Do You Expect Fidelity From Your Online Lover?

[juicylips]

If you have a cyber or phone sex partner, do you expect complete fidelity from them?

Or

Is it just a friendship relationship where you "help" each other out?


Just curious
JL

 

[T.H. Oughts]

If being exclusive had been discused and decided on, then of course.

 

[AmishPope]

If being exclusive had been discused and decided on, then of course.

i agree with this logic

 

[hatara]

I used to play with a lot of others before but when I became involved with my current guy we talked about it. I know for a fact he doesn't play with others merely talks to friends online and for me he is all I want. So we decided to be exclusive and I am very happy with it!

But we did talk about it and come to a mutual decision about it which I thought was the most important thing.

 

[Ishmael]

Sorta

If being exclusive had been discused and decided on, then of course.

What she said.

Ishmael

 

[juicylips]

Everyone sounds so..uh...arranged, lol.

What if someone appeals to you?? Attracts you?

You could have a quick cyber or phone fuck and no one would know...right??

There is sooooo much candy online

JL

 

[Synnerman]

If being exclusive had been discused and decided on, then of course.

I never THought about it before but now that I have I agree with the lady.
I THought I liked red hair and I do. Maybe I do have food for Thought. See Ya!!

 

[riff]

Yes. I expect complete felicity and faithfulness. I do not allow her to even chat with other people because this would be a breach of contract.

As I write, she's probably got a huge dildo in her thing while having cybersex and phonesex on a conference call with half the population of Cleveland.

 

[Paendragon]

If you consider a relatonship to be the real thing, then you should act like it. Some people don't feel that online relationships can be as intimate as "real world" relationships, so they don't view them as the same thing.

I believe that what makes a relationship counts is what level of emotion you put into it. Some people just like to fuck around so to speak, and they will, whether it is "real world", or cyber/phone. If you cheat in the real world, than you'll be more likely to cheat in an online relationship.

Like others in this thread have said, open discussion between the lovers is the key.

Also, each time your tested, you find out more about yourself. I've never cheated on a girlfriend in my life, but that doesn't mean I won't ever. No matter how much I consider myself a non-cheater, all I can really, honestly say to myself is that I haven't done it yet. Will I? I doubt it. But I never REALLY know until I'm faced with the possibility.

I hope that was coherent, I'm pretty tired.

 

[juicylips]

No matter how much I consider myself a non-cheater, all I can really, honestly say to myself is that I haven't done it yet. Will I? I doubt it. But I never REALLY know until I'm faced with the possibility.

I hope that was coherent, I'm pretty tired.

You made perfect sense, sweetie. You are honest enough to say you don't know, but are hoping that faced with a faithfulness test you would pass with flying colors.

Kisses and get some rest.
JL

 

[Cherry]

Well, if that's the agreement, then yes.

It works both ways, ya know?

There are different variations of it though ...
some are mutually exclusive and are content to be a couple,
while other couples agree to occasional dallainces on the side.

The important part is to live up to whatever was agreed upon.

 

[cutie pie]

You could have a quick cyber or phone fuck and no one would know...right??

There is sooooo much candy online

I'd have to agree with the majority. If it has been agreed that it will be an exclusive relationship, then no, I wouldn't do it. Online/long distance relationships are difficult enough. Even if I thought I could get away with it, I would still know that I violated his trust. If there's a need to sample other "candy", then perhaps it's time to re-evaluate the relationship.

Good thread, JL!

 

[Marxist]

I expect total fidelity from Lexie, Ruby, Lavy, Mouse (kinky dude), and Blushing Rose.

I think it's perfectly fair to strictly limit the emotions and contacts of someone whom I've never met in Real Life.

 

[MissTaken]

I used to do phone and cyber as a method of free play. Then, it really wasn't a matter of relationships, fidelity or expectations. It was about cumming , and nothing else. So, no, would not expect fidelity.

Now, on the rare occasion that a phone conversation evolves into intimacy, it would depend upon who it was, how it got there and where our relationship was at. To be honest, at this point, I don't engage in any sort of intimacy unless it is with someone I care for and am "involved" with.

Of course, even when playing, my ego always wanted to , if not be the only phone partner, be the best!

 

[Paendragon]

Kisses and get some rest.
JL

I wish I could. I'm up for the day. Big assignment.

Lit is my relaxation time.

 

[Ishmael]

If you feel tempted

Everyone sounds so..uh...arranged, lol.

What if someone appeals to you?? Attracts you?

You could have a quick cyber or phone fuck and no one would know...right??

There is sooooo much candy online

JL

Don't enter into an 'exclusive' if you feel that it's still 'free play' time for you.

It's a lot easier to say "no" up front than it is to deal with the hurt and breach of trust later. The truth seems to get out eventually, even in 'cyber-land'.

Ishmael

 

[Paendragon]

One more thing... the one time I nearly cheated (and by nearly I mean ready, willing, and able, NOT just tempted) I ended it with my then girlfriend BEFORE anything happened. I know it sounds odd, but I've always felt much better about myself because of that.

I ended up dating the woman I was going to cheat with.

The irony ism the woman who I DIDN'T cheat on, was dating someone else behind my back, I later found out. Ain't that a bitch?

 

[JennyOmanHill]

When we agreed to become exclusive in our online "connection", it really did mean "exclusive" as far as cybering is concerned. Since our online relationship has also become an offline one, I have absolutely no interest in sexually connecting with anyone else either online or off! This was our main reason for changing our chat names to more clearly reflect we weren't there to "pick up" with anyone else!

We've already worked hard at coming to terms about how we feel about each other, and this takes priority to me over anything else at this point in my life.

 

[Aphrodisiac]

Help each other out .... when you got that yearning and he calls ... and you hear that sexy deep accent saying your name and you know he is just about to ....


Well that is my choice IF I had an on line lover.

 

[Paendragon]

JuicyLips,

Do you expect fidelity from your online lover?

 

[HoldenMcCrank]

Well no...

I don't expect fidelity from my online friend(s). We talk and have fun and I know that she has fun with others. Now if one of us asked the other to be exclusive that would be a whole other subject. I think comunication is key wether it is friendly or serious. Everyone should know where everyone stands. For me, or better yet the voyuer in me, like to here about the other on line friends that my friend(s) have. Not to mention what they have done and how they did it. Always looking to learn something new.

HMC
as I have said before my opinion is worth what I charge for it!

 

[juicylips]

JuicyLips,

Do you expect fidelity from your online lover?

No.

I don't think the subject has ever been raised. It is not a question of being faithful, but a question of friendship and fun.

I'm here at Lit for the candy That shouldn't be a surprise to my online lovers/friends.

JL

 

[Paendragon]

 

[Rambrat]

If you have a cyber or phone sex partner, do you expect complete fidelity from them?

Or

Is it just a friendship relationship where you "help" each other out?


Just curious
JL

fortunately...no one wants me that much...

 

[juicylips]

Re: Re: Do You Expect Fidelity From Your Online Lover?

fortunately...no one wants me that much...

You're baiting me.

JL