Becoming trans, sex life changes

[DaveLoveAss]

Trans Girls, both post or pre op are welcome here. Im really interested how your sex lives changed as you transitioned.

When you first accepted you were transsexual did your sex life change at all? Then as you maybe changed your appearance or took hormones how did it change? If you are post op Im really really interested to know how it changed your sex life afterwards too?

Im interested in anything but some changes i have thought of are whether you became more sub/dom, did you meet more or less of different genders, did you do different positions, did your mentality to sex change?

Thanks everyone xx

 

[fma20fma]

curious to learn about this subject. request detailed frank and truthful sharing of physical and mental status before and after removal please. thanks to all participants.

 

[timreh]

There's no single answer to the OP's question.

Some people go on hormones, some don't.

Quite often hormones change numerous aspects of the brain.

Some folks get various surgeries, some don't get any.

Some people who were tops before transition remain tops after transition. Some who were tops become strictly bottoms after transition.

Some find their sexuality flips or broadens greatly.

The hard data in the community indicates that roughly 35%-40% of trans women who were solely attracted to women prior to transition become solely attracted to men after transition.

A key thing to remember is transition is a process that goes on for years. I don't know any of my trans friends who would say that on Date X they were done with their transition.

I transitioned 8 years ago, and I've been on hormones for about 7 years, the journey is far from complete.

 

[Escierto]

I can tell you about my girlfriend who I have known for the past four years. She is probably unique but then this is probably true of most if not all transgender people.

She has never transitioned. She says as long as she can remember she has been a girl and has always been treated as a girl. She has always worn feminine clothing and worn her hair long. I asked her if she has ever encountered hostility or prejudice in the Philippines where she lives and she says no. She has always used the women’s restroom wherever she goes without incident.

She is small framed and skinny with no discernible Adam’s Apple. Whether due to the lack of an Adam’s Apple or not, she has a natural feminine voice. Her mannerisms and walk are feminine without any exaggeration or self consciousness.

She has never taken hormones except for a brief period in preparation for breast implants. She has always been functional and has always been a top. She is only attracted to men although she has many female friends. She has only had heterosexual men as lovers in her life.

About six months ago at the age of 35 she had breast augmentation surgery. This had been a long time desire of hers and has given her, in her words, confidence as a woman. She has no plans for any further surgery of any kind.

 

[DaveLoveAss]

I transitioned 8 years ago, and I've been on hormones for about 7 years, the journey is far from complete.

Wow. Thank you so much for your insight that was really eye opening.
If you ever feel like talking about your journey or how sex changed for you during your 8 years of transition id love to hear about it x

 

[DaveLoveAss]

I can tell you about my girlfriend who I have known for the past four years. She is probably unique but then this is probably true of most if not all transgender people.

That was a really interesting story and she is a beautiful girl. Thank you for sharing! If you have anything else youd like to tell us about her then id be really interested to read more x

 

[comegently]

I live just about all my life in a feminine way, with clothes, pronouns, etc. to match.
I started being myself more openly over 10 years ago.
I have a partner to whom I'm faithful.
Has being myself changed how I think about some things? Yes for sure.
Day to day I present myself as a day to day woman would and it feels natural.

Sexually, do I think about being penetrated? Yes and I've experienced strapon and I have a collection of butt plugs.
If I look at porn (yes I do like most of us) I do not find gay sex between two male-presenting men at all erotic. To be honest, quite the opposite.
And neither am I into any kind of humiliation. I have no wish to be called a slut or to be caned.

But it is quite different between a man or a trans female and a trans female.
Because, I think, what turns me on is the idea of sex as a female - not at all in the manner of a gay man.

When I go on a dance floor in a short skirt it feels quite erotic.

Sex is in our heads really, not between our legs, so this makes perfect sense to me.

I do not use the word "transsexual" and it's really an old-fashioned term.
I just say "trans" as an umbrella description, or "transgender".

 

[Escierto]

That was a really interesting story and she is a beautiful girl. Thank you for sharing! If you have anything else youd like to tell us about her then id be really interested to read more x

I might add that when she was a teenager, she allowed herself to be fucked by her high school crush. After that experience as a bottom, she decided that she would never bottom again.

Since she doesn’t take hormones, I have always wondered if the testosterone in her body leads her to take a masculine role sexually. It’s really the only masculine thing about her.

 

[Subsy]

I can not recall ever not being a girl. Having to use the boys bathroom was traumatic. I loved the story of the ugly duckling and other similar stories. I was more accepted by strangers than by anyone I know except others like myself.
I was fortunate to have a source for hormone replacement meds. Psychological therapy was hit and miss but was cumulatively helpful. I love my body and my girlness, my face with or without make up, panties and short skirts, breasts that still look like a 14 year old, def bulgy but soft, fleshy, noticeable with nipples darker and prone to their own erections.
I love affectionate vulgar talk. It affects me like a good drug.
Men, Women, couples, giving handjobs in cars, oral often, loving sexual relationships with women, being used and abused by men (not porn style, rather enacting scenes with limits for certain behavior). My ever and always fave is older, gentle pervy males who are willing to do anything I want them to do. How? Teasing and flirting while playing hard to get. They eventually get what they want.

 

[Flanast]

I can tell you about my girlfriend who I have known for the past four years. She is probably unique but then this is probably true of most if not all transgender people.

She has never transitioned. She says as long as she can remember she has been a girl and has always been treated as a girl. She has always worn feminine clothing and worn her hair long. I asked her if she has ever encountered hostility or prejudice in the Philippines where she lives and she says no. She has always used the women’s restroom wherever she goes without incident.

She is small framed and skinny with no discernible Adam’s Apple. Whether due to the lack of an Adam’s Apple or not, she has a natural feminine voice. Her mannerisms and walk are feminine without any exaggeration or self consciousness.

She has never taken hormones except for a brief period in preparation for breast implants. She has always been functional and has always been a top. She is only attracted to men although she has many female friends. She has only had heterosexual men as lovers in her life.

About six months ago at the age of 35 she had breast augmentation surgery. This had been a long time desire of hers and has given her, in her words, confidence as a woman. She has no plans for any further surgery of any kind.



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So how easy is it to meet a Pi ladyboy in the Philippines?

 

[Escierto]

So how easy is it to meet a Pi ladyboy in the Philippines?

Super easy. It seems that the dream of every Filipina is to have a foreign boyfriend. Most of them speak pretty good English which is an advantage they have over their Thai sisters.

 

[DaveLoveAss]

I can not recall ever not being a girl. Having to use the boys bathroom was traumatic. I loved the story of the ugly duckling and other similar stories. I was more accepted by strangers than by anyone I know except others like myself.
I was fortunate to have a source for hormone replacement meds. Psychological therapy was hit and miss but was cumulatively helpful. I love my body and my girlness, my face with or without make up, panties and short skirts, breasts that still look like a 14 year old, def bulgy but soft, fleshy, noticeable with nipples darker and prone to their own erections.
I love affectionate vulgar talk. It affects me like a good drug.
Men, Women, couples, giving handjobs in cars, oral often, loving sexual relationships with women, being used and abused by men (not porn style, rather enacting scenes with limits for certain behavior). My ever and always fave is older, gentle pervy males who are willing to do anything I want them to do. How? Teasing and flirting while playing hard to get. They eventually get what they want.

Awww shame that you had those traumatic experiences early on but im so so happy for you now that you seem alot happier!!

 

[LincolnDuncan]

I'm curious to know if the statistics of male to female and female to male equate.

Anyone?

 

[timreh]

The split, based on current polling, is 38% trans women, 36% trans men, 26% gender non-conforming.

 

[Escierto]

The split, based on current polling, is 38% trans women, 36% trans men, 26% gender non-conforming.

What’s the source for that? Everything I saw put the ratio of transgender women at two to five times higher than transgender men.

 

[timreh]

I got those stats from The Williams Institute, which is a sub-section of UCLA Law School. Williams happens to be one of, if not THE leading institution doing pure statistical social impact LGBTQ+ research.

The main statistic where the worldwide stats show trans women are leading trans men is for being killed for being trans. The data I've seen when prepping for giving presentations is 10:1. But we all know the data for death rate due to hate crimes is horribly incomplete / inaccurate.

 

[LincolnDuncan]

The split, based on current polling, is 38% trans women, 36% trans men, 26% gender non-conforming.

Thank you

 

[Escierto]

I got those stats from The Williams Institute, which is a sub-section of UCLA Law School. Williams happens to be one of, if not THE leading institution doing pure statistical social impact LGBTQ+ research.

The main statistic where the worldwide stats show trans women are leading trans men is for being killed for being trans. The data I've seen when prepping for giving presentations is 10:1. But we all know the data for death rate due to hate crimes is horribly incomplete / inaccurate.

I found those numbers that you cited above for transgender people in the US.

 

[Flanast]

Super easy. It seems that the dream of every Filipina is to have a foreign boyfriend. Most of them speak pretty good English which is an advantage they have over their Thai sisters.

Where in the Philippines is the best place to go to meet them?

 

[Escierto]

Where in the Philippines is the best place to go to meet them?

Manila is the best place or else Cebu in the south.

 

[comegently]

I found those numbers that you cited above for transgender people in the US.

Interesting. The census numbers from the first time anything was asked about being trans are apparently due to be published soon. I was one of the people the Office for National Statistics interviewed before formulating the question.
Prior to that, the best numbers I have seen are similar in the UK to those in the US for ratio of Trans women to Trans men.
Anecdotally, I can say I've met a lot more Trans men than previously in the last couple of years.
I wonder if that's because, in terms of how a Trans Masculine person presents themselves, there is less to notice than in a Trans feminine person.

 

[timreh]

Trans men are horribly underrepresented in these conversations about violence. We need more surveys, and we need to better address the sources of violence targeting transgender people.

Yup.

The 2022 US Trans Survey will happen soon. Hopefully the questions for the trans masc community will be broader and more inclusive then they have been in the past.

 

[timreh]

Interesting. The census numbers from the first time anything was asked about being trans are apparently due to be published soon. I was one of the people the Office for National Statistics interviewed before formulating the question.
Prior to that, the best numbers I have seen are similar in the UK to those in the US for ratio of Trans women to Trans men.
Anecdotally, I can say I've met a lot more Trans men than previously in the last couple of years.
I wonder if that's because, in terms of how a Trans Masculine person presents themselves, there is less to notice than in a Trans feminine person.

I was part of a panel consulting on various queer related questions for a bi-annual health survey. We were limited by politics to only adding one question. And the only gender based question they would allow us to add was so obliquely written I'm sure not a single cis-het person answered it.

When the results were published the survey honchos were stunned by the large number of replies that identified as other than cis.

That was when they finally realized their prior surveys had been missing identifying a key community within the state.

At this point I think I know or know of more NB and trans masc folks than I do trans femme folks. The NB community seems to be growing quickly.

 

[comegently]

I was part of a panel consulting on various queer related questions for a bi-annual health survey. We were limited by politics to only adding one question. And the only gender based question they would allow us to add was so obliquely written I'm sure not a single cis-het person answered it.

When the results were published the survey honchos were stunned by the large number of replies that identified as other than cis.

That was when they finally realized their prior surveys had been missing identifying a key community within the state.

At this point I think I know or know of more NB and trans masc folks than I do trans femme folks. The NB community seems to be growing quickly.

That's certainly true, especially amongst younger people. The old straitjacket conventions no longer apply. I only wish it had been like this when I was younger.
I tend to avoid most labels. At work, for example, no one asks if you are a woman (in what they understand the term to mean). I live and work according to the conventions and forms of address that most people apply to those they perceive to be female. Many people are stuck with the old idea that if you do not explicitly call yourself "woman" then you must be "man", but those are just categories according to chosen criteria.

 

[BiDrew42]

Manila is the best place or else Cebu in the south.

Angeles City north of Manila also has a large Ladyboy population.