Choice: Dom or sub?

[ecstaticsub]

If given the choice to do over again I would choose vanilla. It would be so much easier.

 

[Miss_Scarlett]

Submissive. It's just part of my natural make-up. I'm a confident highly-regarded professional out of the bedroom but will drop to my knees in a heartbeat inside it.

If a guy wants me to dominate him I will and can, but that always feels false, I'm always conscious I'm acting a part. I suppose I can be dominant but I am submissive.

 

[KoPilot]

I might possibly chose ace/aro vanilla like ecstaticsub.

/going through an emo phase and seriously considering of starting to think of my paraphilia as a dysfunction/mental illness

 

[KoPilot]

Not much of a choice now, is it? Well, it is, I suppose. I can do anything I damn well please, for I have you know, that capacity for free will. But I am a dominant sadist by nature and choice, and I would be damned if I ever serve anyone for any reason.

Are you a tax dodger too?

 

[danger2no]

Dominant or maybe a switch. Would love to find some tall, geeky, beefy boy toy and put him through his paces. <sigh>

 

[Primalex]

This. But as it's pretty obvious that we can't actually choose, I wonder whether that was really the point of the original question?

Maybe you did choose, just forgot it after the reincarnation process was finished.

 

[Curious_in_Cali]

If given the choice to do over again I would choose vanilla. It would be so much easier.

....

 

[beachbum1969fl]

Born a Dom no choice

 

[rebelhell50]

Sub

I have been submissive since birth I agree with the ones who say You really don't have a choice.
Kinda like asking someone who is gay if they would rather be hetro

 

[Kim_Burly]

I am new as a Domme, s my experience is very limited. Right now, I'm both. If I had to choose just one, it would be sub to my Sir. Fortunately, I don't have to choose and I am also Domme to a couple. I really don't have too much to do with him, (he is mostly subbing with another, bi, married couple) but I am getting over my reluctance to cause pain to his genitalia and I try to indulge him as much as I can within the limits laid out by Sir.

With her, I'm in heaven. I now understand Sir's reluctance to hurt me as badly as I want to be hurt. I beat the crap out of Lynn, my sub and she always wants it longer, harder and faster. Being a Dom/me is fun, but it entails a lot of responsibility. It seems to be working out for us with Steve and Lynn and I hope it stays that way.

 

[Rhino7]

A Dom no doubt about it.

 

[wifeuserscot]

guess I am on the dom spectrum but would not class myself as a sadist

 

[JerseyGirl84]

I've done both, but prefer to be a sub to Domme.

 

[Cosime]

Definitely submissive

 

[SimplyJosie]

Here to find out.

I want to try it all.

But more than anything I want that trust.

 

[dreamykitten2]

I'm a switch...........

Love both so much but if I had to choose.......... a sub just edges out the Domme roll. And I'm more of a sadist than a masochist. I'm really more into the sensual side of BDSM. Loving getting into the mind of the person I'm playing with!!! Agood mind fuck is an amazing thing!

 

[darklord4637]

sub always........pm me

 

[SouthernCharm78]

Hi guys! if you are given a choice, would you like to be a dominant or a submissive? A sadist or a masochist?

prefer dom...I was born that way I am not a very good sub at all I get off on simply being in charge

 

[CBM514]

prefer dom...I was born that way I am not a very good sub at all I get off on simply being in charge

We both switch, and it works out pretty nicely

 

[laceNlthrgrrl]

Never felt there was a choice. I've been sub, prolly, since birth. Needing to please is part of who I am.

 

[snookienz]

It would have to be Domme. I can't be controlled..... Such is life. But the benefits are worth it!

 

[CBM514]

It would have to be Domme. I can't be controlled..... Such is life. But the benefits are worth it!

I felt the same way until I once tried and relinquished control...totally different feeling...

 

[ChastitySmith]

My husband tried being a top, but he is 100% Bottom. I'm all top and have no interest in even experimenting.

 

[dreamykitten2]

My Bdsm score reflects all of who I am

I am a Switch which means for me I am a Domme and a sadist. And I'm a sub and a masochist. If it came right down to it and u asked me does one win over the other ? Being a sub driven into subspace by a Dom who knows how wins just by a hair!

 

[sereneone4u]

An alpha submissive.