Cuckhold

[eiivc]

Is this something WOMEN like or more a couples thing?

 

[Raine D8]

Is this something WOMEN like or more a couples thing?

From your question, I am gussing you don't quite understand it, yet. How do you define it?

 

[RPguy]

what a wierd question. it's not a woam, man, or couples thing at all.. Its a personal thing that may be shared.

 

[xfwas]

I know but do not know

 

[BedtimeStories77]

Delete.

 

[Mr. Mann]

I think, like all things... it likely depends.

It's not a "thing" for me, but I can sort of imagine the thrill of having my wife come home with tales of a date with someone else. Not as a humiliation thing.. but more of a "Tell me about your date." - with me getting sort of a vicarious thrill, maybe being excited that others also find my wife as intoxicating and attractive as I do, and also hearing about my wife being a physical and sexual person outside of our relationship.

She's been out with a few girls, and I was surprised that I actually got a kick out of it. I wouldn't have a problem if it was a guy.. as long as I knew he was a good guy.

If it was a secret thing, though... to me, THAT would be a betrayal. Our rule is no one else without permsission (or better yet, the inclusion) of the other. Even without permsission (worst case scenario) the other person MUST know. No lies.

As to me cuckholding another man's wife... I gotta admit, the idea of that is totally hot. Adding on to an existing physical attraction the naughtiness and secrecy - and the compliment of being something for her that she isn't getting from her chosen. Yeah... big ego stroke, I gotta admit.

Talk about an ego boost! Having a hot married woman come on to you is ... HARD to resist.

"Must resist!.... Super .....powers.... fading.... getting....weaker.....must.... get..... away...."

I think my wife kind of likes the idea that her guy would be "such a catch" as to tempt a married woman, too!

 

[leavessnailtrails]

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[Snowman5933]

I'm still trying to understand the definition of "cuckhold". Can someone explain?

 

[Caitlynne]

Well, this sort of explains it in BDSM terms.

The term has made a resurgence starting in the late 20th century amongst couples where a dominant female takes on additional partners, while a submissive male is either monogamous to her, denied sex altogether, or only performs oral sex on her. Most female-dominant couples who practice cuckolding tend to be in their thirties or older, usually with a mere "toyboy".

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[Snowman5933]

Thanks for clearing that up for me. That is definately not the fantasy that I am involved in.

Snowman

 

[BedtimeStories77]

Thanks for clearing that up for me. That is definately not the fantasy that I am involved in.

Snowman

Then what fantasy are you involved in?

 

[amysecret]

Well it seems the thread is already dead but being new here and wanting to contribute I thought I would add my $.02.

Like any fantasy it appeals to some and not to others. It definatly appeals to me both from an erotic phsychological and the physical perspective.

Phsychologically a lot of D/s subjects can arouse me cuckold or is it cuckhold? is one of the most intense to magine. I am inexperienced enough to be very confused about if I am domme or sub. I am comfortable enought with the fantasies to feel the realm of sexual powerplays, having, and giving erotic control is overwhemling and wonderful. Imagining the tension subtle progress of crossing the committmen boundry seems like one of the ultimate tranfers of power.


Physically it would be nice to have other sexual experiences without the guilt of cheating. I guess that counts as physcological too so now I am confusing myself. I doubt I helped but at least I tried and that is a big step for me.

 

[FurryFury]

To have the kind of trust to add another sexually, into your relationship is to me, a pretty wonderful thing.

To want to fuck others is common. To want to be fucked by more than one is also a common fantasy.

Oh, and to not be sure if you are a Top/bottom, Domme/sub/slave or what have you, is also very common at first. Exploring and learning is a lovely part of your journey in life. When you are far enough along the answers will be clearer.

Enjoy the journey!

Fury

 

[Snowman5933]

Then what fantasy are you involved in?

It's a MMF (Me, My Wife, and Our Best Friend) fantasy that began after I told my wife that I wanted to watch her have sex with another man. After many discussions between the three of us, I got to live this fantasy and watch her with our friend...it was great. I would like it to become a threesome (I must point out that everyone is straight...no bi-sexual fantasies) someday, but I'm not pushing it at this time.

Snwoman

 

[raven2]

It's a MMF (Me, My Wife, and Our Best Friend) fantasy that began after I told my wife that I wanted to watch her have sex with another man. After many discussions between the three of us, I got to live this fantasy and watch her with our friend...it was great. I would like it to become a threesome (I must point out that everyone is straight...no bi-sexual fantasies) someday, but I'm not pushing it at this time.

Snwoman

My wife and I have been involved in 3-somes and 4-somes over the years. In our experiences everyone was straight and we had some wonderful times. We have had two this year, one MFM which has been the norm for us (she really likes double penetration, basically passed out once hyperventillating) and in the last one was our first FMF and I got to live out a few of my long held fantasies. It was wonderful. You don't have to have bisexual fantasies for everyone to enjoy, but all three must be comfortable with what is going on or it can be dissapointing. Good luck.

 

[BedtimeStories77]

It's a MMF (Me, My Wife, and Our Best Friend) fantasy that began after I told my wife that I wanted to watch her have sex with another man. After many discussions between the three of us, I got to live this fantasy and watch her with our friend...it was great. I would like it to become a threesome (I must point out that everyone is straight...no bi-sexual fantasies) someday, but I'm not pushing it at this time.

Snwoman

Sounds fun.

 

[raven2]

Sounds fun.

Oh believe me, things like this are a lot of fun.

 

[BedtimeStories77]

Delete.

 

[amysecret]

I can understand the attraction to such a lifestyle though.

Me too

 

[Never]

Spelling buddy sez:
cuckold

It's a variation on the French word for 'cuckoo,' a species in which the female lays her eggs in the nest of other birds and which, in folklore, has a reputation for unfaithfulness.

 

[roomfor1more]

I will try to define cuckolding as I understand it. My definition has two different but similar meanings. The core of both definition is that it is a variation of a threesome but the difference is how that variation is expressed. First definition seems to be the more tradition definition whereby one partner, usually the woman, has sex with someone outside of the relationship with her partner's knowledge and consent. Some will say cuckolding is a part of Domination / Submission BDSM play whereby a dominant woman seeks sex with someone other than her partner in order to humiliate him with his consent. At least for me I will agree with that interpretation to a point but I do believe it is not always about humiliation. Instead I do believe it can be voyeur type of experience where it is relived and the experience is used by the couple to enhance foreplay. This means that there is no humiliation component to it and it done as equals. Also it means there is an open relationship most likely where one individual remains monogamous and for it to meet this definition it has to go beyond the mere act of humiliation. Lastly it means that this is an ongoing activity that in some ways can be said to be a lifestyle choice. Therefore couples who equate cuckold with humiliation, especially when there is no sex with someone outside of the relationship, I would disagree with them.

Second definition of cuckolding I believe falls within the full threesome variation. This type of cuckolding is a short-term experience where one member of the couple, again typically the woman, goes off and has sex with someone else. Again, this is done with their partner's full knowledge and consent. Unlike the first definition it is not a lifestyle type of choice, it is not a long-term activity, and it done only briefly, usually as a one off situation. Reason for this type of experience is most likely to provide an enhancement for foreplay, it could also be something that has evolved from having a few threesome experiences where the boundaries of exploration is pushed, or it may be to resolve a "what it would be like to..." question. In any of those three cases the couple does not make the activity an integral part of the relationship and it is much easier for them to disengage from the activity.

In either situation cuckolds, I feel, are more risky than a typical threesome due to the risk of developing feelings and not properly managing the situation. Therefore I feel there is nothing wrong with wanting to have the experience but they need to carefully consider it before undertaking it.

 

[Stella_Omega]

room, you are actually talking about a variation of open marriage; http://www.polyamory.org/

The humiliation is the defining element in cuck, whether real or feigned. To go back to OP, all these years later-- Has anyone seen a cuck relationship that was actually the woman's idea in the first place?

I haven't.

 

[Felix_Jones]

room, you are actually talking about a variation of open marriage; http://www.polyamory.org/

The humiliation is the defining element in cuck, whether real or feigned. To go back to OP, all these years later-- Has anyone seen a cuck relationship that was actually the woman's idea in the first place?

I haven't.

You mean to say that you've never seen a relationship where the woman is unfaithful?

 

[twister947]

You mean to say that you've never seen a relationship where the woman is unfaithful?

Exactly.

Women who are disinclined to be unfaithful are generally not likely to see the appeal of the cuckold lifestyle; neither are adulteresses. With rare exceptions, it's a male kink.

 

[Stella_Omega]

You mean to say that you've never seen a relationship where the woman is unfaithful?

I have certainly seen women who step out on their husbands without permission or discussion. I've certainly seen a few of those where the woman stays in the marriage because-- usually-- kids, and once-- money. That's what I call unfaithful.

I've never seen a successful relationship, where both partners are happy, where one partner's activities are defined as "Unfaithful."

I've seen open relationships-- I'm in one going on thirty-five years-- where one partner, or the other, or both, have outside partners sometimes or a lot of the time.

I've seen cucks a plenty, where the man can rabbit on endlessly about the bulls his wife brings home, (or more honestly, he brings home to his wife) and which pair of panties he wears while he takes the pictures of them together

(and actually, there's another word that isn't in much use right now, which is "wittold" meaning a man who knows his wife has a lover and is just fine with it)