Distance Domination-Support Thread

[BeBe81]

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It's here! it's here! it's here!

My christmas gift from him came in the mail today!

YAY!

 

[BeBe81]

oh..

great for you!!! mine won't get here until after Christmas more than likely because He hasn't been able to send it and won't until Friday, but i can't say anything because He may very well have to pick His up when He comes to see me on January 23rd *giggles* i don't have the money to send it to Him *sighs* oh well, He'll be happy with it no matter when He gets it though i did want Him to have it to open on Christmas...maybe i'll win lottery between now and wednesday and it'll still get to HIm on time *grins*

D. and I will being exchanging unconventional gifts to each other after the holidays as well.

I think it might be the most exciting, yet most anxious gift I will ever receive or give for Christmas. LoL.


One more day until he is gone for two weeks. *cringes*

 

[the captians wench]

great for you!!! mine won't get here until after Christmas more than likely because He hasn't been able to send it and won't until Friday, but i can't say anything because He may very well have to pick His up when He comes to see me on January 23rd *giggles* i don't have the money to send it to Him *sighs* oh well, He'll be happy with it no matter when He gets it though i did want Him to have it to open on Christmas...maybe i'll win lottery between now and wednesday and it'll still get to HIm on time *grins*

Last year I didn't get his until mid Jan, and he didn't get mine until after new years.

This year, I sent his really early, Oct 31 and he's had it since mid nov *giggles*. I'm really surprized that mine got here so fast. He just sent it last week! Them mail guys are on the ball this year.

 

[DontThankJustSpank]

Feeling blue...and needing some support

My Mr. just moved on Sunday, same state so just as far away :-( , but not hooked up to internet yet and phone is difficult (for those I haven't "met", I am married but also in a new d/s LDR) given the circumstances.

Trying just to get through this. I am trying so hard to be understanding, but then got bratty with Mr. when we were talking and earned a not entirely undeserved punishment. I don't want to be like this, but I find myself so much more concerned with my own needs than his and this is NOT acceptable to either one of us.

This isn't something that I've experienced before and looking for a little input. Is it just harder to be submissive when you are in a LDR than if you are actually physically together? Or is this just my response to a drastic change in arrangements? The last two weeks that we've been "together" he was not working and we both had copious free time to chat. Now it's Tuesday and I really don't know when the next time I will hear from him is, making me very sad and missing him.

On the positive side. he understands that I do want to please him and this isn't something that I am doing to provoke a punishment. I don't enjoy that part of being a sub and I know already he is very strict and will hold me to the punishments he has given me.

Sigh...just needing a little support

Mr's little pet

 

[the captians wench]

My Mr. just moved on Sunday, same state so just as far away :-( , but not hooked up to internet yet and phone is difficult (for those I haven't "met", I am married but also in a new d/s LDR) given the circumstances.

Trying just to get through this. I am trying so hard to be understanding, but then got bratty with Mr. when we were talking and earned a not entirely undeserved punishment. I don't want to be like this, but I find myself so much more concerned with my own needs than his and this is NOT acceptable to either one of us.

This isn't something that I've experienced before and looking for a little input. Is it just harder to be submissive when you are in a LDR than if you are actually physically together? Or is this just my response to a drastic change in arrangements? The last two weeks that we've been "together" he was not working and we both had copious free time to chat. Now it's Tuesday and I really don't know when the next time I will hear from him is, making me very sad and missing him.

On the positive side. he understands that I do want to please him and this isn't something that I am doing to provoke a punishment. I don't enjoy that part of being a sub and I know already he is very strict and will hold me to the punishments he has given me.

Sigh...just needing a little support

Mr's little pet

I remember when Master and I first hooked up so to speak. I was working opens (which was 4am my time) and only week days, and he worked a regular 9-5er his time which ment that we could chat every night. When i went into management (I work at a Mcyd's btw) I had to open up my availibility which ment I wan't on at the same time every day, and rarely when I used to be. Then when he switched jobs and was working odd hours it just all went to hell. I never knew when I was going to see him. I felt lost, alone, abandond. I would cancile plans so I could be online when he usually was in hope that he would be, I would wake up early or stay up late. This quickly began to wear on me, and I felt like I was putting more of an effort in than he was.

This is when I made a choice that to this day I am not proud of. I started chatting with another Dom. This guy really knew how to get into my head. He knew exactly what I wanted, and seemed to provide it. And so I went astray. My double life went on for about a month and then the second guy insisted that I break it off with my Love. I couldn't do it. I confessed everything to him and begged his forgiveness, and thankfully he did forgive me and keep me. There of course was a price to pay, but it opened his eyes as well. He realized then that he wasn't giving me everything I needed, and he made an effort to provide it. And I've made an effort to understand that he has a life out side of me and that life does have to go on. I am not the center of the universe, as much as I'd like to think I am. Day to day life sometimes has to take priority, whether that's in an LDR, 24/7, D/s, nilla, or any other relationship.

I think this is just something that has come up from the change in environment you are experiencing. Anytime there is a change in your life, you are going to act out in one way or another. (of course this is just my belief and by acting out I don't nessisarrily mean being bratty, but there is some way that people tend to not be so pleasing). Try to be understanding, and don't hide your feelings. If you are feeling abandoned, tell him. If you miss him, tell him. If you need more of his time, tell him. Otherwize he won't know.

 

[myinnerslut]

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[DontThankJustSpank]

I remember when Master and I first hooked up so to speak. I was working opens (which was 4am my time) and only week days, and he worked a regular 9-5er his time which ment that we could chat every night. When i went into management (I work at a Mcyd's btw) I had to open up my availibility which ment I wan't on at the same time every day, and rarely when I used to be. Then when he switched jobs and was working odd hours it just all went to hell. I never knew when I was going to see him. I felt lost, alone, abandond. I would cancile plans so I could be online when he usually was in hope that he would be, I would wake up early or stay up late. This quickly began to wear on me, and I felt like I was putting more of an effort in than he was.

This is when I made a choice that to this day I am not proud of. I started chatting with another Dom. This guy really knew how to get into my head. He knew exactly what I wanted, and seemed to provide it. And so I went astray. My double life went on for about a month and then the second guy insisted that I break it off with my Love. I couldn't do it. I confessed everything to him and begged his forgiveness, and thankfully he did forgive me and keep me. There of course was a price to pay, but it opened his eyes as well. He realized then that he wasn't giving me everything I needed, and he made an effort to provide it. And I've made an effort to understand that he has a life out side of me and that life does have to go on. I am not the center of the universe, as much as I'd like to think I am. Day to day life sometimes has to take priority, whether that's in an LDR, 24/7, D/s, nilla, or any other relationship.

I think this is just something that has come up from the change in environment you are experiencing. Anytime there is a change in your life, you are going to act out in one way or another. (of course this is just my belief and by acting out I don't nessisarrily mean being bratty, but there is some way that people tend to not be so pleasing). Try to be understanding, and don't hide your feelings. If you are feeling abandoned, tell him. If you miss him, tell him. If you need more of his time, tell him. Otherwize he won't know.

Thanks, wench!

Thankfully, Mr. DOES know how I feel. We got to chat and briefly talk on the phone today, plus I know that I can always freely express myself to him in email if I need him at a time when we can't be together. It's just hard having this happen at a time when things are so very new.

I haven't ever had a LDR in a d/s relationship before, nor feelings like those I have now. It is exciting and scary so to have our amount of contact be diminished makes things very challenging.

On the positive side, things are going well. He is everything that I have ever wished for in a master, except for being a thousand miles away... We are making arrangements to meet sometime in the not too distant future and I am getting ready to talk to my husband about this d/s relationship something that scares me but is essential.

Thanks again, just trying to get through the day...

Mr's little pet

 

[DontThankJustSpank]

i think its just reponse to change. becuase as we all know here, LDRs can be hell, no matter what the situation. you just have to get usedto the NEW situation so you can deal with it. i get bratty also sometimes when Sir and i go back to being LDR after being able to see each other for a few days. it is so hard. but know that you have support here.

THAT is what sucks... We'll get the new situation dealt with and then it's going to change again! He is in temporary housing, so he'll move again, then it's all going to go right back down the toilet... So there is no end in sight to this crap...

Sorry, just venting. So frustrated and I really would much rather be his sweet and loving pet rather than complaining and earning another punishment.

Thank you so much for the support. There are about a hundred new things I'm dealing with all at once and Lit is my only outlet. I am so fortunate that he allows me free reign here and in seeking support and comfort while we are so disconnected.

Mr's little pet

 

[myinnerslut]

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[DontThankJustSpank]

i agree completly. and ive earned more then my fair shair of punishments for being bratty or acting out, so i do understand. i hope you are able to get through your punishment well.

Yeah, well that would be my Mr.'s slightly sadistic side. With few exceptions, my punishments are being held until we meet in person (something that looks to happen as soon as MARCH!). He knows that for me the anticipation is nearly as painful as the punishment itself and uses it to his advantage.

So we'll have to see about getting through it...

 

[littleone77]

Seperations do get easier. They still hurt physically and emotionally but you can come to expect what they will be like and what your reactions will be. This is not my first relationship of this nature but it is the deepest and most meaningful. And yes, it is scary but at the same time I have never felt as sure of anything in a long time.

Maybe its just me but I don't remember actually getting mad at Him. He has severly irked me at some points but never to the point of actual anger. These seperations, the long ones, drain me emotionally but they make me miss Him and appreciate Him so much more when He returns.

 

[Luciden]

congrats. that's not an easy thing to acheive..how long have you been with Him?? just curious, because i know alot of submissives who've been with their Dom for years and cannot cum on command. it's a great feeling though and sometimes it's inconvienient because HE can tell me to cum and wherever i am..i do...can't help it, it's a reaction *grins* so He has fun with it sometimes.

Since November :blush: yeh, we've been working on me cumming on command for about a week now... I still don't have it entirely down, I hesitate sometimes when he tells me to cum, and sometimes I just can't get it. But I got it that night that I told you guys So, still working on it. He and I also discovered that it's easier to cum on command when you're having multiple orgasms, which is when I can usually do it (unless he does something like make me cum so many times that I'm exhausted and about to pass out... another thing we're working on, making me pass out. >_>) I also just realized something, for me, it's easier to cum on command when I don't touch myself... hrm...

 

[BeBe81]

Thank you... I hope it gets easier.

Seperations do get easier. They still hurt physically and emotionally but you can come to expect what they will be like and what your reactions will be. This is not my first relationship of this nature but it is the deepest and most meaningful. And yes, it is scary but at the same time I have never felt as sure of anything in a long time.

Maybe its just me but I don't remember actually getting mad at Him. He has severly irked me at some points but never to the point of actual anger. These seperations, the long ones, drain me emotionally but they make me miss Him and appreciate Him so much more when He returns.

Thank you for your ray of hope. It is making me feel better.

It's official... my Master is gone for a few weeks. This is our first major separation and I am trying to be brave. We just stopped talking a few minutes ago and I'm already emotional.

I am controlling my urges to pick up my cell and call him... he mentioned it, but I would not be able to let him go... and he needs his sleep as do I.

Oh, my....

I can't believe the dreaded time has started.










So, I need to repeat this in moments of weakness and at least once a day for him:

"I am David's pet....and what we have is unique....shared by no one else....bound together by love."


That makes me able to breath again.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Thank you for your ray of hope. It is making me feel better.

It's official... my Master is gone for a few weeks. This is our first major separation and I am trying to be brave. We just stopped talking a few minutes ago and I'm already emotional.

I am controlling my urges to pick up my cell and call him... he mentioned it, but I would not be able to let him go... and he needs his sleep as do I.

Oh, my....

I can't believe the dreaded time has started.










So, I need to repeat this in moments of weakness and at least once a day for him:

"I am David's pet....and what we have is unique....shared by no one else....bound together by love."


That makes me able to breath again.

i'm sharing in everyone's missing their Sir. *sighs* He's at work, so it's not a long seperation, but i went out with some friends of mine tonight..was at the bar (i didn't drink) and Master called..we talked for a minute and then my cell phone died...so i haven't really talked to Him tonight and it's driving me crazy. it's now 3:00 in the morning and i'm so tired that i can't see straight...and He's not home from work yet i did call HIm once my phone got a little bit of charge back to it..and He was worried about me as i knew He would be..He's having bad/long night Himself, and missing me too *sighs* i need to sleep..but i NEED to hear His voice before i can sleep ........

 

[MasterPhoenix]

i'm sharing in everyone's missing their Sir. *sighs* He's at work, so it's not a long seperation, but i went out with some friends of mine tonight..was at the bar (i didn't drink) and Master called..we talked for a minute and then my cell phone died...so i haven't really talked to Him tonight and it's driving me crazy. it's now 3:00 in the morning and i'm so tired that i can't see straight...and He's not home from work yet i did call HIm once my phone got a little bit of charge back to it..and He was worried about me as i knew He would be..He's having bad/long night Himself, and missing me too *sighs* i need to sleep..but i NEED to hear His voice before i can sleep ........

Tonight is My last closing shift before Christmas... just remember tonight that each extra minute there tonight is more money in My pocket to spend when I am with you. That is the thought that keeps Me from self destructing on those long nights. also baby, be grateful that it hasn't been as bad as past Christmases where I was having worse nights than last night all season.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Tonight is My last closing shift before Christmas... just remember tonight that each extra minute there tonight is more money in My pocket to spend when I am with you. That is the thought that keeps Me from self destructing on those long nights. also baby, be grateful that it hasn't been as bad as past Christmases where I was having worse nights than last night all season.

*nods* i am VERY thankful for that, Master. and i know we've had worse times than last night. tonight is Your last closing shift?? to everyone else i hope that you are feeling better tonight and the pain of being 'apart' has eased a little.

 

[myinnerslut]

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[lil_slave_rose]

it is so frustrating to know that he is home, he is HERE, but i still cant see him becuase he lives ten minutes away and is too eshuasted from traveling all day to do anything tonight.

i want to be with him!!!!

aww..that would be frustrating. i wish Master lived 10 minutes away. He was too exhausted to even just 'be' with you?

 

[MasterPhoenix]

*nods* i am VERY thankful for that, Master. and i know we've had worse times than last night. tonight is Your last closing shift?? to everyone else i hope that you are feeling better tonight and the pain of being 'apart' has eased a little.

If you want to get technical I close Christmas eve, but we close at 6... and are out by 6.30 max...

 

[myinnerslut]

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[the captians wench]

nope!!! no he wasnt.... he told me he was, so i ranted a bit (which i then chnged to something more appropriate), then surprised me by showing up at my door we put on a movie, but i dont think we watched more then a minute of it...

AND he said i pleased him a lot by being able to do something i hadnt before, and having much more control over my orgasms then i did when he last saw me.... im floating right now

Awweee....don't you just love it when they surprize you like that.

 

[Little_Kitten]

Oof! I just had a weird experience... I was having a video conversation with my Master, and for fun, I had put my kitten ears on(they always make me feel cute)... I had also had quite alot of Pepsi... I uh.. Sometimes I get high on pepsi, and this was one of the times. I seriously felt drunk'ish, which also took away my shyness of the mic a bit, so i was able to say a few words, though he spoke to me alot in the mic. Then we ended up wanting to be a lil dirty so we both start playing with ourselves while he was ordering me around. But it was just really weird, I was so aroused my his voice and way of talking to me(he only recently got his mic to work, and his voice can always put me into a trance). His voice is like really low and deep, and very very.. erotic for me. I was also closer to cumming, which is quite a thing for me as im not able to cum by hand, but then he finished before me, which left in quite a weird state. I was feeling very very submissive, aroused, confused and needing. right at that moment I was wishing I could be with him physically more than ever. I was also feeling a whole lot of other feelings which I cant really explain.
SO I told him I was still feeling submissive, and we decided to play kitten, but right now he whent for a bath.
But anyway, im this really weird state of some kind of bliss and wanting to cry and wanting to submit n stuff >.<
I cant really explain it, but I just thought I'd like to share my experience and see if anyone else here has experienced somethign similar which im sure someone has at least. Also maybe someone could clarify things a bit.
Anyway, most of all it was the way he spoke that put me in this trance.. *shuvers at the thought* >< I should stop drinking so much pepsi lol...

 

[ChromeCollar]

Master and I went our seperate ways today. I'm trying really hard to see this in a positive light, as my Mentor suggested but it isnt easy. Bleh.

 

[raven2]

Master and I went our seperate ways today. I'm trying really hard to see this in a positive light, as my Mentor suggested but it isnt easy. Bleh.

Sorry to hear that. I hope things will improve for you. Remember there are other people out there for you although I know it is hard to hear that now.

 

[DontThankJustSpank]

Master and I went our seperate ways today. I'm trying really hard to see this in a positive light, as my Mentor suggested but it isnt easy. Bleh.

Hey CC, <hugs>. Been there. I know it isn't easy, even when it is for the best. Just know that you have people here to listen to you if you need it, feel free to PM me if you want, been through it more times than I care to admit.

Take care,
Mr's little pet