Bi people, serious question here....

[yevkassem72]

....in terms of a long-term relationship, which do you prefer? Your own sex or the opposite one? Would you consider going against your usual tendency in a special case, for a special man or woman?

 

[Netzach]

I find that the people who stick in my romantic life are men. I guess I relate better to them over the long haul and on an ongoing intimate basis, but why that is I don't really know.

It wasn't really a goal though, could have gone whichever way - for certain women I could see it happening easily that I wind up with them, it's just not in the cards for other reasons than gender.

 

[Irony_Sinclair]

Women. I have men in my life that I love dearly but not in the same way I can love a woman. For me men are altogether different than women, and not just in the physical sense but the mental and emotional sense. I see men generally in one of two ways, weak and strong. The former annoys me and the latter educates me. But I never feel a sense of romanticism with men. Sexually I find them an amazing turn on, but more like objects, toys for my use and entertainment. I reckon that is why I've always dominated the men I've had sexual encounters with. It runs deep I'm sure but the bottom line for me is, men are sex toys, women are something else altogether.

 

[Big_James]

You know, I have no real specific preference. My main goal in any relationship either long or short term is happiness. I have had relationships with women where I thought she might be the one. And likewise in relationships with men.

 

[yevkassem72]

Thanks. I appreciate the input so far. I find this fascinating, because I have heard of a lot of bi people in hetero relationships, but not as many bi people in same-sex ones. I mean long-term relationships, whether exclusive or not.

I wanted to know how common each was and what the reasons were for each. And how flexible people were on the matter.

Personally, most of my life, I considered myself a purely heterosexual male. However, recent developments have revealed a sexual curiosity about transsexual women, hermaphrodites, cross-dressers, effeminate young men, and androgynous young men. Not sure about everything, but I see no reason why I would be opposed in principle to a relationship with such, long-term and all, once I am far enough removed from my failed current marriage to consider a new relationship. There is no real objection, logical or emotional, of which I can see, although my entire pattern so far has been purely heterosexual conduct.

Funny how one incident in a bar can begin to shake up one's existence.

 

[andyr]

I'm attracted to both males and females in physical terms, although, on average, I think I'm attracted to more individual females than males. I find myself checking out both all the time, and I think I like both equally, sexually.

However, when it comes to relationships, I just don't dig males. I think I can count on one hand the number of "crushes" I've had on guys, and even on these guys, I never would have considered making them my "boyfriend." With certain guys I'm able to have a really intense friendship, even a sexual one, but, at the end of the day, I need a woman to be able to take care of and to take care of me, not a man. There's just something about a female that completes me in a way that no guy ever could.

 

[WynEternal]

I have been married to my husband for several years, but a part of me still longs for a woman who was very special to me. There was once a time when I would have dropped everything and gone to her. To answer the question, I dont have a preferance, but a really special lady can change that.

 

[Tymeless]

i don't know if i'm really bi or what i have a strong preferance for women and don't really find men attractive but somethings about them i do kinda get all horny about occasionally so i don't know where i stand but women in my eyes are way better.

 

[W_MA_DWM]

Thanks. I appreciate the input so far. I find this fascinating, because I have heard of a lot of bi people in hetero relationships, but not as many bi people in same-sex ones. I mean long-term relationships, whether exclusive or not.

I wanted to know how common each was and what the reasons were for each. And how flexible people were on the matter.

Personally, most of my life, I considered myself a purely heterosexual male. However, recent developments have revealed a sexual curiosity about transsexual women, hermaphrodites, cross-dressers, effeminate young men, and androgynous young men. Not sure about everything, but I see no reason why I would be opposed in principle to a relationship with such, long-term and all, once I am far enough removed from my failed current marriage to consider a new relationship. There is no real objection, logical or emotional, of which I can see, although my entire pattern so far has been purely heterosexual conduct.

Funny how one incident in a bar can begin to shake up one's existence.

Yevkassem72,

I'm pleased that you identified yourself as being a male. From your avatar I thought you were a female and there was no clue in your profile as to your gender.

Anyway, I'm an older, bi male as it says in my signature. I have never had any kind of a romantic relationship with another male. Yes, I have had sex with other men and enjoyed it very much. I can be a super turn-on.

As for a loving relationship, wheather long-term or short, it has always been with females. I can't see myself ever being in "love" with a man.

Now, as for the "transsexual women" etc. that you mentions, oh yes, I do have a lot in interest in most of them that you listed and I'll add to the list - androgynous females, too.
I have given some thought to having a cute "girlie-boi" as a long-term lover. Wheather or not that could truly happen in real life is an unanswered question. I sure would like to have the chance to find out, though.

Sorry to read that your marriage is failing. Good luck in finding someone to be with and love - male or female.

--

 

[beautifuleyes]

i'm a 20 year old girl, and although i've had relationships with women, i find it much easier and more fun to be in a relationship with a guy. i don't know why- well yes i do...women are so dramatic about everything.

 

[Shankara20]

I have been married twice before, both to females. I find women attractive and enjoy occasional physical relations with them. That said, I have no interest in having an ongoing long term sexual relationship with females. I want a male lover-partner. I can see a man living with me, but not a woman. It is just my preference, a strong preference.

 

[Greti]

I have had a long term relationship with one of each , a male and a female , and i have found that it depends on the personality of the person , and not whatever gender they are.

 

[Nabokov]

For a long term relationship, I would only go with a woman (I being male).

 

[amber_now26]

no real preference

I've had relationships with both men and -- though mostly women. Hard to say which i prefer coz i'm basically not very good at relationships. Guess really that gender doesn't matter a lot as long as the other person is bright and kind and fun to be with.

 

[lindahotstuff]

Bi is bi

I think to be truly bi, you really can't choose. I'm happily in a relationship with a man but I have lots of girlfriends who i fuck regularly. I tell my man about my bisexuality so its no problem. Sometimes we do 3sums and 4sums (with men and women) and so we share my bisexuality so that he enjoys it as well. Male and female partners just offer different things. I could never give up a cock, no matter how much i love my vibrator or my gf's strapon, its not quite the same. BUt then again when i want real tenderness and sensuality there is nothing better than another woman's love, her lips and touch. But that is what bisexuality is - being equally comfortable with, and equally interested in what both genders can offer our sexual fulfilment.

 

[robbie_boy1]

raw sex

if you are talking down and dirty, male on male anyday, if you are talking love.....woman only...every single time but that is just me....I happen to love down and dirty.....thanks for the invite

 

[Alexandra1979]

Never had a same-sex relationship, but not opposed to it in principle. It's just that right now, my primary relationship is a hetero one.

 

[long_haired_lad]

So far, I've only been emotionally attracted to women, and sexually attracted to both.

 

[College_geek]

This might not count because although I want to identify as bisexual, I feel like I can only go by bicurious since I haven't had a romantic and/or sexual experience with a woman, but...

I tend to have a preference towards men, but my main philosophy on relationships (and my bisexual boyfriend feels the same way) is that gender isn't really an issue and if I connect with someone and I feel attracted to him or her physically and mentally, I'm going to want to look into a relationship with that person.

I can only speak from theory and not experience though, as I've only been with one person and that's my current boyfriend.

 

[ChristopherMaxwell]

Never had a same-sex relationship, but not opposed to it in principle. It's just that right now, my primary relationship is a hetero one.

For which this hetero bloke is personally happy. Not that I begrudge an interested dame a chance at getting into your knickers. Well, since you don't begrudge interested dames a chance at getting into mine.

 

[KokopelliRises]

As a a bi female, I personally have only had anything you could call a relationship with guys. Not that I would mind one with a woman, she, like any guy, would have to be special to me.

 

[Bandit58]

I like to play sexually with women, but have no desire to have a relationship with one other than as a friend.

 

[Paige.]

I am physically and sexually attracted to women but a long term relationship will be with a man. Preferably a man that is sexy and attractive dressed as a woman and enjoys crossdressing. A heterosexual man, not an all out gay man though.

I like to say I have always been addicted to men and cock and I still am. I want a man that attracts me to the feminine beauty but is able to satisfy me with the real thing. I am turned on by a 'woman' with an erection and I also like to satisfy her need to feel like a woman.

Complicated stuff and I don't have enough time to be more expicit.

I don't understand why more women that claim to be Bi are not interested in men that dress and look like a woman. Are they only attracted to women for the sex aspect? What is wrong with having both? Being attracted to a girl and being fucked by a man in a skirt.

I should add that g/g sex is wonderful when I get it.

Paige

 

[stlpenguin]

Paige, that's EXACTLY how my wife feels about it. I'm one of the luckiest men in the world.

Your S/O is the other luckiest man in the world.

-- Scott / Sara

 

[BiBunny]

Most of my relationships have been with men, but my longest relationship's been with a woman. My girlfriend (Bi_Kitty on this site) and I have been together for over 4 years. B. (my Master) and I have been together for over a year. Kitty and I both like very masculine men and very feminine women. B. plays with men within an S&M context, but he's mostly straight. That confusing enough for you?