider friends know. But we're all phone sex operators, so this is hardly scandalous news.

Everyone who knows, knows because I told them.

 

[PaxNurgle]

I try to keep it pretty hidden to all but my most intimate aquaintence, i.e. my Mistress.

So no; nobody knows.

 

[Sexysubs1ut]

Nobody knows about the things I’m into; part of me would love to be free of the secret while the other part of me enjoys the fact that they’d never suspect it.

 

[stxjimmy]

I enjoy having a lesser known side, seldom shared but often enjoyed.

 

[subdudeme13]

SHE knew but she wouldn't tell and if I did I would be black and blue for weeks. Though I was sometimes anyway. My sister is the one that turned me into a sub.

 

[Strixaluco]

Family no.

A couple of friends know that I'm not vanilla (and not more).

Then I have friends in the local bdsm community, who obviously know.

 

[Massacre_]

No one knows. Hell, even my ex doesn't know and I was with him for almost a decade. He knew I like to be choked, that's about it. I think the people I'm around are far too sheltered for this kind of knowledge.

 

[erikthevikinghalfbreed]

My relationships are exclusively D/s so it's hard to keep it entirely a secret but family or professional acquaintances don't suspect it.

 

[Submissivepat]

We had a few friends who knew and they had dominated me. Of family, my father and step mother knew.

 

[stxjimmy]

We had a few friends who knew and they had dominated me. Of family, my father and step mother knew.

What was their reaction?

 

[erikthevikinghalfbreed]

No one knows. Hell, even my ex doesn't know and I was with him for almost a decade. He knew I like to be choked, that's about it. I think the people I'm around are far too sheltered for this kind of knowledge.

Why haven't you wanted to confide in your ex and explore the dynamic?

 

[Massacre_]

Why haven't you wanted to confide in your ex and explore the dynamic?

This might sound bad, but I didn't look at him as someone I could submit to. We didn't have that kind of dynamic at all. I met him when we were both "young" (I was 20, he was 23), giving him control like that wasn't really an option. As time went on, it never really came up in his list of fantasies and that feeling I had of not being able to submit to him grew. I didn't bother pushing it, I was content with the sex we had.

 

[Submissivepat]

What was their reaction?

They were comfortable with it.

 

[stxjimmy]

They were comfortable with it.

Admirable

 

[Goldenfinger]

None of my family know anything. Same with co workers. So my friends are her friends that I inherited but I am friends with some of their husbands or S.Os. Most know something I’m not sure what and who knows what.

 

[2getin]

This might sound bad, but I didn't look at him as someone I could submit to. We didn't have that kind of dynamic at all. I met him when we were both "young" (I was 20, he was 23), giving him control like that wasn't really an option. As time went on, it never really came up in his list of fantasies and that feeling I had of not being able to submit to him grew. I didn't bother pushing it, I was content with the sex we had.

Turn on your messages so that we can chat.

 

[Submissivepat]

Admirable

Step mother dominated me a few times while my father and husband watched.

 

[Tallcajun]

Only a handful know.

 

[BackwoodsMama]

I think a few of my friends know I’m not vanilla, but they don’t know the full extent of what I’m into.

 

[Boat1]

I was wondering if anyone close to you knows that you are into bdsm? How did they find out? Do you share your experiences with them?

Once upon a time I was at a convention with a female business associate who happens to be vanilla in nature. Somehow the topic of handcuffs with sex came up and she asked me if I ever did that? Then I shared with her my life as a domme. I told her about a few of my subs who are into it. We then talked and joked about some of the stories I shared.

Kindly feel free to share yours.

I'm pretty sure that our closest friends (a married couple) have figured it out, which is fine by me, as I'm EXTREMELY proud of my Domme.
Hell, I'd let her whip me, tied spread eagle, on the town square if she chose to do so.

 

[Desiree_Radcliffe]

It is not appropriate to share in professional environments. When I was in the scene, a few people knew vaguely about my activities, but now I like to keep my sexuality and its trappings to myself.

 

[magic_rat]

My friends all know that I swing and I'm into BDSM. They're mostly in the scene themselves or at least open-minded and curious.

In the workplace some are vaguely aware of the swinging but don't know any details. None know about BDSM. It's not appropriate.