Breaking it off with someone

[renard_ruse]

Do you tell them directly or do a pocket dump (change your phone number, block them from your Facebook, refuse to answer the door if they come over)?

I need to end it once and for all with someone. We've been off and on for almost 7 years. Forgiven a lot, even her having someone else's baby and liking Sublime, which even sucked in the 90s when it was new, that was difficult. This time, though, I found out something and I can't be with her. Its a total deal breaker, not something I didn't suspect for along time but wasn't sure and she denied it. Now I find out its true after all, so we're done. We've both dumped each other before, but this time I'm done wasting time with her for good.

How about others, what do you find is the most effective way to dump someone?

 

[Noor]

Yes, you tell them. It's cowardice to do otherwise.

Letter, certified. Followed by a package returning her things.
Tell her why since it has to do with honesty, explain it is a total deal breaker and out line what you are planning to do.

 

[KingOrfeo]

Leave a note in the crib.

 

[dolf]

Do you tell them directly or do a pocket dump (change your phone number, block them from your Facebook, refuse to answer the door if they come over)?

I need to end it once and for all with someone. We've been off and on for almost 7 years. Forgiven a lot, even her having someone else's baby and liking Sublime, which even sucked in the 90s when it was new, that was difficult. This time, though, I found out something and I can't be with her. Its a total deal breaker, not something I didn't suspect for along time but wasn't sure and she denied it. Now I find out its true after all, so we're done. We've both dumped each other before, but this time I'm done wasting time with her for good.

How about others, what do you find is the most effective way to dump someone?

this explains why you're so cranky.

 

[thør]

There must be 50 ways to leave your lover.

 

[warrior queen]

You do the right thing and you tell her, face to face. Make sure you explain exactly why so she knows. And let her know this is a break of all contact - fb, phone, everythinv.
Then walk away and never ever go back.

Seven ysars? You will likely have mutual friends who you will also need to deal with.

 

[Colonel Hogan]

The "effectiveness" of dumping someone is not measured by what you say in the big speech at the "Final Showdown Scene." It's how disciplined you are in staying dumped in the days, weeks, and months following that matters.

It's about not giving in to "one more" night of sex just because one of you is lonely, vulnerable and available.

It's about not "coincidentally" running into each other in clubs or bars where you used to frequent.

It's about not communicating through backdoor channels of mutual friends.

None of these things likely come into play for people who have dated seven or eight weeks.

They are potentially lethal for people who have been "on and off" for seven years.

 

[dolf]

The "effectiveness" of dumping someone is not measured by what you say in the big speech at the "Final Showdown Scene." It's how disciplined you are in staying dumped in the days, weeks, and months following that matters.

It's about not giving in to "one more" night of sex just because one of you is lonely, vulnerable and available.

It's about not "coincidentally" running into each other in clubs or bars where you used to frequent.

It's about not communicating through backdoor channels of mutual friends.

None of these things likely come into play for people who have dated seven or eight weeks.

They are potentially lethal for people who have been "on and off" for seven years.

this is true. to kill it dead, he may have to shag her mom.

 

[Byron In Exile]

How about others, what do you find is the most effective way to dump someone?

 

[thør]

this is true. to kill it dead, he may have to shag her mom.

Is her mom hot?

 

[doctor_insanus]

Cut the brake lines.

 

[renard_ruse]

this is true. to kill it dead, he may have to shag her mom.

Her mom died when she was 12. I believe she's buried in Rose Hills, so I suppose that's a possibility.

 

[renard_ruse]

Is her mom hot?

She's been out of the sun for awhile.

 

[dolf]

Her mom died when she was 12. I believe she's buried in Rose Hills, so I suppose that's a possibility.

that's even better! no way could she forgive that one.

 

[renard_ruse]

that's even better! no way could she forgive that one.

I prefer women with some meat on their bones.

 

[dolf]

I prefer women with some meat on their bones.

it's the means to an end.

and then you can buy a puppy

...not for shagging. just to be clear.

 

[thør]

She's been out of the sun for awhile.

At least, she won't talk back.

 

[Noor]

The forgiving having someone else's baby is pretty amazing. What could she have possibly done to top that one?

 

[parodyluvr75]

Since you've been off and on again, you don't have to give a detailed explanation, just say its not working out anymore and you wish her well. If that doesn't work, say you tried to forgive the sublime thing but you just couldn't get over it.

Direct is best, but some people just don't want to let go or can't handle rejection. That's when you block them, ignore them and turn your back. (Don't turn your back if they are holding a weapon.)

 

[Noor]

Since you've been off and on again, you don't have to give a detailed explanation, just say its not working out anymore and you wish her well. If that doesn't work, say you tried to forgive the sublime thing but you just couldn't get over it.

Direct is best, but some people just don't want to let go or can't handle rejection. That's when you block them, ignore them and turn your back. (Don't turn your back if they are holding a weapon.)

I have found it's better if you can get them to reject you but I am female.

 

[dolf]

I have found it's better if you can get them to reject you but I am female.

mom. uh huh.

 

[parodyluvr75]

I have found it's better if you can get them to reject you but I am female.

I've done that before sometimes it backfires.

The only time I've seen it works for males is when they act like an asshole until the girl goes away, I assume that can backfire too.

 

[KingOrfeo]

The "effectiveness" of dumping someone is not measured by what you say in the big speech at the "Final Showdown Scene."

It is, rather, measured by whether your SO suicides afterwards.

 

[Liar]

What's Sublime?

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

I have a low threshold for female monkey business. And I don't do 2nd chances when the monkey business leaks out. A whiff of it is enough, and there's no known cure for it.