Distance Domination-Support Thread

[myinnerslut]

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[littleone77]

Thanks for sharing really. Just do what is best for You k? You two sound very sweet, perhaps you all just need to work those kinks out. *Winks* And thanks for editing for me.

*Giggles* Called Him Sir once and got a gentle spanking for it. His response was He wasn't that Old, lol. Likes master though...go figure *Smilz*

 

[MasterPhoenix]

Master and I went our seperate ways today. I'm trying really hard to see this in a positive light, as my Mentor suggested but it isnt easy. Bleh.

Sorry to hear that cc... may everything work out beyond your wildest dreams.

 

[BeBe81]

His age should not be an excuse at all. That is one of the reasons why I prefer older. (There is just under a 20 year difference between us and I love every year). He still needs to be respectful of your feelings and needs. Perhaps he is not sure of what you expect of him yet. Young men are weird so I can't help with that much. You know him though and yourself so its up to you to figure it out.

I could not have a Master younger than myself..... I prefer older as well, but I would always base my decision on our connection and our bond with each other. I appreciate every year of wisdom.. my Master has over me....

 

[ChromeCollar]

hes not young for me.... i turn 19 in january

At these ages you both have immense changes to go through. I would say the years between 18 and 25 are tremendous growing years. Your bond would have to be truly strong on both parts to weather that turbulence, and it really isnt the fault of either person. Just the way life progresses. If I were you, I would take a good hard look at the pattern he seems to repeat with you, and ask yourself if you really want this, or do you deserve something better. Be true to YOURSELF, and the rest will fall into place.

 

[myinnerslut]

At these ages you both have immense changes to go through. I would say the years between 18 and 25 are tremendous growing years. Your bond would have to be truly strong on both parts to weather that turbulence, and it really isnt the fault of either person. Just the way life progresses. If I were you, I would take a good hard look at the pattern he seems to repeat with you, and ask yourself if you really want this, or do you deserve something better. Be true to YOURSELF, and the rest will fall into place.

thank you all so much for the advice.... im feeling a little better this morning (afternoon) after a nice long sleep, and ready to work things out

 

[FurryFury]

thank you all so much for the advice.... im feeling a little better this morning (afternoon) after a nice long sleep, and ready to work things out

Good luck.

Keep in mind it takes two to work things out. If you feel you are the only one working on it or doing the majority of the work, you might want to rethink being willing to work things out.

*hug*

Fury

 

[shy slave]

I know its just me but I could never bring myself to call a 21 yr old man Sir. I just couldn't. But...maybe his behavior is a sign or something for you. Things do happen for a reason.

Rarely does Daddy throw a curve ball at me. We know each other quite well and its scary how easily He fit into my life. Looking back at my growing years there are things I did that make it seem almost like He was meant to be mine. That gives me the goose bumps.

Seriously though, you are both young (so am I for that matter) but you need to listen to each other and do what is best for both of you. I just don't want you to get hurt is all.

P.S...please Thanks

I can't remember who old Marquis is, but I am sure he was about this age when he discovered BDSM.

Even though he is not, and never would be my Dom, one look in his eyes and its hard to imagine not calling him 'Sir' should he request it.

I think its more about a persons presence than their age.

I have met lots of older men where the word 'Idiot' suits far better than 'Master'

 

[callinectes]

I have met lots of older men where the word 'Idiot' suits far better than 'Master'

*snort* We have met a lot of the same men apparently.

I generally prefer older men, but the first man I seriously discussed BDSM with was 6 years my junior. He has the maturity, poise, and humble confidence to be an excellent Dom. We decided not to persue a relationship for various reasons but age was not one of them.

 

[amadaun]

I have met lots of older men where the word 'Idiot' suits far better than 'Master'

Lollerskates... so, so true.

It's a pretty strong cultural thing, I think, for women to prefer men who are older, more stable and more emotionally mature than men their age might be. I know I certainly do. Especially in that early twenties age range... oy, I can imagine that an emotionally unstable male dominant with something to prove might be all kinds of trouble.

Personally, the bf is a few years older than myself, and he's still not what you might call a "grown-up" with a straight face. (He's a lil' bit emo sometimes). But emotionally stable enough that I still feel cool about being his sub. 'Sides, men are men... getting a little older's not gonna make them into the scary perfect uber-Dom. Just gotta go with it, I guess.

 

[littleone77]

*Smiles* There is an age old argument of whether older men are better than younger men and what have you. Who is right is not the point. And I resent the fact that some are trying to prove which is better. It Does Not Really Matter. Its all about acceptance. I was merely offering a bit of my personal experience that is all. What is right for one is not always right for another. And I am sorry that many still cannot see that.

Men scare me...throughout my life I have been harassed it seems by young males, in college I actually received death threats...I have found the fear to be less with those with more age, experience and maturity. I really do not care what others think of my preferences I only ask that my decisions are respected.

 

[the captians wench]

Lollerskates... so, so true.

It's a pretty strong cultural thing, I think, for women to prefer men who are older, more stable and more emotionally mature than men their age might be. I know I certainly do. Especially in that early twenties age range... oy, I can imagine that an emotionally unstable male dominant with something to prove might be all kinds of trouble.
Personally, the bf is a few years older than myself, and he's still not what you might call a "grown-up" with a straight face. (He's a lil' bit emo sometimes). But emotionally stable enough that I still feel cool about being his sub. 'Sides, men are men... getting a little older's not gonna make them into the scary perfect uber-Dom. Just gotta go with it, I guess.

Actually they can be quite fun.

The people who introduced me to my now found love of pain where mostly 23-27, then a couple of 30 somethings in there. My more steady play partner is 30ish and Master is 36 (I'm 23). My ex is only a year older than I am, so I've played around with a few different age ranges.

Age really isn't a factor for me. Maturity, and respect are.

 

[amadaun]

Actually they can be quite fun.

The people who introduced me to my now found love of pain where mostly 23-27, then a couple of 30 somethings in there. My more steady play partner is 30ish and Master is 36 (I'm 23). My ex is only a year older than I am, so I've played around with a few different age ranges.

Age really isn't a factor for me. Maturity, and respect are.

Mmm, no disagreement here. I'd put my own boyfriend (who is in that age range) in that category to some extent.

Maybe I have this stereotype of an emotionally fragile new sub who puts her dom on an perfection pedestal in my head, I dunno. For said imaginary person, such a dominant would be a bad thing. Buuut, that's not me, and I'm a sub. And, you know. Stereotypes. Silly. That stuff.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

*Smiles* There is an age old argument of whether older men are better than younger men and what have you. Who is right is not the point. And I resent the fact that some are trying to prove which is better. It Does Not Really Matter. Its all about acceptance. I was merely offering a bit of my personal experience that is all. What is right for one is not always right for another. And I am sorry that many still cannot see that.

Men scare me...throughout my life I have been harassed it seems by young males, in college I actually received death threats...I have found the fear to be less with those with more age, experience and maturity. I really do not care what others think of my preferences I only ask that my decisions are respected.

i'm not sure what you took as your decisions not being respected, i don't think anyone was trying to say they are right or wrong, just simply their preferences. i prefer 'older' men or atleast older than me, Master is 4 years older than me, and He is the closest to my age that i've ever 'dated' i can't recall ever 'being with' someone my own age. *shrugs* just my preference.....is all

 

[ChromeCollar]

Happy Christmas Eve everyone. I hope your day and night is filled with joy.

 

[FurryFury]

Happy Holidays!

Fury

 

[raven2]

Happy Holidays!

Fury

Happy Holidays to you and everyone else.

 

[littleone77]

Its almost present time! *Happy dance* Wishing you all the best of holidays.

 

[the captians wench]

I got my best christmas prezzie so far today... I got to talk to my Love on the phone a bit ago. And he said that I can open one gift at midnight his time. which is like in an hour. *giggles* I know I'm terrible, but I love prezzies and I love talking to him, and we do everything on his time anyway. *giggles*

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Merry Christmas Everyone! i hope your day is filled with lots of love and happiness and that Santa brings you everything you wanted

 

[MasterPhoenix]

I second the Merry Christmas to everyone...

 

[BeBe81]

Happy Holidays everyone!

 

[myinnerslut]

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[boobsqueeezer]

Posting after a very long time. Started this thread and then I was active to a point and now I see lots of new ones in the field in LDR. I appreciate and wish my Best to all of those in this thread.

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What if there were some system or code in place to signal when a partner is in the mood for an extreme S/m scene? Instead of punishing to satisfy His need, could He simply not say "I'm in a mood, and I'm gonna do *x,y,z* to you tonight, because I want to!!" Just as perhaps she could say ... "I need you to work me hard tonight, I haven't been bad ... but I just NEED it."

I don't know .... I'm just throwing out suggestions.

I think I am going too much back.. but This is a good suggestion....

If the Master wants to work his sub hard.. it is prerogative unless the sub has some health/othe reason when the Master should reschedule the session.

 

[boobsqueeezer]

Master and I went our seperate ways today. I'm trying really hard to see this in a positive light, as my Mentor suggested but it isnt easy. Bleh.

que sera sera...

Everything is for good....Keep smiling.

With lots of wishes and care,
Boobsqueeezer