Distance Domination-Support Thread

[seela]

Does anyone have any good news? Visits?

I've had my share of LDRs and I can only admire how well you all are dealing with the distance! In my relationship the longest time between visit was 3 weeks and even then I was already nearing my wit's end.

Even though I'm not in a LDR at the moment, I love reading this thread.

 

[minx1]

Does anyone have any good news? Visits?

I've had my share of LDRs and I can only admire how well you all are dealing with the distance! In my relationship the longest time between visit was 3 weeks and even then I was already nearing my wit's end.

Even though I'm not in a LDR at the moment, I love reading this thread.

Lol this is the first thread I came to bump Seela.

I started in a ldr myself.

Best wishes to all those in LDR's. I hope they are going well and visits are on the cards

 

[seela]

Lol this is the first thread I came to bump Seela.

I started in a ldr myself.

Best wishes to all those in LDR's. I hope they are going well and visits are on the cards

Well this thread truly is a gem and deserves to be bumped.

 

[the captians wench]

No news here. ATM the fact that I need to save 3k in order to be able to make my trip (whether it be in Oct or later) is the only thing keeping me from walking out on my job.

Priorities.

 

[scarletnym]

I haven't written here in a while but I'm waiting very impatiently for a visit in the fall myself. It's usually a few months in between. Luckily there is email and IM...and lit. It's not always the same as feeling his touch or that familiar pain of the flogger, but I try to be positive. Sometimes he gives me little tasks to do and that helps me through the weeks.

 

[Daddy2mylilgirl]

Not much going on here.

Just getting back to the boring life without her after our visit.

 

[Kikori]

Not much going on here.

Just getting back to the boring life without her after our visit.

Got a date for the next one?

 

[Daddy2mylilgirl]

Got a date for the next one?

Sadly, not yet.

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

.......

 

[sinnocence]

Sadly, not yet.

I'm working on it!

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

A question for those in LD relationships, if you don't mind.

I'm wondering, what, if any, special rituals etc you might have to keep you spiritually and emotionally close to your SO, outside of the time you spend in communication and playing?

Does that even make sense?

 

[the captians wench]

A question for those in LD relationships, if you don't mind.

I'm wondering, what, if any, special rituals etc you might have to keep you spiritually and emotionally close to your SO, outside of the time you spend in communication and playing?

Does that even make sense?

Yep.

I have rules I have to follow.

I'm not allowed clothes when I'm in my apt. This one is to remind me that when we're together I'm always to be naked so that I'm accessable to him at all times.

I'm suposed to keep my cunt clean shaved. It's what he prefers.

I'm not allowed to cum with out his permission, ever. I'm also not allowed to ask. These two rules only aply when we're apart (which is most of the time ) This really keeps him at the front of my mind.

All of these things are ment to keep him in the front of my mind and my duity to him right behind. These are all things that I agreed to, and volentered to make perminate things. It helps me to think about what he expects when I can't call or text. He also gives me jewelry every christmas and for my birthday so I have something physically on me to mind me of him.

I'm sure there's more, but that's what comes to mind first. He's a very layed back fellow, so complex rituals really aren't in our dynamic.

 

[the captians wench]

I hate to be a downer, but I'm really missing actually sleeping with some one. I mean just curling up and feeling that warm body beside you, and waking up to the sound of his soft snores. The smell of his skin in the morning.

Guess I'm just feeling a bit lonesome.

 

[seela]

A question for those in LD relationships, if you don't mind.

I'm wondering, what, if any, special rituals etc you might have to keep you spiritually and emotionally close to your SO, outside of the time you spend in communication and playing?

Does that even make sense?

I was in a LDR for some time because of work/study/other mundane responsibilities and I probably will be in a LDR for short periods of time again in the future. His job is such that it takes him sometimes away for a couple of months at a time and I will be for sure be gone for whole of August and then next year 4-5 months.

When we were LDR last time (which actually only ended in the beginning of May, 6 months sooner than we both thought it would) I really wished we would have had some rituals to keep the dynamic going, but he has very low tolerance for any rituals at all, so we didn't have any. I have a necklace that is my collar, but that is pretty much the extent of rituals we had during our LDR.

I don't have any rules about masturbation or orgasms, because I simply don't do that even if I'm allowed. I keep myself shaved and I wear nailpolish but that's all he really asks of me that I wouldn't necessarily normally do on my own.

During the LDR part I was told to send him email daily and he often had me to look up something he needed for his work or do a library run, but I didn't think of them as rituals rather than tasks. I would have emailed him every day even without him asking and we texted several times a day, most evenings we IM'd for a bit and called each other.

That was an interesting question, Lizzie, I'll be checking out what other people answer.

 

[CurlyKat]

A question for those in LD relationships, if you don't mind.

I'm wondering, what, if any, special rituals etc you might have to keep you spiritually and emotionally close to your SO, outside of the time you spend in communication and playing?

Does that even make sense?

Yes. I have a certain "dress code" or more like one particular outfit that he put together that I'm to wear any time I'm communicating with him other than phone calls or texting. That means pretty much whenever I'm writing him, either via e-mail or an actual letter, I'm wearing this particular outfit for him.

I also have an anklet, which he calls my ankle collar that he made for me that I'm to wear at all times other than times it would be damaged, such as when in water or under my work boots. It's currently back with him for maintainance and repairs, though. I miss it, and it's weight against my right ankle.

Unlike Ms. Wench, I'm allowed to play and orgasm as much as I like unless he says something to the contrary. I'm just supposed to send him a daily log, in a certain format, whether I've actually done anything or not, just to let him know what's going on. I think it kind of helps him gauge what headspace I've been in, too, since it's another method of seeing into my life while we're not physically together and those little nuances can go unnoticed with just one form of communication.

I hate to be a downer, but I'm really missing actually sleeping with some one. I mean just curling up and feeling that warm body beside you, and waking up to the sound of his soft snores. The smell of his skin in the morning.

Guess I'm just feeling a bit lonesome.

Yes. This. I feel like I've been kind of bugging him lately with this, just because most of the time when we talk I'm getting ready for bed or am in bed about to go to sleep and that's when I feel that absence so much more intensely. Even though I have yet to experience this with him, it's among the things on the very top of the list that I crave.

 

[Daddy2mylilgirl]

A question for those in LD relationships, if you don't mind.

I'm wondering, what, if any, special rituals etc you might have to keep you spiritually and emotionally close to your SO, outside of the time you spend in communication and playing?

Does that even make sense?

I gave my slave a couple everyday collars (necklaces) so that she can wear them out.

She also has My leather collar, which she can put on whenever she feels the need to feel close to me. (but only after asking first )

She also may not masturbate or orgasm unless I am talking to her.

I used to have her kneel for me everyday or I would pick out her panties each day but those have gone by the wayside.

 

[the captians wench]

Yes. This. I feel like I've been kind of bugging him lately with this, just because most of the time when we talk I'm getting ready for bed or am in bed about to go to sleep and that's when I feel that absence so much more intensely. Even though I have yet to experience this with him, it's among the things on the very top of the list that I crave.

We had a bit of a morning ritual that I miss. I really miss being cuddled. Now we didn't sleep cuddled, but we did have a lot of cuddle time before we dosed off. I woke before he did, but would keep still and quiet so that he could sleep another couple of hours. After a couple of hours I would get antsy, and depending on his answering growl I would either snuggle up and start kissing on him, or try to keep quite a bit longer.

Which reminds me, i really miss morning sex too.

 

[the captians wench]

I used to have her kneel for me everyday or I would pick out her panties each day but those have gone by the wayside.

*giggles* Oh yeah, I'm not allowed panties either. That gets interesting when I'm so pent up I'm clawing at the walls.

 

[sinnocence]

Which reminds me, i really miss morning sex too.

Oh my god, me too. I remember waking up next to him and thinking, in this order, "He is so handsome...holy crap he's really here...okay, I really, really wanna fuck."

I think I may have scared him a couple times because when that was in my head, I wanted nothing else obviously. Annnnd I wouldn't leave him alone.

 

[Lizzie_Borden]

Thanks guys

Mr and I are going to have some difficulties getting together for the forseeable future so I'm looking for ways to keep the connection. Not that it won't already be there, but I think I'll need to feel like I'm *doing something*

Or something, it's hard to describe.

So I'm feeling out different ideas.

 

[the captians wench]

Oh my god, me too. I remember waking up next to him and thinking, in this order, "He is so handsome...holy crap he's really here...okay, I really, really wanna fuck."

I think I may have scared him a couple times because when that was in my head, I wanted nothing else obviously. Annnnd I wouldn't leave him alone.

*giggles* Once I was sure he wasn't going to be too upset about me starting to stir I would curl up next to him and run my hands along his chest. He'd roll over so I could fit under his arm. After I was all comfy under his arm, my hand drifting down his stomach, he would ask, very unassumingly, "fancy a shag?"

*giggles* I get all squirmy remembering it.

 

[Sweetdaisymae]

I have some happy news!!
after our date last month was sadly cancelled, we are meeting later this month, in fact in just 2 weeks!
I am soo happy to be seeing Sir, I really miss him, although we txt and msn pretty much every day, there is nothing like the real thing!!
Even better he is going to be in town for a couple of days so we will be able to spend some time together and enjoy ourselves and to have the opportunity for the rarest of treats, an overnight spent together!!

 

[Daddy2mylilgirl]

I think I may have scared him a couple times because when that was in my head, I wanted nothing else obviously. Annnnd I wouldn't leave him alone.

You didn't scare me, you just got in the way while I was trying to watch tv.

 

[sinnocence]

You didn't scare me, you just got in the way while I was trying to watch tv.

Thus the reason why I kept turning it off.

 

[KoPilot]

Thanks guys

Mr and I are going to have some difficulties getting together for the forseeable future so I'm looking for ways to keep the connection. Not that it won't already be there, but I think I'll need to feel like I'm *doing something*

Or something, it's hard to describe.

So I'm feeling out different ideas.

I know exactly how that feels.

Late last winter I think, I was feeling the same thing because it had been MONTHS since I saw S. So I went to the art store and bought a pack of small red envelopes (very small... slightly smaller than index card size), and mailed him a tiny piece of art every week.

Or maybe go on the hunt for the most hideous postcards you can find, and mail one to him every once and a while? (You'd be surprised how many godawful ones there are in tchotchke souvenir shops.)

Good luck to you!