Confession/Question

[Suzins]

Here's the thing. For various reasons I haven't been involved in a sexual relationship with anybody other than myself LOL for about 10 years. Recently however, lucky me, I have met somebody and oh my god I got laid. I had no clue what I've been missing.

I remember reading a post that Bombi made statements about what great lovers the nerds make...I'm gonna have to agree..but anywho, on to why I'm here.

It seems that he can get me really excited, and sitting right on the edge. Now here's the problem. I get too impatient and just go ahead and take over and make myself cum. For the past decade I haven't had to wait for anybody to make me cum, I'd just do it myself. I'm quite good like that LOL

Short of tying my hands (which could definitely be an option eventually) does anybody have any suggestions as to how I can become more patient and wait for him to make it happen. I hope I'm not crushing his ego by pulling the "move out of the way" bit LOL I guess I'm just concerned that after me being the soul provider of the orgasm for myself that nobody else can do it right. I welcome any and all ideas...anything I test drive this Saturday would be helpful LOL

 

[Bobmi357]

I remember reading a post that Bombi made statements about what great lovers the nerds make...I'm gonna have to agree..but anywho, on to why I'm here.

BOMBI???? BOMBI????

LOL!

Its B O B M I



However getting to the meat of your post. You've spent the last 10 yrs pleasing yourself, and now you find yourself impatient while someone pleases you? No biggie, first off, why aren't you using your hands on your lover?

Secondly you could try something along the lines of "Damnit all, make me cum stud!". It will be a big boost to his ego, and you'll get what you want. PLUS he probably hasn't cum yet so you'll end up getting it again.

It takes a while to break old habits, but some habits are worth breaking. And if you start now communicating your needs to him, then you won't have problems in the future talking about sex with him. Tell him what you want, and how you want it. He'll be more than happy to give it to you, and be less reluctant to tell you what he wants. In effect, by setting a good communicative example, if he has half a brain, he'll follow suit.

 

[ffemtp]

Draw him a road map. I'm sure he can follow it.

 

[Suzins]

I'm so sorry about the name thing LOL I'm positive it was a typing issue though. And not a very good proof read LOL

But communication doesn't seem to be the problem. I'm as shocked as you are about that LOL I can say what ever I want and am completely comfortable doing so. And vice versa. And don't get me wrong, I'm doing alot of touching too, I'm not saying I don't get selfish LOL It's all new and very overwhelming still. So communicating when I can't even think straight is difficult.

Again...sorry about the name.

 

[fgarvb1]

One word.


Handcuffs.

 

[SexyChele]

You use the word "confession" in your title, and I'm wondering if you've told this man how many years it's been for you. Talk to him and let him know you would love for him to make you orgasm, but it's been so many years and feels so good that you are having difficulty stopping yourself. I'm betting that you will eventually "catch up" and slow down a bit and things will be fine. However, you do want to ease his ego and let him know it's not him.

Oh, and I can relate. I went 6 years without sex of any kind, and when I finally broke down it was simply incredible!

 

[Limbhugger]

Hiya Suzins,

I really don't see this as much of a problem. It isn't that he isn't pleasing you and it isn't that you can't cum. It's just the way you cum.

I've been married to the same wonderful lady for nearly 16 years and she almost always brings herself to orgasm. Well the first one anyway. After that they just kinda flow.

Whether we're having intercourse, or I'm jyust teasing and touching, or when I go down on her, it almost always end with either her fingers or her little vibe on her clit for that last little bit of umph to put her over the edge. She can cum with me alone but like you, gets impatient.

Doesn't bother me in the slightest. Afterall, watching her get off is what really does it for me.

But if you are still commited to letting him put you over the top, I'd go with the hand tying.

Hugger

 

[Suzins]

Thanks everybody for not making me feel totally dumb. And yes he knew how long it had been for me and all the why's behind that. He was more aprehensive about it than I was. I seem to have a talent for being brutally honest. So it's not like there is a communication breakdown problem, so far it's all good. I'm sure you're probably right about "catching up" and slowing down LOL I'll be the first to admit I've got alot to learn.

I'm glad to hear from Hugger i'm not alone on this, and that his wife is another member of the club LOL

I'm thinking the handcuffs are a good idea though...but I get to cuff him first

 

[The_old_man]

Oral? If he eats you out 'till you have climaxed two or three times the edge would be off. I usually get my wife off at least twice during foreplay. She loves having her nipples tweaked, gets her off almost as quick as insertion.

A nice slow sixty-nine is also good for two or four good climaxes.