Becoming more Dom/Training your lover

[Mephistopheles7]

Hello all, pretty new to the forum but thought this may be a good place to get some advice.

Me and my partner have been together for some years and our sex life has always been good but time takes it's toll and before we met I had a considerably more varied sex life than her, so I have always felt a little unsatisfied. Basically my inner pervert wants to come out.

Recently I have noticed that she seems to enjoy taking stern direction and being treated roughly; when I take a more dominant role she gets more in to it and we end up having better, more passionate (and freaky ) sex.

I have always felt very dominant in bed and my first sexual partner, whom I was with for many years, was very submissive and happy to experiment but I was younger and less confident and so didn't explore this part of myself very much.

What I want now is to train my lover to be my sub.

She has enjoyed anal the few times we have had it but has difficulty getting going and likes it when I get rough when she is giving me head but I'm nervous about taking the next step. What if i have massively over read the situation or just go too fast? We are very close and share a huge amount of respect for each other but in bed I want to be filthy and I'm sure she secretly does too.

Any advice or help you could give me on this would be appreciated very much!

Thanks.

 

[analgirl69]

Hello all, pretty new to the forum but thought this may be a good place to get some advice.

Me and my partner have been together for some years and our sex life has always been good but time takes it's toll and before we met I had a considerably more varied sex life than her, so I have always felt a little unsatisfied. Basically my inner pervert wants to come out.

Recently I have noticed that she seems to enjoy taking stern direction and being treated roughly; when I take a more dominant role she gets more in to it and we end up having better, more passionate (and freaky ) sex.

I have always felt very dominant in bed and my first sexual partner, whom I was with for many years, was very submissive and happy to experiment but I was younger and less confident and so didn't explore this part of myself very much.

What I want now is to train my lover to be my sub.

She has enjoyed anal the few times we have had it but has difficulty getting going and likes it when I get rough when she is giving me head but I'm nervous about taking the next step. What if i have massively over read the situation or just go too fast? We are very close and share a huge amount of respect for each other but in bed I want to be filthy and I'm sure she secretly does too.

Any advice or help you could give me on this would be appreciated very much!

Thanks.

I wish my husband wrote this post. LOL. It would be "problem solved. Lets go.." Sadly, not the case. Hope she wants to be more submissive then my wonderful hubby wants to be dominant.

 

[Alcinder]

Go for it. Either talk it out, or just tell her that you'll stop whenever she asks and slap her around and fuck her silly. I'm pretty submissive, though I'm learning to be a switch. It is amazing how much harder I come when there's some level of power exchange happening. If the sex is already more passionate, don't let this fear stop you. A couple mind blowing orgasms and she'll be more into it than you are.

 

[Mephistopheles7]

I wish my husband wrote this post. LOL. It would be "problem solved. Lets go.." Sadly, not the case. Hope she wants to be more submissive then my wonderful hubby wants to be dominant.

Haha well who knows, maybe he's brewing something special.

Go for it. Either talk it out, or just tell her that you'll stop whenever she asks and slap her around and fuck her silly. I'm pretty submissive, though I'm learning to be a switch. It is amazing how much harder I come when there's some level of power exchange happening. If the sex is already more passionate, don't let this fear stop you. A couple mind blowing orgasms and she'll be more into it than you are.

Thanks, I think talking it over might detract from the spontenaity and immediacy of being in control. I don't want her permission, I want her to want it. I want to make her mine, doing as I please, allowing me to orchestrate a sexual symphony haha! Still I think a blunt takeover of her body would be too crude for her and spoil it.Timing and tension are vital with her, more so than I so I feel I need to master that before I can make her fully mine. She is a lady after all.