Can you be a lesbian, and still be bi-curious?

[Guest]

I guess, this one may be best answered by sexy-girl...

But I just want to know.


There's a very attractive woman that works with me, and she is a lesbian. Is there any real chance that she is even remotely bi-curious? Or is that a total mis-nomer?

For that matter, can you be a gay guy, yet still yearn for pussy from time-to-time???

Anyone?

 

[Renegade]

My guess....

Yes. But it would be on a person by person basis. Just like how some straight people can be interested in same sex relationships, some homosexual people can be interested in the opposite sex. This is more of an educated guess on my part then anything else though.

 

[Guest]

Interesting point, Renegade.

 

[sexy-girl]

if shes a lesbian and you know about it that means shes "out" and probably thought long and hard about her sexuallity its doubtful she evaulates people on a person by person basis


you could really offend/annoy her by coming onto her i hate when guys hit on me that know im a lesbian its the easier'ist way to annoy me its kind of like ive made a huge life changing choice and they think im not serious about it (sorry i know that sounds harsh)


im sorry i cant say something that you'd like to hear ... the only chance you have is if she lied about being a lesbian and she really is bi ... my only advice would be to become her a friend perhaps and learn about her ... if its clear that shes a lesbian dont expect more

 

[rambling man]

from what I understand its a continuum, attracted to male at one end, attracted to female at the other and the closer you are to one, the farther you are from the other.

 

[sexy-girl]

that doesnt work though rambling man ... what about bi people that are really attracted to men and really attracted to women


to me its like two books ... socially your meant to have the straight one open and sometimes you havent even noticed the homosexual book ... if your bi you have both books open ... if your lesbian you close the men book and have the women book open


you have to respect her choice for closing the "men book" if you dont respect that choice shes likely to get very offended

 

[rambling man]

right smack dab in the middle, straddlin the fence babe.....missed talkin to ya this week

 

[Guest]

if shes a lesbian and you know about it that means shes "out" and probably thought long and hard about her sexuallity its doubtful she evaulates people on a person by person basis


you could really offend/annoy her by coming onto her i hate when guys hit on me that know im a lesbian its the easier'ist way to annoy me its kind of like ive made a huge life changing choice and they think im not serious about it (sorry i know that sounds harsh)


im sorry i cant say something that you'd like to hear ... the only chance you have is if she lied about being a lesbian and she really is bi ... my only advice would be to become her a friend perhaps and learn about her ... if its clear that shes a lesbian dont expect more

Thanks -- well said, sexy-girl.
Ultimately, we are good friends, and I don't think there is a chance in hell that she lied about her sexuality. I've never "come on" to her, but she is VERY attractive, and I wouldn't push her away if she were to miraculously come on to me .

But truly, the though occured to me... could it possibly happen... maybe not specifically in her case, but just generally speaking. I guess what struck me, was the question -- would that person then be considered bi?

I dunno -- I was just killing time this afternoon.

 

[lobito]

two words..

Anne Heche

(oh yeah I forgot, that was just for publicities sake.)

 

[Dhalgren]

Renegade said:
from what I understand its a continuum, attracted to male at one end, attracted to female at the other and the closer you are to one, the farther you are from the other.



It's called the Dr. Alfred Kinsey scale...


Though they scale is 50 years old, it involved one of the largest sex surveys in it's day.. it was conducted over a 3 year period involving thousands of people.


What it proved really..is that people are vast..contain multitudes and can't be lumped into any one category..


It's entirely subjective..

 

[Renegade]

Renegade said:
from what I understand its a continuum, attracted to male at one end, attracted to female at the other and the closer you are to one, the farther you are from the other.

Actually, it was Rambling Man who said that, not me. Sorry, just needed to clear that up.

 

[Dhalgren]

Ah..sorry bout that.

Give credit where it's due though..always a very nice policy.




Thank you for pointing it out, Renegade!
*smiles*