Ok so I've just recently stumbled onto the whole shemale and trans female thing but found that after a few porns I have became intreaged by it and I've never actually seen a shemale or trans female in person but would like to and I also would like to chat with some on here and trade pics of trade videos cause I find it really hot to watch as they jack off and then see the cum shooting out from their cocks
Curious about trans females
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I always notice when guys say tranny or shemale or tgirl etc. I guess it comes from porn. If they are truly interested, hopefully they can learn.
I say shemale to specify which transgender in particular I am looking or or referring to and yes it does come from porn cuz as stated in the post I've never seen or met one before and the whole point in me wanting to chat with one is to learn more about it just cuz someone don't know everything about it don't mean they're not interested truly
As someone who has been in a relationship with a beautiful transgender woman for four years, my advice to you would be to forget everything you have ever seen in porn. The reality is better than porn because it’s with a real person.
Mikey1970
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I had thought for a few days about to approach this as a cisman and married I'm older and my best is a transmale so I do have some experience It's not like I'm dealing with a prom night or anything at anything...then I started doing some research and opened Pandora's box...why on earth!!! so apparently on behalf of every Cisman out there jerking off watching porn and going Tgirls, tranny; what have you. I'm so sorry! we are fucking stupid!!! and honestly and Not even lying about the possibility of meeting and having a sit-down meal with a Tranwoman and getting to know her as a person, treating her like I would treat any other woman, accepting she has emotions and feelings and I have to be respectful and respect that. My choices are not her responsibility. At least that's my take on it...I could be wrong
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A litle knowledge is dangerous. 'Shemale' is NOT always a derogatory word, it really depends on how you use it.
It’s not always a derogatory word? When is it ok to use it?
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I was out to my wife, and she was OK with me being bisexual. However, she was not ok with me having sex with other women. One time she asked me if I found Trans women attractive. I confessed I found the combination of breasts and cock very exciting.
I never got with a Trans women as my wife was not sure how she would feel about it. We had a good arrangement, and I did not want to disturb it.
I never got with a Trans women as my wife was not sure how she would feel about it. We had a good arrangement, and I did not want to disturb it.
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my room mate is a tans girl. we work on the same shift and she has a boy friend who knows that and she has surgically removed her penis testes and left it blank with a hole to pee. her bf doesnt mind and they are happy and since he likes an lsex and she provides wha he likes as often and as many times he wants when they meet. i usually go out when he plans to visit. she shares how they love each other and the sex they have and how they are mad for each other etc.
They sound like an excellent match. Good for them to have found each other!
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I think it'd more depened on who you use it with, than how you use it. I've never really met any transwomen that would be okay with the word, because I assume to them it screams fetish, which at least the non prostitute ones don't wanna be seen as. I used to go to monthly cd/trans sex parties and not even there would you really ever hear shemale, at the most you might hear tranny- not that it's any better. I don't see them trying to reclaim the word either. Even if there are situations outside of porn searches you could use it, doesn't make it any less derogatory. Just because I can say nigga all day and the right people won't bat an eye, nomatter how I use it, doesn't make it less derogatory, because common practice.
As far as my transgender girlfriend is concerned the only acceptable term is transgender woman. Or just plain woman. So that’s how one Filipina woman feels.
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Welcome to the real world
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My brain seems to be wired to look for outliers and exceptions to the rules.
Minorities of many stripes often use words considered offensive to reclaim them and take the power out of the insults. It can be jarring to some but that’s part of the point - to take ownership and remove the shock and shame.
What is shameful about being a “shemale”? or a “t-girl”? If that resonates with you why not use it? Why let the people who hate define it?
I’m “queer”. Back in grade school we played games called “smear the queer” and it was only used as an insult, along with “gay” or “dyke”.
Those words no longer have as much power as insults because some people have taken back ownership of them.
I understand that it’s a very different issue when someone is using it derogatorily but that’s when reclaiming it is the most powerful.
I was at a protest with my lesbian crew when a guy in a monster truck rolled by shouting “You’re all a bunch of pussies!”
My butch friend Liz yelled back “Damn right we’re pussies! Pussy Power!”
The entire scene cheered that, even some of the cops.
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AlwaysDissingDaddies
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I recommend coming in contact with t-girls for the reasons I described here:
https://forum.literotica.com/threads/trans-escorts.1584101/page-3#post-97594719
They are different than DNA women but for me... it was even better
Like the best of both words! 
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One of my best friends is transfemme and she uses tgirl as shorthand, but she’s told me it’s like: trans women can refer to the group within the community as almost anything they want. (Exceptions being tranny and transsexual because gender does not equal sexuality) but it’s best for you to ask what they’re cool with. I’m part of a lesbian community that has a lot of transfemme women, and trans woman or trans girl is the most common thing, but they’re all pretty cool and I’ve never seen any of them get upset by designations. They’re WAY more upset when they’re misgendered.
So if you want to meet a girl that was assigned male at birth, you can ask to meet a trans girl or trans woman and you “should” be in the clear. But if you need there to be a penis involved… be careful how you proceed. You can’t know what’s under the hood, and be ready to commit a massive violation if you ask. Unless she’s advertising herself for sex and showing you, getting to know her means you maybe like her for her, and she might trust you enough to get her panties off.
Basically how women are, generally speaking.
So if you want to meet a girl that was assigned male at birth, you can ask to meet a trans girl or trans woman and you “should” be in the clear. But if you need there to be a penis involved… be careful how you proceed. You can’t know what’s under the hood, and be ready to commit a massive violation if you ask. Unless she’s advertising herself for sex and showing you, getting to know her means you maybe like her for her, and she might trust you enough to get her panties off.
Basically how women are, generally speaking.
Good post. A nice dose of reality to counter the porn induced craziness regarding trans women.
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Trans girl <raises hand> I agree with all of this.
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Love this honest discussion!
I've been chastised for saying transvestite, might be an American thing.
Even sissy can be considered derogatory. As a sissy myself, I love the term.
Shemale, TV, TS, and sissy are common enough and accepted in Europe, usually. Xoxo
I've been chastised for saying transvestite, might be an American thing.
Even sissy can be considered derogatory. As a sissy myself, I love the term.
Shemale, TV, TS, and sissy are common enough and accepted in Europe, usually. Xoxo
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Cultures do as cultures do. State-side, I still process a lot of patriarchal shame about being a trans girl. Don’t get me wrong - being a girl is amazing, and if I was told I could be a cis male comfortable in my skin or a trans female, I would choose the latter every time. But the shame we carry, at least for me, practically demands blending in. The older terminology is very showy and calls attention to us. I think the response to these designations is different by trans girl. I use tgirl to describe myself sometimes, but other trans women feel that is a fetishized title…
To be fair, this does seem to be a fetish thread.
But honestly, it’s all part of the territory. Trans women are better off being our own thing and not trying to hard to disappear into the female world … and goddamn if that isn’t a hard pill to swallow, but if we can do it, maybe we’ll feel like we belong to the special class of human, trans women, who fought for our girlhood instead of always feeling like outsiders because it wasn’t granted to us outright.
