Distance Domination-Support Thread

[DontThankJustSpank]

He returns...

But we will have to see how this is going to work out. This is only a week of not any communication, but I had no idea it was going to happen. He has moved, with a new job and a rather crummy situation otherwise, and may have to return to where he was livng before.

For me, it's just the the timing of this silence was so poor. I had just told my husband about my situation with Mr., had told Mr. this, and then...nothing. My mind was playing all sorts of games, too much to even go into, and I had no place to turn with it.

Mr. did indeed call and email me yesterday, I chose not to take his first call because I had no privacy with a houseful of friends here for New Year's Eve, then the second call came at midnight his time, and was a very loving and sweet message that I didn't get because I didn't have my phone on me at the time. Read his email, and well, we'll have to have a really long talk to see what happens next.

As his pet, I am ready to run to him (in a manner of speaking since he's a thousand miles away still) and be grateful for whatever attention I can get, but the woman that is the rest of me is not so sure she is cut out for this to be a LDR. I am hoping to get some chatting or phone time in the next couple of days to see what happens.

Thanks for your support here, still don't have much time on Lit, but this is the first place I go when I do!!!

Mr.'s little pet...I think

 

[myinnerslut]

As his pet, I am ready to run to him (in a manner of speaking since he's a thousand miles away still) and be grateful for whatever attention I can get, but the woman that is the rest of me is not so sure she is cut out for this to be a LDR.
Mr.'s little pet...I think

i know this feeling really well... i dont hink anyone is really cut out for LDR, but rather put into a situation where, for the moment, LDR all you can do. hang in there

 

[DontThankJustSpank]

i know this feeling really well... i dont think anyone is really cut out for LDR, but rather put into a situation where, for the moment, LDR all you can do. hang in there

Thanks. We chatted earlier today and he knows how difficult it was for me, I was afraid that he would minimize the distress I was in and he hasn't at all.

Now time to focus on serving him again in any way that I can despite the miles. He and I have made arrangements to better communicate when times are tough like this so that we can hopefully avoid a repeat.

We have much to talk about when we can later this week regarding how the talk with my husband and I went, relief all around.

Thanks again, I appreciate the support.

once again Mr's little pet

 

[SECRETDOM]

Hello all,

I am new to these forums, but this thread makes me think I have found a home. I have a LD submissive. We have been in a D/s relationship for 2 years and in November we met for the first time and went through a collaring ceremony.

The LDR part of things is tough on both of us, but we get through it. I will post some details in the coming days. I hope to be able to offer some advice as well as seek some assistance.

Enjoy.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Hello all,

I am new to these forums, but this thread makes me think I have found a home. I have a LD submissive. We have been in a D/s relationship for 2 years and in November we met for the first time and went through a collaring ceremony.

The LDR part of things is tough on both of us, but we get through it. I will post some details in the coming days. I hope to be able to offer some advice as well as seek some assistance.

Enjoy.

welcome to our little corner of Lit! there are a lot of supportive people not only in this thread but on this board in general. (obviously) my name is rose and MasterPhoenix is my Dom. He and i have been together for 3 years, and yes those 3 years were all LD....until Sept. 28th when we met face to face for the first time *smiles* anyway, welcome aboard and i look forward to hearing more of your details and your advice.....

 

[MasterPhoenix]

Hello all,

I am new to these forums, but this thread makes me think I have found a home. I have a LD submissive. We have been in a D/s relationship for 2 years and in November we met for the first time and went through a collaring ceremony.

The LDR part of things is tough on both of us, but we get through it. I will post some details in the coming days. I hope to be able to offer some advice as well as seek some assistance.

Enjoy.

Welcome. It took quite a while for Mine & I to be able to finally meet, but in the end it was worth it.

I hope your expierence is the same.

 

[SECRETDOM]

Welcome. It took quite a while for Mine & I to be able to finally meet, but in the end it was worth it.

I hope your expierence is the same.

When we met in November, it was absolutely perfect. The only thing that was 'wrong' was leaving. It was a fantastic weekend. Well worth the wait.

Thanks for making me feel so welcome (both you and your sub).

 

[lil_slave_rose]

When we met in November, it was absolutely perfect. The only thing that was 'wrong' was leaving. It was a fantastic weekend. Well worth the wait.

Thanks for making me feel so welcome (both you and your sub).

*smiles* i know that feeling oh so well. when we went to the airport when it was time for Him to fly back to Cali, He whispered in my ear it was time, and to just go and not look back....we were still holding hands as He walked towards security and i walked towards the exits....and when we got so far apart that our hands no longer could reach, i died inside....and i HAD to look back, unfortunately, by the time i looked back..He was already through security anyway, as you can see from my ticker in my sig, He'll be back very soon ....and thinking about Him leaving again is not something i will do right now

 

[MasterPhoenix]

When we met in November, it was absolutely perfect. The only thing that was 'wrong' was leaving. It was a fantastic weekend. Well worth the wait.

Thanks for making me feel so welcome (both you and your sub).

That was the hardest thing I have ever done...

 

[SECRETDOM]

That was the hardest thing I have ever done...

we parted ways in the hotel lobby, at the exact same spot that we touched for the first time (Sorry I am a sappy sentimental DOM at times).

 

[myinnerslut]

.......

 

[myinnerslut]

(Sorry I am a sappy sentimental DOM at times).

youll fit in just fine here


disclaimer: this post was not meant to offend anybody's domly ways, i think y'all are plenty domly

 

[SECRETDOM]

Our Collaring - Preparations for Our Meeting

I have been welcomed and encouraged, so I will dive in “leather booted feet first”. We set the date for our first meeting about 150 days before we were going to meet. This was fun and increased our anticipation.

I set a series of tasks for my pet (I refer to her as pet and she refers to me as DaddySir) for the 100 days before we met. These were meant to show her dedication to me, and more importantly to “US” (Please note I am not including all the tasks just enough to give you a feel for them)

The tasks were daily, weekly and monthly. Her daily tasks included wearing a bracelet I got for her every day, sending me pictures, texting me with a “naughty” thought each day, and teasing her self right to the edge of orgasm at least once.

Weekly she was required to submit a log of her orgasms (she has to ask permission for her cums, but she had 5 “give aways” that she could use at any time as long as she wasn’t being punished), submit a diary entry to me about her feelings etc. related to “us”, as well as some other specific sexual tasks that I will not go into.

Monthly she was required to do some specific picture sets, purchase a sex toy, and send me a pair of her dirty panties.

During the last 10 days of our separation, she was not permitted to cum at all, but she had to tease her self (we call them cumteases) each day, she was required to write a letter to me offering herself to me (this was for the ceremony), refrain from any online play with anyone during this time, send me three dirty messages a day (I sent three back) as well as follow other preparation instructions for the ceremony. I also did not have any orgasms during these 10 days. I looked at this as a purification ritual for myself.

Needless to say by the time she walked into the lobby of the hotel, we were both incredibly aroused. I do not think it helped her that I had prepared a CD for her drive to the hotel with some particularly sensual songs, as well as me reading a story that we had written for each other a few months earlier.

More tomorrow…

 

[the captians wench]

I have been welcomed and encouraged, so I will dive in “leather booted feet first”. We set the date for our first meeting about 150 days before we were going to meet. This was fun and increased our anticipation.

I set a series of tasks for my pet (I refer to her as pet and she refers to me as DaddySir) for the 100 days before we met. These were meant to show her dedication to me, and more importantly to “US” (Please note I am not including all the tasks just enough to give you a feel for them)

The tasks were daily, weekly and monthly. Her daily tasks included wearing a bracelet I got for her every day, sending me pictures, texting me with a “naughty” thought each day, and teasing her self right to the edge of orgasm at least once.

Weekly she was required to submit a log of her orgasms (she has to ask permission for her cums, but she had 5 “give aways” that she could use at any time as long as she wasn’t being punished), submit a diary entry to me about her feelings etc. related to “us”, as well as some other specific sexual tasks that I will not go into.

Monthly she was required to do some specific picture sets, purchase a sex toy, and send me a pair of her dirty panties.

During the last 10 days of our separation, she was not permitted to cum at all, but she had to tease her self (we call them cumteases) each day, she was required to write a letter to me offering herself to me (this was for the ceremony), refrain from any online play with anyone during this time, send me three dirty messages a day (I sent three back) as well as follow other preparation instructions for the ceremony. I also did not have any orgasms during these 10 days. I looked at this as a purification ritual for myself.

Needless to say by the time she walked into the lobby of the hotel, we were both incredibly aroused. I do not think it helped her that I had prepared a CD for her drive to the hotel with some particularly sensual songs, as well as me reading a story that we had written for each other a few months earlier.

More tomorrow…

ummm...*purr*

my Love and I have been together for a little over 2 years now and we're trying desperately to get my ass over to him. *giggles* Tho I tend to be a lot more impacient than he is, just his nature to be very layed back while I'm a bit of a controlfreak submissive. *giggles* But things are looking good for my permotion, so at the latest I'll be under his hand by early november!

Rose~I hadn't realized that you and MasterPhinix were together 3 years before you met. Now I don't feel quite as alone.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Rose~I hadn't realized that you and MasterPhinix were together 3 years before you met. Now I don't feel quite as alone.

*nods* i thought i had said that before, here, maybe not *shrugs* nope, you are not alone...how long have you two been together without meeting? there were times that it felt it was never going to happen, and even times i thought of asking to be released so that He could be with someone else, because the reason's we couldn't meet all came from my end. but, in the end, we waited it out..and are very glad that we did, it's been a very rocky, uphill 3 years ...but we made it..and here we are *smiles*

 

[SECRETDOM]

Our Collaring (part 2) - Lust and Love at first sight

When she walked into the lobby, she looked incredible. She was dressed casually in jeans and a cute top, as I had instructed. She had her bags with her and was struggling just a bit with all her stuff. She looked around and then saw me. Her face lit up and then a wave of shyness crept over it. I was sitting across the lobby trying to play it cool, but I was nervous as hell. When she made eye contact, I rose to meet her.

I was dressed in black jeans, a black shirt, and black boots. I think I looked pretty damn good, but I was nervous that I wasn’t what she expected; odd considering we had seen each other on cam a thousand times. I leaned over and kissed her softly on the cheek and she wrapped her arms around me and we embraced tightly. It was very emotional for both of us. (As I said, I am a sentimental DOM most of the time).

I asked her to sit down with me and we talked about her ride and her day. After a few pleasantries, I handed her an envelope with her instructions in it. I told her to read them as she had a decision to make. I took her bags and got a luggage cart and headed to my room.

Her letter told her that she was to read through the instructions and if she chose to move forward with her collaring she was to text me with the word, “start”; if not she was to call my room and I would bring her things back down.

If she accepted her tasks, she was then to go to the ladies room, remove her panties (keeping her garters and stockings on) and cum tease her self. She was then to place her panties in her open purse so a causal observer could see them and then come to my room. She was told to be knocking on my door in 15 minutes.

I went up to the room and made sure everything was in place. I had shipped a box full of toys and other required items to the hotel before I arrived (Note to travelers: This is easier than trying to get them through airport security and any hotel will accept packages for guests up to a week in advance of arrival date) and while most of it was set up, I had some details to complete.

I was so nervous I was shaking and when my phone beeped with her text, I jumped. I thought to my self, “SHE IS COMING!” I was again very nervous, everything had to be perfect. I realized that I didn’t have a lot of time to pull it together and calm down so I lay down on the bed and did some deep breathing exercises to calm my nerves. Then I surveyed the room.

Near the door there was a pillow on the floor, and a small table with a single white taper candle and a bell on it.

On the other side of the room was a large table (the room desk) with five white tapers in holders, a black taper in a holder and The COLLAR was at the center of the table, open around the base of the black taper. There was also a leash, and some small gifts for pet.

On a side table was a bottle of fine champagne and some milk on ice (pet made me cookies!).

After making sure everything was set, I sat down and waited. Those fifteen minutes seemed to last forever… I waited and waited, and then I heard the knock at the door…

More tomorrow.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

When she walked into the lobby, she looked incredible. She was dressed casually in jeans and a cute top, as I had instructed. She had her bags with her and was struggling just a bit with all her stuff. She looked around and then saw me. Her face lit up and then a wave of shyness crept over it. I was sitting across the lobby trying to play it cool, but I was nervous as hell. When she made eye contact, I rose to meet her.

I was dressed in black jeans, a black shirt, and black boots. I think I looked pretty damn good, but I was nervous that I wasn’t what she expected; odd considering we had seen each other on cam a thousand times. I leaned over and kissed her softly on the cheek and she wrapped her arms around me and we embraced tightly. It was very emotional for both of us. (As I said, I am a sentimental DOM most of the time).

I asked her to sit down with me and we talked about her ride and her day. After a few pleasantries, I handed her an envelope with her instructions in it. I told her to read them as she had a decision to make. I took her bags and got a luggage cart and headed to my room.

Her letter told her that she was to read through the instructions and if she chose to move forward with her collaring she was to text me with the word, “start”; if not she was to call my room and I would bring her things back down.

If she accepted her tasks, she was then to go to the ladies room, remove her panties (keeping her garters and stockings on) and cum tease her self. She was then to place her panties in her open purse so a causal observer could see them and then come to my room. She was told to be knocking on my door in 15 minutes.

I went up to the room and made sure everything was in place. I had shipped a box full of toys and other required items to the hotel before I arrived (Note to travelers: This is easier than trying to get them through airport security and any hotel will accept packages for guests up to a week in advance of arrival date) and while most of it was set up, I had some details to complete.

I was so nervous I was shaking and when my phone beeped with her text, I jumped. I thought to my self, “SHE IS COMING!” I was again very nervous, everything had to be perfect. I realized that I didn’t have a lot of time to pull it together and calm down so I lay down on the bed and did some deep breathing exercises to calm my nerves. Then I surveyed the room.

Near the door there was a pillow on the floor, and a small table with a single white taper candle and a bell on it.

On the other side of the room was a large table (the room desk) with five white tapers in holders, a black taper in a holder and The COLLAR was at the center of the table, open around the base of the black taper. There was also a leash, and some small gifts for pet.

On a side table was a bottle of fine champagne and some milk on ice (pet made me cookies!).

After making sure everything was set, I sat down and waited. Those fifteen minutes seemed to last forever… I waited and waited, and then I heard the knock at the door…

More tomorrow.

*sighs* i so hate those three words.....waits for tomorrow's part of the story*

 

[ChromeCollar]

Welcome to the thread Secretdom.

 

[Rubnesque]

Welcome here....and my appreciation for writing in! Expect more input from you and other like-minded people!

It would be great if you share some of your experiences over time just as an encouragement for those insecure in this...

It is considered that 'online domination' is ONLY for players and wannabe's. Though the large number of fakes do earn us this malicious 'credit', there are few serious contenders and followers.

Frustration and insecurity can and does set it in these long distance relation. Possibly we could all come together to make things work better. Feel free to open up and share and ask so we can make our experiences more fulfilling! Though online domination can never replace r/l domination, as accepted by all (including me)....should we discard it? should we despise it? I guess not.

Lend in your ideas....and of course, constructive criticism, aimed at making things better. The rest of the uses, no offence meant, who do NOT meet eye to eye, can walk across our fence to the next thread/forum!

Also, pour in the remote punishments that you would give/have been given.


P.S:
I am actually now thinking of an idea wherein the Master can possibly punish tio some extent according to His wish. -the concept of Remote punishment. If there was a way.....from the technology that we can that we can make a 'self made' remote punishment toy at an affordable cost! I havent yet framed my idea but have some blue print of the idea which I will be working on!

Regards,
Boobsqueeezer
Orient Master from India

Dear god, I can't believe I am saying this (it tells me I'm getting old), but eight years ago I was involved in an intense online dom/sub relationship, to the point he called me long distance every American morning (he lived in Europe so it was an 8 hr time difference) just to instruct me on what to wear, do, say etc. I bought an impressive array of toys just for our mutual pleasure and never thought about doing anything without his express permission (at least in certain areas of my life).

We met quite by accident as a RL friend of mine met him in a chat room and I started talking to him as well. At any rate, about two years went by before somehow our conversations stopped being about every day life and revolved around our sex lives (or lack thereof as I was a virgin at the time). I think it excited him knowing despite my dirty imagination (and some fooling around) I was still unchastely celibate. We did this on and off for a few years before it ended, though amicably, as we both started dating people we didn't feel comfortable hiding the relationship from.

I think the distance is what made it so extremely hot for us. The constant longing for his touch instead of just his words on the screen or his voice in my ear made me doubly eager to please. I've tried since him and only one other guy has been able to tap into the submissive side of my personality.

 

[SECRETDOM]

Welcome to the thread Secretdom.

Thanks! I have felt very welcome so far.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Dear god, I can't believe I am saying this (it tells me I'm getting old), but eight years ago I was involved in an intense online dom/sub relationship, to the point he called me long distance every American morning (he lived in Europe so it was an 8 hr time difference) just to instruct me on what to wear, do, say etc. I bought an impressive array of toys just for our mutual pleasure and never thought about doing anything without his express permission (at least in certain areas of my life).

We met quite by accident as a RL friend of mine met him in a chat room and I started talking to him as well. At any rate, about two years went by before somehow our conversations stopped being about every day life and revolved around our sex lives (or lack thereof as I was a virgin at the time). I think it excited him knowing despite my dirty imagination (and some fooling around) I was still unchastely celibate. We did this on and off for a few years before it ended, though amicably, as we both started dating people we didn't feel comfortable hiding the relationship from.

I think the distance is what made it so extremely hot for us. The constant longing for his touch instead of just his words on the screen or his voice in my ear made me doubly eager to please. I've tried since him and only one other guy has been able to tap into the submissive side of my personality.

*smiles* thank you for sharing, and you're right the NEED to feel Him does make me that much more eager to please Him....though sometimes that need becomes overwhelming also, but soon enough i will get to see Him again *smiles* anyway, welcome to this thread and to our little corner of lit, and again, thank you for sharing that story

 

[SECRETDOM]

I think the distance is what made it so extremely hot for us. The constant longing for his touch instead of just his words on the screen or his voice in my ear made me doubly eager to please. I've tried since him and only one other guy has been able to tap into the submissive side of my personality.

I completely understand this. The longing and inability to fulfill that longing is in and of itself a form of submission.

 

[Little_Kitten]

Oof! Why does his voice arouse me so much?! >_<
Does anyone else experience this? Every time he talks to me online it makes me so wild and hot that><.... it's hard for me to stay unaroused for long... Might prove to be a problem when we're having normal discussions and stuff...

 

[ChromeCollar]

Oof! Why does his voice arouse me so much?! >_<
Does anyone else experience this? Every time he talks to me online it makes me so wild and hot that><.... it's hard for me to stay unaroused for long... Might prove to be a problem when we're having normal discussions and stuff...

Hehe. Enjoy it! I have no doubt he is enjoying the effect he has on YOU.

 

[the captians wench]

*nods* i thought i had said that before, here, maybe not *shrugs* nope, you are not alone...how long have you two been together without meeting? there were times that it felt it was never going to happen, and even times i thought of asking to be released so that He could be with someone else, because the reason's we couldn't meet all came from my end. but, in the end, we waited it out..and are very glad that we did, it's been a very rocky, uphill 3 years ...but we made it..and here we are *smiles*

It's been one year this past september (so that's what another 4 months). And I think it's fair to say that we both are a bit to blame for not being able to meet. Hopefully tho I'll get there by november. I'm just a very impacient being, and well it's driving me nuts! *giggles*