Can someone help me?

[Euphony]

I would agree with most of this. I think I neglected to say that there are things that work well in fantasy but not be so great in reality. I'd have to think about that more. To me, the incest thing gets a bit much when male writers imagine impregnating their own mothers (sometimes sisters too). There seems to be a quite a bit of that on here.

I'm of the opinion much of the readership here are role players or poseurs. The former getting off on their supposed "ultra taboo" nature by fetishizing impregnation, the later playing armchair geneticists explaining the genetic risk profile is overstated, works in favor of positive traits, bolt on any suspect justifications for legitimizing their kink. (can't simply getting a charge from something be enough?!! Using logic and reason to justify your kinks existence is akin to debating someone into falling in love with you. Probabilities are it has happened before but it is exceedingly rare. Totally acceptable to just love what you love for lovings sake.)

I accept I am a dumb primitive animal that occasionally creates something above my usual station. The rest of the time I chase power, status, and food pellets like most other mice. I'd run mazes rather than write were it to my ego's benefit. Don't need to pretend otherwise.

Since you alluded to Fifty Shades of Grey, if I may digress a bit - I've considered a version where Anastasia is a switch - and Christian finds that he is one too. It's pretty straightforward. He comes home one day and she says, "All right Christian, it's time for some payback." I suspect he's go for it; and he'd like it too. "We've got the tools, we've got the talent!"

Shades reads as fanfic-y b/c it is fanfic-y.

A good number of writers here could improve the piece immeasurably through simple edits let alone thematically by genuinely empowering Ana more*.

(*maybe she was later but christ if I'll ever know b/c I couldn't get through but a small portion of it.)

 

[NoTalentHack]

I had a couple thoughts pop into my head last night that might be useful in explaining in a way that people who don't "get" the kink. This is mostly about the humiliation/fear (of losing one's spouse to someone else) aspects of cuckolding; the compersion (enjoying one's wife enjoy herself) aspect is sometimes part of it, as several of the commenters have mentioned in their own posts, but I'm mostly talking about the humiliation part.

It's like a horror movie. Why do we watch them? People spend a huge amount of their time doing everything they can to avoid the things that make them afraid. So why do we seek that experience out at the movies? Because it's exciting, because it gets our adrenaline going, because... well, a lot of reasons. You get the idea. Even if all you do is shout, "don't go in the basement!" you're still getting a visceral, cathartic thrill from something awful that isn't real. That's what cuckolding is, in a nutshell: a visceral thrill that something bad might happen, even though you know it won't, really.

A closer analogy might be going skydiving, but with a chute that someone else has packed. You trust that you matter enough to them to take care of you, that they want you to have a good time, that they don't want to destroy you or your life. So they pack their chute, and they pack your chute, and you just have to trust that that's true; it is, it always is, of course, but what if? What if they've been secretly holding a grudge? Or, more realistically, what if they were distracted? What if they were so excited about the experience that caring about you didn't matter enough for them to protect you from harm?

It's trust and fear, an adrenaline rush tied to trusting that all the awful things that the partner might say and do is no more real than what happens in the horror movie. But it might be. But it's not. But it MIGHT be this time. Have I gotten boring? Is he really better or bigger or one of the any myriad ways I could fall short, and if so, is that enough for her to decide to be rid of me? Does she really love me, or am I just convenient? It's a trustfall with actual consequences.

It ain't for me, just like skydiving isn't. But I do like horror movies. That's what made it really click for me last night, even more than any of the research I did on the subject when trying to write for characters like that.

Shit. Now I have a new story idea.

 

[Differentendeavours]

I had a couple thoughts pop into my head last night that might be useful in explaining in a way that people who don't "get" the kink. This is mostly about the humiliation/fear (of losing one's spouse to someone else) aspects of cuckolding; the compersion (enjoying one's wife enjoy herself) aspect is sometimes part of it, as several of the commenters have mentioned in their own posts, but I'm mostly talking about the humiliation part.

It's like a horror movie. Why do we watch them? People spend a huge amount of their time doing everything they can to avoid the things that make them afraid. So why do we seek that experience out at the movies? Because it's exciting, because it gets our adrenaline going, because... well, a lot of reasons. You get the idea. Even if all you do is shout, "don't go in the basement!" you're still getting a visceral, cathartic thrill from something awful that isn't real. That's what cuckolding is, in a nutshell: a visceral thrill that something bad might happen, even though you know it won't, really.

A closer analogy might be going skydiving, but with a chute that someone else has packed. You trust that they matter enough to you to take care of you, that they want you to have a good time, that they don't want to destroy you or your life. So they pack their chute, and they pack your chute, and you just have to trust that that's true; it is, it always is, of course, but what if? What if they've been secretly holding a grudge? Or, more realistically, what if they were distracted? What if caring about you didn't matter enough for them to protect you from harm?

It's trust and fear, an adrenaline rush tied to trusting that all the awful things that the partner might say and do is no more real than what happens in the horror movie. But it might be. But it's not. But it MIGHT be this time. Have I gotten boring? Is he really better or bigger or one of the any myriad ways I could fall short, and if so, is that enough for her to decide to be rid of me? Does she really love me, or am I just convenient? It's a trustfall with actual consequences.

It ain't for me, just like skydiving isn't. But I do like horror movies. That's what made it really click for me last night, even more than any of the research I did on the subject when trying to write for characters like that.

Shit. Now I have a new story idea.

Those are good analogies, which I've joyfully/painfully lived through a few times, but not nearly enough...lol

 

[Djmac1031]

It ain't for me, just like skydiving isn't.

I'd be the guy who's shute didn't open.

 

[Grendelpuppy]

Sperm Competition
Unless they are actively trying to have a child, a husband who is married to a faithful wife can afford to be complacent. Without the need to breed, the sex drive is not so urgent. The knowledge of infidelity or merely the suspicion changes the dynamic. It suddenly becomes imperative for the husband to inseminate the wife. Alternatively; the husband can concoct so elaborate scheme to Burn The Bitch. Of course the husband might end up being the bitch the gets burned or somebody's bitch in prison.

 

[gunhilltrain]

I might have got called a spinner once - more than once actually .

Em

If I may ask, is that like in the phrase "spinning plates?" There is a lot of slang that I no longer understand.

Bonus points for anybody who can describe where "spinning plates" comes from. That one I can answer.

 

[EmilyMiller]

If I may ask, is that like in the phrase "spinning plates?" There is a lot of slang that I no longer understand.

Bonus points for anybody who can describe where "spinning plates" comes from. That one I can answer.

Small and light enough to be spun round, with the axle assumed to be someone’s cock.

Em (5’1” < 100 lbs)

 

[gunhilltrain]

I'd be the guy who's shute didn't open.

Oh yeah, we were talking about cucking. I should credit NoTalentHack for the good analogy.

In your case, since skydiving is not a big thing in New York, the failure analogy would be to "subway surfing." That usually means riding on the roofs of trains, usually on elevated or other open-air lines. Of course, those kids can miss that there may be insufficient headroom in certain places. The truss bridge on the #6 train is notorious for that.

https://live.staticflickr.com/3361/3492533280_296daa3da3_b.jpg

 

[gunhilltrain]

Small and light enough to be spun round, with the axel assumed to be someone’s cock.

Em (5’1” < 100 lbs)

Okay, I was wrong. Spinning plates means dating or just sleeping with several people at the same time. (Or "having options," in manosphere lingo.) I won't take up space describing where the phrase came from.

 

[SecretlifeofAL]

Closest thing I can think of to describing the appeal of cuck stuff is it's like watching porn,only it's in your bedroom and on your bed and you are participating with someone while your husband watches. I mean, if you think about it, all porn could be considered POV in some ways.

 

[Emilymcplugger]

I think you’re overthinking it.

There’s loads of kinks that I find repellent or just plain weird.

Water sports
Cuckolding
Dressing up as big teddies
Being a baby.

Just because you don’t get something doesn’t make it weird.

But it is weird and everyone but me is a weirdo.

 

[EmilyMiller]

You have built castles in the air around something that IMO is much simpler. When a woman writes about being a hotwife, it is usually a fantasy of a bored housewife who is married to a nerdy husband with a small cock. She fantasizes about a well-endowed bull who takes what he wants and satisfies her desires accordingly.

When a man writes about it, he's usually hiding behind his wife to watch big cocks. Due to his upbringing, instead of drinking straight from the bottle, he will settle for second-hand lapping.

That actually makes perfect sense to me.

Thanks

Em

 

[EmilyMiller]

I think you’re overthinking it.

There’s loads of kinks that I find repellent or just plain weird.

Water sports
Cuckolding
Dressing up as big teddies
Being a baby.

Just because you don’t get something doesn’t make it weird.

But it is weird and everyone but me is a weirdo.

I with you on most of that. But water sports can be kinda fun. You should try it.

Em

 

[Emilymcplugger]

I with you on most of that. But water sports can be kinda fun. You should try it.

Em

Eurgh! No. I don’t even see in the shower or swimming pool.

This made me think of all the other things I have no way into…alcohol and drugs especially. If I can’t find a way in to justify it, then I’m out.

 

[lc69hunter]

You have built castles in the air around something that IMO is much simpler. When a woman writes about being a hotwife, it is usually a fantasy of a bored housewife who is married to a nerdy husband with a small cock. She fantasizes about a well-endowed bull who takes what he wants and satisfies her desires accordingly.

When a man writes about it, he's usually hiding behind his wife to watch big cocks. Due to his upbringing, instead of drinking straight from the bottle, he will settle for second-hand lapping.


That is a porn defined answer. It has very little to do with real life. But then again, most of the recent cuckold stories written here on Lit are porn derived fantasies. You have to go back a number of years on this site to find well written realistic cuckold stories..

 

[djrip]

You have built castles in the air around something that IMO is much simpler. When a woman writes about being a hotwife, it is usually a fantasy of a bored housewife who is married to a nerdy husband with a small cock. She fantasizes about a well-endowed bull who takes what he wants and satisfies her desires accordingly.

When a man writes about it, he's usually hiding behind his wife to watch big cocks. Due to his upbringing, instead of drinking straight from the bottle, he will settle for second-hand lapping.


That is a porn defined answer. It has very little to do with real life. But then again, most of the recent cuckold stories written here on Lit are porn derived fantasies. You have to go back a number of years on this site to find well written realistic cuckold stories..

Do you have any in particular in mind?