Distance Domination-Support Thread

[taborgirl]

The 10 month wait will finally be over soon... I see him in 3 and a half weeks! It feels so surreal, just thinking about being with him in person again.

YAY!

 

[the captians wench]

I've been feeling very attention starved lately. Just lonesome in general I guess.

And my trip may be further away than I had thought.

 

[taborgirl]

Another week. Another invitation to join Him in Chicago. Another time the Universe says it's not time. I am seriously considering a co-workers invitation to let her husband fuck my ass. Sir's already asked if I was going to do it. He's fine with it if I do. It's something I really need to think about. As much as I need to have my ass fucked. I'd rather have Him do it for the first time after four and a half years. However, I really need my ass fucked.

Coffee is my punishment for cumming without permission. Sir is very creative. I also have to beg to cum when I masturbate for Him. Just not sure when this is going to happen. I'm desperate to hear his voice. I think I've forgotten what he sounds like.

 

[the captians wench]

Another week. Another invitation to join Him in Chicago. Another time the Universe says it's not time. I am seriously considering a co-workers invitation to let her husband fuck my ass. Sir's already asked if I was going to do it. He's fine with it if I do. It's something I really need to think about. As much as I need to have my ass fucked. I'd rather have Him do it for the first time after four and a half years. However, I really need my ass fucked.

Coffee is my punishment for cumming without permission. Sir is very creative. I also have to beg to cum when I masturbate for Him. Just not sure when this is going to happen. I'm desperate to hear his voice. I think I've forgotten what he sounds like.

I know exactly how you feel.

 

[Xoticbunlvr]

Another week. Another invitation to join Him in Chicago. Another time the Universe says it's not time. I am seriously considering a co-workers invitation to let her husband fuck my ass. Sir's already asked if I was going to do it. He's fine with it if I do. It's something I really need to think about. As much as I need to have my ass fucked. I'd rather have Him do it for the first time after four and a half years. However, I really need my ass fucked.

Coffee is my punishment for cumming without permission. Sir is very creative. I also have to beg to cum when I masturbate for Him. Just not sure when this is going to happen. I'm desperate to hear his voice. I think I've forgotten what he sounds like.

I feel for you too..

 

[Hisbeauty]

I feel for you all too.

Sir is not communicating much either right now, and while i know exactly why (has nothing to do with His submissive) it still is rough.

i am fortunate that i have Dom/sub friends who are supportive of things right now and i can talk to them!

Hugs to all...and why is your trip maybe not on, Wenchie?

 

[the captians wench]

I feel for you all too.

Sir is not communicating much either right now, and while i know exactly why (has nothing to do with His submissive) it still is rough.

i am fortunate that i have Dom/sub friends who are supportive of things right now and i can talk to them!

Hugs to all...and why is your trip maybe not on, Wenchie?

There's a complication that has nothing to do with us or money (the later being the usual reason). When I booked my vacation time I wasn't thinking about certain dates and well it's just not a good time. We're hoping to move it, but moving around vacation time isn't easy for me, and even if I do, well I still might not be able to go.

I can explain more, but not here. I am fully supportive of this decision (this time) but still a lot disapointed.

 

[ecstaticsub]

I apologize for my extended absence from this thread. I have been reading it but almost avoiding it, too.

Why? Well, honestly I guess I am having problems being supportive. More than that a little bit guilty. But for very happy reasons.

Things are going so well for me. I should qualify that, job and financial situation is a HUGE problem which could potentially change my way of life completely but my D/s relationship (and my marriage) couldn't be better.

I've seen Daddy twice within a 4 week period of time. Both times were wicked fun, but also both had new elements that deepened and strengthened our relationship even more than I thought possible. There was some emotional turmoil over the past few months but we got through it.

The thing is, even though we live a few hundred miles away from each other it doesn't feel like a long distance relationship at all anymore. And even though we use the internet more than any other form of communication it certainly doesn't feel like a on-line relationship either. (we do almost phone as much as type for communication)

Of course, it would be wonderful to be able to see him, and feel him everyday. But I get what I need from him on a daily basis.

I know without any doubt that he and I will be together for the rest of our lives.

 

[CurlyKat]

I feel for you all too.

Sir is not communicating much either right now, and while i know exactly why (has nothing to do with His submissive) it still is rough.

i am fortunate that i have Dom/sub friends who are supportive of things right now and i can talk to them!

Word. Non-communication, even for legitimate reasons, still sucks big time.

 

[the captians wench]

ES, I truely couldn't be happier for you.

 

[wicked woman]

@ecstaticsub

I hear why you're hesitant to post. I've felt the same way when things are going well and we're able to see each other more often, but thinking about it, I think it's just as important to see an example of a LDR that can bring great joy and the ability to communicate and even see each other with some frequency. Just like BDSM isn't one size fits all, neither are LDRs. Like all relationships they are constantly evolving.

Congrats on your happiness. Enjoy.

 

[GoldunAngel]

There's a complication that has nothing to do with us or money (the later being the usual reason). When I booked my vacation time I wasn't thinking about certain dates and well it's just not a good time. We're hoping to move it, but moving around vacation time isn't easy for me, and even if I do, well I still might not be able to go.

I can explain more, but not here. I am fully supportive of this decision (this time) but still a lot disapointed.

I'm so sorry you have to move things around. I really hope it works out for you sweetie.

I apologize for my extended absence from this thread. I have been reading it but almost avoiding it, too.

Why? Well, honestly I guess I am having problems being supportive. More than that a little bit guilty. But for very happy reasons.

Things are going so well for me. I should qualify that, job and financial situation is a HUGE problem which could potentially change my way of life completely but my D/s relationship (and my marriage) couldn't be better.

I've seen Daddy twice within a 4 week period of time. Both times were wicked fun, but also both had new elements that deepened and strengthened our relationship even more than I thought possible. There was some emotional turmoil over the past few months but we got through it.

The thing is, even though we live a few hundred miles away from each other it doesn't feel like a long distance relationship at all anymore. And even though we use the internet more than any other form of communication it certainly doesn't feel like a on-line relationship either. (we do almost phone as much as type for communication)

Of course, it would be wonderful to be able to see him, and feel him everyday. But I get what I need from him on a daily basis.

I know without any doubt that he and I will be together for the rest of our lives.

On the other hand sooo happy all is great with you....

 

[ecstaticsub]

ES, I truely couldn't be happier for you.

Thank you, Wenchie. My heart aches every time I read one of your posts where your visit may be delayed or issues have come up. The love you feel for J is so apparent, I just wish I could wave my magic wand and transport you permanently to Ireland.

@ecstaticsub

I hear why you're hesitant to post. I've felt the same way when things are going well and we're able to see each other more often, but thinking about it, I think it's just as important to see an example of a LDR that can bring great joy and the ability to communicate and even see each other with some frequency. Just like BDSM isn't one size fits all, neither are LDRs. Like all relationships they are constantly evolving.

Congrats on your happiness. Enjoy.

Thank you. You are absolutely right. There is a lot of heartache and longing in a LDR but it is important to show relationships that have worked and stood the test of time. We will be celebrating 5 years together next month. If the rest of my life can get straightened out I may even be able to see him for our anniversary

On the other hand sooo happy all is great with you....

Thanks. I promise to be better, and not neglect my friends on this thread in the future.

 

[the captians wench]

Thank you, Wenchie. My heart aches every time I read one of your posts where your visit may be delayed or issues have come up. The love you feel for J is so apparent, I just wish I could wave my magic wand and transport you permanently to Ireland.

Thanks ES.

I'm honestly not feeling this one as hard as I usually do. I'm not sure if it's because I've been in this situation and I really am proud of how he's handling it, or if I'm just used to it now, or if it's that I can hear the disapointment in his voice this time. He's determined to get me there before the end of the year, and I think that's what's keeping me strong more than anything.

Short of that magic wand you mentioned, just pray that this classmate of mine can provide what I'm hoping for. If she really can bring me on as a costume mistress, it would make me so much more flexible. And also throw some good vibes in there that it wouldn't effect my income much, unless it's in a positive way.

 

[AimeeLamis]

Greetings all!

I've been away for a long time. Since my last post I ended my first LDR. Played with a local and then turned him down for a 24/7 relationship. He was just not what I was looking for.

I started posting on FetLife and met a wonderful man. We were LD for a short while then he proposed that he should visit me to see if the relationship had any promise. He visited for my birthday week and we had a great time. Long story short, we're engaged now and I'm moving to be with him this summer for a "trial run".

The only challenge for me is that I'm a city girl and he has a beautiful home in the mountains of North Carolina that he loves. I'm looking forward to the change, just thinking that I'll miss my family and the hustle of the city. I have family close by, but there's nothing like home.

Despite all of that I'm excited and I really love him. We're both artists and his area of the country is very artist friendly.

I'll be leaving in mid June. Wish us luck.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Greetings all!

I've been away for a long time. Since my last post I ended my first LDR. Played with a local and then turned him down for a 24/7 relationship. He was just not what I was looking for.

I started posting on FetLife and met a wonderful man. We were LD for a short while then he proposed that he should visit me to see if the relationship had any promise. He visited for my birthday week and we had a great time. Long story short, we're engaged now and I'm moving to be with him this summer for a "trial run".

The only challenge for me is that I'm a city girl and he has a beautiful home in the mountains of North Carolina that he loves. I'm looking forward to the change, just thinking that I'll miss my family and the hustle of the city. I have family close by, but there's nothing like home.

Despite all of that I'm excited and I really love him. We're both artists and his area of the country is very artist friendly.

I'll be leaving in mid June. Wish us luck.

Good luck!! I was a city girl before my husband up and moved me to South Dakota. LOL It'll work out. I am a believer in true love conquers all. You can always visit family and the city.

Best wishes for you both.

 

[AimeeLamis]

Good luck!! I was a city girl before my husband up and moved me to South Dakota. LOL It'll work out. I am a believer in true love conquers all. You can always visit family and the city.

Best wishes for you both.

Thanks for the well wishes. I am looking forward to the change, but still there is always a little anxiety with something different. All in all I think I'm a lucky girl. I finally found a Daddy that loves me with all of my little quirks, has a firm hand that can lead without being abusive, and can actually take care of me financially. I am looking forward to the "simple life".

 

[the captians wench]

I think I'm having a hormone surge. I'm all irrationally jealous and suspicious.

I'm also missing him every second, even when I'm talking to him.

I'm moody and horny and lonesome and I don't understand why I can't let go and let myself cry it all out.

 

[KoPilot]

I think I'm having a hormone surge. I'm all irrationally jealous and suspicious.

I'm also missing him every second, even when I'm talking to him.

I'm moody and horny and lonesome and I don't understand why I can't let go and let myself cry it all out.

I hate those. Just gotta remember that they don't last!

 

[KoPilot]

Holy mother of god, I see him tomorrow! Eeeeee~

 

[ecstaticsub]

Holy mother of god, I see him tomorrow! Eeeeee~

So that would be today, now. So happy for you.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Today is our anniversary. I have been his owned submissive for 5 amazing years now.

What a ride

 

[BiaTcHiNFiRe]

I think I'm having a hormone surge. I'm all irrationally jealous and suspicious.

I'm also missing him every second, even when I'm talking to him.

I'm moody and horny and lonesome and I don't understand why I can't let go and let myself cry it all out.

I feel the same.. *hugs Wenchie tight*

 

[Kikori]

I apologize for my extended absence from this thread. I have been reading it but almost avoiding it, too.

Why? Well, honestly I guess I am having problems being supportive. More than that a little bit guilty. But for very happy reasons.
~

Keep in mind, with being in a support thread, we expect the parties in need of support to come out with a happy ending... or at least an end to a wait. I won't ask you to not feel guilty for being happy while others wait, but no avoiding friends who'll certainly be happy that you're happy. XD

Seriously, hopeful feelings won't get far without some kinds of good news out there to keep one's own dreams strong in mind.

Holy mother of god, I see him tomorrow! Eeeeee~

Here's to hoping it goes well. ^_^

I think I'm having a hormone surge. I'm all irrationally jealous and suspicious.

I'm also missing him every second, even when I'm talking to him.

I'm moody and horny and lonesome and I don't understand why I can't let go and let myself cry it all out.

Nearly anything hormonal comes to an end; we'll still be here. ;-;
And not everyone can cry easily. If you need a more optimist (even if slightly foolish >_>) way of thinking about it, people who don't want to cry when sad do better when crying happy. So don't worry about why you can't find relief in crying if you deserve to smile instead. The tears will feel better at that point.

 

[cheesehead2]

I feel the same.. *hugs Wenchie tight*

Hi, New to this whole lit thing. Came across this thread. Sounds interesting something I have thoght about at times. I,m 50 yrs old and often wonder how being a sub. would be. Any thoughts would be great.