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I am not that large, but I have been told that a lot of guys like us bigger girls cause we are more out going in bed. And that we suck a mean cock lol
I am not that large, but I have been told that a lot of guys like us bigger girls cause we are more out going in bed. And that we suck a mean cock lol
So in essence we are just being used for their sexual pleasures....no hope for a real and emotionally healthy relationship, right?
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I wouldn't say that. There are several men out there that truly do love a woman of size for her. But I think that when it comes to a straight sexual experience, it is mostly for sexual pleasures.
I am really starting to give up hope.....on a lot.
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Don't ever give up hope. Send me a message if you would like to chat.
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I definitely like my girls bigger, relationship wise too... though I am quite picky.
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Short answer: Quite a few are, yes.
Long answer: For different reasons, yes.
Some men are simply men. Curves are attractive for different reasons to some, to the point that a plush lady will spark the same horny reaction in them that stick-thin models get in others. Their little head likes big ladies.
Some men are likely giving into the 'instinct' of making babies. This one's probably pulling something out of the derrière, but I feel some people feel curves = good for bearing children. Their instinct likes big ladies.
Some men, very unfortunately, just very piggishly want to take advantage of the "lower self esteem" among curvy women. (Note the parenthesis. Exists in some, not all; I'd much rather see all ladies proud of their bodies.) Their ego preys on big ladies.
A few men enjoy the "plush" side of it. Curves to some guys are soft, warm, cuddly, and pleasant to be close to. Their warm fuzzy heart likes big ladies.
A few men "enjoy" the plush side of it. Curves to some guys are sexy, jiggly, fun to hold, and delightful to immerse into in bed. Their sexy throbbing heart likes big ladies.
Of course there are some who want specific, for lack of a better description, distributions of the weight. "Short, chubby, big boobs" girls--the 5'6" ladies with hourglass curves on an already plump body. Pear shaped ladies, smaller top and wide bottom and legs. Yada yada. Your curves may not match what this guy or that guy wants his curves to look like. Granted, this is a fairly shallow reason for why people may react as they do, but when people have their preferences, it's still a reason.
Ideally someone should be wanted in spite of their curves, not because of them. Personality before body. There are quite a few guys like this who genuinely appreciate BBW company because, when the BBW is indeed a good person with bad luck on finding anyone to talk with, they tend to appreciate genuine company.
Slightly less perfect, someone should admire a stunning body but be very intent on making sure the personality is just as attractive as the body containing it. Body attracts, personality keeps. The trouble with this kind of guy is being able to tell the difference between him, and the kind who just wants a quick orgasm out of it.
And in the end, you can't figure out who's who for what reasons without talking and trying. The short answer is, again, yes. All body types can be adored, yours is no exception. There will be people, probably quite a few here as well, who would actively worship it if given a chance. I've seen a few guys who would want to cuddle curves senseless, many who would hump curves silly, and a good few who don't care about curves as long as the mind and soul behind them is a good person. So in the end, you can only try.
I'm a cuddler, myself. A plush lady crawling into my lap to pin me down in a snuggly hold full of squeezes and kisses? Yes please. <3
Long answer: For different reasons, yes.
Some men are simply men. Curves are attractive for different reasons to some, to the point that a plush lady will spark the same horny reaction in them that stick-thin models get in others. Their little head likes big ladies.
Some men are likely giving into the 'instinct' of making babies. This one's probably pulling something out of the derrière, but I feel some people feel curves = good for bearing children. Their instinct likes big ladies.
Some men, very unfortunately, just very piggishly want to take advantage of the "lower self esteem" among curvy women. (Note the parenthesis. Exists in some, not all; I'd much rather see all ladies proud of their bodies.) Their ego preys on big ladies.
A few men enjoy the "plush" side of it. Curves to some guys are soft, warm, cuddly, and pleasant to be close to. Their warm fuzzy heart likes big ladies.
A few men "enjoy" the plush side of it. Curves to some guys are sexy, jiggly, fun to hold, and delightful to immerse into in bed. Their sexy throbbing heart likes big ladies.
Of course there are some who want specific, for lack of a better description, distributions of the weight. "Short, chubby, big boobs" girls--the 5'6" ladies with hourglass curves on an already plump body. Pear shaped ladies, smaller top and wide bottom and legs. Yada yada. Your curves may not match what this guy or that guy wants his curves to look like. Granted, this is a fairly shallow reason for why people may react as they do, but when people have their preferences, it's still a reason.
Ideally someone should be wanted in spite of their curves, not because of them. Personality before body. There are quite a few guys like this who genuinely appreciate BBW company because, when the BBW is indeed a good person with bad luck on finding anyone to talk with, they tend to appreciate genuine company.
Slightly less perfect, someone should admire a stunning body but be very intent on making sure the personality is just as attractive as the body containing it. Body attracts, personality keeps. The trouble with this kind of guy is being able to tell the difference between him, and the kind who just wants a quick orgasm out of it.
And in the end, you can't figure out who's who for what reasons without talking and trying. The short answer is, again, yes. All body types can be adored, yours is no exception. There will be people, probably quite a few here as well, who would actively worship it if given a chance. I've seen a few guys who would want to cuddle curves senseless, many who would hump curves silly, and a good few who don't care about curves as long as the mind and soul behind them is a good person. So in the end, you can only try.
I'm a cuddler, myself. A plush lady crawling into my lap to pin me down in a snuggly hold full of squeezes and kisses? Yes please. <3
Thank you so much! I feel a little better. At least I am smiling now.....real true genuine men still do exist! YAY'!
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This is true. I am very picky with relationships, but when I just want to fuck, a big girl is AMAZING. so much hotter in bed. You are very sexy too btw
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My two cents
I believe that ALL women are beautiful in their own way. A person that only sees beauty from without is a little shallow if you ask me. The only way to truly see someone is to look within that person. There are a lot of "beautiful women by the world's standard" that are stuck up and would not give you the time of day. Please don't look at yourself thru the world's eyes. No matter your size, shape, or color.
I believe that ALL women are beautiful in their own way. A person that only sees beauty from without is a little shallow if you ask me. The only way to truly see someone is to look within that person. There are a lot of "beautiful women by the world's standard" that are stuck up and would not give you the time of day. Please don't look at yourself thru the world's eyes. No matter your size, shape, or color.
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I have seen very hot guys with quite large BBW especially belly dancers, usually tribal belly dancers but others as well.
Unless you need to reverse diabetes or something I would slip the sleeve and take up belly dance, it is fun, will improve your movement and confidence, make you more comfortable in your skin and it seems to draw guys like flies.
If you can manage it go to a real belly dance school and skip the classes at the gym, they tend to be more belly dance light and not as safe IMO.
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One of my friends had surgery, the sleeve, to reverse diabetes and it seems to have worked. She has also lost weight though not that evenly, although they say it will even out. Guys always like her anyway because she is very and a lot of fun. She is also fairly religious in a sexual sense so I know they aren't dating her to get laid.
Don't do surgery for guys, a thinner you will still be you, no magic happens and if guys suddenly fell at your feet because you were thin, would you really want such shallow ones?
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[/FONT]It is so nice to hear that there are men out there that appreciate us larger ladies. It is so hard to feel beautiful and sexy when society pushes us to feel other wise. If more people looked past our outer package they would trully find what amazing and loving women we are.
[/FONT]It is so nice to hear that there are men out there that appreciate us larger ladies. It is so hard to feel beautiful and sexy when society pushes us to feel other wise. If more people looked past our outer package they would trully find what amazing and loving women we are.
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There is a long time period before you cleared for surgery. Just make sure that you need to do it. All surgeries carry risk. Also it can affect the metabolism of some medications so it may be difficult to regulate some medical conditions. Consult your doctor or course.
Starheat, My sister had this surgery and I do not recommend it. She had a large number of health problems which have done nothing more then get worse and her intensines right below her stomach have ruptured twice leaving her near death on one occasion and in extensive pain. She may be thin now but she looks like death warmed over. She gets no nutrients and can barely eat anything.
I am also BBW and I would never do this to my body, no matter how thin it would make me. I have lived my adult life at an average weight for my bone and body structure, as a very thin, every bone on my body stuck out and as a BBW. I do admit I have a few health issues, nothing serious and I do walk a mile every day. I know what I need to do to lose weight. I would never give up my choice of eating this or that to have my stomach reduced to almost nothing and never really be able to much of anything again. Oh and she belches all the time, something to do with the gases that the stomach would normally deal with, having no where to go.
My sister may be thin but she is no happier then she was before.
Think very carefully about all the things you're going to give up just to have a body that society has deamed you should have. I have gone through a great deal personally in the last 3 years and trust me, there are men who will love for you and for your body. I have met some wonderful men on lit, granted all online but there are some wonderful caring and loving souls on this site and in the world.
Remember that you have to be happy with yourself. You can not look to someone else to make you happy.
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I have always loved the feel of a bbw. The tender areas along the side of her breasts, the awesome area of her inner thighs, the taste of her skin, the smoothness of her lower back...all drive me wild. And yes the bbw's i have been with are AWESOME in bed. Skinny girls just don't have the same feel in my arms
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I am not that large, but I have been told that a lot of guys like us bigger girls cause we are more out going in bed. And that we suck a mean cock lol
And there are, for lack of a better phrase, "pleasures of the flesh." Feeling a strong, vibrant body...full, lush, and yielding. It is so amazing...
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This is definitely a conversation to have with your doctor (in addition to hearing the real-life experiences with those who have had the surgery). In Canada, it's considered the "last resort" for weight management, in that lifestyle changes in the form of diet and exercise have not worked. If you had co-morbidities like poorly controlled high blood pressure or diabetes, doctors would tend to consider it if your BMI was over 35. But if you were otherwise healthy, they would probably defer it unless your BMI was over 40.
Like others above have alluded to, surgery is invasive and not without its own risks. Also, it's true that there is a long waiting period for it, and both physical AND psychological assessments are usually involved, as having the surgery will dramatically impact one's life.
A helpful resource can be found here: http://www.emedicinehealth.com/surgery_in_the_treatment_of_obesity/article_em.htm
(Anecdotal evidence is important, but it's also important to make sure that you have other sources of accurate and reliable information!)
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