Distance Domination-Support Thread

[ChromeCollar]

This has been a particularly hard week for me. Since last Thursday I have had maybe an hour with him total and its beginning to take its toil on me. Like many others have already said, I get emotional. Tears and the doubts flow constantly. Along with that my self esteem, low usually, also takes a hit.

This week has been particularly hard on me. Its the beginning of finals and I need him more than normal. Right now, I just want to be held...*shrugs*. Its not going to happen so I best get use to the fact no?

I feel a bit better, thanks

I hope you get more time with him soon Littleone. I know how lonely and sad it can be when life steps in the way of being with your Master, as many of us do. Hang in there, and please come talk to us whenever you need to. Even if it is just a rant or vent, we are here for you. Good luck in your finals, and be well in all things. Hope to see you again. *comfort*

If it is any help my Master has me repeat to myself over and over when I miss him and can not be with him, and doubts are overflowing in my mind this phrase.

I am Daddy's little girl. My Daddy loves me more than anything in the world. I love my Daddy and I know He loves me.

Childish maybe, but it is comforting and it helps me focus my thoughts and feelings, reel them back in and sort them into their respective drawers.

 

[ChromeCollar]

I just had to pat myself on the back for making the first post on our 20th page! Woot nicely done long distancers.

*cheers*

 

[myinnerslut]

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[littleone77]

I hope you get more time with him soon Littleone. I know how lonely and sad it can be when life steps in the way of being with your Master, as many of us do. Hang in there, and please come talk to us whenever you need to. Even if it is just a rant or vent, we are here for you. Good luck in your finals, and be well in all things. Hope to see you again. *comfort*QUOTE]

Thank you for the warm welcome *small smiles* I have a feeling that I will be around here a bit...He sent me his schedule and things do not look to improve for a while yet. Its strange, I have done ldr before and I never felt this way in any of them. This one, this one I am in deep and although I love that attachment, the Love, the submersion of it all, it does come with a price. Sometimes the more irrational me just takes over you know? *Sighs*. I do read some of His more intimate sayings but there is nothing sweeter in the world when we connect.

 

[DontThankJustSpank]

For married subs with a ldr

Maybe this is just me, but I have a question to ask the other married subs on the board. I'm really interested to see how other people feel.

Do you find that you are a better spouse to your partner (i know that not all married subs are women with a husband-trying to be pc here) when you are in a d/s relationship? And I don't mean out of guilt for those of you who must keep their d/s ldr private. I mean that the fulfillment you get out of a d/s relationship translates into being a better spouse in your "regular" life.

I have just felt the last couple of days the sort of "completeness" that I only feel when i have a master, and it translates to me just being a nicer and happier person all around. I'm a sub pretty much all of the time anyway, even with my husband who is not a dom to me, but I find myself being so much more willing to please him, even with just the little every day things.

Just curious,
Mr's little pet

 

[FurryFury]

It's so miserable when you don't have time to spend together. My Master had me make something that I can wear when we can't get together and I'm lonely. He also makes me feel very secure by the way he communicates with me. I've been with people that kept you feeling insecure and this is so much better.

Maybe this is just me, but I have a question to ask the other married subs on the board. I'm really interested to see how other people feel.

Do you find that you are a better spouse to your partner (i know that not all married subs are women with a husband-trying to be pc here) when you are in a d/s relationship? And I don't mean out of guilt for those of you who must keep their d/s ldr private. I mean that the fulfillment you get out of a d/s relationship translates into being a better spouse in your "regular" life.

I have just felt the last couple of days the sort of "completeness" that I only feel when i have a master, and it translates to me just being a nicer and happier person all around. I'm a sub pretty much all of the time anyway, even with my husband who is not a dom to me, but I find myself being so much more willing to please him, even with just the little every day things.

Just curious,
Mr's little pet

When I am more myself, I am happier. I do feel at those times I am a better spouse, mother and all other things I am to people because, as you said I feel complete, happy and hopeful. I think my husband would agree.

I'm fairly easy going most of the time. I tend to see things in a positive way most of the time but being what I truly am, with someone who nurtures and pulls on that, makes me better, IMO.

Fury

 

[DontThankJustSpank]

When I am more myself, I am happier. I do feel at those times I am a better spouse, mother and all other things I am to people because, as you said I feel complete, happy and hopeful. I think my husband would agree.

I'm fairly easy going most of the time. I tend to see things in a positive way most of the time but being what I truly am, with someone who nurtures and pulls on that, makes me better, IMO.

Fury [/QUOTE]

Thanks Fury. I'm just sort of feeling my way around what may turn into a long term thing. I have really struggled to figure out if I was just being nicer and happier around him because I felt guilty. No, I really am happier.

I don't know, maybe I just feel like I am weird because the d/s part of things is really the only part of it that my husband couldn't handle. We have had mfm threesomes before and he also knows that I have had lovers outside of that. He only really wants to know about the ones that might want to play with him participating as well. So with my lovely new Mr., my husband would never be able to play with Mr. in that role. With Mr. as his "regular" self, maybe. But my husband has never done more than playacted at being a dom with me as his sub and I know that hed never be able to handle it.

Which is probably quite weird but I have never professed to be normal.

Mr's little pet

 

[subfem1963]

Maybe this is just me, but I have a question to ask the other married subs on the board. I'm really interested to see how other people feel.

Do you find that you are a better spouse to your partner (i know that not all married subs are women with a husband-trying to be pc here) when you are in a d/s relationship? And I don't mean out of guilt for those of you who must keep their d/s ldr private. I mean that the fulfillment you get out of a d/s relationship translates into being a better spouse in your "regular" life.

I have just felt the last couple of days the sort of "completeness" that I only feel when i have a master, and it translates to me just being a nicer and happier person all around. I'm a sub pretty much all of the time anyway, even with my husband who is not a dom to me, but I find myself being so much more willing to please him, even with just the little every day things.

Just curious,
Mr's little pet

Yes i think i am a better spouse to my partner, i also find myself more willing to please him, I'm a better person in the bedroom too. Lol.
But seriously I have found since My Master came into my life, I'm a better person all round.

 

[DontThankJustSpank]

Yes i think i am a better spouse to my partner, i also find myself more willing to please him, I'm a better person in the bedroom too. Lol.
But seriously I have found since My Master came into my life, I'm a better person all round.

OMG! Exactly. I am so much more willing to make sure that he gets what he needs, sexually and otherwise, if I have my needs met as well. It's not a question of my spouse being able to satisfy me sexually, anyone that confuses that with what a d/s relationship is doesn't get the point. I just need a different kind of satisfaction to truly be fulfilled.

Ok, so I am not a complete freak after all... At least not about this ...

 

[lil_slave_rose]

Master Has His tickets!

*grins* Master just ordered His plane tickets for His 2nd trip here. He will be Here on His birthday January 23rd and will be here until January 30th. i am so excited!

 

[MasterPhoenix]

*grins* Master just ordered His plane tickets for His 2nd trip here. He will be Here on His birthday January 23rd and will be here until January 30th. i am so excited!

I just posted this in the Cafe...

I am definitely stoked.

 

[raven2]

I just posted this in the Cafe...

I am definitely stoked.

Congrats to both of you. Hope you have a wonderful time.

 

[Sprinkles22]

Maybe this is just me, but I have a question to ask the other married subs on the board. I'm really interested to see how other people feel.

Do you find that you are a better spouse to your partner (i know that not all married subs are women with a husband-trying to be pc here) when you are in a d/s relationship? And I don't mean out of guilt for those of you who must keep their d/s ldr private. I mean that the fulfillment you get out of a d/s relationship translates into being a better spouse in your "regular" life.

I have just felt the last couple of days the sort of "completeness" that I only feel when i have a master, and it translates to me just being a nicer and happier person all around. I'm a sub pretty much all of the time anyway, even with my husband who is not a dom to me, but I find myself being so much more willing to please him, even with just the little every day things.

Just curious,
Mr's little pet

I have 2 words to describe me .... calm and content I'm definitely a better person.

 

[the captians wench]

I miss my Love.

I haven't had any time with him since sunday. *pout*

 

[ChromeCollar]

Good for you Rose and Masterphoenix. I am happy for you. I'm going to visit my Master right around the same time!

I just finished reading Exit to Eden, interesting reading. *comforts Captians Wench*

 

[Sprinkles22]

Good for you Rose and Masterphoenix. I am happy for you. I'm going to visit my Master right around the same time!

I just finished reading Exit to Eden, interesting reading. *comforts Captians Wench*

*sigh* Wish I could visit mine. I do well for about the first month apart, then I begin to get needy again. It'll be a few months before we are able to be back together.

I hope our next time together will also include my husband being able to meet Him.

 

[Sprinkles22]

I miss my Love.

I haven't had any time with him since sunday. *pout*

*huggles* That's gotta suck

I'd go nutz!!

 

[the captians wench]

*huggles* That's gotta suck

I'd go nutz!!

I am. But he's working, and could use the overtime.

At least my work schedule has changed and we'll be more on the same page time wize. Just gotta get thru the next few weeks. *sigh*

 

[the captians wench]

Good for you Rose and Masterphoenix. I am happy for you. I'm going to visit my Master right around the same time!

I just finished reading Exit to Eden, interesting reading. *comforts Captians Wench*

*snuggles*

 

[Sprinkles22]

I am. But he's working, and could use the overtime.

At least my work schedule has changed and we'll be more on the same page time wize. Just gotta get thru the next few weeks. *sigh*

I guess I sometimes take for granted the wonderful jobs we share ... we each work predominate desk jobs and get to spend a great deal of time together each day as well as each night.

I'm spoiled

 

[raven2]

I guess I sometimes take for granted the wonderful jobs we share ... we each work predominate desk jobs and get to spend a great deal of time together each day as well as each night.

I'm spoiled

Damn right!!!

 

[Sprinkles22]

Damn right!!!

Ummm ... let's see ... are you agreeing that we spend a lot of time together ... or that I'm spoiled?

 

[the captians wench]

I guess I sometimes take for granted the wonderful jobs we share ... we each work predominate desk jobs and get to spend a great deal of time together each day as well as each night.

I'm spoiled

well he's got a pretty stedy 9-5er, just right now he's taking the op to get lots of over time. Me I don't have any sort of consistant schedule, tho it is better this month. Add on a 5 hour time difference and well we don't get a whole lot of time. Should be better by the end of the month tho.

 

[Sprinkles22]

well he's got a pretty stedy 9-5er, just right now he's taking the op to get lots of over time. Me I don't have any sort of consistant schedule, tho it is better this month. Add on a 5 hour time difference and well we don't get a whole lot of time. Should be better by the end of the month tho.

I certainly hope it improves for you

Have you ever wondered if our Doms miss us as much as we miss them? Or is it just a subbie trait to miss someone that much?

 

[raven2]

Ummm ... let's see ... are you agreeing that we spend a lot of time together ... or that I'm spoiled?

The second.