Daddy's Little Girl: Second Edition

[cookiecat]

Soooooooo - wandering back to the room. I had a date. Which, in itself feels weird. Setting that first time back dating jittery stuff, the date was with someone who is a Daddy.

I've been in this kind of relationship before but this guy is Daddy to the millionth degree. It feels smothering at times. And then when it's not smothering, I wonder what happened? What's going on?

I know it's new. It's long distance. We've met once; we liked each other enough to want to meet again.

The thing I struggle with is allowing a soft spot to open in my heart and let him be that protective, pleaser Daddy. My tough chick exterior is pretty thick.

Weird to think I'm struggling with allowing myself to be cared for?

 

[Mrtenant]

Soooooooo - wandering back to the room. I had a date. Which, in itself feels weird. Setting that first time back dating jittery stuff, the date was with someone who is a Daddy.

I've been in this kind of relationship before but this guy is Daddy to the millionth degree. It feels smothering at times. And then when it's not smothering, I wonder what happened? What's going on?

I know it's new. It's long distance. We've met once; we liked each other enough to want to meet again.

The thing I struggle with is allowing a soft spot to open in my heart and let him be that protective, pleaser Daddy. My tough chick exterior is pretty thick.

Weird to think I'm struggling with allowing myself to be cared for?

Not weird at all, Cookie. And even if it is, so what. Take your time. It's not a race. Leverage your people, talk to them.

Trust yourself. Be smart, you know what I mean. Not all that glitters is gold. This could be, but, you got options. That's not a bad thing, at all.

Vet him proper and take steps towards figuring out what you want out of the dating scene again. It's not easy, nor should it be.

I'll say it again, leverage your people. It's important for you, and frankly, for us. We like to see you're ok. And congrats for getting out there. I'm pleased to see it.

.....oh, important ....give yourself permission to enjoy yourself.

 

[cascadiabound]

[Snip] The thing I struggle with is allowing a soft spot to open in my heart and let him be that protective, pleaser Daddy. My tough chick exterior is pretty thick.

Weird to think I'm struggling with allowing myself to be cared for?

Nope. Not weird at all. I think especially since you have had to be SO tough, and SO self reliant and SO resilient these last couple years. You have had to do the caring even as you have struggled to see how that fit into still being Mr Cookies sub.

It's gonna be weird. And Yea...go slow. And it might be too smother-y. And you will need to figure out the balance. But if you can open your heart back up a little, it might actually feel good to let someone take care of you a little. Cause even us tough girls, who can do everything and take care of everyone else...need somebody to watch over us too. Maybe?
Good luck Cookie. Keep us posted.

 

[Lost_Yonder]

Soooooooo - wandering back to the room. I had a date. Which, in itself feels weird. Setting that first time back dating jittery stuff, the date was with someone who is a Daddy.

I've been in this kind of relationship before but this guy is Daddy to the millionth degree. It feels smothering at times. And then when it's not smothering, I wonder what happened? What's going on?

I know it's new. It's long distance. We've met once; we liked each other enough to want to meet again.

The thing I struggle with is allowing a soft spot to open in my heart and let him be that protective, pleaser Daddy. My tough chick exterior is pretty thick.

Weird to think I'm struggling with allowing myself to be cared for?

As others have said, it isn't weird at all, if anything probably pretty normal. For many of us our first instinct is to protect ourselves, not allow ourselves to be too exposed, too vulnerable. Proceed at the pace that makes you comfortable.

I wonder though, have you shared your struggle with him? Is he aware of the inner battle you are having? If you haven't, being able to would be a major opening up of that thick wall...

Sounds exciting for you both!

 

[cookiecat]

As others have said, it isn't weird at all, if anything probably pretty normal. For many of us our first instinct is to protect ourselves, not allow ourselves to be too exposed, too vulnerable. Proceed at the pace that makes you comfortable.

I wonder though, have you shared your struggle with him? Is he aware of the inner battle you are having? If you haven't, being able to would be a major opening up of that thick wall...

Sounds exciting for you both!

Thanks Mr. T and cascadia. I am taking it slow - my heart can't take any more hurt. I am wary but don't want to be too skittish I can't let him in. Figuring out the balance is part of the moving forward, right?

Yes, Lost, when we got together, I told him how I felt. We have been friends for a long time - long distance, FB friends - so he is aware of the struggles I've been through. Thanks for the suggestion!!

I've been out of this dating game for a long time so the feelings are confusing. Not bad, just confusing. And it's mostly the feelings related around how I perceive Daddy / lg relationships. His "style" of Daddy is different. I have to figure out if I like it, if I still want it, if I even still feel little girly??

For sure I don't have to figure this out right now. I think that'll be part of the fun (is that the right word???) - part of the challenge of renewed self discovery.

 

[Mrtenant]

Thanks Mr. T and cascadia. I am taking it slow - my heart can't take any more hurt. I am wary but don't want to be too skittish I can't let him in. Figuring out the balance is part of the moving forward, right?

Yes, Lost, when we got together, I told him how I felt. We have been friends for a long time - long distance, FB friends - so he is aware of the struggles I've been through. Thanks for the suggestion!!

I've been out of this dating game for a long time so the feelings are confusing. Not bad, just confusing. And it's mostly the feelings related around how I perceive Daddy / lg relationships. His "style" of Daddy is different. I have to figure out if I like it, if I still want it, if I even still feel little girly??

For sure I don't have to figure this out right now. I think that'll be part of the fun (is that the right word???) - part of the challenge of renewed self discovery.

Fun is a good word for it. The spice of life and living. Your adventure awaits, Cookie

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

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[SadieAnne]

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So much this!!!!!

 

[LostGirlTink]

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Samesies

 

[barefootgirl69]

*jumping on the bed, grinning and singing a little song*

 

[Lost_Yonder]

ahhhh, insomnia...

Hope those of you in the northern climes are staying warm!

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[Lost_Yonder]

though it is in the 60s chez moi , thought I'd share some hot chocolate and warm, straight out of the oven homemade cookies...

Stay warm!
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[barefootgirl69]

Hot chocolate tastes good even at 67°! *sluuuurp* ahhhh!
Thank you, LY.

Have Daddy's got a self-care routine???

 

[HeavyBalls]

Hot chocolate tastes good even at 67°! *sluuuurp* ahhhh!
Thank you, LY.

Have Daddy's got a self-care routine???

Some do I'd wager. I've never given it much thought, then again I'm more likely to worry about someone else than myself most of the time. See Daddys fail at self care too.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Some do I'd wager. I've never given it much thought, then again I'm more likely to worry about someone else than myself most of the time. See Daddys fail at self care too.

Well, apparently!

What about self care when you don't have a little to worry over. I know daddy's need to be needed.

Do y'all take bubble baths and get pedicures like we do?
Brush up on a hobby or start a new one?

Daddy's need love tooooooo! Now I'm truly concerned and curious.

 

[HeavyBalls]

Well, apparently!

What about self care when you don't have a little to worry over. I know daddy's need to be needed.

Do y'all take bubble baths and get pedicures like we do?
Brush up on a hobby or start a new one?

Daddy's need love tooooooo! Now I'm truly concerned and curious.

It's been DECADES since I've had bubbles in my bath. Never had a pedicure or manicure for that matter...

I dare say we do indulge in other things when needed. Video games, toys, tools - powered or otherwise, model building etc. Well those are some of mine.

 

[barefootgirl69]

It's been DECADES since I've had bubbles in my bath. Never had a pedicure or manicure for that matter...

I dare say we do indulge in other things when needed. Video games, toys, tools - powered or otherwise, model building etc. Well those are some of mine.

Model building!
I think that's as relaxing as a little and her coloring book!
Because you can lose yourself in it.

 

[Lost_Yonder]

Well, apparently!

What about self care when you don't have a little to worry over. I know daddy's need to be needed.

Do y'all take bubble baths and get pedicures like we do?
Brush up on a hobby or start a new one?

Daddy's need love tooooooo! Now I'm truly concerned and curious.

Good questions! Sadly, like HB, I too fall short in doing for myself what I remind others to do for themselves. Perhaps we do have other "escapes" from which we find our joys, but too often in my case at least, work and career stresses consume me, even crippling my ability to do those things I find pleasure in. Except of course having a big bowl of ice cream every evening!

I've been wanting to go for a massage, but keep putting off as I have this deadline than that deadline to fulfill.

This Saturday I am taking off though and going on a short road trip to visit a very old friend who has lived 2 hours away from me and I have not yet visited in the 7 years he's lived there...

I'm trying to reflect back, but I do think I was better at self-care when I was involved with a little - she pushed me and reminded me of the things I needed to do.

 

[barefootgirl69]

Good questions! Sadly, like HB, I too fall short in doing for myself what I remind others to do for themselves. Perhaps we do have other "escapes" from which we find our joys, but too often in my case at least, work and career stresses consume me, even crippling my ability to do those things I find pleasure in. Except of course having a big bowl of ice cream every evening!

I've been wanting to go for a massage, but keep putting off as I have this deadline than that deadline to fulfill.

This Saturday I am taking off though and going on a short road trip to visit a very old friend who has lived 2 hours away from me and I have not yet visited in the 7 years he's lived there...

I'm trying to reflect back, but I do think I was better at self-care when I was involved with a little - she pushed me and reminded me of the things I needed to do.

I'm glad you're going to do that this weekend. You'll be amazed at how refreshing it will feel when you come back to work after relaxing and enjoying yourself, not to mention how greatit will be to spend time with your friend.

I understand about a little reminding you...we can be nurturing, too. And, we have your best interests at heart, cos we need you!

 

[HeavyBalls]

I understand about a little reminding you...we can be nurturing, too. And, we have your best interests at heart, cos we need you!

That would be the best way I can put it.

 

[DappleDoxie]

Tomorrow is the 9th anniversary of the worst loss in my life. We don't talk about it. I sailed through last year and fell off the rails a few months later. Huge.
Working on the "take care of me because there is no one else here to do it" - I am fixing my favorite lemon shrimp dish for dinner tonight. This is part of my goal this year of being a better me than last year
Tonight ... maybe tomorrow night - blankets and pillows and a movie(s) and lots of hot tea and maybe some pumpkin bread.
Tomorrow will be bitter cold (fitting), but my goal is to get out of the house and get some groceries and work some more on the fence for the horses. Busy mind, productive hands.

 

[HeavyBalls]

Tomorrow is the 9th anniversary of the worst loss in my life. We don't talk about it. I sailed through last year and fell off the rails a few months later. Huge.
Working on the "take care of me because there is no one else here to do it" - I am fixing my favorite lemon shrimp dish for dinner tonight. This is part of my goal this year of being a better me than last year
Tonight ... maybe tomorrow night - blankets and pillows and a movie(s) and lots of hot tea and maybe some pumpkin bread.
Tomorrow will be bitter cold (fitting), but my goal is to get out of the house and get some groceries and work some more on the fence for the horses. Busy mind, productive hands.

*hugs*

Loss is terrible. I don't know specifics, nor will I ask. I too know the pain of terrible loss. You're not alone. Your back is covered.

 

[DappleDoxie]

*hugs*

Loss is terrible. I don't know specifics, nor will I ask. I too know the pain of terrible loss. You're not alone. Your back is covered.

Thank you ... that, so much more that sympathy, is what is needed

 

[HeavyBalls]

Thank you ... that, so much more that sympathy, is what is needed

I know that feeling, sympathy, "God's will and all." Both got old fast. Untill friends who also went thru similar loss summed it up in a way that made sense.

 

[Lost_Yonder]

Tomorrow is the 9th anniversary of the worst loss in my life. We don't talk about it. I sailed through last year and fell off the rails a few months later. Huge.
Working on the "take care of me because there is no one else here to do it" - I am fixing my favorite lemon shrimp dish for dinner tonight. This is part of my goal this year of being a better me than last year
Tonight ... maybe tomorrow night - blankets and pillows and a movie(s) and lots of hot tea and maybe some pumpkin bread.
Tomorrow will be bitter cold (fitting), but my goal is to get out of the house and get some groceries and work some more on the fence for the horses. Busy mind, productive hands.

May you find a few moments of peace amidst the brewing storm.

Always remember to once in awhile just stop, look up and around, and breathe...