FelicityJohns
Lightweight
- Joined
- Oct 23, 2014
- Posts
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Dear Friends,
Recent events have forced me to explore myself. It forced me to explore my reasons for coming back on here and why i am on here as well as how I conduct myself. Some recent drama in a couple of threads have me questioning what I believe and how I am.
One of the issues coming up is my desire to remain neutral in conflicts. The reason i remain neutral is because i do not come on Lit to argue, debate, debase, ridicule or harass anyone. I come on here because it is a porn board and it's a fun place. If I wanted to be a dick, I'd go to the General Board.
I have people I like who are arguing over different things at the moment. Most of the things they are arguing about happened prior to my knowing these people, so i have no idea what's going on or anything. I choose to remain neutral. It doesn't mean I like one friend less than another or whatever, but it means I am choosing to look at people the way i see them. I'm not trying to anger people by choosing one friend or another.
I have thought about different options tonight. Leaving Lit would be the easy way out, but i would lose many good friendships I not only made since returning, but older ones I have enjoyed for a long time. Choosing one side or the other would also be a bad decision because i am not interested in which clique is right or wrong.
In the end, i want to stay on Lit, but I may change my habits slightly to stay out of the fire fight. this may mean avoiding certain threads or just not popping in as often. This is not a slight to anyone or anything. I just feel like Lit life isn't real life even though the people behind the screen names are. If I lose a friendship or two, i'll understand. But the simple matter is that Lit is not my life. I have one of those and it's more rewarding in a sense. I may pull back on the public signs of affection somewhat as well. If that bugs you, let me know.
The parting words I leave with you before I log off for the night are simple. This is a porn board. Everyone who enters here is allegedly 18 years of age or older. If you have a beef with someone, be adult about it. There's an ignore button for a reason. Use it if you need to. If someone pisses you off, you are not required to deal with them on the board.
But also remember that behind every screen name is a person on their tablet, keyboard or phone. We need to respect one another even if we do not agree with them. If it's too much for you, log off and breathe because life is more important than what happens here.
Sincerely:
Charles (Azul)
Charles,
Reaching out and sending you a hug. I understand everything you're saying here, and I think you're wise in your choices.
Keep yourself strong, happy and whole, and those who see that will be here for you. PM anytime, my doors and ears are always open.
Feli