Distance Domination-Support Thread

[SubKekiLee]

Finally got some time with Jounar tonight after a week of only a couple of texts back and forth.

It's been a horrid week, which makes me miss him so much. And the reality of not visiting him hasn't fully sunk in yet. I'm waiting for that crash.

Umm Wenchie? Did you tell him about "US" heheheheheheheh I hope so.. I had such a GREAT time when you came to visit me. Made my night.. i love ya girlie.)

P.S. if you want to know about the inside joke.. IT isnt what you think it is. someday we will tell you .. right Wenchie?

 

[the captians wench]

Umm Wenchie? Did you tell him about "US" heheheheheheheh I hope so.. I had such a GREAT time when you came to visit me. Made my night.. i love ya girlie.)

P.S. if you want to know about the inside joke.. IT isnt what you think it is. someday we will tell you .. right Wenchie?

You are such a tease. *giggles*

His exact words were "what ever gets her off" *giggles* so I think he's cool

was an awesome night, I'm glad I could make it up to you, even if it ment a lack of sleep *giggles*

Man I didn't want to leave that bed!

 

[Adakgirl]

Ah well my fears and negative emotions were unwarranted, he was away for the weekend didn't have a chance to tell me. Simple as that. What I put myself through for no good reason simply amazes me.

 

[the captians wench]

Ah well my fears and negative emotions were unwarranted, he was away for the weekend didn't have a chance to tell me. Simple as that. What I put myself through for no good reason simply amazes me.

Don't feel bad. After nearly 4 years I still do it.

 

[mistyrydher]

Finally got some time with Jounar tonight after a week of only a couple of texts back and forth.

It's been a horrid week, which makes me miss him so much. And the reality of not visiting him hasn't fully sunk in yet. I'm waiting for that crash.

So sorry to hear about the trip cancellation *big hugs* i cannot even imagine. Oh and good luck with the nipple piercing! i am way too much of a chicken!!!!

 

[mistyrydher]

unfortunately my odds are more on an overnight stay then an in and out. the doctors are pretty convinced that the second procedure will be necessary. While it can happen through the catheter so no more incisions, it means i have to stay in the hospital for observation.

also means there is no way the heart monitor implant in my chest is going away anytime soon.

Sorry to hear about the surgery and your moving postponement...my thoughts are with you for a smooth procedure, speedy recovery and a quick start to your future *big hugs*

 

[the captians wench]

So sorry to hear about the trip cancellation *big hugs* i cannot even imagine. Oh and good luck with the nipple piercing! i am way too much of a chicken!!!!

Thanks. And honestly I am too. If I didn't have friends taking me, it wouldn't get done anytime soon *giggles*. But it is someting Jounar and I have talked about off and on for years, and something he'd really enjoy.

I have to admit, I see a lot of torture potential with it myself.

 

[mistyrydher]

Thanks. And honestly I am too. If I didn't have friends taking me, it wouldn't get done anytime soon *giggles*. But it is someting Jounar and I have talked about off and on for years, and something he'd really enjoy.

I have to admit, I see a lot of torture potential with it myself.

Lots of torture potential, indeed.

i would love to get mine done and i know MP would love it but my ears get infected when i wear earringa, i cannot imagine other places (i am allergic to everything...silver, hypoallergenic...gold is the worst though) and the idea of needles...yikes!!!!!

and just as a silly idea...MP and i filled jars with M&Ms (the number of days we had until we would be together) and each night when He tucks me in we pick a color and eat one. It has been amazing to watch the jar slowly empty and it has been nice to share that little moment each night (i told you it was silly LOL)

*big hugs to you* PM me if you ever want or need to talk

 

[the captians wench]

Lots of torture potential, indeed.

i would love to get mine done and i know MP would love it but my ears get infected when i wear earringa, i cannot imagine other places (i am allergic to everything...silver, hypoallergenic...gold is the worst though) and the idea of needles...yikes!!!!!

and just as a silly idea...MP and i filled jars with M&Ms (the number of days we had until we would be together) and each night when He tucks me in we pick a color and eat one. It has been amazing to watch the jar slowly empty and it has been nice to share that little moment each night (i told you it was silly LOL)

*big hugs to you* PM me if you ever want or need to talk

My ears got infected the first time, then we found out that I'm allergic to gold. My belly button was done with sergical steel, as will my nipples, so I'm positive I'll have good results. Now the needle thing will take some work.

I like the M&M thing. It really sounds sweet.

*huggles you back* I'm always talking *giggles* my life is pretty much an open book.

 

[mistyrydher]

My ears got infected the first time, then we found out that I'm allergic to gold. My belly button was done with sergical steel, as will my nipples, so I'm positive I'll have good results. Now the needle thing will take some work.

I like the M&M thing. It really sounds sweet.

*huggles you back* I'm always talking *giggles* my life is pretty much an open book.

How bad did the belly button hurt? i don't think i have ever tried surgical steel...better keep that one under wraps for a bit LOL.

It is weird i am terrified of needles but i have a tattoo...now mind you it hurt like crazy but MP wants me to get another for Him, so we will go and get ours once we are together.

i know that it is over in a moment but piercings just freak me out *pouts* but i do love the way they look. i have non piercing rings and they are too cute! Maybe one day, i will be brave enough...you will have to give me a full update on the experience *giggles*

*hugs* well off to run errands...my son graduates tonight *big smiles* Have a great rest of your day.

 

[Lady_Fiona]

Well it happened. I started to go into meltdown this weekend and ended up being a complete numpty yesterday.

Things conspired against a planned weekend and I ended up spending the weekend alone, all the family away for one reason or another. HAD the reason for me being on my own informed me sooner, I would have booked a flight to Dublin and got a hotel, then found SOME way of seeing Daddy. As it was, by the time I was told it was too late. You can imagine how made up I was.

Then my sister decided to bring something up that I told her at Christmas so we spent the WHOLE weekend chucking emails back and forth......you wouldn't know we live in the same bloody town.

The final straw was yesterday afternoon just before all the family came back. Daddy sent a text out of the blue and nothing seemed right about it. The main reason being that I had just hung up the phone to him and he was going to ring me straight back. In between the two, this text turned up and was all wrong. 10 seconds after I got it, the phone rang. I asked him about it and got an answer which I accepted but still didn't seem right, he dismissed it and we carried on the conversation and then at the end of the day, he went home and I got on but there was still this niggle there that I could not shake, the wording was all wrong.

So I went into meltdown and asked the man I would trust with my life if there was something he was not telling me, if there was something else, why it was addressed using a name similar to mine but just wrong enough for it not to be to me. I didn't accuse him of anything, I was terrified that I was not the only one. My heart told me to behave, my head overruled me and questioned everything.

Needless to say, Daddy was stunned that I had asked. He was also grateful that I had the trust in him to ask him but I hurt both of us by doing it. We fired texts back and forth for about half an hour and then my phone rang. He had risked everything to phone me for 1 minute to tell me verbally that there was no one else and that I was the only one (obviously apart from everything going on at home). The text had been for his daughter and he had sent it in error to me. Cue the sorrys and the I should never have askeds. That was followed by the blubbing. So much so that in the end I had to get in the flippin shower just so I would not get caught and questioned.

I haven't spoken to him today, he had appointments elsewhere but I will get to talk to him in the morning. Hes forgiven me my stupidity I hope. Now that our first meeting is done we will get back to him setting me rules and assignments which is something I DO need. I may be a brat at times but I do generally do as I am told.

I know Daddy reads my posts, hes a good lurker, I hope he forgives me. I'm truly sorry Daddy.

 

[the captians wench]

been there, done that, nearly cashed out my savings and flew 3500+ miles to prove if I was right or not.

But, he's done the same in the past. Jealousy is a nasty little emotion and can make us do some unthinkable things. The trick is to acknowledge it for what it is, channel it, and comunicate.

Our fears, how ever unfounded, are still our fears, and valid, and they won't go away on their own. Until they are put to rest, they will nag at us, and at our relationships.

Jounar has never been upset with me for speaking my mind, he has been upset with me for holding things in and letting them explode out. It's important, especially for those of us with out the ability to discuss things at the dinner table, for us to keep comunication flowing. You can't expect some one to know you're upset, or worried or what ever, especially when all they have to go by is written word.

I'm sure if your Dubliner is half the dom you believe he is, he's already forgotten about it. (this could just be an Irish thing tho, too much effort to keep up the anger *giggles* )

 

[Lady_Fiona]

snip...... Jealousy is a nasty little emotion and can make us do some unthinkable things. The trick is to acknowledge it for what it is, channel it, and comunicate.

Our fears, how ever unfounded, are still our fears, and valid, and they won't go away on their own. Until they are put to rest, they will nag at us, and at our relationships.

snip.....

I'm sure if your Dubliner is half the dom you believe he is, he's already forgotten about it. (this could just be an Irish thing tho, too much effort to keep up the anger *giggles* )

I hate jealousy and what it does to me, I really do not like the person I become but I do acknowledge that its something that does happen on rare occasions and I deal with it.

And yes I think you are right.......much too much effort.

 

[Adakgirl]

I don't think Lady Fiona's issue was really jealousy. I think it was just her logical reasonable mind trying to find out why something just didn't feel right to her. A woman's intuition as well as her gut reactions are very useful, valuable, tools. We should always pay attention to them and follow their lead. When things don't fit together like we know for a fact that they should, we want to find out the reason. I think that is perfectly natural and does not necessarily go hand in hand with jealousy.
She may have been suspicious, she may have felt a bit of jealousy...but I doubt those emotions were her main motivation behind her asking him about it. I think most of us would have done the same in that situation.

After all, she WAS right about it.... you know. That text message was to another woman, only it was his daughter who happened to be the other woman. How was she to know that unless she questioned him? It's not a matter of trust, it's a matter of having enough self-respect to speak up and ask our Dominants about something he did that may negatively affect your whole world.

 

[the captians wench]

I don't think Lady Fiona's issue was really jealousy. I think it was just her logical reasonable mind trying to find out why something just didn't feel right to her. A woman's intuition as well as her gut reactions are very useful, valuable, tools. We should always pay attention to them and follow their lead. When things don't fit together like we know for a fact that they should, we want to find out the reason. I think that is perfectly natural and does not necessarily go hand in hand with jealousy.
She may have been suspicious, she may have felt a bit of jealousy...but I doubt those emotions were her main motivation behind her asking him about it. I think most of us would have done the same in that situation.

After all, she WAS right about it.... you know. That text message was to another woman, only it was his daughter who happened to be the other woman. How was she to know that unless she questioned him? It's not a matter of trust, it's a matter of having enough self-respect to speak up and ask our Dominants about something he did that may negatively affect your whole world.

I never said nor ment to imply that she shouldn't have asked him about it.

I can only speak from my own experiences, and I know, in my own case, every time I felt as she did it was from pains of jealousy. And she admited that jealousy was a stim in why she felt like she did.

I don't think jealousy is a bad emotion, or one we should hide from or be ashamed of, it's only what we do with it that may result in unsatisfactory situations. Sitting on it and letting it stew is deffinately one of those reactions that usually ends up in a big mess. For me, the first time I felt this way, I couldn't help but attack him (which, again to me, it sounded like Fiona did). I was not in control of the emotion and insted of telling him this or that didn't seem right, I came at him head on and acused him.

The jealousy that I felt stimmed from a fear that he would find some one there that he felt simular to, if not more for, and decide that staying with me would be too much effort. I was jealous of every woman age 18-60 who lived with in 2 hours of him because if one of them caught his fancy then they would have what I couldn't.

I put myself in Fiona's place, as I had been many times before in those first 2 years of our relationship (having an open relationship did not help matters much either). And it sounded to me like she did the same jump reaction that I did and attack him insted of being able to handle it calmly. But I never ment that she should not have mentioned anything or should not have confronted him about it, just perhaps she could have done it in a more diplomatic fashion.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Today is our 4 yr anniversary. Four years ago today I never would have dreamed what this relationship has become, how it has grown or the experiences I have had.

Daddy, I love you and will be yours for as long as you want me.

 

[mistyrydher]

Today is our 4 yr anniversary. Four years ago today I never would have dreamed what this relationship has become, how it has grown or the experiences I have had.

Daddy, I love you and will be yours for as long as you want me.

Congrats of 4 years!!!!!! May happiness and love continue to surround you both *hugs*

 

[rida]

Today is our 4 yr anniversary. Four years ago today I never would have dreamed what this relationship has become, how it has grown or the experiences I have had.

Daddy, I love you and will be yours for as long as you want me.

CONGRATULATION!

 

[Daddy2mylilgirl]

Today is our 4 yr anniversary. Four years ago today I never would have dreamed what this relationship has become, how it has grown or the experiences I have had.

Daddy, I love you and will be yours for as long as you want me.

Congrats.

 

[Sexualinnocent]

Today is our 4 yr anniversary. Four years ago today I never would have dreamed what this relationship has become, how it has grown or the experiences I have had.

Daddy, I love you and will be yours for as long as you want me.

Add my congrats too! 4 years is a long time in an LDR...and you are making it work.

Sir and i have been in touch, and this week has been a growing week for me. It's worth the work, that is for sure! i knew i just needed to hang in there for a bit. Sir even said i should not be insecure...well guess what i get to work on?

Ahhh i love Him too.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Congrats of 4 years!!!!!! May happiness and love continue to surround you both *hugs*

So sweet, thanks.

CONGRATULATION!

Thank you

Congrats.

Thank you

Add my congrats too! 4 years is a long time in an LDR...and you are making it work.

Sir and i have been in touch, and this week has been a growing week for me. It's worth the work, that is for sure! i knew i just needed to hang in there for a bit. Sir even said i should not be insecure...well guess what i get to work on?

Ahhh i love Him too.

Thank you and I have been working on the insecurity issue the whole time. Seriously thought, for me it's something that doesn't make sense. I trust our relationship. I know I please him, I know I am the "kind" of submissive he wants. I also know that he really loves me for me, not just for sex and service. But yet sometimes my reactions are those of someone who is insecure. My head and heart can tell me to relax, but my imagination can get out of control.

I'm working on it, but Daddy also says that a little insecurity is ok, it keeps me on my toes.

 

[akuyim]

Congratulations on 4 years. May you have many more years to come.

 

[the captians wench]

He would have been collecting me from the airport right now.

 

[Lady_Fiona]

He would have been collecting me from the airport right now.

{{{{wraps you up in huggles}}}}

Oh honey, I can only imagine how you are feeling.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Congratulations on 4 years. May you have many more years to come.

Thank you !