Can romance and erotica co-exist?

[storyguy62]

Hello! This is my first post here (please be gentle ). I've come over here after being really frustrated with the Yahoo chat rooms. It's nice to know I won't have to wade through a bunch of automatic robots for commercial sites.

I just discovered cyberring a couple months ago, but I find that, even on those rare occasions when I can find someone who wants to cyber, it's all sex and no romance. Not that there's anything wrong with that, but I'm a romantic, and "Hey baby I'm hot, let's do it" just doesn't turn me on like a walk on the beach or cozying up in front of a fireplace.

What is your experience, particularly the ladies? Am I a dying breed, or are there others out there who like the erotica that flows out of romance?

 

[Dan20]

I usually prefer romance, actually.
Oh, I'm a guy.

 

[SexyChele]

Well, this thread might get moved to another board, because it really doesn't deal with a "personal" ad - just thought I'd let you know.

But, for me personally, I got really into cyberring for a short time, but the novelty soon wore off. It's difficult to get the romantic aspect when you are typing words, especially if the other person has been "looking" for most of the night and just wants to "get off".

That's why I've stopped "cyberring" and really don't even "do" chat rooms anymore. I prefer to get to know some one either through a BB or through some of the role plays - like the ones offered here on Lit. Then, maybe, I'll converse with that person through PM or IM. I don't usually "cyber", though. Just feel it should mean something.

But, hey, that's just the way I am.

 

[foxxxyred]

Sure do!


Romance me and i'm all yours. Nothing beats the feeling of being intimate with someone close to you. I'm all for sex with love.

Shame it's so hard to find =(

 

[MissTaken]

I have only been to Yahoo chat rooms a few times. Egads! I ran with my tail between my legs. I do understand what you mean.

Yes. Romance and erotica can co exist as they should. I think that "romance" is redefined to some extent when engaging in on line erotica, but certainly the idea that there has to be some warmth and respect adds to the cyber experience.

For me, I , too, lost my interest in cybering, but have made a number of wonderful friends with whom we share on line erotica as well as chats about our days, our families, our plans, good jokes etc. (I think you get the point.)


Have a great time at lit and I hope you find you came looking for.

 

[Guest]

a little imagination

I prefer a good mixture of erotica and romance. I find in cyber chat rooms though, most of the males seem to be very controlling. That can only turn one on a time or two, then it gets boring. My vote is for variety, and often times cuddling in front of warm fire or a walk on the beach can lead to a much better adventure.
I believe in using imagination in all walks of life. I think it is very useful in a romantic yet erotic experience. Maybe we could chat sometime.

 

[MissTaken]

WElcome to the board, Waiting.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

Even here on Lit the personals ads are full of people looking for meaningless and quick sex. BTDT - ran screaming into the night!

BBs and personal ads of a more tame nature (Yahoo, etc.) are probably a better idea. The problem with BBs is finding someone close enough to you to make it feasible, much less practical.

The Lit GB is a great place to get to know people, and if the person you are interested in is comfortable with it, this is a good place to bring them.

 

[aphrodite-1]

can romance and erotica co-exist

Hi storyguy. Welcome to Literotica. Saw your post and thought "wow, he sounds just like me." I tried the Yahoo chat thing and got tired of the "down on your knees girl and suck my cock" thing. Nothing romantic about being treated like a piece of meat.

I find a romantic fantasy much more stimulating. I enjoy spinning an erotic tale with my online "friend" as well as talking about our day, sharing a little bit about ourselves to break the ice and make each other feel comfortable.

Please feel free to email me!
Aph

 

[GuyJD]

I am very sure that it can and does exist together.
I can remember the many times when I am making sweet love to my girlfriends but they end up yelling to me, "Fuck Me. Fuck ME HARD BABY".

"Damn", I'll think to myself, "I thought that we were making love."

 

[aphrodite-1]

can romance and erotica co-exist

They can indeed co-exist. It all depends on what the parties involved enjoy and find erotic. I have always been a very shy, quiet person, so I am somewhat insecure about being vocal with words while making love. Although I have learned to release some of my inhibitions (my honey got quite a kick out of how noisey I was during our love making...lots of moaning). But I haven't been able to talk nasty while in the throes of passion.

The last time we were together, my lover whispered "fuck me, Aph, fuck me baby" while we were making love. I came almost instantaneously. It was so erotic to hear him and see the look of passion on his face. When he told me how good the heat of my nectar flooding his cock felt, although I'm sure it made me blush, it made me love him all the more.

In my old age I am learning, if it feels good and you both enjoy it then it's ok to do it.

 

[Natalie Nessus]

can romance and erotica co-exist ?

Of course, and that depends on the definition of romance