Distance Domination-Support Thread

[ecstaticsub]

He would have been collecting me from the airport right now.

Please add my hugs to those from Lady_Fiona. ...hmmm that actually could be fun, a three way hug....

Allow yourself to wallow a bit in the "what could have been-ness". You deserve it. But then try to focus on doing something constuctive for either him or someone else in your life. It won't bring you the kind of joy that being with him would bring but bringing joy into other's lives may brighten yours, too.

 

[the captians wench]

Please add my hugs to those from Lady_Fiona. ...hmmm that actually could be fun, a three way hug....

Allow yourself to wallow a bit in the "what could have been-ness". You deserve it. But then try to focus on doing something constuctive for either him or someone else in your life. It won't bring you the kind of joy that being with him would bring but bringing joy into other's lives may brighten yours, too.

Thanks.

I'm really doing fine now. Was just kind of a shock this morning when I looked at the clock and realized where I "should" be.

But I had a full day. I went to a class this morning on pattern making and design, then went with friends to have something done that Jounar and I have talked about since we met. Okay when we first talked about it, all i pretty much said was "no way in hell!" but now it's done. That's right needle phobic wenchie now has pierced nipples.

He loves how they look, and I'm enjoying the dull tenderness. I'm also enjoying the idea of what can be done with them once they heal fully.

Tomorrow I leave for Kansas to see my brother.

Congrats btw.

 

[Sexualinnocent]

Congrats on the newly pierced nips, Wenchie. i am not so daring! Although...Sir has told me "I am going to loooooooove piercing you..." i am glad you are doing other things and not moping, even with the right to do so.

i love that i feel like i'm getting to know people on this thread. Thanks for the support...i have leaned on it. And there is a wonderful amount of good advice...like journalling things that happen. Sir has me do that as a matter of course, but it helps me remember too. And He loves to know my responses.

Yeah i wish i wasn't in an LDR...but the alternative of not being Sir's? NO FUCKING WAY!

Hugs to all of you.

 

[the captians wench]

Congrats on the newly pierced nips, Wenchie. i am not so daring! Although...Sir has told me "I am going to loooooooove piercing you..." i am glad you are doing other things and not moping, even with the right to do so.

i love that i feel like i'm getting to know people on this thread. Thanks for the support...i have leaned on it. And there is a wonderful amount of good advice...like journalling things that happen. Sir has me do that as a matter of course, but it helps me remember too. And He loves to know my responses.

Yeah i wish i wasn't in an LDR...but the alternative of not being Sir's? NO FUCKING WAY!

Hugs to all of you.

*giggles* I'm not so daring. I had a friend holding my hand the whole time.

It didn't hurt much really. JUst felt like my weighted clamps. The only thing was that it felt like I had those clamps on all day. Now I'm down to feeling like I have pegs on.

 

[ecstaticsub]

Thanks.

I'm really doing fine now. Was just kind of a shock this morning when I looked at the clock and realized where I "should" be.

But I had a full day. I went to a class this morning on pattern making and design, then went with friends to have something done that Jounar and I have talked about since we met. Okay when we first talked about it, all i pretty much said was "no way in hell!" but now it's done. That's right needle phobic wenchie now has pierced nipples.

He loves how they look, and I'm enjoying the dull tenderness. I'm also enjoying the idea of what can be done with them once they heal fully.

Tomorrow I leave for Kansas to see my brother.

Congrats btw.

So when do we get to see pictures of the piercings? lol I had forgotten that you were going to get them done, that was a wonderful idea. Not something I would do but..good for you. I'm not afraid of needles, i use them at work everyday. I'm just germphobic. Though one of these days I want a couple of labia piecings.

 

[myinnerslut]

i hate packing.

and this time its harder (becuase of the volume) yet easier to do at the same time.

the task is more expansive becuase i am not simply putting things in a suitcase, i am trying to pare down my belongings at the same time. i already have a huge garbage bag filled to the brim with things to donate. several bags filled with garbage.

easier because i want to be there so much it is helping me along.

moving in (approximately, based on heal time) 4 days.

 

[LMs_ds]

Today is our 4 yr anniversary. Four years ago today I never would have dreamed what this relationship has become, how it has grown or the experiences I have had.

I'm a tad bit late but congratulations!

 

[the captians wench]

So when do we get to see pictures of the piercings? lol I had forgotten that you were going to get them done, that was a wonderful idea. Not something I would do but..good for you. I'm not afraid of needles, i use them at work everyday. I'm just germphobic. Though one of these days I want a couple of labia piecings.

As soon as I get back and get my lappy working then I'll post some.

Right now I'm in Kansas City for the night. Mom and I decided we were both just too tired to make the last 2 hours to make it to my brother's place so we grabbed a hotel. I'm glad we did.

 

[mistyrydher]

i hate packing.

and this time its harder (becuase of the volume) yet easier to do at the same time.

the task is more expansive becuase i am not simply putting things in a suitcase, i am trying to pare down my belongings at the same time. i already have a huge garbage bag filled to the brim with things to donate. several bags filled with garbage.

easier because i want to be there so much it is helping me along.

moving in (approximately, based on heal time) 4 days.

Congrats on the move...i can sympathize with the downsizing, packing, and moving. i had to get 40 years worth of stuff into 5 suitcases ...but i finally finished it this weekend (just in time seeing as i leave for Maryland in 6 days!!!!! i ended up mailing MP two small boxes with stuff i just couldn't fit though LOL.

i know it is just stuff and stuff can be replaced but it was my stuff and of course some of my son's stuff too. MP had to listen to me bawl on the phone so many times about my need to fill our home with some things of mine...He has been so very patient with me. He told me whatever i wanted to bring was fine by Him but in the end, i knew that being with Him was what was most important and started looking at the stuff in a different light. The cost for extra luggage is ridiculous for international flights

Best of luck to you...with the procedure, the packing and the moving...it will all be worth it soon!!! *big hugs*

 

[mistyrydher]

As soon as I get back and get my lappy working then I'll post some.

Right now I'm in Kansas City for the night. Mom and I decided we were both just too tired to make the last 2 hours to make it to my brother's place so we grabbed a hotel. I'm glad we did.

Congrats on the piercings...you are my hero! *giggles* Can't wait to see pics! Have a wonderful time at your brother's place.

Sorry about staying here in the States *big massive yet careful hugs*

 

[the captians wench]

Congrats on the piercings...you are my hero! *giggles* Can't wait to see pics! Have a wonderful time at your brother's place.

Sorry about staying here in the States *big massive yet careful hugs*

*huggles*

I'm back to my cosey little apt. Lemme tell you, life on "post" is something else! I had a blast, and took lots of pics. Some I took on my phone so I could send them to Jounar right away. We have been texting all week and it's been almost like he's been with me on my vacation. At one point I could have sworn he was here waiting for me to come home the way he sounded. *giggles*

I'm feeling much better. I still wish that I would have been able to visit him, but visiting my brother and his lot was a very enjoyable substitute.

 

[Lady_Fiona]

Well its my birthday. Daddy sent me a teddy bear and a card and I got an voicemail message on my mobile too which was wonderful, but I wish I was spending it with him. I miss him so much, it still hurts.

 

[the captians wench]

Well its my birthday. Daddy sent me a teddy bear and a card and I got an voicemail message on my mobile too which was wonderful, but I wish I was spending it with him. I miss him so much, it still hurts.

Happy birthday fi. Birthdays and holidays are deffo the hardest. I have yet to spend one of my birthdays with jounar. For his last birthday I was the present. Of course I arived a day late but still. This year hopefully I will spend his birthday with him.

*huggles*

 

[Mistress_Belladonna]

Please... can I ask?

What do you do when things fall apart?

How do you cope?

When it hurts so much because you may never hear their voice again?

 

[the captians wench]

What do you do when things fall apart?

How do you cope?

When it hurts so much because you may never hear their voice again?

Cry into a pint of ben and jerrys

 

[Sexualinnocent]

Oh no MB...what happened? Can it be fixed?

Hugs all around.

Happy Birthday, Fi.

Wenchie, glad your trip was good.

MIS, glad you are "home" now.

i just finished some work, and have been talking to Sir much these days, so i don't feel so far away. But damn, i want to see Him too! i will one of these days, but i wish i had a firm date. But i am doing a lot better.

 

[Mistress_Belladonna]

Oh no MB...what happened? Can it be fixed?

Hugs all around.

Happy Birthday, Fi.

Wenchie, glad your trip was good.

MIS, glad you are "home" now.

i just finished some work, and have been talking to Sir much these days, so i don't feel so far away. But damn, i want to see Him too! i will one of these days, but i wish i had a firm date. But i am doing a lot better.

I don't know if there is a way to fix it. I just don't know. And I feel so numb sometimes and then stabbed with pain like someone is crushing my heart.


And I'll add hugs for all, with a Happy Birthday hug for Fiona, too! *big hugs*

 

[ecstaticsub]

Well its my birthday. Daddy sent me a teddy bear and a card and I got an voicemail message on my mobile too which was wonderful, but I wish I was spending it with him. I miss him so much, it still hurts.

Happy Birthday. Big hugs to you!

What do you do when things fall apart?

How do you cope?

When it hurts so much because you may never hear their voice again?

Fortunately it's hasn't ever totally fallen apart for us but we have had our moments. Usually for us we both take a couple days to cool down and then come back calmly to talk. So far we've always been able to work things out. i hope that is the same for you.

 

[Lady_Fiona]

I don't know if there is a way to fix it. I just don't know. And I feel so numb sometimes and then stabbed with pain like someone is crushing my heart.


And I'll add hugs for all, with a Happy Birthday hug for Fiona, too!

Oh Bella {{{{{{Huggles}}}}}}

I really hope you can fix it, the pain must be unbearable. I only have the pain of missing Daddy and that rips me apart, I cannot imagine what it must be like to have the pain you currently have. You are in my thoughts luvvie.


Wenchie, thanks for your words, I know hes feeling the pain every bit as much as me which is somehow in some twisted way, comforting. Its only been a month since we were together, not sure I can last a year. Actually, I know I cant.

And thank you everyone for birthday wishes

 

[Sexualinnocent]

i'm just sorry you guys are hurting. Being the ENFJ i am, i wish i could help you.

All i can do is wrap my arms around you all and tell you it will be ok...really.

i do understand though how it is when it goes wrong with your PYL/pyl. It has happened once with Sir and me, and i thought i would die...i wished a hole would just open up and swallow me. But W/we calmed down, and talked it out...while it was happening, though, my heart was ripped out.

we are here, and if you care to PM, feel free.

 

[Adakgirl]

What do you do when things fall apart?

How do you cope?

When it hurts so much because you may never hear their voice again?

Well you don't try cope, you allow yourself to cry, experience the hurt and you give yourself permission to mourn for however long it takes until you start to feel better. Only then will you be able to cope, it's a process and if you try to get around it, if you push yourself to get over it too soon, it only makes it worse.

 

[Adakgirl]

Happy Belated birthday Lady Fiona!

 

[Homburg]

What do you do when things fall apart?

How do you cope?

When it hurts so much because you may never hear their voice again?

Well you don't try cope, you allow yourself to cry, experience the hurt and you give yourself permission to mourn for however long it takes until you start to feel better. Only then will you be able to cope, it's a process and if you try to get around it, if you push yourself to get over it too soon, it only makes it worse.

Adakgirl's advice is spot on with one exception. You mentioned a "may" in there. That sounds like it is not so final. If so, take a deeeeep breath, back up a bit, and reassess. If you give it a chance, and it was meant to be, you may get a shot at putting it back together.

 

[Sexualinnocent]

Mistress Bella, i've been thinking about you all day. Hope you're doing ok.

 

[Mistress_Belladonna]

Mistress Bella, i've been thinking about you all day. Hope you're doing ok.

Thank you, sweetie... I've been trying to keep busy and be somewhat upbeat. Had the worst headache all day and felt like death warmed over, but am heading to bed now and will try to get some sleep. *big hugs* Thanks so much for you kindness and sympathy.