"and then the control to make me cum how she wants me to cum."
This! This is so much like my wife and I. When she decided I was going to cum, it was going to happen, then and there. I loved the spontaneity, almost never knowing what she planned.
Cfnm...your thoughts?
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"and then the control to make me cum how she wants me to cum."
This! This is so much like my wife and I. When she decided I was going to cum, it was going to happen, then and there. I loved the spontaneity, almost never knowing what she planned.
we should have our significant others confer and take turns on us
I wish we could do that, but it's too late now.
She recently passed away. Not Covid, a long term illness.
Thank you.
bennyisfun89
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Unexpected CFNM with wife
Wife and I have had a good sex life. She used to love to show her body, have pics taken, flash my friends etc. started in our early 30's, now 50's. Lots of stories there I could share. She is not happy with her body anymore, despite my constant compliments. Like any relationship the sex comes and goes, gets hot and heavy, then fizzles. I guess it has been me who has always tried new things to keep it spicy. If it works, then I do it again, not too difficult to figure that process out. She has always been the submissive one and loves to give me BJs. Sunday the weather was nice and the tables turned so to speak. After my monthly garage haircut and back shave, usually done nude, I kept little to no clothes on the rest of the day. She of course was fully clothed. For some reason, this dynamic seemed to turn her on. Me being nude and her not. I think she felt a bit empowered, and heck, I liked it also. After a few cocktails we moved to the deck, tossed a blanket over the railing to block the view of any neighbors. They would have to walk 70 ft through thick brush to get a view, but best be safe than sorry. We had music playing etc. She gets on her knees and starts to suck my cock so I grab my phone and take a pic of her, she just looked up and smiled. Then she decides turnabout is fair play and starts taking pics of me nude with her phone. Then says go ahead and jerk it, so I do, then she says stand up and jerk it, ok so I do, then she said to lay down and jerk your dick, so I did. All the time she is taking pics with her phone. I know there was talk of her showing the pics to her friends, which I got super turned on by for some reason. She won't tell me if she sent any pics to her friends or not. But she did send some to me to prove she had them. I looked very compromised. Then we went to bed and played a few times. Gotta say it was hot.
Wife and I have had a good sex life. She used to love to show her body, have pics taken, flash my friends etc. started in our early 30's, now 50's. Lots of stories there I could share. She is not happy with her body anymore, despite my constant compliments. Like any relationship the sex comes and goes, gets hot and heavy, then fizzles. I guess it has been me who has always tried new things to keep it spicy. If it works, then I do it again, not too difficult to figure that process out. She has always been the submissive one and loves to give me BJs. Sunday the weather was nice and the tables turned so to speak. After my monthly garage haircut and back shave, usually done nude, I kept little to no clothes on the rest of the day. She of course was fully clothed. For some reason, this dynamic seemed to turn her on. Me being nude and her not. I think she felt a bit empowered, and heck, I liked it also. After a few cocktails we moved to the deck, tossed a blanket over the railing to block the view of any neighbors. They would have to walk 70 ft through thick brush to get a view, but best be safe than sorry. We had music playing etc. She gets on her knees and starts to suck my cock so I grab my phone and take a pic of her, she just looked up and smiled. Then she decides turnabout is fair play and starts taking pics of me nude with her phone. Then says go ahead and jerk it, so I do, then she says stand up and jerk it, ok so I do, then she said to lay down and jerk your dick, so I did. All the time she is taking pics with her phone. I know there was talk of her showing the pics to her friends, which I got super turned on by for some reason. She won't tell me if she sent any pics to her friends or not. But she did send some to me to prove she had them. I looked very compromised. Then we went to bed and played a few times. Gotta say it was hot.
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I love this! Your story could be my story.
Wonderer67
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Interesting to see how the tables have turned on you. Perhaps something has been ignited in your submissive side.
bennyisfun89
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I think you may be correct, but I have always been open to switching roles. My wife is more of a June Cleaver and I am most definitely more type A. Have spent years hinting for her to take the lead, but no. This was a refreshing, exciting change in our dynamic. I am excited to see where things will go in time.
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1. Definitely not, I am not submissive but love being naked. My wife has body issues and is far less comfortable being naked. I will often wander around the house and garden naked, with her fully addressed - we have also being on clothing optional beaches with her in a costume or fully dressed and me naked. She will often enjoy stroking me, whether cock or elsewhere, and me touching her through her clothes.
2. In the past (before marriage) I have spent time with female friends, CFNM. One used to love sitting on my lap, occcasionally lifting her skirt so she was sat there with her panty covered bum or pussy pressed against me. To be honest I'm not entirely sure what the turn on is generally, I just know that I like it.
3. For me believable first and foremost.
I guess I'm more of a Beaver Cleaver, myself.
I had a dominant gf once who asked me over to her house on a weekend. A while after arriving, she told me to strip down in front of her and masturbate while she studied me like a fully clothed scientist would. I was totally in love with her, so I did it, but I must admit it was a bit difficult to overcome my self consciousness in that context and totally let go. However, I finally pulled it off (sorry). She made one brief comment about how intense I looked right before orgasm and then told me to leave.
After not hearing from her for a almost a week, causing me some anxiety, she called me the next Friday evening, and simply said, "Please come over. I'm hungry." Since it was well after dinner time, I sensed the unconventional meaning of the word "hungry" and drove right over.
She was waiting for me in a plain and modest full-length nightgown, not needing to express her arousal explicitly with words. Soon I was naked, with my head halfway under that nightgown, cleaving her beaver with my tongue, and continuing to follow her lead on whatever she wanted.
CFNM was a turn-on for both of us. That relationship was very magical until I started demanding way too much from her-- not a wise move with a dominant personality.
Live, and sometimes learn the hard way.
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CMNF is much better.
For me, the issue is that CFNM allows a man to become sexually desirable for a change. We are always encouraged to be the ones chasing. We always have to work for it. This form or turn around means that the women gets to enjoy our naked bodies and they get to have their pleasure first. It is remarkably enjoyable to be appreciated and lusted after.
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My younger lover takes great delight in some less usual activities in which I have been indulging him shamelessly and generally helping him to explore further. The great thing about keeping him naked, which I now do when he visits me, is that it is always very obvious whether he finds new things exciting or off-putting and erections don't tell lies.
The role reversal is an incredible turn on. The woman/women are free to enjoy without being chased or pushed. It should be for her pleasure, first and foremost.
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YES, I fully agree with this.
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CFNM is how we all got started, fantasizing about the clothed people around us while we masturbated.
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Fuck I love being teased. One of my hottest relationships was with a woman who told me on the first date that she was a cock tease and if I wanted to date her that we could make out and she would tease me, but that was it. She gave me my first wet dream.
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Hell, I'm 51 and I still have an occasional wet dream.
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For me there is something in CFNM that doesn't have an equivalent in CMNF...
Personally, it's hard for me to be seen naked by a woman and not end up erect at some point. Even in supposedly 'innocent' situations. For me this brings a certain paradox to the situation of being unintentionally exposed to a certain aspect.
Suppose in some situation where you simply have to be naked in front of women (eg you lose a bet for female friends, a play, something like that). This is an exhibition in itself and its voluntary. Then I can't choose not to get hard, and then a second level of exposure begins, a little more embarrassing.
You stand there naked, you start feeling something, and the more you pay attention to it, the more excited you get and the more noticeable it becomes. When you least expect it, you are unwittingly displaying to the other person a reaction that is usually quite intimate and over which you have little control. I don't remember where I read the term 'shame erection'. Has anyone else ever felt something like this? I don't know if women experience or fantasize something like that...
Personally, it's hard for me to be seen naked by a woman and not end up erect at some point. Even in supposedly 'innocent' situations. For me this brings a certain paradox to the situation of being unintentionally exposed to a certain aspect.
Suppose in some situation where you simply have to be naked in front of women (eg you lose a bet for female friends, a play, something like that). This is an exhibition in itself and its voluntary. Then I can't choose not to get hard, and then a second level of exposure begins, a little more embarrassing.
You stand there naked, you start feeling something, and the more you pay attention to it, the more excited you get and the more noticeable it becomes. When you least expect it, you are unwittingly displaying to the other person a reaction that is usually quite intimate and over which you have little control. I don't remember where I read the term 'shame erection'. Has anyone else ever felt something like this? I don't know if women experience or fantasize something like that...
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I have a fantasy where my wife somehow exposes me to her friend or friends. Sometimes it is that she walks them in on me after I am getting out of the shower and still naked or changing or something. Other times it is when I am sleeping and she sneaks her in and pulls the covers back, exposing my naked body.
Lately, since we are both now working from home, I will decide some mornings to just spend the day naked. Something about being naked around her while she is dressed excites me. I've also noticed her checking me out at times, mostly when she thinks I won't notice. She's even told me that she can tell that I've lost weight, which I have. I think she is enjoying my "naked (day that ends in a Y)".
I think my fascination with being naked around a clothed woman stems from early experiences in my life but that is not a story for the general public.
Just my early morning thoughts.
Lately, since we are both now working from home, I will decide some mornings to just spend the day naked. Something about being naked around her while she is dressed excites me. I've also noticed her checking me out at times, mostly when she thinks I won't notice. She's even told me that she can tell that I've lost weight, which I have. I think she is enjoying my "naked (day that ends in a Y)".
I think my fascination with being naked around a clothed woman stems from early experiences in my life but that is not a story for the general public.
Just my early morning thoughts.
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