Coming out to spouse

[Travler99921]

If you have come out to your spouse, tell us how you did it and how it went. Here is a bit of my story.

I came out before my first gay encounter. I did it that way because if she strongly reacted in a negative way l still might be able to resist having gay sex. That was probably a forlorn hope. I had no idea how she would react.

After our initial conversation, many other conversations followed. Most of them were her gaining more information. After about a month, over dinner, she told me I could go ahead and meet with a man for sex. There were some provisos. All them were acceptable to me. Infact I had already included some of them in what I would or would not do

Two of them did surprise me. One was I would meet only with married men. The other surprise was that I would let her know what happened at every meeting.

What is your story?

 

[Britva415]

I came out the day we met.

 

[ericalauren]

I’ve never come out to a partner. I had a boyfriend when I was 19/20. I dumped him after maybe 6 weeks because he was abusive. I never came out to him. Then I dated a wonderful person when I was 30 years old. They knew before we dated that I’m asexual and nonbinary. I’m still close friends with this person, fwiw.

 

[partsecond]

I did to my ex wife. Didn't go well, but honestly, she tried for a very shor time. We divorced, but not over that.

Then I did to my GF. That went very well.

 

[PFWilly]

I came out as bisexual to my lady on our third or fourth date. Probably on our fourth. I don’t remember exactly, since that was almost 58 years ago. But, we had a deep connection and mutual trust. She also told me around the same time about the special relationship she’d had with her grandfather. Trust is two way street.

 

[SuperSissy]

Never told a GF or my wife. I was married for 25 years and hooking up with men most of the marriage, and she never knew. Now in a monogamous relationship with a woman and she doesn't know. I guess I could have found women who would be ok with my bisexuality, but it's my secret, and I guess I never wanted to share.

 

[TrailerHitch]

My bi desires came out when we began discussing the thought of an open marriage. To my surprise she was like if that's what you want go for it. Complete and total understanding of my needs and desires, just as I understood her needs and desires to experience sex with other men.

 

[Funguy63]

My second wife knows I have had my cock sucked by guys before her and finds it hot. In 2023 I told her I might be BI and she laughed it off. Then recently I again told her, and it sunk in. She had alot of questions and concerns but now accepts I like the D. We joke and she even bought me a dildo of my own. She is still coming to terms of the idea of me wanting to be a cock sucker and maybe turning full gay, but communication is important. I don't like men, just want to suck the cock.

 

[ChrissyCD64]

She already knew when we met. Her dad introduced us after I sucked him off at my dad's poker party.

 

[FeelingLikeMyself]

Told my ex-wife and it didn't go well. Even though when we moved in together I had a bag of panties, dildos and trans porn on DVD with me. The divorce was final in April.

I told my current girlfriend on the 2nd or 3rd phonecall. I was struggling with weather or not I should tell her, but I didn't want to waste another multiple year stint hiding who I am. Honesty is our #1 rule out of like 3. It's working out really well so far.

 

[bobb64]

If you have come out to your spouse, tell us how you did it and how it went. Here is a bit of my story.

I came out before my first gay encounter. I did it that way because if she strongly reacted in a negative way l still might be able to resist having gay sex. That was probably a forlorn hope. I had no idea how she would react.

After our initial conversation, many other conversations followed. Most of them were her gaining more information. After about a month, over dinner, she told me I could go ahead and meet with a man for sex. There were some provisos. All them were acceptable to me. Infact I had already included some of them in what I would or would not do

Two of them did surprise me. One was I would meet only with married men. The other surprise was that I would let her know what happened at every meeting.

What is your story?

when i thought i was coming out to my wife all she said was she had always known.

 

[Biguy77578]

I've told this account on on the threads but this specifically addresses the questions.

 

[Biguy77578]

I've told this account on on the threads but this specifically addresses the questions.

Before we married we had outrageous sex marathons on the weekends. We liked watching porn during these sessions. One video featured 2 men and a woman. In one sceen one of the men began sucking the other. My future wife asked me if I would ever do that. In the heat of the moment I told her I would and that I already had in fact many times. She insisted I tell her about it. Then I revealed my bisexuallity to her.

 

[SPARTAN047]

This was okay with some women or even men I dated but they were too interested in hooking up. In some cases I was the one who wanted to keep hooking up with others though.

 

[TrailerHitch]

Honestly not having to sneak around or worry about getting caught is fucking awesome!

 

[Biguy77578]

Honestly not having to sneak around or worry about getting caught is fucking awesome!

Only if you have nothing to lose.

 

[TrailerHitch]

Only if you have nothing to lose.

If your marriage is so bad you have nothing to lose why are you still married?

 

[storypost603]

I had one bi experience before I met my girlfriend / now wife 42 years later now I have had those feeling of wanting to do it again. She knows and in the last few years we had had several discussions about me wanting to suck a guy and have him fuck me. I think she really wants to watch me do it but has not come to terms with it all the way as of yet. I have even done some crossdressing in the last few years that she is ok with.

 

[HotLoadLover]

The ONLY people who know I suck cock -- besides the good folks here on Literotica -- are the men who've had their cocks in my mouth.

 

[Biguy77578]

If your marriage is so bad you have nothing to lose why are you still married?

I'm not speaking about me because I have an awsome open relationship but there are things other than relationships that can be effected by being "caught" as you put it. Such as families and jobs.

 

[TallOne]

Told my wife I was bi on our 3rd date. She is also bi and was totally cool with it. We got into swinging before we got married and she helped me suck my first cock. Been together 25 years now. A few bumps in the road along the way caused by our own insecurities, but we're always honest with each other and we get through it and I wouldn't trade her for the world.

 

[CdKimMajick]

I've told every SO I have had including my 3 wives right off the bat. Since I wear panties all the time even back then I needed to explain the collections

 

[PFWilly]

Told my wife on our third date that I’d had fun with some other guys. It wasn’t a deal breaker…lol.

Over the years, it’s become sort of a fascination for her. She loves talking about it, unfortunately won’t actually participate in real life, even though it really gets her off. LOL

 

[TrailerHitch]

I'm not speaking about me because I have an awsome open relationship but there are things other than relationships that can be effected by being "caught" as you put it. Such as families and jobs.

Well of course jobs, friends, family can be affected by your lifestyle choice. My comment about sneaking around or getting caught referred to trying to hide your behavior from your spouse. My wife knows but no one else in my life does. I am very discrete and don't flaunt my bi-sexuality to the rest of the world. To everyone else I am still the same as I always was.

 

[luvslingerie200]

The ONLY people who know I suck cock -- besides the good folks here on Literotica -- are the men who've had their cocks in my mouth.

same here