Distance Domination-Support Thread

[EmpressFi]

I just found out that the February visit isnt happening so it might be March before I physically see him again


/sigh

 

[myinnerslut]

I just found out that the February visit isnt happening so it might be March before I physically see him again


/sigh

{{hugs}}

i am so sorry.

 

[myinnerslut]

its after three in the morning, i need to be up in six hours, and i just realized im avoiding going to bed becuase i cant call A and say goodnight like i do every night when we are at school.

 

[MasterPhoenix]

A drive by hello...

cuz I can

 

[minx1]

Hey Minx.. I am doing okay...M and I are okay..don't get to spend much time at all together unless he has a day off and then not all that much time then..

Hope things are going great for you and for your M

aww *hugs* hon, sorry to hear that....hope things pick up a little soon

 

[minx1]

I just found out that the February visit isnt happening so it might be March before I physically see him again


/sigh

*hugs* EmpressFi, I know how disappointed that must make you feel.

I am trying to get my head round March. My M and I will pretty much have no contact for a month. Yuck. I mean we've had times when we haven't seen eachother for quite a while and indeed until 5 months ago I was stuck in the UK and he in Oz, but we have always had regular contact. I think the longest we have gone without a phonecall or im, even when we weren't together was 4 days. This will be far worse

I am just trying to stay positive and know that if we can make it through that we will be far stronger for it *nods*

 

[ecstaticsub]

*hugs* EmpressFi, I know how disappointed that must make you feel.

I am trying to get my head round March. My M and I will pretty much have no contact for a month. Yuck. I mean we've had times when we haven't seen eachother for quite a while and indeed until 5 months ago I was stuck in the UK and he in Oz, but we have always had regular contact. I think the longest we have gone without a phonecall or im, even when we weren't together was 4 days. This will be far worse

I am just trying to stay positive and know that if we can make it through that we will be far stronger for it *nods*

No contact at all for a month? Wow, even when my husband was deployed we had at least weekly contact. It may sound really silly but some things I have done pre-deployment to get ready for a long separation is save voice mail messages from him (so I could hear his voice), make voice recordings of any sort--him telling you stories, chat chit chat over a meal anything where you can hear his voice. ( I made a recording once while my husband was deployed of just the kids and I sitting around the dinner table eating and discussing the day. I didn't tell them I was recording so it was very natural. My husband loved it! Made him feel like he was home)
What I also did was write him letter, but never dent them. I wrote what Iwould otherwise be talking to him about if we were talking every day. Little stuff. It made me feel better to get it out.

If you need to talk, I'm usually around.

 

[ecstaticsub]

I'm not sure when I will be seeing Daddy again. We were together the end of Oct and we usually get together again the end of Feb/beginning of March. But so much is going on. We haven't even begun to discuss our next meeting.

 

[myinnerslut]

*hugs* EmpressFi, I know how disappointed that must make you feel.

I am trying to get my head round March. My M and I will pretty much have no contact for a month. Yuck. I mean we've had times when we haven't seen eachother for quite a while and indeed until 5 months ago I was stuck in the UK and he in Oz, but we have always had regular contact. I think the longest we have gone without a phonecall or im, even when we weren't together was 4 days. This will be far worse

I am just trying to stay positive and know that if we can make it through that we will be far stronger for it *nods*

i feel really silly now being bothered about a few days out of contact. if you ever want to talk feel free. i mean it. you know we are here for you.

 

[minx1]

No contact at all for a month? Wow, even when my husband was deployed we had at least weekly contact. It may sound really silly but some things I have done pre-deployment to get ready for a long separation is save voice mail messages from him (so I could hear his voice), make voice recordings of any sort--him telling you stories, chat chit chat over a meal anything where you can hear his voice. ( I made a recording once while my husband was deployed of just the kids and I sitting around the dinner table eating and discussing the day. I didn't tell them I was recording so it was very natural. My husband loved it! Made him feel like he was home)
What I also did was write him letter, but never dent them. I wrote what Iwould otherwise be talking to him about if we were talking every day. Little stuff. It made me feel better to get it out.

If you need to talk, I'm usually around.

Thanks Ecsaticsub those are really good ideas. I will definitely ask for the voice recording..that will really help and a couple of emails may be to open whilst I am also away lol. I think or rather I am certain he will set me some tasks but I was going to suggest that I write a 'journal' for him, ya know like an email 2/3 times a week for when he returns.

Thanks again

 

[minx1]

i feel really silly now being bothered about a few days out of contact. if you ever want to talk feel free. i mean it. you know we are here for you.

Thanks Mis, that means a lot

and a few days, a month, a year it doesn't matter.....depending on what we are all used to, it can be too long to be separated eh. This will be completely bad timing and is not the norm thankfully...it just sucks that so soon after finally being together we have to part again, but hopefully we will both return and get back to normal in April!

 

[myinnerslut]

Thanks Mis, that means a lot

and a few days, a month, a year it doesn't matter.....depending on what we are all used to, it can be too long to be separated eh. This will be completely bad timing and is not the norm thankfully...it just sucks that so soon after finally being together we have to part again, but hopefully we will both return and get back to normal in April!

know that we are here for you whenever you need it.

{{hug}}

 

[00Syd]

I just saw my bf for the last time for a month, and maybe two months if he can't make it up to visit me at school in Feb. I've gone for a month without seeing him before but its just awful. And just when we were starting to get the dominance thing down too.

Le sigh.

 

[myinnerslut]

I just saw my bf for the last time for a month, and maybe two months if he can't make it up to visit me at school in Feb. I've gone for a month without seeing him before but its just awful. And just when we were starting to get the dominance thing down too.

Le sigh.

you seem to be in the same position im in. for us the dominance doesnt stop just becuase we are far away. there are lots of things that we do to keep it current and active, and there ist a day when i am not reminded that i am his sub.

 

[00Syd]

you seem to be in the same position im in. for us the dominance doesnt stop just becuase we are far away. there are lots of things that we do to keep it current and active, and there ist a day when i am not reminded that i am his sub.

I think we're going to try and keep it going, but we are both so new to it that it will be kind of strange. I feel like right now is when we really need to be together to get the whole dominance thing down. I don't feel secure enough in it yet to think it'll last very long without us being together. But we're going to try our best!

 

[~His Kitten~]

D/s is a mindset. Seriously. Its all in your mind and I'm not trying to be a smart ass. The physical comes from your thinking. You can be oceans away and have it work. Or you could be sitting next to the person and have it mean nothing.

 

[myinnerslut]

I think we're going to try and keep it going, but we are both so new to it that it will be kind of strange. I feel like right now is when we really need to be together to get the whole dominance thing down. I don't feel secure enough in it yet to think it'll last very long without us being together. But we're going to try our best!

in order to keep ours going we use e-mails and a set of structured rules. while some might find this structure superfluous, it really helps to keep the D/s in our relationship. every time i touch myself i e-mail him to tell him. once a week i send an e-mail with any punishable offenses that occured in that week. i eat healthy or do a set number of situps at the end of the day. i watch a tech news video that A likes so ill be able to keep up with hi if he wants to talk about it. i also wear the necklace he gave me 24/7.

while this set of rules might be overkill for some, it has realaly helped make this distance more managable for us.

 

[00Syd]

Thanks so much for the thoughts/advice. We'll maybe try some rules and such to see what works for us. Hopefully it'll all work out nicely.

 

[myinnerslut]

i just realized the last little pieces of pain from our time together are gone.

i want to cry.

 

[doveofserenity]

i just realized the last little pieces of pain from our time together are gone.

i want to cry.

{{{{{hugsssssss}}}}} as someone here told me a few days ago; as long as the pains and He are in your memory, they aren't gone forever.

 

[myinnerslut]

{{{{{hugsssssss}}}}} as someone here told me a few days ago; as long as the pains and He are in your memory, they aren't gone forever.

thank you. it just came a shock to realize that i hadnt been sore from A all day. i wasnt thinking about it or anything, it just popped up i my mind out of nowhere.

 

[willowwhisp]

*sigh*

One of the worst things about a LDR is not being able to hold her when she is crying.

One of the worst things bout LDR is not being able to be held by him when i is crying!!

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

thank you. it just came a shock to realize that i hadnt been sore from A all day. i wasnt thinking about it or anything, it just popped up i my mind out of nowhere.

Leaving you long ((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))) Mis....

 

[Homburg]

*sigh*

One of the worst things about a LDR is not being able to hold her when she is crying.

This is why I don't think I would ever be capable of a serious LDR, and why those who maintain it have my respect.

I don't think that I could take that.

 

[DomWharfsBitch]

This is why I don't think I would ever be capable of a serious LDR, and why those who maintain it have my respect.

I don't think that I could take that.

It is very hard Homburg..Some days I can't take it but I am still hanging in there...