I told my boyfriend what I liked and he delivered

[GOODLUCKEVA]

I had this happen to me. The first time an ex- and I made love, she had to ask me if I had finished because I was totally silent. Growing up with a brother who slept in a bed next to mine made me work on being absolutely noiseless when I jerked off. Bad habit to continue with, I now know. I now let myself go, whatever feels appropriate, none of the porn-type things like "fuck yeah" or "suck that cock", just real emotion and gratitude about how my partner is making me feel.

Thanks for bringing this up!

It's really powerful that you've recognized and worked through that habit. Growing up in an environment where silence became second nature can definitely shape how we express ourselves later in life. The fact that you've moved toward letting yourself truly feel and express your emotions with your partner shows a lot of growth and vulnerability. It's amazing how the little things that like being authentic and expressing gratitude which make the experience so much more meaningful. Your openness and willingness to change for the better will only make your connections deeper. Thanks for sharing that insight—it's so relatable and real.

 

[ArseGratiaArtis]

Let me preface this by saying I just had some of the best sex of my life a few days ago.

Sex with my boyfriend is great as it is. But some time ago, I confided in him that I would like us both to make more sex noises during the act if we're feeling it. Nothing over the top, but just be a little more vocal aside from the occasional moan or sigh. I explained that I get shy sometimes and find myself suppressing any sounds I’d like to get out. He listened and encouraged me to let go next time we have sex and do whatever I like and he'd do the same. I also told him I would love for him to talk dirty to me and hold me while I orgasm.

A few days later, I came home early from work feeling really horny. He works from home, so I went into his home office and sat on his lap, straddled him and kissed him.Later he took out the INHAPX960 the best vibrator that I 've got. He decided to use the head of it to tease and rub my clit, and let's just say, he was definitely feeling the excitement. It's amazing how something like that can really turn up the heat – I mean, we were both pretty thrilled with the results. He had his arm around my waist and when I came, my orgasm was so intense my knees buckled and he held me close preventing me from falling. He held me through my orgasm just like I'd asked.

We then had sex alternating positions, ending with cowgirl (his favourite) and I did not hold back. For the first time that I did not think, I let myself moan and sigh as loudly and as often as I liked. He did too. The sounds he made made the experience all the more sweeter and hotter. We both had very intense orgasms during the penetrative sex.

I just hope someone reads this and lets their partner know what they want/like. Don't be shy! Your partner probably wants it too just communicate it to them and have the best sex you've ever had!

This is really good, but it's only a start. Before you ever get into bed with someone, unless it's just a quick hookup, talk about what you like, what you'll do, what your limits are. You don't want to be surprised later when she says, "You're never going to get that thing in my ass," or some such. Talk about how often you think about sex, about how often you want it.

And during sex, talk as well as moan, although I have had women who get almost non-verbal with the intensity of near-continuous orgasms. But nearly all of them love to hear me talk dirty, and I love it when a woman talks dirty to me. The hottest thing I can hear is, "Cum in me!" or some variation on that.

Other kinds of communication are fun, too. When I was married I once came home to a note on the door, "I'm in the bedroom. Wanna fuck?"

 

[write_or_wrong]

It's really powerful that you've recognized and worked through that habit. Growing up in an environment where silence became second nature can definitely shape how we express ourselves later in life. The fact that you've moved toward letting yourself truly feel and express your emotions with your partner shows a lot of growth and vulnerability. It's amazing how the little things that like being authentic and expressing gratitude which make the experience so much more meaningful. Your openness and willingness to change for the better will only make your connections deeper. Thanks for sharing that insight—it's so relatable and real.

Thank you, Eva!

 

[GOODLUCKEVA]

This is really good, but it's only a start. Before you ever get into bed with someone, unless it's just a quick hookup, talk about what you like, what you'll do, what your limits are. You don't want to be surprised later when she says, "You're never going to get that thing in my ass," or some such. Talk about how often you think about sex, about how often you want it.

And during sex, talk as well as moan, although I have had women who get almost non-verbal with the intensity of near-continuous orgasms. But nearly all of them love to hear me talk dirty, and I love it when a woman talks dirty to me. The hottest thing I can hear is, "Cum in me!" or some variation on that.

Other kinds of communication are fun, too. When I was married I once came home to a note on the door, "I'm in the bedroom. Wanna fuck?"

I bet you had a wonderful time after you saw that note.It's clear you've had some interesting experiences and have thought a lot about communication in relationships which is really important. Being open about desires, boundaries, and preferences is key to creating a safe, enjoyable space for both partners. It's all about mutual respect and making sure both people feel comfortable exploring what excites them together whether it's through words, actions, or simple gestures. It's great to see you value that level of openness and connection!

 

[YourSecretDesires]

This is really good, but it's only a start. Before you ever get into bed with someone, unless it's just a quick hookup, talk about what you like, what you'll do, what your limits are. You don't want to be surprised later when she says, "You're never going to get that thing in my ass," or some such. Talk about how often you think about sex, about how often you want it.

I once was with a girl who was very shy at first as we were getting warmed up. At the time she was 22 and I was around 43. She asked if I minded just talking in bed about sex so she could relax. We talked about our experiences, kinks, and so on. Eventually though we both got sleepy as it was late so we nodded off.

The next morning we woke up and had terrific sex. I always think it was made better by our discussion.

 

[GOODLUCKEVA]

I once was with a girl who was very shy at first as we were getting warmed up. At the time she was 22 and I was around 43. She asked if I minded just talking in bed about sex so she could relax. We talked about our experiences, kinks, and so on. Eventually though we both got sleepy as it was late so we nodded off.

The next morning we woke up and had terrific sex. I always think it was made better by our discussion.

It sounds like you had a really special and meaningful experience. Sometimes, just taking the time to talk openly about our desires and experiences can create a deeper connection, and it’s wonderful that it helped both of you feel more relaxed and comfortable. Conversations like that can lay a foundation of trust and understanding, which really enhances intimacy. It’s great to hear that the next morning’s connection was so fulfilling—it’s amazing how communication, even in the most relaxed ways, can make such a difference.

 

[YourSecretDesires]

It sounds like you had a really special and meaningful experience. Sometimes, just taking the time to talk openly about our desires and experiences can create a deeper connection, and it’s wonderful that it helped both of you feel more relaxed and comfortable. Conversations like that can lay a foundation of trust and understanding, which really enhances intimacy. It’s great to hear that the next morning’s connection was so fulfilling—it’s amazing how communication, even in the most relaxed ways, can make such a difference.

Totally agree. I think it helped that I was experienced and not in a hurry. I didn't want to pressure her. She was experienced too but clearly had a different comfort zone.

 

[Tina_LeVoiturier]

Let me preface this by saying I just had some of the best sex of my life a few days ago.

Sex with my boyfriend is great as it is. But some time ago, I confided in him that I would like us both to make more sex noises during the act if we're feeling it. Nothing over the top, but just be a little more vocal aside from the occasional moan or sigh. I explained that I get shy sometimes and find myself suppressing any sounds I’d like to get out. He listened and encouraged me to let go next time we have sex and do whatever I like and he'd do the same. I also told him I would love for him to talk dirty to me and hold me while I orgasm.

A few days later, I came home early from work feeling really horny. He works from home, so I went into his home office and sat on his lap, straddled him and kissed him.Later he took out the INHAPX960 the best vibrator that I 've got. He decided to use the head of it to tease and rub my clit, and let's just say, he was definitely feeling the excitement. It's amazing how something like that can really turn up the heat – I mean, we were both pretty thrilled with the results. He had his arm around my waist and when I came, my orgasm was so intense my knees buckled and he held me close preventing me from falling. He held me through my orgasm just like I'd asked.

We then had sex alternating positions, ending with cowgirl (his favourite) and I did not hold back. For the first time that I did not think, I let myself moan and sigh as loudly and as often as I liked. He did too. The sounds he made made the experience all the more sweeter and hotter. We both had very intense orgasms during the penetrative sex.

I just hope someone reads this and lets their partner know what they want/like. Don't be shy! Your partner probably wants it too just communicate it to them and have the best sex you've ever had!

Begin, awakening sex

 

[Rollinbones]

My wifey is one of those beautiful women who will switch one moment from 'For god's sake make some noise man' to screaming her lungs out, to telling me to be quiet because the kids are awake, to telling me to pull her hair and smack her bum and then wanting me just to hold her while she grinds on me silently. Communication is key.

 

[bearzfan1985]

Let me preface this by saying I just had some of the best sex of my life a few days ago.

Sex with my boyfriend is great as it is. But some time ago, I confided in him that I would like us both to make more sex noises during the act if we're feeling it. Nothing over the top, but just be a little more vocal aside from the occasional moan or sigh. I explained that I get shy sometimes and find myself suppressing any sounds I’d like to get out. He listened and encouraged me to let go next time we have sex and do whatever I like and he'd do the same. I also told him I would love for him to talk dirty to me and hold me while I orgasm.

A few days later, I came home early from work feeling really horny. He works from home, so I went into his home office and sat on his lap, straddled him and kissed him.Later he took out the INHAPX960 the best vibrator that I 've got. He decided to use the head of it to tease and rub my clit, and let's just say, he was definitely feeling the excitement. It's amazing how something like that can really turn up the heat – I mean, we were both pretty thrilled with the results. He had his arm around my waist and when I came, my orgasm was so intense my knees buckled and he held me close preventing me from falling. He held me through my orgasm just like I'd asked.

We then had sex alternating positions, ending with cowgirl (his favourite) and I did not hold back. For the first time that I did not think, I let myself moan and sigh as loudly and as often as I liked. He did too. The sounds he made made the experience all the more sweeter and hotter. We both had very intense orgasms during the penetrative sex.

I just hope someone reads this and lets their partner know what they want/like. Don't be shy! Your partner probably wants it too just communicate it to them and have the best sex you've ever had!

I have always been very appreciative that my wife is vocal in bed. She does not swear, but there is little doubt in my mind when I am doing something she really likes.

I especially enjoy her letting me know she is starting to cum and the icing on the cake is when she gets surprised and has more after that! I really enjoy that.

Thanks for sharing and keep talking to each other as great communication makes for great sex.

To up it a bit, share a fantasy that you have the next time in bed.