Can Skype Break Your Heart

[ydahecnot]

Who says Lit is a town withou pity?

 

[boo56]

I guess I just wondered if anyone else had ever had a broken heart because of a Skype relationship?

Yes sir, it happens!

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

...drop kicked in the heart...

The perfect description.

As long as you're investing yourself here, you're vulnerable to having it happen again. Choose wisely.

And I'm sorry.

 

[lurkingguy1978]

There are few things as unexpectedly painful as falling deeply for someone online...you connect in a manner you would have never anticipated, and it can be life-altering.

Hang in there...but now you know. It's a lesson many of us have learned over time.

 

[DDBustyBrit]

You are so not alone

Much of what I think has been said already, but absolutely it’s possible. I always try to make it clear what I’m looking for and go in with my eyes wide open. I had a lengthy cyber affair with my ex from HS in 2016, then we took it into reality for a few days, then we split. Broke my heart for 6 months and it was hard to hide believe me.

I personally have been linked with a few guys here, I am extremely careful to always be mindful of not hurting others and parting with mutual respect and friendship, don’t make Lit enemies!

I have just taken the step of committing to a guy here, we both have, and the strong feelings have surprised us both and are inexplicable. It scares me because I know it’s potentially going to leave me very vulnerable to a heartbreak. My head tells me to pull back, make some space, slow it down and protect myself. My heart tells me to dive right in, embrace it, let it continue to thrill me and make my days happier, because I know he feels the same way and wants the same.

So you are not crazy or alone, as someone else above said, we are standing room only in this room.

 

[just4friends]

Heart? Breaking that would mean a personal meeting

I can’t claim that a sexual connection not happening breaks my heart, but, it is s bummer when a friendship doesn’t bloom completely.

 

[darkoverlord6]

It’s been nice to find out so many others can relate. I appreciate all the words of encouragement. I was going back through our old Skype posts tonight and it still amazes me how quickly it evolved between us but how natural it felt at the same time. I think she appreciated my experience and wisdom while I loved her passion and hopeful outlook on things. It’s easy to get old and jaded and she was young enough to still see the world with fresh eyes.

I’m also blown away by how intense we managed to make the sexting even though all it was were words and scattered photographs. I swear her guiding me and encouraging me one night led to one of the most intense orgasms I’ve had in years.

This has been a strangely joyful and painful experience. It is probably for the better that it is over because I think I was becoming a little too attached maybe even a bit obsessive. I hope her life is a happy one though and she finds what she is looking for out there.

 

[KimGordon67]

It’s been nice to find out so many others can relate. I appreciate all the words of encouragement. I was going back through our old Skype posts tonight and it still amazes me how quickly it evolved between us but how natural it felt at the same time. I think she appreciated my experience and wisdom while I loved her passion and hopeful outlook on things. It’s easy to get old and jaded and she was young enough to still see the world with fresh eyes.

I’m also blown away by how intense we managed to make the sexting even though all it was were words and scattered photographs. I swear her guiding me and encouraging me one night led to one of the most intense orgasms I’ve had in years.

This has been a strangely joyful and painful experience. It is probably for the better that it is over because I think I was becoming a little too attached maybe even a bit obsessive. I hope her life is a happy one though and she finds what she is looking for out there.

I think it surprises all of us at first ... and it's almost impossible to get anyone who hasn't done that sort of thing themselves to get that, or even really take it seriously as 'sex'.
It is also easy to get obsessive ... the year long thing I had was brilliant, but it really got a bit consuming, I think for both of us. I don't regret a thing (well, maybe one or two things, but not the actual thing), but it wasn't sustainable.

 

[darkoverlord6]

I woke up this morning feeling like a open wound. I guess its just because its the holidays and that makes heart break even worse some how especially when you have to hide it from everyone you care about who could help.

The sad thing is I keep logging into Skype and hoping to see her back online so at least I could ask her why she stopped texting entirely when she promised we would still be friends. I guess it just bothers me not to have that closure.

I know I shouldn't dwell on it, but letting go is not easy. You would think at my age and all the relationships I've been through (married twice - and many girlfriends) I would be able to handle this better. I guess I'm just out of practice at being jilted.

 

[jmarx20102012]

Dude come on

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SgtcGdAX2Po

 

[Dribble]

Then there is the other view: People actually have lives. And when Life throws a curve ball at you...you stop playing in the fantasy world and deal with life.

 

[PuckIt]

http://www.magment.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/08/famous-quotes-by-famous-people-about-success-4.jpg

 

[Jada59]

I just heard this the other day. When your heart gets broken, it makes room for more love. Don't know if this is true or not. But it sounds good.

I can't say that I've ever had a broken heart but perhaps my definition of love is different than yours. I believe that love is selfless and unconditional. When I love someone, I want what is in their best and highest good, always. Even if that means being with someone other than me. If they find someone who makes them happy, then I am happy for them. I know people think I am silly or joking or whatever, when I say this but it's truly what I think and how I feel.

Now will I miss that person if they move on? Of course.

I had a situation such as you described, some 15 years ago or so. So imagine my surprise when he found me again of all places, on here! I was happy, then then that happiness dwindled when he left once again. I won't get into details about that. Wouldn't be fair to him and frankly I couldn't quite grasp his reasoning.

Had another friend on here who left. Again for reasons that are not mine to tell but... He is back again. So... You just never know.

The best thing you can do is to send her love. I'll post a link that will show you one way. There are others.

https://www.vibrational-alchemy.com/telepathic/intro.htm

This does work *if* the person is receptive. And it can help you too. Self love is where it's at!

 

[Jada59]

I woke up this morning feeling like a open wound. I guess its just because its the holidays and that makes heart break even worse some how especially when you have to hide it from everyone you care about who could help.

The sad thing is I keep logging into Skype and hoping to see her back online so at least I could ask her why she stopped texting entirely when she promised we would still be friends. I guess it just bothers me not to have that closure.

I know I shouldn't dwell on it, but letting go is not easy. You would think at my age and all the relationships I've been through (married twice - and many girlfriends) I would be able to handle this better. I guess I'm just out of practice at being jilted.

Ah but you just said what you know to be true. Letting go! That's what you need to do. That doesn't mean that she won't come back. But if you keep checking to see if she's there, you're bound to be setting yourself up for her not to come back. Keep positive thoughts and send her love. If it was meant to be, then it will be. And remember... You don't know why she didn't get back to you. Maybe she is sick or got called away or who knows. Don't assume.

I know holidays can be rough. And maybe that's why I no longer make a big deal out of them. I've had people I was close to die around the holiday time so, I do tend to remember them fondly this time of year.

Look at this guy's videos. Here's a good example of letting go, but he does have others on this same subject. He can explain it better than I can.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WQ9-4x6QLYw

 

[DiscoveringRomance]

I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I met someone last year that I never expected to get so close with, and when we stopped chatting I was heart broken, but in a way it helped me to see that there are so many kind people out there....

I still miss him very much, I miss our relationship we used to have when we met, we still keep in touch, but it wasn't anything like before.

I'm not sure if this helps, but I can relate very well. You might not forget, but you will get over it and you will be stronger and hopefully meet so many nice and caring people to help you get through it.

Concentrate on your life now, not was was but what you have right now...that is very helpful.

 

[darkoverlord6]

Under the heading of personal pain making great art. I started writing a romance story back a week or so ago that was inspired by my Skype girl. Obviously, I didn’t know at the time how things were going to go. I finished it anyway and made sure that it, unlike real life, had a happy ending. I guess there is a bit of catharsis to be found in a story.

If you want to see the result - https://www.literotica.com/s/miles-away-2

I’m surprised it got published so quickly but it is nice that it made it out for the holiday.

 

[DiscoveringRomance]

Under the heading of personal pain making great art. I started writing a romance story back a week or so ago that was inspired by my Skype girl. Obviously, I didn’t know at the time how things were going to go. I finished it anyway and made sure that it, unlike real life, had a happy ending. I guess there is a bit of catharsis to be found in a story.

If you want to see the result - https://www.literotica.com/s/miles-away-2

I’m surprised it got published so quickly but it is nice that it made it out for the holiday.

I'm so glad you were able to process this through writing. That is good advice to all who go through that unexpected pain.

 

[darkoverlord6]

Thank you, hope you enjoyed the story.

 

[Shi_One81]

It’s definitely possible especially when fantasy blurs the lines of reality.

 

[SassySheDevil]

There are few things as unexpectedly painful as falling deeply for someone online...you connect in a manner you would have never anticipated, and it can be life-altering.

Hang in there...but now you know. It's a lesson many of us have learned over time.

This ^^^^

 

[afriendg]

Yes, this room is crowded with people with RL emotions. There is a saying, ‘Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.” Great advice, which I was never able to follow...sometimes you just have to cry because it happened, and not be so hard on yourself. Add it into the experiences of your life, and know that you have a good heart.

 

[AlwaysFara]

Yes, this room is crowded with people with RL emotions. There is a saying, ‘Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.” Great advice, which I was never able to follow...sometimes you just have to cry because it happened, and not be so hard on yourself. Add it into the experiences of your life, and know that you have a good heart.

Yes. How come we can’t follow our own advice?

 

[Dribble]

Yes. How come we can’t follow our own advice?

Because we teach best what we need to learn most

(Paraphased) Richard Bach Illusions

 

[AlwaysFara]

Because we teach best what we need to learn most

(Paraphased) Richard Bach Illusions

 

[afriendg]

Because we teach best what we need to learn most

(Paraphased) Richard Bach Illusions

Yep..because in the words of Erica Jong..advice is what you ask for when you already know the answer, and you don’t like it.
Every time a relationship starts, at least one party if not both think..this is the time it will be different! And then once again it isn’t , but hope springs eternal in the human heart. The worst part, as the OP has experienced is having to suffer through the heart break alone..you can’t share it with your spouse, and you feel like who’s going to understand, but at least you can vent here on Lit. and find kindred souls.