Distance Domination-Support Thread

[DomWharfsBitch]

just checking in with hugs for all

hugs for you too Mis

 

[PleasurePuppy]

My friend has been trying to get me to post here for a while, and I'm finaly giving in.

I try not to think of my relationship as long distance. We don't live too far away from each other and see eachother as often as we can. The problem comes with his work and my school; our schedules just don't fit.

I've tried a few things to help, but it hasn't seemed to work. Our schedules are still too much of a problem, even with me doing my school work at his house, and he doesn't like talking on the phone. As nice as it is to have that every other week booty call from my master, I would like to have more. Any ideas?

 

[myinnerslut]

My friend has been trying to get me to post here for a while, and I'm finaly giving in.

I try not to think of my relationship as long distance. We don't live too far away from each other and see eachother as often as we can. The problem comes with his work and my school; our schedules just don't fit.

I've tried a few things to help, but it hasn't seemed to work. Our schedules are still too much of a problem, even with me doing my school work at his house, and he doesn't like talking on the phone. As nice as it is to have that every other week booty call from my master, I would like to have more. Any ideas?

i have heard of people keeping a journal online and giving thier PYL the password or that ability to read the entries. this way you can stay in touch ad keep each other aware of what is happening in your lives despite having conflicting schedules. he can read your journal and respond to it. A and i did it for a while and it worked well.

it might help if you try to have a set time to meet. sit down with him and figure out a time in both your schedules whe you are free. it might seem a bit heartless to schedule each other into you lives but if you have complete conflicting schedules it might be a starting point.

 

[lil_slave_rose]

My friend has been trying to get me to post here for a while, and I'm finaly giving in.

I try not to think of my relationship as long distance. We don't live too far away from each other and see eachother as often as we can. The problem comes with his work and my school; our schedules just don't fit.

I've tried a few things to help, but it hasn't seemed to work. Our schedules are still too much of a problem, even with me doing my school work at his house, and he doesn't like talking on the phone. As nice as it is to have that every other week booty call from my master, I would like to have more. Any ideas?

i don't have any GREAT advice here except to say make sure that you make SOME time or it will all fall apart. Master and i have been together for 4 years, and it's been all, well mostly all, online. when we first started this journey i was not working he was the only one that worked. things have changed and now i work also. and our work schedules conflict BIG TIME. not to mention we also have a 3 hour time difference to deal with.

it sucks but it's worth it in the end.but if you are living close enough to him that you can do your schoolwork at his house, i guess i'm not seeing the big issue with no time for each other? i mean i realize that your schedules conflict but surely there's a way to find time for each other??

 

[SubKekiLee]

D/s relationships take communication and trust... My Sir lives across the country from me... but we make time for one another... I wish it were more in person, but we face the same thing MP and Rose goes thru we both work, we have 3 hours time difference and some nights I work until he is in bed.... but It will work out.. communicate and make time for one another..

 

[serijules]

Ma'am and I have totally opposite schedules as she works nights and I work early mornings/days. When I'm knee deep in work, she has time to talk before she goes to bed but I'm usually too busy to talk much. She can talk at night when she's at work between working, but with a 2 hour time difference, I'm usually very tired and falling asleep so we get in a few hours of sporadic conversation at best. Neither of us spend too much time on the computer these days...most of our talking is done in text message.

Yeah, it's tough....but what I've learned over the years (we've been together almost 4 years) is to accept it for what it is, cherish the times we have together, and frankly, be an adult about the times we don't. I used to get so upset and depressed and whiny when we didn't have much time together and it leaked over and poisoned the time we DID have, which neither of us enjoyed. Now that I've moved past that, our times together are so much more enjoyable.

I still wish we had more time....but when I move there sometime in the next year or so, we'll have so much time we'll probably get sick of one another, haha. So I spend this time with my family, enjoying my time with THEM, knowing one of these days it will be them I am missing and not Ma'am.

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

I offer the same advice as everyone else has before me...
Master and I work mostly different schedules..The times we used to have at my lunch break we would spend together..Now he sleeps..He gets off work at 10 most nights and calls now so we get to talk then.We dont' spend as much time together online as we used too but the talking on the phone helps that..

I am with seri as I used to get upset when I thought he was ignoring me to sleep.now I am just like what ever and go on..I may get mad but try to hide it which at time is not easy...

Just sit up a time to talk so that you can spend time with each other and figure out the times you can spend so you will know and that gives you something to look forward to..

 

[00Syd]

One thing that I've found that helps for us is to be on the phone with each other, even when we are doing other things. To just know the he is there on the other end of the line, even if I'm busy with something else, is a comfort. we'll talk while going about our daily lives and that gives us a sense of some normalcy. Of course we always try and sit down and really talk once a day or every other day, but if we don't have the time for that, just being on the phone with each other is really nice.

 

[PleasurePuppy]

Yeah, it's tough....but what I've learned over the years (we've been together almost 4 years) is to accept it for what it is, cherish the times we have together, and frankly, be an adult about the times we don't. I used to get so upset and depressed and whiny when we didn't have much time together and it leaked over and poisoned the time we DID have, which neither of us enjoyed. Now that I've moved past that, our times together are so much more enjoyable.

Thank you all so much for the help. I think at this point I need to try to focus more on the positive and try planning ahead. Again, thank you.

 

[minx1]

*hugs* to everyone.

Just been reading the advice people have given to pleasurepuppy and the accounts of their lives with their PYLs/pyls. Its not only great advice, its grounding too. Thanks guys

 

[EmpressFi]

*smiles*

After much nailbiting and hemming and hawing and waiting for the boss to ok the time off...

he decided he couldnt wait until March and booked his flight last night.

He'll get in Feb 15th at 11pm EST and leave Tuesday night at 7pm. Four whole days and nights....

 

[myinnerslut]

*smiles*

After much nailbiting and hemming and hawing and waiting for the boss to ok the time off...

he decided he couldnt wait until March and booked his flight last night.

He'll get in Feb 15th at 11pm EST and leave Tuesday night at 7pm. Four whole days and nights....

YAY!!!

 

[00Syd]

Yay EmpressFi! Thats so great!

And I have similar news!

He's coming to visit this weekend!!!!! He called me last night and told me, I'm so excited! He'll be here from friday night until tuesday morning. I am so happy.

 

[myinnerslut]

Yay EmpressFi! Thats so great!

And I have similar news!

He's coming to visit this weekend!!!!! He called me last night and told me, I'm so excited! He'll be here from friday night until tuesday morning. I am so happy.

yay for you as well!!!

 

[MasterPhoenix]

happy for those getting good news.

 

[SubKekiLee]

Plane tickets are purchased we get 3.5 days in Florida at the end of the month.. YAY!!!! Congrats to all others who get to see thier SO... thats great news..

 

[myinnerslut]

i might not get to see A in a few weeks after all

 

[00Syd]

i might not get to see A in a few weeks after all

Aw, I've got my fingers crossed for you.

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

Happy to hear of those getting to be with their Masters..

Mis I will keep my fingers crossed that you will get to see A soon

 

[EmpressFi]

i might not get to see A in a few weeks after all

oh no MIS.. I'll light a candle for you both..

 

[myinnerslut]

thanks all. it all depends on if how i can schedule the doctors appointment for my shoulder. i find out on monday.

 

[PleasurePuppy]

good luck, hope it works out

 

[myinnerslut]

i had to cut my visit short for my doctors appointment but im still going to see him for 4 days!!! february 16th-20th!!!

 

[~His Kitten~]

*small foot stomp* I hate it, absolutely hate it when I need to not wear my collar to bed so my skin can get a break from it. So not far. Especially because I usually fall alseep clutching it and wake up the same way, a very soothing piece of jewlery.

 

[00Syd]

Thats so great myinnerslut, I'm really happy for you!


I just saw mine for the last time for a month yesterday, which is really a bummer. I was in tears for much of the bus ride back last night.

But then again, only a month to wait!