Can Skype Break Your Heart

[lurkingguy1978]

Yes. How come we can’t follow our own advice?

Because hearts don't listen to logic for crap. Never have...never will, amiright?

 

[BBW_T&A_Lover]

Yep..because in the words of Erica Jong..advice is what you ask for when you already know the answer, and you don’t like it.
Every time a relationship starts, at least one party if not both think..this is the time it will be different! And then once again it isn’t , but hope springs eternal in the human heart. The worst part, as the OP has experienced is having to suffer through the heart break alone..you can’t share it with your spouse, and you feel like who’s going to understand, but at least you can vent here on Lit. and find kindred souls.

Many years ago I met someone who was married. I was engaged. We talked all day because I collect disability and she was a stay-at-home mom. We talked about everything. Then she felt she was getting too close and only wanted to be friends. I tried, but I just couldn't do it after all the things we shared.

Anyways, the hardest part was being able to keep it to myself with "her" around. That was rough pretending. Glad I am single again. Not all the time, but for this reason.

 

[DDBustyBrit]

Yes - categorically yes, I’m living proof right now sadly.

I just found this in my ‘subscribed threads’ last page tonight. The sad irony is the post above me was when I was 5 weeks into this relationship that just broke my heart. It was amazing then, we were so in love and I’d give anything to turn back the clock now and start over

 

[Jada59]

Welcome to the Internet!

I suppose that Skype would be the modern day version of pen pals. Long ago, writing letters is how people communicated if they didn't live near each other. They had the "Dear John" letter which may or may not have been sent or received.

My dad was engaged to a woman while he was in the service. Because he was moving around from place to place, his fiance sent the letters to his mom's house. And his mom (my grandma) was a snoop. She sent some letters and not others, including the "Dear John" letter, telling him that she was marrying another man.

My grandma passed on information (lies) to my dad about his betrothed to make it sound like she just hadn't had time to write as she had been so busy.

My grandma waited until my dad got home to show him the letter. My dad was heartbroken.

These days with Skype and the like, the communication is not always as sporadic, or it may be. I have a lot of people on my Skype and there are some that I hear from rarely. I may think they've forgotten about me but they message me some months later!

Don't assume someone has moved on if you don't hear from them when you were supposed to or even if several days went by. IMO, if she was busy, she could have taken a minute to tell you so. That would have been the polite thing to do. But... What if she's in the hospital? Her phone or computer broke or she lost her Internet? I'm not suggesting that you assume the worst. At this point, you don't know. Unless you have seen her posting here or otherwise online.

I have actually come to agreements with people such as... This is strictly sex and we're not going to fall in love. That does sound good, if that's what you want, but... Things happen. People don't instantly fall in love. Not IMO. That's not real love. So yes, your heart can get broken, even online.

I'm sending good vibes your way!

 

[blulilacgrl]

There's a reason some of us (okay me, myself, and I) decide not to engage in the whole romantic entanglements of Lit. Twice I have fallen in love with someone. Both relationships spanned years and both left me grieving. It happens.

 

[PattiJolene]

Thanks to everyone that has chimed in. I guess I was being a little naive. In spite of being online for many years this was my first real cyber relationship. It never occurred to me that I could get attached to someone out there in the ether. That the joys and pain could be as intense as any real world relationship I've ever had is a surprise to say the least.

I plan on being much more careful with my heart in the future.

My heart is tucked away save and sound...its crazy how someone can steal something so precious away from you and scar it for life. I feel your pain. Like everyone above says it gets easier in time.

 

[crazychemgirl]

@Bry1313 can you confirm if you a heartbroken from Skype?

 

[Orchidea73]

I'm not even sure why I'm posting this, o.k. that isn't entirely true I need to vent and this is not a subject I can talk to friends or family about.

A month ago I got some feedback on a story I published from a woman who offered me her Skype name in case I wanted to chat directly with her about my stories. I get these from time to time and usually ignore them but for some reason I reached out this time.

It started really casually. We would chat about my writing and she asked some really insightful questions about where the stories came from and my motivation for writing them. Eventually, we both started to open up about our lives a little.

I never thought or intended for it to turn sexual. I'm married and though my sex life has been in decline for years due to health and menopause issues with my wife I've never cheated on her or thought about it. I guess I didn't realize how lonely I was until this woman and I started chatting and things began to heat up between us.

I had never sexted before if you can believe that. The concept actually seemed a little silly and yet to my surprise I found it more exciting than I imagined. It started to become a regular thing three or four times a week for a few hours we would talk dirty to each other basically. Then one day she added to the excitement by sending me naked photos over Skype. I was floored that she would do that and felt like I should reciprocate.

It scared the crap out of me the first time I tried to take photos of myself naked. I'm 50 and in decent shape for my age but this girl was 23 so I feared she would think I looked ridiculous. To my surprise it didn't bother her at all. We kept having normal chats punctuated by occasional sexual ones. I didn't realize how much I was becoming to depend on these to keep me happy.

Out of the clear blue a few days ago I got a text from her that she felt like we should stop the sexting. She was in a relationship that had been rocky for awhile and she thought what we were doing was detrimental to her working on it. I understood and respected her decision but it did make me a little sad that things stopped. She did say that we could still chat together and I figured at least we have that.

Sadly, she has been offline now for four days after saying we would chat again this week. I am starting to wonder if she has decided that talking to me in general was a bad idea. The weird thing is I feel like I did back in high school a million years ago when I got dumped. I've been sad and withdrawn, feeling unmotivated. My wife has noticed but I can't very well tell her that I am down in the dumps because the sweet, intelligent young lady I was sexting with blew me off.

I also don't have a friend I trust enough to tell them what I was doing hence this post. I guess I just wondered if anyone else had ever had a broken heart because of a Skype relationship? I know it sounds a little silly but I kind of felt like we were becoming close and it sucks that she just vanished from my life.

I think we all have had our share of Lit stories here. The only thing I can say is do not take this personally. As if there is something wrong with you and that's why she vanished.

She doesn't really know you and viceversa. You are both strangers to each other. You were not seeking for a relationship, a true companion, because you both have them. They might not be ideal (who has them?) but they are the true thing. What you were attracted to was the idea the fantasy behind all this. The moments of intimacy, attention, and filling a void in your life, momentarily. The whole thing of the "new thing", the unknown and the excitement that comes with it.

But now, that is over. She is back to square one, and most probably will repeat the cycle over and over again. Self-reflection is good but don't mull over it too much. It just so happen that the excitement died out on her sooner that it died out on you. Or maybe the sense of guilt took her. Who knows? Just take the good memories with you and move on. There is nothing that time doesn't heal.

 

[n8Romantic]

Nope. I’m perfectly capable of my own heartbreak.

 

[Girly_girl]

More than you can ever imagine.