Distance Domination-Support Thread

[boobsqueeezer]

Merry Christmas to all that celebrate and happy holidays to all that dont celebrate X-Mas.

My special wishes and prayers to you Chrome Collar.

Regards,
Boobsqueeezer

 

[boobsqueeezer]

resolved things with Sir today... which is good, and hopefully things will stay resloved

Congratulations...

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Posting after a very long time. Started this thread and then I was active to a point and now I see lots of new ones in the field in LDR. I appreciate and wish my Best to all of those in this thread.

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I think I am going too much back.. but This is a good suggestion....

If the Master wants to work his sub hard.. it is prerogative unless the sub has some health/othe reason when the Master should reschedule the session.

this is actually something we do. when i feel i NEED to be 'worked over hard' i let Master know in just those words and, of course, He has no problem with it *grins* if Master wants to 'work me over hard' simply because He can..He just does...LOL

 

[subfem1963]

I got my best christmas prezzie so far today... I got to talk to my Love on the phone a bit ago. And he said that I can open one gift at midnight his time. which is like in an hour. *giggles* I know I'm terrible, but I love prezzies and I love talking to him, and we do everything on his time anyway. *giggles*

I'm so happy for you, I got to speak to mine too, so I know how you must have felt. I had a smile on my face all day, knowing he was thinking of me.
Hope everyone has had a lovely day, and santa brought you what you wished for. Happy holidays to you all. xxx

 

[MasterPhoenix]

this is actually something we do. when i feel i NEED to be 'worked over hard' i let Master know in just those words and, of course, He has no problem with it *grins* if Master wants to 'work me over hard' simply because He can..He just does...LOL

Well, yeah... of course I do

 

[MasterPhoenix]

Posting after a very long time. Started this thread and then I was active to a point and now I see lots of new ones in the field in LDR. I appreciate and wish my Best to all of those in this thread.

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I think I am going too much back.. but This is a good suggestion....

If the Master wants to work his sub hard.. it is prerogative unless the sub has some health/othe reason when the Master should reschedule the session.

This is a great thread Squeezer...

 

[BeBe81]

Posting after a very long time. Started this thread and then I was active to a point and now I see lots of new ones in the field in LDR. I appreciate and wish my Best to all of those in this thread.

Thank you for making this thread. I feel like it's my haven at times.

 

[littleone77]

Its impossible for me to express how much it has aided me. Thank You

 

[boobsqueeezer]

This is a great thread Squeezer...

Thank you for making this thread. I feel like it's my haven at times.

Its impossible for me to express how much it has aided me. Thank You

I am glad to hear that....

I would try to be active as much as possible and thanks all for the support. *smiles

 

[boobsqueeezer]

Few issues kept Me from being updated on the thread but I see it is very active My own slave had some personal issues to deal with and I had to support her through that period and virtually it has been hell of time for her and she is recovering quite well.

During our last conversation, she expressed her desire that she would want just one more partner who she would share Me with and occaionally play with. I am just about wondering if she was teasing Me or possibly expressing her bi- desires *grins

 

[boobsqueeezer]

Another thread is required that will include posts from this thread and links from other sites that are dedicated to Distant Domination for study purpose as a "library" I guess.. isnt it? Including the links here might NOT be a good idea. Chrome Collar has been posting a few links here.. Even those can be transferred to that thread I guess so it would also develop for all those willing to explore/study this Distant Domination. Opinions requested for all OPYL/opyl.

Boobsqueeezer

 

[ChromeCollar]

Another thread is required that will include posts from this thread and links from other sites that are dedicated to Distant Domination for study purpose as a "library" I guess.. isnt it? Including the links here might NOT be a good idea. Chrome Collar has been posting a few links here.. Even those can be transferred to that thread I guess so it would also develop for all those willing to explore/study this Distant Domination. Opinions requested for all OPYL/opyl.

Boobsqueeezer

I've stated before that I would like to see more sources people use for guidance and what not. Books, links, sites, whatever. I haven't seen much interest on that front, but if you would like to start another thread Boob, I will definately participate. Thank you also for your well wishes, and it is good to see you post again here. Your presence was missed.

My former Master called me twice yesterday, I missed both calls. I do not know if that is for the good or bad, but his voicemails made me cry. I want him so badly. I want to run back into his arms.

 

[myinnerslut]

My former Master called me twice yesterday, I missed both calls. I do not know if that is for the good or bad, but his voicemails made me cry. I want him so badly. I want to run back into his arms.

***hug***

im so sorry, i know how much that can hurt

 

[MasterPhoenix]

I have listed My sources on many other threads...

But the biggest one is not a link, book or anything, but a very trusted friend... She was My frist sub and became a best friend/mentor when we were no longer 'together'. She is also a close trusted friend of My rose as well....

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Another thread is required that will include posts from this thread and links from other sites that are dedicated to Distant Domination for study purpose as a "library" I guess.. isnt it? Including the links here might NOT be a good idea. Chrome Collar has been posting a few links here.. Even those can be transferred to that thread I guess so it would also develop for all those willing to explore/study this Distant Domination. Opinions requested for all OPYL/opyl.

Boobsqueeezer

i'm not sure why another thread is needed? i think this thread alone has aided many of us in the issues and such we have with online D/s. i love this thread honestly, and am confused why another should be started?

 

[CutieMouse]

If you wish the thread to be included in the BDSM Library, I think all you need to do is contact the BDSM Librarian, and if the subject is believed to be of interest/benificial, the subject and related threads will be added to the library thread pinned to the top of the forum.

 

[DontThankJustSpank]

--a request for those whose spouse knows about a d/s LDR

I know there are at least a couple of people here on there on the boards that have both spouses and doms/dommes/any other title by which they call them. I would really appreciate the chance to hear about and ask questions of you as to how you worked things out in this way. Please PM me if you are open to sharing this information with me. I'm not trolling for dirty stories, just a concerned sub trying to deal with a lot all at once.

And thanks to all who have continued to keep up with me over this last week or so. I have talked to my husband about my Mr. whom I have started this LDR with. It didn't go too badly, but not great either. Not the way I wanted to spend Christmas Eve, but he knew that I was unhappy and we started to talk and the perfect lead-in happened to bring up my Mr. So, sometimes the timing picks you.

D/s is still something he is unfamiliar and uncomfortable with, but loves me enough to see that this is really a part of who I am and that I have no desire to "replace" or leave him and my family. The LDR part of this is actually what is making it able for him to deal with this in this way right now and not be hurt. He knows that it can't get physically carried away too quickly (as my Mr. lives over a thousand miles away) and that seeing him isn't something likely to happen for at least a couple more months.

He has expressed a desire to talk or chat with Mr. which is more than a little nervewracking, but I feel hope that it will all turn out okay. I have to think that way or it will just make me crazy. As I am sure it is making Mr. right now because the last time we were able to talk, he got about a one minute conversation that my husband and I had talked and that I was okay. Weren't able to talk more and haven't since the 24th... Sigh...

My Mr. is still in the process of moving and we aren't able to chat or talk much, which STINKS... There's about a hundred different things we need to talk about (and that's not even the naughty things... heehee) and no chance to do so.

So with the craziness and emotions running a little high here, I won't be on the boards much, even to browse, for the next couple of weeks. I feel very overwhelmed right now, to the point of insomnia and insecurity about my Mr. I know that as soon as we can chat or talk again I will feel better, until then, just send a few good thoughts or prayers (if appropriate to your beliefs) my way and I'll be back when I can.

This has been such a source of support and information over the last month, looking forward to coming back when I can.

Mr's little pet

 

[myinnerslut]

im glad you spoke with your husband and it worked out well \


*sighofrelief*

 

[Thorntak]

Long Distance . . . . Great Idea

I find this a wonderful idea.

I'm looking for a couple where the husband and wife (b/f, g/f) would be given "projects" to carry out and then report back once these have been completed. "Punishments" would be determined by me as well as who is to be punished (obviously by the other partner).

The "projects" would be of a exhibitionistic nature and the report-backs would need to be in detail and include their personal feelings felt at the time of the "project".

I do hope to hear from anyone who finds this an interesting idea and if you do please feel free to contact me and lets see what we can do for each other.

Regards,
Thorntak

 

[FurryFury]

The above post brings up the question:

How does one deal with the issue of consent from the public in exhibitionistic activities re: SSC or RACK?

Fury

 

[the captians wench]

The above post brings up the question:

How does one deal with the issue of consent from the public in exhibitionistic activities re: SSC or RACK?

Fury

Public consent is an issue that comes up a lot here. Some people believe that I unfairly involve the public into my bdsm because I wear my collar out side of the house (and we're talking leather bought it at petsmart dog collar). But in the case of exhibitionism, I've always felt if they don't want to see it, they'll turn away. You aren't forcing them to stay and watch. Maybe this is a little harsh and not so conciderate of me, but it's how I feel about the matter anyway. *shrug*

 

[FurryFury]

Public consent is an issue that comes up a lot here. Some people believe that I unfairly involve the public into my bdsm because I wear my collar out side of the house (and we're talking leather bought it at pet smart dog collar). But in the case of exhibitionism, I've always felt if they don't want to see it, they'll turn away. You aren't forcing them to stay and watch. Maybe this is a little harsh and not so considerate of me, but it's how I feel about the matter anyway. *shrug*

It's a very important issue to me.

However wearing a dog collar is simply a personal choice that might or might not reflect an interest in BDSM, fashion and so on. The person you are most likely to hurt there is you because of the reactions you get. If that is your choice so be it. So I have no problem with that. It's sort of akin to putting surprising colors in your hair. If you are prepared to deal with the reaction then fine.

OTOH, showing off private parts and/or having public sex to those that don't consent is something very different. It's not cute. It's not clever. It could land your ass in jail.

Fury

 

[the captians wench]

It's a very important issue to me.

However wearing a dog collar is simply a personal choice that might or might not reflect an interest in BDSM, fashion and so on. The person you are most likely to hurt there is you because of the reactions you get. If that is your choice so be it. So I have no problem with that. It's sort of akin to putting surprising colors in your hair. If you are prepared to deal with the reaction then fine.

OTOH, showing off private parts and/or having public sex to those that don't consent is something very different. It's not cute. It's not clever. It could land your ass in jail.

Fury

very true. I guess I just really don't put much thought into it, except that last bit. But then again, the only exibition I have ever done has been on boards where that sort of thing is encouraged.

 

[Sprinkles22]

It's a very important issue to me.

However wearing a dog collar is simply a personal choice that might or might not reflect an interest in BDSM, fashion and so on. The person you are most likely to hurt there is you because of the reactions you get. If that is your choice so be it. So I have no problem with that. It's sort of akin to putting surprising colors in your hair. If you are prepared to deal with the reaction then fine.

OTOH, showing off private parts and/or having public sex to those that don't consent is something very different. It's not cute. It's not clever. It could land your ass in jail.

Fury

I agree with you on this subject Fury. I do not enjoy public sexual acts, whether BDSM or vanilla. OTOH, I myself am very affectionate in public with hand holding and huggles. I am proud to display my affections, but keep the sex very private, unless we are in an appropriate place.

Raven and I act like very normal adults in public, no one would ever suspect us of being Master and sub. Occassionally, we do practice mild humiliations, but that is usually something that only I am aware of, i.e. not wearing a bra or panties. I am completely sefl conscious of the missing garments, yet no one else realizes. I still blush and feel humiliated, in a playful way, but we are not subjecting the public to undesireable things.

My collar is a simple, beautiful silver choker, and Raven has a matching bracelet He wears. We know it's meaning and that is what is important.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

i am NOT one for public shows of affection. Master is. which sometimes created a 'problem' when we were together. i don't mind holding hands, occasional hugs, but i do not think anyone wants to see two people totally hanging on each other and sticking their tongues down each other's throats. i know for myself when i see things like this, it makes me sick and i defiantly do not want my kids to see it. so maybe that's why i'm against it for myself as well. i don't feel anyone especially children need to see this kind of behavior, there are some things that should just be left private. now at the airport, when i go to pick Him up this time, yea well i just might forget this rule for a minute or 20 because i fully expect i will just run and jump into His arms and kiss His face all over and not care who the heck is giving us dirty looks..hehe..but the fun stuff will wait until we get back to the motel. now as far as the OP, why on earth would a couple NEED anyone to give them instructions on things to do and then 'tell them' how to punish the one who didn't do it??? *shrugs* i guess this falls under different strokes for different folks huh?