Bi Now Gay later or Bi Now Gay Never ?

[Samuelx]

I 'm a guy who's heard of a lot of bisexuals.


They identify as bi then they declare themselves gay. Especially the male bisexuals. The bisexual females are more common and tend to stay bi a bit longer than the males do but many do become lesbian. What is it about being bisexual that's so easy to shrug off ?

If I hook up with a dude, i'll still like chicks. I like their smiles, titties, butts, faces and sometimes their minds. If I hook up with a girl, i'll still like guys. I like their dicks, butts, personalities and mindsets.

I think I am terminally bisexual, as in the kind that stays bi instead of " suddenly going gay".

Anybody in here feel this way ?

 

[SweetErika]

I'm a woman and I know I'm always going to be bi. I think a lot of gays and lesbians experiment with the opposite sex at first because that's what society expects of them. Then they realize they really are gay and stay with same sex relationships.

However, I've gotten a lot of comments that bi people are really gay and just haven't realized or accepted it yet...eventually they will come to terms with the fact that they're gay! That's a major misconception...many of us are always going to be attracted to both women and men, which makes us "terminally bi".

 

[John Doe]

People are assholes.

 

[brinkeedinkee]

You know that saying, "once u have black, u'll never go back?"

Pussy, gimmee pussy. Keep the dick. Well wait, I'll just use it when there's no pussy around.
As for a label, ah fuck'm.

 

[Sweetevil]

I dont know if being labled as "bi" is exactly right...I think it has more to do with feelings, what makes you happy, what you like....not if the person has boobies or a penis....its whats on the inside...well maybe not always exactly...but you know what I mean!...lol

 

[brinkeedinkee]

I dont know if being labled as "bi" is exactly right...I think it has more to do with feelings, what makes you happy, what you like....not if the person has boobies or a penis....its whats on the inside...well maybe not always exactly...but you know what I mean!...lol

GAWD damnit! yeah, what she said, that's much more sensitive. SHIT. I failed.

 

[Sweetevil]

you said some good points too..

 

[souljourney]

I have several good friends who are lesbian. They have all been with a guy at some point because they said that's what was "expected", but realized that was bullshit. They all tell me they aren't real crazy about bi women because they have found that many of them just sort of play around with other women physically, but wouldn't want to be with one in a long term relationship. So maybe we go back to the issue of bi-sexual versus bi-amorus. I've seen several discussions about this on other posts.
I can't really speak from personal experience...I've haven't yet slept with a woman, but I also think for me it could be more than just physical.
My lesbian friends of course will tell me that I'm a lesbian, but don't know it yet. I don't know that I could forever give up men. I'm actually married to one. He of course hates the idea of me even thinking about being with a women, but that's another subject.

 

[John Doe]

I have several good friends who are lesbian. They have all been with a guy at some point because they said that's what was "expected", but realized that was bullshit. They all tell me they aren't real crazy about bi women because they have found that many of them just sort of play around with other women physically, but wouldn't want to be with one in a long term relationship. So maybe we go back to the issue of bi-sexual versus bi-amorus. I've seen several discussions about this on other posts.
I can't really speak from personal experience...I've haven't yet slept with a woman, but I also think for me it could be more than just physical.
My lesbian friends of course will tell me that I'm a lesbian, but don't know it yet. I don't know that I could forever give up men. I'm actually married to one. He of course hates the idea of me even thinking about being with a women, but that's another subject.

Um... He of course hates the idea? Maybe I'm a little biased here, but I thought it was a common male fantasy to be with two women at once who are into each other.

 

[Netzach]

It's common, it's not universal.

 

[LaughingWolf]

I can't really speak from personal experience...I've haven't yet slept with a woman, but I also think for me it could be more than just physical.
My lesbian friends of course will tell me that I'm a lesbian, but don't know it yet. I don't know that I could forever give up men. I'm actually married to one. He of course hates the idea of me even thinking about being with a women, but that's another subject.

Oh wow, almost like reading my own story lol

Ok, since I know my nick is not obvious, I better say it lol I'm a 32 years old bi woman.

Yeah, I do know too a few 'love men, play with women' bi women. As you said so well, my attraction to women is emotional as well as physical, so I don't see myself doing that.

I'm in a relationship with a guy since 7 years, a 'woman virgin' because I came to term with being bi only since a few years. (I'm monogamous ) My bf is actually loving and supportive, but he is not either the 'drool at the idea of two women together' type. As Netzach said it is a common male fantasy but by no means universal. (a good thing, because I'm not the 3-some type either)

Yes, I have a few lesbians friends who tell me I am in denial, but most simply accept me for who I am.

 

[souljourney]

Laughing Wolf,

PM'd you...hope you look at those.

Your right...our situations are somewhat similar.

 

[Luna_Wolf72]

I have been *tri-amorous* as opposed to bi-sexual... I can and have loved every possible genital mixture there has ever been. That being said, I can not imagine settling down with just a man, ever again. I am from the *love women, men are fun* camp.

Mayhap it's from past relationships, maybe it's just cuz I don't feel for them the way I used to? Maybe it because I am happily poly? I don't know. I just know that as I have grown older, my needs and desires have changed to the point that i no longer consider myself to be tri or bi...I am just a lover of women.

Luna

 

[John Doe]

It's common, it's not universal.

I know, I said that. But she said "of course" as though the opposite were universal.

 

[south_florida_bicur]

samuelx

If I hook up with a dude, i'll still like chicks. I like their smiles, titties, butts, faces and sometimes their minds. If I hook up with a girl, i'll still like guys. I like their dicks, butts, personalities and mindsets.


great point!

I am bi curious. I have taken shit by using that label too.

I feel the same way about if i hook up with a dude, i'll still like chicks but i must add 2 things about women that men dont have:

1. smell - nothing beats the sexy smell of a woman
2. skin - womens skin is so smooth and silky

if i can have everything you mentioned plus the 2 things i have AND add a cock i would be set. The only thing about experimenting with another guy is the cock. I do not like kissing, hugging, etc.. I want the cock and only the cock!

make any sense?

 

[Barushko]

Bi or gay? who's to say

most people are said to be somewhere along a scale that ranges from all male to all female

say 0=male and 10=female

being a zero male doesn't bode well for longevity lol since testosterone is a silent killer--bald at 40 dead at 50

so being a two on the scale might predispose a male slightly toward experimenting with male/male contacts but more likely would just rsult in a more sensitive male - highly creative males are unlikely to be zeroes but are not necessarily bi or gay

someone in the middle of the range would probably feel erotically attracted to both sexes - but the question of bis turning gay seems like a red herring

a lot of bi guys only get bi feelings in later life when the testosterone levels have fallen and circulating estrogen exerts a more powerful effect.

I'm not aware of any rules that govern this - some bi people perhaps are gay and labelling themselves bi could be a psychological maneuver to make the transition less shocking

I've only been with one guy since high school and neither he nor I has ever stopped having affairs with females or would want to

and we havent gone all the way--we're just addicted to serious cocksucking and the beautiful mouth feel of creamy, throat-filling ejaculations.

The idea of living with a man doesn't appeal to me at all--I sense a constant jockeying for supremacy in every domestic decision unless he was a sissy boy and had the good manner to stay outa my face most of the time

ok-now I'm rambling--but it tends to be slow at the weekend so.....