Bedtime suggestions?

[BlueSugar]

We're trying to include our D/s into a few aspects of our lives to try and make it more real. Last night we tried to work it into our bedtime routine.

Do ya'll have any tips or suggestions on how to do this?

We included a little massage, and where to lay on the bed, and how, some lingistics, petting and a few well placed kisses.

As you can see we're a little stuck - maybe because we were dead tired, and too early to rise.

Thanks in advance

 

[MissTaken]

You could work into your routine:

1. Kneeling beside the bed, eyes downcast, hands in lap until invited into the bed.

2. Wearing restraints while sleeping. Loosely placed handcuffs that allow for some movement, but won't fall off.

3. Perhaps, you could be required to report in on tasks during the day or simply recite some piece of poetry that is special to the two of you.

4. And if you have been naughty,.....sleep on the floor!

 

[Mastersall]

YOU MIGHT TRY SWATTING THE SUBMISSIVE WITH BELT FIVE TIMES BEFORE BED.. SUBMISISVE KNEELS AND WAITS ASS IN AIR .. THE FIVE SWATS ARE ADMIINISTERED... IN TIME THE SUBMISSIVE COULD BE TRAINED TO BE WAITING FIRST THING IN THE MORNING FOR FIVE SWATS... TO BEGIN AND END THE DAY IN SUBMISSION IS AN EXCELLENT REMINDER TO YOU BOTH

 

[dolf]

YOU MIGHT TRY SWATTING THE SUBMISSIVE WITH BELT FIVE TIMES BEFORE BED.. SUBMISISVE KNEELS AND WAITS ASS IN AIR .. THE FIVE SWATS ARE ADMIINISTERED... IN TIME THE SUBMISSIVE COULD BE TRAINED TO BE WAITING FIRST THING IN THE MORNING FOR FIVE SWATS... TO BEGIN AND END THE DAY IN SUBMISSION IS AN EXCELLENT REMINDER TO YOU BOTH

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[Kajira Callista]

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i think it was s'posed to

 

[graceanne]

{the caps lock is scaring me }

is that bad?

 

[catalina_francisco]

All things in perfect timing, we use this time to review the day and my behaviour etc. Punishemnts and rewards are decided and either dealt with then, or sometimes in the case of rewards, set for the following day. My favourite reward, and the one I only get when he thinks I have been exceptional, is when I am allowed to ask for my heart's desire, within reason of course.

Catalina

 

[BlueSugar]

thank you for your suggestions. I don't know about sleeping on the floor because we have two dogs which are a little bit of a distraction bc the younger one whines when seperated from us if we are in a seperate room, and I'd get stepped on by them etc...

though.. maybe that is the point.

We were already in bed and I just felt the urge to serve, to be ordered to do things, to submit... anything, and it was so strong I was fidgeting and couldn't sleep until the massage and all.

(( though i'm sure it didn't help that we watched the Pandora's Box special on HBO latenight on the DVR... Mistress Raven in Manhatten owns it ... and they did a documentary on it... wasn't that bad, it concentraited on Domme's and only male submissives and fetishes. ))

 

[rosco rathbone]

Good shit. The time of preparing for sleep is a cozy dark intimate time (same with waking up) when souls are exposed and raw.

I like to lie in bed watching the preparations; something very vulnerable and female and girly about the ways girls get ready.

 

[AngelicAssassin]

... I just felt the urge to serve, to be ordered to do things, to submit... anything, and it was so strong I was fidgeting and couldn't sleep ...

Simple and constructive works as well.

Lay out his clothes for the following day per his direction.

Get his order for breakfast and make sure he gets served the breakfast in bed.

Anything along those lines might give your submission something to "step up to the plate."

 

[BlueSugar]

Simple and constructive works as well.

Lay out his clothes for the following day per his direction.

Get his order for breakfast and make sure he gets served the breakfast in bed.

Anything along those lines might give your submission something to "step up to the plate."

breakfast in bed is perfect for our days off actually, thanks for the idea AA... though he is a super light sleeper and picky eater this may be a very dynamic task... much room for reward or punnishment.
Laying out his cloths he suggested already, I think it a sweet idea. On our days off that we do get to D/s all day together he tells me what to wear already, I enjoy this alot.

I really like these simple ideas, thank you very much.

And as for save punnishment/pleasure for the end of the day -- i don't think either of us are this controlled yet, we get too built up for both... suppose we should work on that... too..haha.

 

[catalina_francisco]

breakfast in bed is perfect for our days off actually, thanks for the idea AA... though he is a super light sleeper and picky eater this may be a very dynamic task... much room for reward or punnishment.
Laying out his cloths he suggested already, I think it a sweet idea. On our days off that we do get to D/s all day together he tells me what to wear already, I enjoy this alot.

I really like these simple ideas, thank you very much.

And as for save punnishment/pleasure for the end of the day -- i don't think either of us are this controlled yet, we get too built up for both... suppose we should work on that... too..haha.

LOL, not all punishments/rewards are saved 'til then, but it is more an overall assessment at which time the outcomes are usually bigger either way. The laying out of his clothes idea we have done since being together, followed by asking if he needs help showering before work etc., sometimes helping him dress if that is his wish, coffee presented fresh when he enters the room after a morning shower, laptop packed up ready for his departure, keys, watch and mobiles ready to be picked up (and fully charged before hand), and sometimes a special lunch prepared to get him through the day with and a coffee to go while he drives. Is also usually my place to remind him of any special things he needs to remember for the day such as meetings, customers, etc.

Catalina

 

[BlueSugar]

... coffee presented fresh when he enters the room after a morning shower.... and sometimes a special lunch prepared to get him through the day with and a coffee to go while he drives.

Is also usually my place to remind him of any special things he needs to remember for the day such as meetings, customers, etc.

Catalina

We don't live together 24/7 ... I'm down the street, but we are together on our days off, and after work. We don't spend the night often during the week but the weekends are usually ours. It depends on the day of work ahead of us both and how much sleep we both need... and then the dogs fight for bed space (lol) so we usually split them up at night - one with me and one with him so we can both sleep.

 

[Shadowsdream]

My girl does not live with Me but stays with Me occassionally. she must kneel beside the bed each night no matter where she is and do 3 minutes of contemplation focusing on her submission. she finds it grounds her and reminds her of her place in a very calm head space.

My slave must kneel beside the bed and ask permission to enter MY bed. he comes into My arms when he is in the bed and says " Thank You Mistress for taking me to slavery and allowing me to be Your pet" these simple rituals ground him and bring him to a state of contentment.

Perhaps something simple like these suggestions that take little time but have meaning?

 

[BlueSugar]

My girl does not live with Me but stays with Me occassionally. she must kneel beside the bed each night no matter where she is and do 3 minutes of contemplation focusing on her submission. she finds it grounds her and reminds her of her place in a very calm head space.

My slave must kneel beside the bed and ask permission to enter MY bed. he comes into My arms when he is in the bed and says " Thank You Mistress for taking me to slavery and allowing me to be Your pet" these simple rituals ground him and bring him to a state of contentment.

Perhaps something simple like these suggestions that take little time but have meaning?

I enjoy these ideas.

Today we took a trip to the next town over to get a few things from the stores, and on the way back He came up with the idea of jars with pieces of paper in them... one with varying punnishments and the other with rewards possibly. There will be 4 jars two for me and two for His place ... so if we are together or apart He can tell me to go get my jar I thought it was special and it was stirred by this thread, so I decided to post it here for anyone else in our position.

 

[heckle]

Kneeling by the bed waiting to be given permission is pretty standard. Not sure which one is hoe first but, if you are home first, kneeling inside the door or bedroom as a welcome home is nice also.

 

[silver_inari]

We're trying to include our D/s into a few aspects of our lives to try and make it more real. Last night we tried to work it into our bedtime routine.

Do ya'll have any tips or suggestions on how to do this?

We included a little massage, and where to lay on the bed, and how, some lingistics, petting and a few well placed kisses.

As you can see we're a little stuck - maybe because we were dead tired, and too early to rise.

Thanks in advance

Perhaps a quick nightly spanking, something along those lines. It wouldn't be extensive, but a simple reminder of who is who and what is what.

silver_inari