Distance Domination-Support Thread

[lil_slave_rose]

I miss my Love.

I haven't had any time with him since sunday. *pout*

::hugs:: i'm sorry wench...i'm here if'n ya need to talk

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Congrats to both of you. Hope you have a wonderful time.

thank You! and i know that it will be more than a wonderful time!!

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Good for you Rose and Masterphoenix. I am happy for you. I'm going to visit my Master right around the same time!

I just finished reading Exit to Eden, interesting reading. *comforts Captians Wench*

great that you will be visiting your Sir as well. i haven't read exit to eden, but Master and i just got done reading the third book in the 'Odd Thomas' Series by Dean Koontz, if you haven't read them i do reccomend them. they are "Odd Thomas" "Forever Odd" and "Brother Odd" in that order. great books! i've read them all to Master *grins* it's our way of being closer, we started it when i did not have a computer, and the phone was all we had. i LOVE to read

 

[the captians wench]

I certainly hope it improves for you

Have you ever wondered if our Doms miss us as much as we miss them? Or is it just a subbie trait to miss someone that much?

Only every time I read my messenger archives and notice all the offline message that I leave and get no responce to. *giggles*

but those feelings are usually quited by his saying "I missed you so much" with out me saying a thing.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

I certainly hope it improves for you

Have you ever wondered if our Doms miss us as much as we miss them? Or is it just a subbie trait to miss someone that much?

i know for a fact mine misses me just as much as i miss Him. He tells me just about every other minute that we're on the phone *grins* i don't think it's a subbie trait at all, i think it's a human trait *smiles*

 

[the captians wench]

::hugs:: i'm sorry wench...i'm here if'n ya need to talk

Thanks sweetie.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Thanks sweetie.

anytime

 

[myinnerslut]

I certainly hope it improves for you

Have you ever wondered if our Doms miss us as much as we miss them? Or is it just a subbie trait to miss someone that much?

all the time.. i alwas find myself wanting to tell him i miss him, and i wonder if he feels the same or if im just being to needy...

 

[DontThankJustSpank]

good book, and a bad ending to a night...

I just finished reading Exit to Eden, interesting reading.

favorite. book. ever. want so much for my Mr. to read it. the way that lisa explains why she does what she does at the club and how she feels is like my bible. not to mention that new orleans is my favorite city ever.

we got disconnected tonight in chat and i know hes probably gone to bed before i could get back on at home. i knew he will understand when he finds out what happened, but it came at a rather bad time in the conversation and i dont want him to think that i shut him out.

he is very reasonable and fair and its not like im worried about being punished it for it. i just hate to leave something out there like that, especially since hes already told me that he has a couple of busy days coming up and i do too.

Mr's little pet

 

[Sprinkles22]

favorite. book. ever. want so much for my Mr. to read it. the way that lisa explains why she does what she does at the club and how she feels is like my bible. not to mention that new orleans is my favorite city ever.

we got disconnected tonight in chat and i know hes probably gone to bed before i could get back on at home. i knew he will understand when he finds out what happened, but it came at a rather bad time in the conversation and i dont want him to think that i shut him out.

he is very reasonable and fair and its not like im worried about being punished it for it. i just hate to leave something out there like that, especially since hes already told me that he has a couple of busy days coming up and i do too.

Mr's little pet

Having to go to bed and try to sleep when there are unresolved issues between me and Raven is almost impossible. I worry too much. I obsess too much. By morning's first light, I am usually a basket case and ready to puke.

And Him? Bless His heart ... He sleeps like a baby thru the night ...

 

[MasterPhoenix]

i know for a fact mine misses me just as much as i miss Him. He tells me just about every other minute that we're on the phone *grins* i don't think it's a subbie trait at all, i think it's a human trait *smiles*

Shit, I cried like a baby when I had to leave you... Top Drop? probably. Also, My time with you was the most wonderful thing I had expierenced, and I had to go back to a place that was no longer home and a job I don't much like.

Yeah I miss you... I love having your voice in My ear, but dammit I need you in My arms....

 

[ChromeCollar]

favorite. book. ever. want so much for my Mr. to read it. the way that lisa explains why she does what she does at the club and how she feels is like my bible. not to mention that new orleans is my favorite city ever.

we got disconnected tonight in chat and i know hes probably gone to bed before i could get back on at home. i knew he will understand when he finds out what happened, but it came at a rather bad time in the conversation and i dont want him to think that i shut him out.

he is very reasonable and fair and its not like im worried about being punished it for it. i just hate to leave something out there like that, especially since hes already told me that he has a couple of busy days coming up and i do too.

Mr's little pet

To be honest, I was hoping for more of an ending. I really liked the book, but dang I wanted more from the ending. Screw the white picket fence.

All in all though, I give it a thumbs up! I wont say more for fear of ruining it for people who havent read it.

 

[cookiecat]

i've read through this thread and appreciate how much everyone is willing to share their experiences.

i have been in a four month on-line relationship - (i'm sub). we had the opportunity to meet once 2 months ago for a wonderful, beyond what i could have ever hoped for four days. it was my first real d/s encounter and it was (if you haven't already guessed) incredible. we plan on meeting again in january.

since meeting with him in r/l, i have been experiencing the need to find a way to incorporate my submissive desires more in to my every day life. he has made a commitment to helping me find my submissive self and i usually feel it "working." it just seems so difficult sometimes when it's on-line & easy to let my vanilla real life push my submissive self around.

my question is this - how do you keep the intensity in your LDR? what keeps you connected? what keeps you in the most submissive mindset? just a few simple questions, right!? thanks for listening!!

 

[myinnerslut]

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[lil_slave_rose]

i've read through this thread and appreciate how much everyone is willing to share their experiences.

i have been in a four month on-line relationship - (i'm sub). we had the opportunity to meet once 2 months ago for a wonderful, beyond what i could have ever hoped for four days. it was my first real d/s encounter and it was (if you haven't already guessed) incredible. we plan on meeting again in january.

since meeting with him in r/l, i have been experiencing the need to find a way to incorporate my submissive desires more in to my every day life. he has made a commitment to helping me find my submissive self and i usually feel it "working." it just seems so difficult sometimes when it's on-line & easy to let my vanilla real life push my submissive self around.

my question is this - how do you keep the intensity in your LDR? what keeps you connected? what keeps you in the most submissive mindset? just a few simple questions, right!? thanks for listening!!

for me, it's our connection, constant communication and as for what keeps me in my submissive mind set, i'm not really sure, it's just always there..it's who i am, when i am feeling down a very good friend told me to live my life as though Sir has ordered me to do everything i'm doing. when i clean, it's for Him, when i eat, it's for Him, if you do everything in terms of that it's for HIm it makes it alot easier to keep that mindset. atleast for me it is. i am by no means saying it 's easy because sometimes it's down right painful to continue on without being in His arms....i hope this helps and that it makes sense..good luck to you

 

[cookiecat]

i actually asked that in a thread a while back qnd got mixed answers. mabye someone who is better with the search function can go find the thread.

for me, i talk to Sir every day. i'm allowed to touch myself as much as i want as long as i a) out on my collar while im doing it, and b)e-mail him about it afterwards. i keep track of all my punishments in a little book. i keep a livejournal, which i keep private, but open up anything to him. of course, i follow any orders he may give me. i truly hate being in a LDR, but the price of giving it up is giving him up and thats something i just will not do.

thanks for the input! i'll look for that thread. we do some of the same things: we talk each day, keep a journal, tasks... i think it's that next level of submission that i'm wondering about... i feel it - i want it - i need it... i've discussed these feelings with him. and maybe seeing him again in january will bring some answers. thank you again!!

 

[ChromeCollar]

thanks for the input! i'll look for that thread. we do some of the same things: we talk each day, keep a journal, tasks... i think it's that next level of submission that i'm wondering about... i feel it - i want it - i need it... i've discussed these feelings with him. and maybe seeing him again in january will bring some answers. thank you again!!

I am a firm believer that there are different levels of submission, but you wont work through them until you are ready. About 6 months ago, my Master and I went through a very trying period. I was constantly bratty, constantly challenging him, trying to "top from the bottom" if you will without even realizing I was doing it. We were both miserable, and one day he asked me what he could do to make it stop. He took matters into his own hands, and I had no choice but to follow or be gone. The following couple weeks was hell, I went through a million different emotions and none of them were good, but at the end of the two weeks, I emerged a different person.

Our relationship was on a different level. I no longer felt bratty, bitchy, the need to boss him around like I boss so many other men around in my life. He was my one true Master, the one person in the world that I could relinquish full and total control to in all things. Not only that but I was deeply and peacefully happy. I could be everything he wanted and hoped, and I could do it with a full heart and open soul. Anyways, enough about me blah blah. Ever feel like all you do is write about you hah?

I think the two of you will find that next level when you are ready, and you will find it together. I've linked this before but I'll do it again because I think it is a wonderful site for a submissive finding his or her way in this delicate dance. Good luck, and welcome to the thread!

http://www.castlerealm.com/subspace/subspace.htm

 

[ChromeCollar]

I certainly hope it improves for you

Have you ever wondered if our Doms miss us as much as we miss them? Or is it just a subbie trait to miss someone that much?

I know our Dom/me miss their subs as much as their subs miss them. It might not be in their personality to say it as much, but we are the yin to their yang. The moon to their sun. I am lucky in the fact that my Master has no bones about telling me exactly how much he misses me. I think he says it more than I do, but that is just his nature.

 

[cookiecat]

for me, it's our connection, constant communication and as for what keeps me in my submissive mind set, i'm not really sure, it's just always there..it's who i am, when i am feeling down a very good friend told me to live my life as though Sir has ordered me to do everything i'm doing. when i clean, it's for Him, when i eat, it's for Him, if you do everything in terms of that it's for HIm it makes it alot easier to keep that mindset. atleast for me it is. i am by no means saying it 's easy because sometimes it's down right painful to continue on without being in His arms....i hope this helps and that it makes sense..good luck to you

hearing what others are going through and how you deal with it always helps. thanks for sharing!

cookiecat

 

[cookiecat]

I am a firm believer that there are different levels of submission, but you wont work through them until you are ready. About 6 months ago, my Master and I went through a very trying period. I was constantly bratty, constantly challenging him, trying to "top from the bottom" if you will without even realizing I was doing it. We were both miserable, and one day he asked me what he could do to make it stop. He took matters into his own hands, and I had no choice but to follow or be gone. The following couple weeks was hell, I went through a million different emotions and none of them were good, but at the end of the two weeks, I emerged a different person.

Our relationship was on a different level. I no longer felt bratty, bitchy, the need to boss him around like I boss so many other men around in my life. He was my one true Master, the one person in the world that I could relinquish full and total control to in all things. Not only that but I was deeply and peacefully happy. I could be everything he wanted and hoped, and I could do it with a full heart and open soul. Anyways, enough about me blah blah. Ever feel like all you do is write about you hah?

I think the two of you will find that next level when you are ready, and you will find it together. I've linked this before but I'll do it again because I think it is a wonderful site for a submissive finding his or her way in this delicate dance. Good luck, and welcome to the thread!

http://www.castlerealm.com/subspace/subspace.htm

excellent link - thank you so much.

i completely agree that there are different levels. i look at where i was 4 months ago to where i am now; even though the journey is just beginning and has a long (and lovely) way to go - i'm becoming more comfortable with meshing the submissive side of me in to my real life.

thank you for your kind words.

cookie

 

[littleone77]

A Question

Last night I noticed something which bothers me. Before I met Him, I had some...unhealthy?...views of myself. Through a lot of time and patience on His part, He convinced me otherwise. Since last week when I've had little to no contact with Him, I have noticed my thinking has gone backwards. Its effecting my attitude and I am sorry to say my eating habits have gone down the hill. I am finding myself slipping backwards and I really don't want that to happen. Hopefully this will make sense to someone.

 

[ChromeCollar]

Last night I noticed something which bothers me. Before I met Him, I had some...unhealthy?...views of myself. Through a lot of time and patience on His part, He convinced me otherwise. Since last week when I've had little to no contact with Him, I have noticed my thinking has gone backwards. Its effecting my attitude and I am sorry to say my eating habits have gone down the hill. I am finding myself slipping backwards and I really don't want that to happen. Hopefully this will make sense to someone.

I want to write something eloquent and perfect for this, but I just cant think up the words. I am so very sorry that you are hurting and unhappy, that is the worst feeling to be so seperated from your Master. All I can say is that he sounds like your rock. If you do not want to take care of yourself for you, then maybe it would be easier for you to think of it as taking care of his precious treasure. He would not want his treasure thinking poorly of herself, or not treating herself well in his absence. He obviously cares a great deal about you, and might be sad to known that your thoughts backslid while he was gone and busy. Just remember his love for you, and your love for him and hang on to it. Use it to help fuel your motivation to continue thinking positive and taking good care of yourself for Him.

 

[FurryFury]

Littleone77,

I wrote about something simular that happens to me in the Tickle thread. What you said makes sense to me. I'm sorry you are going through this.

*hug*

Fury

 

[BeBe81]

.....

I am a firm believer that there are different levels of submission, but you wont work through them until you are ready. About 6 months ago, my Master and I went through a very trying period. I was constantly bratty, constantly challenging him, trying to "top from the bottom" if you will without even realizing I was doing it. We were both miserable, and one day he asked me what he could do to make it stop. He took matters into his own hands, and I had no choice but to follow or be gone. The following couple weeks was hell, I went through a million different emotions and none of them were good, but at the end of the two weeks, I emerged a different person.

Our relationship was on a different level. I no longer felt bratty, bitchy, the need to boss him around like I boss so many other men around in my life. He was my one true Master, the one person in the world that I could relinquish full and total control to in all things. Not only that but I was deeply and peacefully happy. I could be everything he wanted and hoped, and I could do it with a full heart and open soul. Anyways, enough about me blah blah. Ever feel like all you do is write about you hah?

I think the two of you will find that next level when you are ready, and you will find it together. I've linked this before but I'll do it again because I think it is a wonderful site for a submissive finding his or her way in this delicate dance. Good luck, and welcome to the thread!

http://www.castlerealm.com/subspace/subspace.htm

Thanks for the linkage.... I have the feeling... I may be there for awhile....

It is a great site

 

[littleone77]

I want to write something eloquent and perfect for this, but I just cant think up the words. I am so very sorry that you are hurting and unhappy, that is the worst feeling to be so seperated from your Master. All I can say is that he sounds like your rock. If you do not want to take care of yourself for you, then maybe it would be easier for you to think of it as taking care of his precious treasure. He would not want his treasure thinking poorly of herself, or not treating herself well in his absence. He obviously cares a great deal about you, and might be sad to known that your thoughts backslid while he was gone and busy. Just remember his love for you, and your love for him and hang on to it. Use it to help fuel your motivation to continue thinking positive and taking good care of yourself for Him.

Yet again your comments have helped, thanks (It prompted me to eat almost a whole hamburger btw). He is indeed my rock. And the strangest thing about all of this, is neither of us were looking for a relationship of this depth. It just happened. He is my Everything. And I think you did manage something eloquent and nearly perfect.