Cliques...

[HottieMama]

Breathe and use your words.

You just reminded me of conversations i have with my 3 yr old.

 

[intothewoods]

You just reminded me of conversations i have with my 3 yr old.

Where do you think I got the idea?

Btw, speaking of ranting and raving, I did just give Chris a talking to in the nightcap thread. But he's dicussing white zinfandel. Come on! A girl has limits.

 

[intothewoods]

shrug, i wouldn't even go that far.

do what you want, people i have the power to laugh at you all.

Well, sure, no one has to listen me. In fact, I don't think most people do. But that has never stopped me.

 

[NALA CAYENNE]

I answered yes.. because I do think there are cliques. For the most part, they're just harmless collections of friends who share a common interest or have met in person and share a bond. While I dont think they're "malicious", heaven help you if you disagree with one member or appear to clash with one because then they all dump on you.

Couldn't have said this better myself

I have to admit though that the clique I'm part of (V, Fi, Sinn, Homburg, Malin) keeps my spirits up when I need it most. They also always remind me when I'm wrong or being a bitch about something and I value that quality in my friends.

I love you guys!

 

[graceanne]

You just reminded me of conversations i have with my 3 yr old.

ROFL I say those words to mine, too.

 

[HB1965]

I think it's a matter of perspective. Even as a newbie I didn't perceive cliques here. I still don't. I just see some people who naturally gravitate toward one another.

 

[nh23]

I voted other. I guess I don't really pay that much attention to it. I know to me it's just like R/L there are personalities I like..and ones I don't. I tend to identify more with personalities that are like my own. I myself never worry about clique's. To worry over it means you desperately want to be a part of it. And I don't.. I'm the type that's more comfortable alone..than with others..I don't really care that much about social acceptance

 

[unfoundiamond]

Oh, (simple misunderstanding here)

Actually I'm rarely in the calender - and I know I'm considered part of the 'clique'. Not showing up in the calender doesn't mean that lit's cliquey.

I don't think you understood what I ment, I said to look to the calendar for evidence of cliques,

you aren't going to find people who aren't in the calendar, IN the calendar, so... how can I be talking about NOT being in the calendar means lits cliquey...

I was saying you can see WHO IS IN WHAT clique by looking at the calendar...

I couldn't have been in the last calendar anyways and haven't said much in 08... so I don't expect to be in the calendar, but I did read it, and I wondered why there arent more people being quoted...

(before that I figured only chosen people could nominate stuff...now I know and plan to submit something good I see)

I see how people who are online most/longest, will post most and participate most, causing more time for friendships and posts ect... But...

The way I can disagree with one person and other people will begin popping up like little parrots and "squoaaaack"-ing at me proves there are cliques.

And Trust me, I find my place... I figure people will come around when they do, and people eventually do... or they don't...

I guess Lit is cliquey... I mean, I have a group of people on here I talk to and cyberstalk their posts and threads, posting regularly... so maybe I am cliquey too...
I don't fight their battles for them, and they wipe their own asses, thank god...

but hey... to each his own...

 

[Chicklet]

ROFL I say those words to mine, too.

unfortunately those words are usually directed at me by the men in my life

 

[Homburg]

I just don't see it. I'm not part of any cliques that I'm aware of, and can't say that I've seen any specific cliques. Maybe I'm blind, or maybe I lack some sort of complex/awareness of that sort of social structure.

 

[h_i_s]

No cliques. No thanks. Err..well, others might so I pick 'other' as my answer.

I picked other.

I've always been friendly and not one to put up with snotty or snobby attitudes whether directed at me or at others.

I've never been the clique kind.

I have friends. I don't have cliques.

How we answer this poll will depend pretty much on how we define clique, what we feel it means to us. Clique to me is like a dumb highly guarded club that only very select people can join. I'm more the type to leave the club door wide open for all. I'm the weirdo who talks to the newbs, too. The more the merrier, I like to say.

Not opposed to telling a few to go fuck themselves, if they turn out to be what I just can't tolerate aka my idea of 'undesireable' (dishonest, fake,snotty, snobby, two-faced, holier-than-though, conceited, etc ect ..) .

 

[h_i_s]

The way I can disagree with one person and other people will begin popping up like little parrots and "squoaaaack"-ing at me proves there are cliques. ...

It proves that others disagree with you, just as you disagree with another. That's what it proves.

Either that or it proves that you expect to be entitled to disagree and don't expect others to feel they are entitled to that same right.

People can disagree and do and have here for ages.....and long before all these 'clique discussion' threads ever existed in the Cafe.

ETA: And how long a person has been a member means shit. I've seen some very well liked people who have been here way longer than most get called out by the majority all on one single thread.... because they DISAGREED with that one person. I recall ONE that drew half of the Genral Board over here too, and they joined in on the flaming of that well liked person who on the surface appeared to be 'cliquish'.... And that person was pretty well liked and their opinions well respected too.

Cliques my ass ... baaaah. Bunch of bologny... BS.

 

[LadyAria]

I chose other. I don't have a clique here. I don't have a clique on mydungeonspace. I don't have a clique in my local rl group. However, I do see lines drawn between groups of people with certain preferences.

I don't call it a clique. I call it common interests.

*shrug*

I know not everyone agrees.

 

[doveofserenity]

I answered yes.. because I do think there are cliques. For the most part, they're just harmless collections of friends who share a common interest or have met in person and share a bond. While I dont think they're "malicious", heaven help you if you disagree with one member or appear to clash with one because then they all dump on you.

Agrees with Fi, and voted yes.

i remember another thread where this was discussed a few months ago. Back then, it just seemed everyone was in some clique or another.

But looking back, that was just thru a newbies eyes. It takes a long time for a newbie to feel comfortable and at ease; well enough to discuss the different things going on.

And the "cliques" per say, are just groups that have either met in r/l; or are online at the same time and gotten to know each other better than others, or feel that their kinks are the same, so they tend to blend better with each other; than with others they don't know.

As far as the "in crowd", due to my (somewhat) shyness, and the fact i keep a lot about myself private; i will never be part of the "in crowd", and don't truly care to be. Just because i feel that certain things within my life are personal and private; and not open to view by the world. ~shrugs~

 

[h_i_s]

AMEN.... This is essentially what i was getting at.

TO ME...It seems like lately if you aren't kissing the right ass around here, there isn't a place for you.

Sit with me over here HottiMama. I got a place for you.
No ass kissing required.

 

[intothewoods]

If everyone just got together to kiss MY ass, there would be no problem.

I'm a uniter, not a divider.


Peace out. I'm going to sleep. Don't form any cliques while I'm gone!

 

[ammre]

if this place was a High School, I'd be the kid jumping out the bathroom window and ditching most of class.
I' not a huge fan of fluff, I don't think clique is the right word, but I know for a fact that if i see fluff or flirting or other stuff like that i disregard it, and more often then not there are a few specific people who I notice echo my opinions. Maybe by specifically tuning into them or by joining in on whatever side of a discussion they are on (becasue I happen to be too) I could see people considering that cliqueish.

 

[unfoundiamond]

oooh LOOK, a serpent.... ...........oh, and A SNAKE...too... haha

I picked other.

I've always been friendly and not one to put up with snotty or snobby attitudes whether directed at me or at others.

I've never been the clique kind.

I have friends. I don't have cliques.

How we answer this poll will depend pretty much on how we define clique, what we feel it means to us. Clique to me is like a dumb highly guarded club that only very select people can join. I'm more the type to leave the club door wide open for all. I'm the weirdo who talks to the newbs, too. The more the merrier, I like to say.

Not opposed to telling a few to go fuck themselves, if they turn out to be what I just can't tolerate aka my idea of 'undesireable' (dishonest, fake,snotty, snobby, two-faced, holier-than-though, conceited.

-so I take it you spend the day telling yourself to go fuck yourself.

I don't care how cool Lit makes you think you are, but you where a complete bitch to me for no reason,

I am nice to people. YOU are the only person I have had a problem with bothering me at Lit.

(I am aware a few other people avoid my posts or don't like my views) You are the only person here who is immature enough to (in your PAST POSTS) turn a discussion and possible disagrement into a personal attack.

Funny thing is Net has an opionion about people who come into a thread and disagree with everyone and claim free speach...
And I believe you, not Twyst, are really that kind of person.

What was it you called me... Oh YES
ATTENTION WHORE.... Ha!! You'd know wouldn't you...

Bahahahaha....

 

[Netzach]

if this place was a High School, I'd be the kid jumping out the bathroom window and ditching most of class.
I' not a huge fan of fluff, I don't think clique is the right word, but I know for a fact that if i see fluff or flirting or other stuff like that i disregard it, and more often then not there are a few specific people who I notice echo my opinions. Maybe by specifically tuning into them or by joining in on whatever side of a discussion they are on (becasue I happen to be too) I could see people considering that cliqueish.

*snif*

our fluff flirtations then, they weren't real?

*watching you make tracks from the bathroom window*

 

[Netzach]

I just don't see it. I'm not part of any cliques that I'm aware of, and can't say that I've seen any specific cliques. Maybe I'm blind, or maybe I lack some sort of complex/awareness of that sort of social structure.

Your dick has its own fan club.

I don't think that's a bad thing at all, though.

 

[Netzach]

Funny thing is Net has an opionion about people who come into a thread and disagree with everyone and claim free speach.

Please understand - my opinion was about people who drop rude little stinkbombs and enshrine them as *opinions*

I'm often the only person who thinks what I think and says what I say on a thread. I'm often in violent disagreement with people I like moreover as people.

 

[ammre]

*snif*

our fluff flirtations then, they weren't real?

*watching you make tracks from the bathroom window*

they were fluff flirtations? Psht, I was serious.

 

[Netzach]

they were fluff flirtations? Psht, I was serious.

Oh. Well me too, but I'm here in the cold.

They sure must read like fluff to the people we're annoying.

 

[ammre]

heh, where are you from again?

 

[Chicklet]

Your dick has its own fan club.

roflmao = )