Daddy Doms....are there any real ones?

[Etoile]

Look, I know I don't have to explain myself to anyone, but him giving me the money is a form of subordinance in the first place. It emphasizes the unequality of the relationship, as in he provides the means for me to study, live, eat...has authority over me. Over any reward or punishment I receive. Just like my REAL father did when I lived with him. If you don't see the correlation here, that's your problem.

Oh, and as far as me misrepresenting something...are you kidding me? "HottieMama" 's screenname itself is the most misleading thing I've seen in my life.

Anyway, thanks so much to everyone who sent me PMs sympathizing with me over this ridiculous, incredibly self-righteous attack. It certainly helps raise my impression of the place.

This is even more evidence that you are talking about oranges. Apples have nothing to do with parenting. Your oranges are great, but the thread is about apples. Or was.

What is this with picking on a screenname? Are you saying she's not hot, or that she's not a mother? The first one is subjective, and the second...well, tell that to her toddler. Picking on a screenname is about as immature as it gets, IMHO.

I certainly haven't been attacking you. I've been trying to clarify that the thread is about apples and you are talking about oranges. That's all I'm doing. If you're feeling persecuted, that's your business.

 

[Chris_Xavier]

Another question:

If I had a relationship with H in which I was a spoilt out of control enfante terrible Dominant little girl who kicks her Daddy in the shins when he doesn't give me what I want, am I cheapening D/g?

Wouldn't that be a d/G relationship?

 

[Etoile]

Another question:

If I had a relationship with H in which I was a spoilt out of control enfante terrible Dominant little girl who kicks her Daddy in the shins when he doesn't give me what I want, am I cheapening D/g? Am I out to usurp other people's relationships?

As I see it everyone's responsible for their own stuff and people are going to do things radically differently from you and bend your label. It doesn't mean you get to be a dick because someone else is not the right kind of little.

I give up. I promised myself a while back that I wasn't going to participate in any more D/g threads, and I forgot about that promise. I respectfully bow out.

 

[Netzach]

DB....simply put, if she equates her relationship and my relationship, i feel it "cheapens" D/g as a whole. My relationship is about what i can/do give, not what i get. For what she has presented HERE, hers is about what she gets. To imply that all girls are "in it" for the money, sheds a VERY unflattering light on the group as a whole.

Just move around a few pronouns and this sounds exactly like a lot of people I know talking about Financial Domination. It's not the only fetish I have, but it's a major one and a valid one like anything else people choose to get into.

 

[Netzach]

Wouldn't that be a d/G relationship?

Well technically, sure. But let's say I wanted to talk to other girls about girl headspace, I don't think being treated like I have a case of hacking cough SARS is really that cool.

 

[Chris_Xavier]

Well technically, sure. But let's say I wanted to talk to other girls about girl headspace, I don't think being treated like I have a case of hacking cough SARS is really that cool.

I agree. I think somewhere in all the fuss, what I call the "Golden Rule of Lit" was put aside - "Thou shalt not judge another person's kink."

Then there is what I call the Vegas Rule - What happens on Lit, stays on Lit.

As far as your question goes, Netz, I have seen personals on here, placed by men begging for just what you suggested - a d/G relationship so obviously there is a want for G's just as you described.

 

[Netzach]

*sigh* I'm not here to piss of friends or anything of the sort. I just don't understand why this particular segment of the scene is this small closely patrolled tent when other ones are essentially forced to be this large YKIOK do it all your own way tent.

 

[Chris_Xavier]

*sigh* I'm not here to piss of friends or anything of the sort.

Never thought you were.. I was just commenting in general some of us have forgotten "to each his own"

 

[Etoile]

*sigh* I'm not here to piss of friends or anything of the sort. I just don't understand why this particular segment of the scene is this small closely patrolled tent when other ones are essentially forced to be this large YKIOK do it all your own way tent.

I'm not pissed off, and I haven't said that her situation is not okay. On the contrary I have said more than once that I think it's great and I would love to be in a setup like hers. I am just trying to say that what she describes is not D/g as I, or many others that I know, would describe it.

And yes, it is a sensitive issue for me, which is why I think I will not argue the point anymore.

 

[unfoundiamond]

Can you get him to let you call him Daddy is the question... lol

Hey peoples,

WTF is going on in this thread?

Finantial domination and D/lg or other version of that dynamic are totally seprate, and the fact that someone is into having a "Daddy" are totally diffrent.

And why do people always say its about some kind of gold digging,

I see this over and over, from the Anna Nichole reffrence (Rest her soul) to this latest connection between one example of a relationship with mixed dynamics, and all D/g dynamics...

This is Not Accurate! Not every Daddy is finantially supportive to his girl... and this doesn't mean girls, like me, are looking to be supported by a man... I work and go to school, and resent the implication we are all just gold diggers...

I don't mean to come off like a a*hole, but when you have to take it to a personal attack like that it doesn't make you sound cool to me...

And what's wrong with mommys?? I'm not following...

**hopes for end of crazyness**

Can't a girl just want a good honest man to teach her about life, and since they aren't related, and he isn't really her father anyway... if they... ever did...

Its incredibly taboo, but it makes sense to me... its not about him being nice or spoiling her either, its about him teaching her... and the admiration a girl can have for a person who has taught her things she couldn't seem to perfect on her own...

Its true, a man can be this kind of dominant and not realize it... and a lot that are, won't let you call them that...

Why can't you? Because of societal opinions and peoples own perverted historys...
What's so wrong with the idea of celebrating and romaticizing the fact that we give love and life.

For centuries people have worshipped idols which displayed and celebrated our womanhood and maternal forms as women, but to have relationship that celebrates and romaticizes fatherhood in men is wrong and bad? No. That's a double standard... IMO

The guy I wish more than anything I could play with, who is far, far, away... He definately has taught me a lot... I have known him my whole life, but, He talked to me for just one night, just being around other men reminded me that the way He is alone is so admirable and such a example to how men should be.

He is honest, and kind... sexy and intense... but never let go of control, even when temptation is laid out in his face, he never lost control... he never took advantage... and He could have...

People say its all about sex, or age play... but this man has taught me more about people, expression, and relationships than anyone ever has, even my own father... and He continues to inspire and motivate me all the way from up north... way more than my own father (who lives here)

I'd gladly call Boston, "Daddy" if he ever gave me the chance...

The only problem is he's my fathers best friend... so it might be a little weird for him...

He and I never had sex either, so all this Daddy stuff isn't about age play... a man can be a nurturing supportive dominant in the power exchange, without sharing that part of her... it can be whatever they want... it can even be the dynamics without the labels... if I have a rose and I call it something else... its still a rose... ect...

I just see all this bullshit, but the truth is...

YES, there are real Daddy type dominants... and it seems of the ones who do the whole example to men everywhere, I'd follow him into hell and smile just to be with him dominant thing... don't even know it...

I am the one who sees him as a Daddy... not my father, but my dream Daddy... **swooning and fawning**

 

[evesdream]

DB....simply put, if she equates her relationship and my relationship, i feel it "cheapens" D/g as a whole. My relationship is about what i can/do give, not what i get. For what she has presented HERE, hers is about what she gets. To imply that all girls are "in it" for the money, sheds a VERY unflattering light on the group as a whole.

It sounds like they both get their needs met through the way they treat the financial aspect of their relationship and the sort of obligation it seems to entail. Netzach described a couple of ways it could work, D/g or d/G...Since when is money not about power or support or peace of mind or all of the above? I think you're getting defensive because of the stigma around money and women generally.

 

[graceanne]

I agree. I think somewhere in all the fuss, what I call the "Golden Rule of Lit" was put aside - "Thou shalt not judge another person's kink."

*hear hear*

You pretty much said what I was trying to say in less words. *pouts*

 

[QueenPentacles]

Hmm interesting thread - Temperatures seem high enough in here without my input. 'Nuff said

 

[bonnie_baby]

So after a lot of reading and catching up, I've realized that you all have answered my question.

Yes there are real Daddy Doms out there...the trick is finding someone who wants the same thing. Nobody has a relationship that's right or wrong...and who cares if it fits into a certain category. Mutual love and respect and giving each other what they crave is the most important thing.

I'm glad some of you have found what you are looking for. That does make me hopeful

 

[Chris_Xavier]

Good luck in your search.

 

[GentleSub_Ivy]

Just saw this thread and my it's taken a lot of turns.

I just wanted to say good luck. I believe it is possible to find what you are looking for.

 

[bonnie_baby]

I thought Unfounddiamond(hope I pselt that correctly) hasa very crystal piece of writign back there. Very heart felt and yes everyone shodl not be pigeon holed.
Not all Daddy's are Doms. Some of us wear our hearts on our sleaves and get hurt. I think there are men out there. Even though looking for an on line relationship, that now, find it too hard, too painful, to love and to loose, somethimes is worse than never having loved at all....
So maybe patience, and a little time, your Daddy will step forth and hold your hand.
I wish you luck, in a very elegant & meaningful lifestyle.

J3

Thank you for your reply. It reaffirms that a place like this has people with real feelings and not afraid to show it.

Peace..

 

[bonnie_baby]

thanks to everyone else as well....you are all wonderful people

 

[otter09]

Best of luck

Bonnie best of luck in your search young lady