dick too long

[sweetsparkles]

*sigh* I never thought I'd ever be complaining about this, but I'm having sex with a very well endowed man, and he's too long for me. In any position but standard missionary, he hits my cervix, i think, and it hurts a lot. I miss other positions, but it hurts when we try. Any ideas? It seems like there's a really fine line between him hitting my g spot and going in too deep, and i don't think it's fair to ask him to concentrate that hard and still enjoy himself. Any ideas?

Not fair? That doesn't seem right somehow.

 

[Straight-8]

see the label 'fornix'? the uterus and cervix aren't at the exact precise top of the vagina. sort of more on the front wall.

am i the only one with this problem? i'm starting to feel a little lonely about it lol

Exactly! You aren't the only one with this problem (despite the know-it-alls on this board). Try to deal with it by positioning and 'going slow' and try letting him past the cervix if you can (believe me your g-spot will be happy in the end) but if it continues, speak to a gynocologist about it. There are medical remedies - if the relationship is worth it to you.

 

[TBKahuna123]

Exactly! You aren't the only one with this problem (despite the know-it-alls on this board). Try to deal with it by positioning and 'going slow' and try letting him past the cervix if you can (believe me your g-spot will be happy in the end) but if it continues, speak to a gynocologist about it. There are medical remedies - if the relationship is worth it to you.

I'm so confused, I can't understand this getting past the cervix statement. If your uterus is not in the typical spot, aks tilted, then I can see how the cervix might move forward along the anterior wall. this might put the cervix more on the anterior side and less in the back. Even so, there's no physical way it could be further forward from the g-spot, unless you're built inside out.

Either way, whatever the issue is, I would consult your OBGYN, because it sounds like there may be something unique about your anatomy. I hesitate to use the word problem, because It's not like something's broke, you're just built a little different from the average woman. I'm sure that a good doctor has ran into this before and can give you some tips for dealing with it.

 

[Straight-8]

. Even so, there's no physical way it could be further forward from the g-spot, unless you're built inside out.

Okay, I accept responsibility for this confusion by introducing the g-spot question . Southernsky mentioned that (of course) her g-spot was in front of her cervix. My 'g-spot' comment was only to mean that she would find deep intercourse such as I suggest very fulfilling if she is able to accomodate it. It really had nothing to do with her g-spot.
mea culpa!

 

[Eilan]

Exactly! You aren't the only one with this problem (despite the know-it-alls on this board). Try to deal with it by positioning and 'going slow' and try letting him past the cervix if you can (believe me your g-spot will be happy in the end) but if it continues, speak to a gynocologist about it. There are medical remedies - if the relationship is worth it to you.

The cervix is the lower end of the uterus. It's the part that dilates to allow a baby to pass through. The only way a guy is getting past the cervix is if he fucks a woman who's in labor, and I can't think of any man who's stupid enough to risk having his genitals ripped off and force-fed to him.

Perhaps you meant to use a word other than "past" when you were referring to the cervix. I don't know. The "know-it-alls" on this board were responding to what you said, not what you meant to say, and what you said gave some of us the impression that you're pretty clueless about female anatomy. That may or may not be the case.

Looking at the diagram that LadyJeanne so kindly provided for us, I'll accept that one might be able to go around the cervix, if it's tilted, depending on the angles. But one doesn't have to go as deep as the cervix to hit the g-spot.

 

[LadyJeanne]

The fornix is like a little moat around the cervix. When a lady is very aroused, her cervix shifts up a little and the moat balloons a bit, adding about a centimeter to the available cock-space in the vagina. It's the anterior fornix, the part that's on the same vaginal wall as the g-spot, that the tip of the penis can reach. It's called the A-spot. You still can't avoid hitting the cervix.

And you can't get through the cervix into the uterus, which is what getting 'past the cervix' means to me.

No, I don't know it all. But I'm damned glad I know this much.

 

[Mary Hall]

You don`t know much about female anaotmy do you fella?

 

[M's girl]

Eilan has commented on this already a bit. As far as I can tell (I'm no expert but do know 'a thing or two' about anatomy) both M and I are pretty average size-wise (Hey! I'm not complaining here...) Still, at some times, in some positions he will hit my cervix. Sometimes it's a dull and almost painless feeling (but I can feel him bumping against it) and at other times it hurts like hell. Shifting position helps and solves the 'problem'. So IMHO he does not even have to be shaped that big to make it hurt some times. I assume the 'time of the month' has something to do with it, like Eilan said, but am not sure, since I have not had my period for over half a year (no, I'm not pregnant ). So....

What I do know is that there is always a solution, and some were given here already. Also, if your man is as large as you say (which I do not doubt) he should be used to take that into account whenever he wants to have PIV sex, now... and in the past.

 

[Straight-8]

Well anybody who is dumb enough to think I meant fucking the uterus only has themselves to blame . You dont go through the cervix, you go past the cervix. I stick by my wording. My subjective impression is the fornix dialates more than 1 cm but I haven't read the anotomical studies about that. I think it can be stretched to about 5 cm in my experience. That may be different than simple dialation.

I also disagree that the cock can only reach the anterior fornix. Depends on the cock! There is a lot of variation.

And, yes, there is still contact with the cervix on the back of the shaft of the cock (assuming missionary) but it is not stabbing into the cervix which is generally what causes the discomfort.

 

[M's girl]

Well anybody who is dumb enough to think I meant fucking the uterus only has themselves to blame .

Welcome to Lit....
Are you always this friendly when you first interact with new people?

 

[Mary Hall]

You still can`t ''get past'' the cervix, christ just ask a fucking doctor and they`ll say the same thing we all have

 

[Straight-8]

Welcome to Lit....
Are you always this friendly when you first interact with new people?

I only give back what I get! Thanks for the welcome.

 

[Mary Hall]

You dont go through the cervix, you go past the cervix

Read a book on female anatomy, you`ll find it impossible to get past her cervix

 

[Eilan]

Well anybody who is dumb enough to think I meant fucking the uterus only has themselves to blame . You dont go through the cervix, you go past the cervix. I stick by my wording.

Before you go questioning the intelligence of anyone here, I'd suggest that you think about what you wrote and why several people seem to have had trouble digesting your exact meaning. I stick by my contention that your wording leaves much to be desired.

BTW, the word is dilate. I'm pretty sure that dialate isn't a word.

*edited to add that I found the following on this site:

The average vaginal canal is three inches long, possibly four in women who have given birth. This may seem short in relation to the penis, but during sexual arousal the cervix will lift upwards and the fornix may extend upwards into the body as long as necessary to receive the penis. After intercourse, the contraction of the vagina will allow the cervix to rest inside the fornix, which in its relaxed state is a bowl-shaped fitting perfect for the pooling of semen. [emphasis mine]

This passage contradicts what you've been saying, since it would seem that the cervix and fornix both rise during sex, thus making it difficult to go *insert preposition of choice here* the cervix.

 

[Quoll]

How about ; beside, next too, rubbing against, maybe even past the opening to the cervix.

 

[M's girl]

How about ; beside, next too, rubbing against, maybe even past the opening to the cervix.

Nah....... ....the penis was TOO BIG, not very long and very thin. The opening has a diameter from 1 to 3 MILLIMETERS !

See? Quote from the same site Eilan directed us to:

Cervix: The cervix is the opening to the uterus. It varies in diameter from 1 to 3 millimeters, depending upon the time in the menstrual cycle the measurement is taken. The cervix is sometimes plugged with cervical mucous to protect the cervix from infection; during ovulation, this mucous becomes a thin fluid to permit the passage of sperm.

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[Eilan]

Nah....... ....the penis was TOO BIG, not very long and very thin. The opening has a diameter from 1 to 3 MILLIMETERS !

That would give a whole new meaning to the term "needledick."

 

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[TBKahuna123]

That would give a whole new meaning to the term "needledick."

Hmm.... If the process of taking a cock past your gag reflex is called Deep Throating, what would you call this? Deep Wombing?

 

[Eilan]

Hmm.... If the process of taking a cock past your gag reflex is called Deep Throating, what would you call this? Deep Wombing?

Ow. I'd call it a reason to kick someone in the nuts.

 

[Mary Hall]

You dont go through the cervix, you go past the cervix.

If you don`t know human anatomy, don`t have sex

 

[TBKahuna123]

Ow. I'd call it a reason to kick someone in the nuts.

ROFLMAO!

 

[Quoll]

Nah....... ....the penis was TOO BIG, not very long and very thin. The opening has a diameter from 1 to 3 MILLIMETERS !

See? Quote from the same site Eilan directed us to:

Cervix: The cervix is the opening to the uterus. It varies in diameter from 1 to 3 millimeters, depending upon the time in the menstrual cycle the measurement is taken. The cervix is sometimes plugged with cervical mucous to protect the cervix from infection; during ovulation, this mucous becomes a thin fluid to permit the passage of sperm.

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Ouch nooooo, I don't mean inside the cervix at all, I'm just trying to understand where he is coming from.

 

[Quoll]

I'm guessing he means in the little pocket.

 

[southernsky]

ok so now we've accepted that straight8 means past the cervix, not through, and into the fornix, right? i think that's pretty clear. so, according to eilan (i think), my cervix is supposed to lift up when i get aroused. Does that mean i'm not aroused enough by the time we have sex? This is what i'm guessing. anyone wanna stop fighting and help me out?