Do you REALLY get upset by the stuff you read at lit?

[Kuntmode]

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I'm glad so many like me here and it is great to be on just about everybody's Buddy list.

I think it is the way I come across as such a thoughtful, kind and decent person that makes me a cut above everyone else here.



The only people that I anger around here are those that run out of patience when trying to get the chance to chat to me or ring me up.

 

[Pixie]

I am much too passive aggressive to rant. Upset and angry don't define how some situations push my buttons. I do get mildly irritated and shake my head in disdain.

And, I don't have any rats' asses.

Limited choices. I picked other, anyway.

What she said

 

[Guest]

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I am IRL a pretty sarcastic pain in the ass, and I'm no different here
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A hard, pounding ass-fuck can often be a soothing therapy.

 

[Guest]

Re: Question.....

Isn't getting a woman's legs to part the majority of mens' purpose in life? Think about that.

Thank you bluespoke and lightning!

Peace,
Tulip
*sorry for small highjack back to original topic

I think he meant the two of you together, not your legs.

 

[bluespoke]

Re: Re: Question.....

I think he meant the two of you together, not your legs.

Oh yeah?

 

[Trail48]

If it is a challenge, it is one you have risen to and conquered.

Thank you bluespoke. It is indeed a challenge.

 

[Cheyenne]

So, all of those people who got so upset at the idea of someone daring to question the story of the death of a board member only a few short months ago, all of them were faking being upset?

What about all the people who get their undies in a bundle during heated debates on religion, politics, etc. to the point where they start calling each other names. That's all just for the fun of it, right?

And when someone posts the personal info of someone else- never upsets anyone, does it? Especially not to the point of the person whose info was posted being desperate to find Laurel to get it erased.

All those thousands of posts that were erased for a couple of the long term members here, they did that just to give Laurel something to keep busy doing, right? They weren't upset or anything.

Pictures taken from Lit and posted to another board- no one was bothered? (Actually, I did laugh when someone tried to upset me by doing that with my profile pic.)

When you see someone pick on someone they see as "less than"- someone in a wheelchair, for example. That doesn't bother you at all?

How about if someone starts a thread about portly or fat people? A thread about racists or how the Jews really are at fault for all the trouble in the middle East? All the heartfelt posts in those threads are just posted because people are looking for something to do to kill time, right?

God forbid someone should post threads with really long titles and mess up the front page, or start a "bot" to post some sillyass comment in just about every thread. No one would get upset at little things like that, right?

Uh huh. From reading the responses here so far, you'd expect everyone to be as cool as a cucumber all the time. Just smiling away behind their computers, nothing in life or at Lit bothering them at all. I don't think so.

Yes, things here have made me upset. What is wrong with admitting that? I didn't like it one bit when blkpnthr was here harassing me about how he wished I'd die from finding breast cancer. I really hated it when Magic Merlin used the board to find women to stalk in real life, and ruined the real life engagement of another member with his antics. I was honestly upset with Always for posting her lies about her brother and the WTC rescue. She was insulting to all of us, but especially to those who really had friends and relatives involved in the attack.

I think all the people who are claiming Lit never ever makes them upset about anyone or anything are remembering their posting past with rose colored glasses. Unless they truly have no involvement with the community here, that isn't likely to really be the case. There are many different levels of "upset"- not all of them mean you are fighting mad, ready to murder someone.

 

[Guest]

What do you really think, Chey?


All that from someone telling me to develop thicker skin...

 

[Trail48]

So, all of those people who got so upset at the idea of someone daring to question the story of the death of a board member only a few short months ago, all of them were faking being upset?

What about all the people who get their undies in a bundle during heated debates on religion, politics, etc. to the point where they start calling each other names. That's all just for the fun of it, right?

And when someone posts the personal info of someone else- never upsets anyone, does it? Especially not to the point of the person whose info was posted being desperate to find Laurel to get it erased.


All those thousands of posts that were erased for a couple of the long term members here, they did that just to give Laurel something to keep busy doing, right? They weren't upset or anything.

Pictures taken from Lit and posted to another board- no one was bothered? (Actually, I did laugh when someone tried to upset me by doing that with my profile pic.)

When you see someone pick on someone they see as "less than"- someone in a wheelchair, for example. That doesn't bother you at all?

How about if someone starts a thread about portly or fat people? A thread about racists or how the Jews really are at fault for all the trouble in the middle East? All the heartfelt posts in those threads are just posted because people are looking for something to do to kill time, right?

God forbid someone should post threads with really long titles and mess up the front page, or start a "bot" to post some sillyass comment in just about every thread. No one would get upset at little things like that, right?

Uh huh. From reading the responses here so far, you'd expect everyone to be as cool as a cucumber all the time. Just smiling away behind their computers, nothing in life or at Lit bothering them at all. I don't think so.

Yes, things here have made me upset. What is wrong with admitting that? I didn't like it one bit when blkpnthr was here harassing me about how he wished I'd die from finding breast cancer. I really hated it when Magic Merlin used the board to find women to stalk in real life, and ruined the real life engagement of another member with his antics. I was honestly upset with Always for posting her lies about her brother and the WTC rescue. She was insulting to all of us, but especially to those who really had friends and relatives involved in the attack.

I think all the people who are claiming Lit never ever makes them upset about anyone or anything are remembering their posting past with rose colored glasses. Unless they truly have no involvement with the community here, that isn't likely to really be the case. There are many different levels of "upset"- not all of them mean you are fighting mad, ready to murder someone.

Okay, so you have a point.

I counter with this thought. When you're driving, and someone cuts you off, or in some other obnoxious way, upsets you, it's decision time. Your response has to be tempered with the reality of any and all ramifications of your response. If you get all pissy, and do stupid things in response to thier actions, you have given them control over you. You make a decision that you will drive your way, and will give no person the ability to ruin your day.

You are right, everyone gets upset, I gathered from the question that it really related to how you respond to that emotion.

 

[peachykeen]

Cheyenne, I understand what you are saying, but the question was whether of not things here ever made me 'angry'. It may just be an argument of semantics, but nothing here makes me all that angry. Yes there are things I find bothersome or annoying, but there are things that happen to me every day on the bus that I find bothersome or annoying - but I'm not 'angry' about them. Irritated by them perhaps, but not angry. Certainly nothing that happens here - where I can get up and walk away - is going to push me that far.

 

[Guest]

Yes, I have been terribly bothered by things read on the boards. But, I find that my response depends on where I am in life offline. If I'm having a tough day, I am hypersensitive to words and assumed tone. On the average day? I smile and move on.

 

[Rambling Rose]

Unless I am baiting someone for my own amusement I try to stay away from inflammatory threads. You won't often find me embroiled in any serious rantings unless I am trying to lighten the mood or get in a few digs.

With that said, yes I get upset and fairly easily at times. I can be a hothead and I have a vicious tongue that I tend to hold more often than not, and when I don't you know it! I am opinionated and defensive, stubborn and scathing.

But I have my good days.

 

[tulip2lipservice]

Cheyenne you are right

about people getting upset in here and I have been upset by some treatment of other board members by others. Is it to the point of anger, not really, however all of those scenerios added together with attacking people I care about on the wrong day added to my anger that one night. There have been several occasions that I have felt that from here. The emotion of being upset has been felt more within the last couple of months than my whole stay here.

I think for the most part people do tune out what some posters say. Either that or they put them on ignore. We become immune to others actions saying it is just so and so and that is the way he/she behaves. So the majority moves on without bothering making a stand while he/she moves on to hurt another. Those who choose to ignore view responding as only adding to the fire. If you do not add to the fire the person will go away. In some cases that is accurate while in others it is not.

All in all Lit has changed with more people challanging nothing of importance. Debate is healthy. We learn from it but the flame throwing is not. Discussing one view point is not belittling another. What are we learning then how to be a child again or a comedian?

I do miss being able to be open in the forum. My guard is up as of the last couple of months. Sad part is it is predictable that a troll will come in and try to stir things up. So again I will agree with you that I have been upset by how others have abused this site and has shown no regard towards other posters. I assume that they do not view others here as human beings but just an interactive game. Something that I always have taken into account people here are humans with feelings and emotions. Tread lightly on them.

Peace,
Tulip

 

[Hamletmaschine]

Unless I am baiting someone for my own amusement I try to stay away from inflammatory threads. You won't often find me embroiled in any serious rantings unless I am trying to lighten the mood or get in a few digs.

With that said, yes I get upset and fairly easily at times. I can be a hothead and I have a vicious tongue that I tend to hold more often than not, and when I don't you know it! I am opinionated and defensive, stubborn and scathing.

But I have my good days.

LOL - Yes, RR is the Mistress of Litotes.

 

[AnelizeDarkEyes]

irritated yes...angry, no

semantics, i know. but i get irritated with some things i read. angry? not really. well, maybe once. LOL. i tend not to get angry about much....and like someone else said, i stay away from threads i KNOW are going to push my buttons.

 

[Cheyenne]

There have been a number of posters, lately, who seem to think that because they post something in a post, another poster's response sounds like a temper tantrum, that they have litsters on puppet strings.

I really doubt any of us get so terribly upset by what we read.

However, I don't want to just provide conjecture, I thought I would go to the boards and ask.

The thread title and first post talked about being "upset"- not angry. I realize that the first option of the poll addressed anger though. It was the "upset" part that I was addressing and felt was the real question.

 

[patient1]

Cheyenne, I understand what you are saying, but the question was whether of not things here ever made me 'angry'. It may just be an argument of semantics, but nothing here makes me all that angry. Yes there are things I find bothersome or annoying, but there are things that happen to me every day on the bus that I find bothersome or annoying - but I'm not 'angry' about them. Irritated by them perhaps, but not angry. Certainly nothing that happens here - where I can get up and walk away - is going to push me that far.

Individual posters have individual habits.

Me, I normally respond to the question in the thread title. I consider it a "bait & switch" if the first post changes the question.

Cheyenne , for example, normally responds to the first post. That was about "upset", too.

In this case, the poll changed the terms from upset to angry.
If the poll expresses my opinion, I vote rather than post.
If I discuss the issue, I probably didn't vote , at least not on my first visit to the thread.

I thought that the poll, while using the stronger word "angry" wasn't really serious because of the "another poorly worded poll" disclaimer.

Me and most members of this community get upset each week because we care about issues & each other.




You'll notice when I'm angry by my use of vulgarity.

 

[juicylips]

Oh, you know me.

Bitch to the core.

I'm always provoking and pissed.


Love ya, Miss T.

 

[Guest]

Oh, you know me.

Bitch to the core.

I'm always provoking and pissed.


Love ya, Miss T.

You upset me when you had me on ignore for 9 months

 

[juicylips]

You upset me when you had me on ignore for 9 months

Damn.

You knew about that?

 

[MissTaken]

Thank you for all of your responses.

To clear a few things up:
I was very interested in finding out if when I read someone saying , "You are nothing but a lowlife, subhuman, bottom feeding catfish," are you genuinely angry or upset to the degree to which personal slurs are used?

We have several posters here, who enjoy inciting the masses. I watched something of that nature come down last night. Then, poster #1 was doing the happy dance because poster #2 posted a seemingly irate response. I know that poster #2 was laughing as the post was being typed, hence, poster #1's happy dance was all for naught.

The poll title is what it is because I simply never can start a decent poll. But yes, the discussion is a serious one and I am pleased to see it go where the poster's feelings go.

Of course, now I realize the issues aren't as black and white as I tried to make them and will have to think further before posting responses to my own questions.

Damn! That pisses me off!

 

[ksmybuttons]

Thank you for all of your responses...

Damn! That pisses me off!

I don't put pissed off as being angry or upset. Pissed off is another totally different type of emotion for me. I don't even know how I would explain it, but my adrenaline just doesn't rise like it does with angry and upset. It is something I can address and think of in a much more detached way.

I have few things that make me angry or upset. Now irritation, pissed, and disdain are another story.

I find I have concern for some posters here. They are people, that through insight and fun and honest-type interactions, get my attention.

If you, Cheyenne, MissTaken, or a number of people I view with regard, were to post that something happened to you, I would believe it. I believe that you are who you are. Even when I disagree, I would never respond to you in anger or be upset with you. I might tease, but that is part of who I am. But Upset or Angry? No. My desire is to be viewed that way by others when I have proven my credibility through time and over 10,000 posts, too.

by MissTaken

We have several posters here, who enjoy inciting the masses. I watched something of that nature come down last night. Then, poster #1 was doing the happy dance because poster #2 posted a seemingly irate response. I know that poster #2 was laughing as the post was being typed, hence, poster #1's happy dance was all for naught.

I would think they were both having fun. Not knowing the exact posts, but knowing the type, they each got off on what they did. There is so much posturing during those type of discussions, arguments. Not necessarily my choice of how to do it, but it works for some and can be a good lurk.

The vicious posters who are cruel, don't get my anger, but they do get my disdain. Such unworthy human beings.

 

[intrigued]

Miss T.,

I think one of the things you're asking is if we respond, does that mean we're their puppet?
I hardly think so, we are exercising the same right to post that they are. When they respond back to me, are they MY puppet?

There are many kinds of "upset", and yes, I've been very upset by posters that troll, harass and create controversy for no apparent reason.
Since I don't see the solution to be that I should leave, (because I don't post offensively, nor do I troll, nor do I break any rules) those posters are ignored. That isn't easy to do, since they are in almost every thread, but it's finally become an automatic reflex now.
I don't expect everyone to get along, or any other "picket fences" crap. Actually, I have no expectations from other posters at all anymore, and I never had any expectations from Lit as a site. It's a FREE forum, and no one is holding any guns to anyone elses head.
My experience is solely left up to me. But I am no robot, and its unrealistic to expect that I don't have reactions to what others say.

I get angry when I see someone (usually, the same someones, over and over again) enter a post to sarcastically demean and belittle and/or make fun of someone that was simply doing their own thing and not messing with anyone, least of all this person that is attacking them. When all they hope to do is to inflame and incite and instigate, yeah, that upsets me. How upset? Just enough to want to bitch slap them into last month, puncture their balls, (cause it's usually men doing it. ) tie them up, hose them down, and leave them in the damn corner.
I would never do so in person and being on the net doesn't change my behavior/words. But I certainly do imagine this scenario, and many others, too.

Other rambling thoughts:
While I accept that when you post, you must be willing to accept that anyone at all can say anything at all back to you, I still don't understand why people post in this manner...what is it that it does for them to constantly be negative/silly/childish/vile, in every single post they make?

(This is for everyone...not just Tulip.) Tulip mentioned "gaining approval". From whom? For what reason? From people behind computers that don't bother to even say "hello", that don't really know you, care for you, plan on contributing to your life or allowing you to contribute to theirs? From people that don't clean your house, make love to you, hold you when you're sick or your world is crumbling, employ you, pay your bills, have authority over you, live with you or next door to you, and wouldn't know you from a pile of dust, if they bumped into you in person? Oh, please!
And what does this special internet "approval" grant you?

When the words of another cause you to have a "light bulb moment", when it causes you to think in a manner that you didn't before, when what they say helps you to understand something you didn't before, when they crack you up, when you find yourself thinking "wow, that was pretty cool.", well for me, that is what this board is all about, and what holds my interest.

(still speaking in general here...)
If you're posting just to piss people off, it does, but just realize that everyone has their limit and at some point, we'll stop reading you.
Is that what you really want? I doubt it, if you didn't care or want to post, you wouldn't keep posting. You post because you want to be read, heard, and considered. Even trolls realize that they have to say something well enough to be read, and that when they cease to entertain, eventually it will dawn on us that we no longer have to read their words.

 

[tulip2lipservice]

(This is for everyone...not just Tulip.) Tulip mentioned "gaining approval". From whom? For what reason? From people behind computers that don't bother to even say "hello", that don't really know you, care for you, plan on contributing to your life or allowing you to contribute to theirs? From people that don't clean your house, make love to you, hold you when you're sick or your world is crumbling, employ you, pay your bills, have authority over you, live with you or next door to you, and wouldn't know you from a pile of dust, if they bumped into you in person? Oh, please!
And what does this special internet "approval" grant you?

When the words of another cause you to have a "light bulb moment", when it causes you to think in a manner that you didn't before, when what they say helps you to understand something you didn't before, when they crack you up, when you find yourself thinking "wow, that was pretty cool.", well for me, that is what this board is all about, and what holds my interest.

Good post Intrigued.

I took out a part of your original post that even to this day makes me dumbfounded. I suppose it is the "they" we were raised with. The people we never actually meet that have some control over our lives because we give it to them. The "they" your parents used to keep your scores up in school and on the straight and narrow. If you do not do this "they" will not approve. It is a great mystery however people fall into this way of thinking seeking approval.

Do I at times, yes for I am human however I do have the knowledge of who I have met and who I haven't as well as those I would like to meet and those I wouldn't. I have said before in the past seeing is believing until then I am skeptical. I hold dear the friendships I have met from lit. The countless hours on chat, im, phone, emails I have exchanged with so many. Then the times I have been able to physically hold those that have made an impression on me. People tend to forget that we are human beings. Some take the boards as a game while others take the time out to get to know another. Such diversity here that we are bound to clash.

It does upset me that I am more cautious to develop new friendship through here because of so many personal stuff divulged over the last couple of months. Like I said within this thread I feel like I have my guard up recently and I do not appreciate it. So it is a new way of approaching things based on the fact that others utilize this board as an interactive game.

I do think that some are seeking approval. Whose approval I do not know but within them they are seeking "their's". That is my impression.

Peace,
Tulip
* again thank you for your thoughts. I know there are so many points that can be discussed but this should do for now.

 

[HeavyStick]

No I don't get angry.