BBW attraction

[tryst7308]

cheering you on

well when you have a bunch of like minded people you will always have support and sometimes strangers can be more supportive than people you are close to i know it sounds weird but its true lol but just know that we are all pullin for you and that as long as you believein yourself and have faith in yourself there is nothing you cannot do

 

[Rockdaddy13]

So....I am contemplating getting a gastric sleeve or lap band so I can "feel normal." Anyone ever have either surgery? Pros and cons of either surgery by those who know someone who has had either would be great to hear

I havent but know folks who have.
If done properly they work well. if not, they can slip out of position an be very problematic. they must be inflated slowly over time til they reach the desired size for controlling your specific issues but that just means mutiple trips to dr!

 

[starrheat]

So.....I have hit a rough patch. I was pushing my bad knee too herd and had to give it a rest for 2 weeks...doctor's orders. That was 3 weeks ago that the 2 weeks were up. I can't seem to find my determination any more. I keep asking myself why I can't just start walking again...but my heart says why should I? (Yes, my heart has been broken by a man....AGAIN!!!!!) HELP!!! SUGGESTIONS? ??? ANYTHING TO GET MY FAT ASS OFF THE COUCH......

 

[kylekyte]

Bonjour...

I'm game

 

[starrheat]

I'm game[/

What are your suggestions?

 

[EctoJohn]

So.....I have hit a rough patch. I was pushing my bad knee too herd and had to give it a rest for 2 weeks...doctor's orders. That was 3 weeks ago that the 2 weeks were up. I can't seem to find my determination any more. I keep asking myself why I can't just start walking again...but my heart says why should I? (Yes, my heart has been broken by a man....AGAIN!!!!!) HELP!!! SUGGESTIONS? ??? ANYTHING TO GET MY FAT ASS OFF THE COUCH......

Find yourself a walking partner.
Someone to make you get up and go with you.
That way you aren't just out there alone, you have someone to keep you company and entertained.
It starts becomming something fun and something to look forward to instead of just meh, it's a walk, don't feel like it.

I'd go with you, but odds are we live on different parts of the planet.

 

[starrheat]

Find yourself a walking partner.
Someone to make you get up and go with you.
That way you aren't just out there alone, you have someone to keep you company and entertained.
It starts becomming something fun and something to look forward to instead of just meh, it's a walk, don't feel like it.

I'd go with you, but odds are we live on different parts of the planet.

I have very few friends. My best friend lives 4-5hrs away. Other than her....I have no one reliable. Just wish I could fade into the background or find a lucrative way to become a hermit. Lol. Tired of the storm....I want/need the calm. I live in Ohio...by the way. Go Bucks!

 

[Lrn_The_Ropes]

Sorry your feeling so down, John is correct about finding a workout buddy. they help keep you motivated

 

[EctoJohn]

I have very few friends. My best friend lives 4-5hrs away. Other than her....I have no one reliable. Just wish I could fade into the background or find a lucrative way to become a hermit. Lol. Tired of the storm....I want/need the calm. I live in Ohio...by the way. Go Bucks!

I had a feeling the location was going to be off.
I'm all the way on the east coast of NJ.

The only lucrative way to be a hermit is winning the lottery.

Well, if you wanna fly me out there, I'll walk with you.

 

[southerncharm77]

I guess ultimately it comes down to who are you trying to do this for? If for yourself then don't you deserve the best? Until you are happy with who you are then you will have a hard time changing what you are. You deserve only the best and that includes from yourself. No it will not be easy but nothing worth having ever is. Everyone hits walls but it's what you do after you hit it that makes you "you".

 

[starrheat]

What makes a woman attractive to a man? Would you (a man) ever approach a woman that wasn't what you were "typically attracted to?" If so, what quality would it be that would make you approach her?

 

[ElizaCat22]

I have experienced the same issues with men no matter what size I've been. (Always a BBW) They say how sexy I am and how good I feel but there has only been one who ever meant it.

Because of that, I struggle with self-esteem issues. I constantly put myself down. But I keep going with my self-improvement plans because I know that one day, I will get to a "healthy" size and I will find a man that accepts all of me. Maybe not in that order...but I won't be picky. Lol.

 

[Joanne86]

Can I just say that normally what i look for in a woman is her personality and of course she has to accept that there are two of me john and Joanne.

Its not the size of the woman its whats inside that counts.

 

[blondesque]

So....I am contemplating getting a gastric sleeve or lap band so I can "feel normal." Anyone ever have either surgery? Pros and cons of either surgery by those who know someone who has had either would be great to hear

Hey girl! I had gastric bypass in April, for my health not my looks. I went from a 26 to a 10 and now I'm working out and loving my new life. But I did it for me....no one else!

 

[Kinkster101]

I have experienced the same issues with men no matter what size I've been. (Always a BBW) They say how sexy I am and how good I feel but there has only been one who ever meant it.

Because of that, I struggle with self-esteem issues. I constantly put myself down. But I keep going with my self-improvement plans because I know that one day, I will get to a "healthy" size and I will find a man that accepts all of me. Maybe not in that order...but I won't be picky. Lol.

It's a good idea for anyone to contemplate self-improvement plans... after all who in this wide world doesn't have issues. But you should never put yourself down for what you are. You need to realize there are fine men who like bigger curvier women and more importantly on the list of ingredients for a long lasting happy relationship, chemistry is right up on top and size probably figures somewhere near the bottom.

 

[ElizaCat22]

It's a good idea for anyone to contemplate self-improvement plans... after all who in this wide world doesn't have issues. But you should never put yourself down for what you are. You need to realize there are fine men who like bigger curvier women and more importantly on the list of ingredients for a long lasting happy relationship, chemistry is right up on top and size probably figures somewhere near the bottom.

According to the husband I'm currently separated from, size is actually at the top of the list.

But he's a dumb****.

 

[Magicola]

there are of course personal health concerns for larger ladies however there is also no greater aid to health than happiness inside

After my teens I developed such a thing for BBWs. For me it was the curves and large breasts. You also are more likely to have a genuine person, more aware of reality- which may be a wrong thing if it comes from feeling down as a result of social pressures.

I love a confident, curvy, sassy and pretty BBQ (with an ample bosom)

Looking at BBWParamedics avatar for example.... looks heavenly to ,me.

 

[ElizaCat22]

After my teens I developed such a thing for BBWs. For me it was the curves and large breasts.

Not all BBW's have large breasts... :'(
I bet that's why hardly anyone has ever found me attractive physically. I'm great for talking but that's about it. *sigh*

 

[Magicola]

Not all BBW's have large breasts... :'(
I bet that's why hardly anyone has ever found me attractive physically. I'm great for talking but that's about it. *sigh*

sure I get that too. but not all men (/and BBW lovers) like large breasts I bet. you shouldn't think that

 

[BaldAndHorny]

am I the only guy who thinks that intelligence matters????

 

[EctoJohn]

Weight of a woman has nothing to do with my interest in her.
A pretty face and a lovely personality will get me attached to any woman.

As for the "fuckhole" part, well, I like sex, so that's a given.
C'mon, that's half the fun of a relationship.

 

[Adrraiya]

to all the lovely BBWs

I am also BBW

for me, there has been a gift to getting larger... the men who express an interest in me are really interested in ME

when I was 20 & could stop traffic, I had a problem with (1) married men trying to convince me they were single just to get laid... yes, I was a married man magnet but could always tell by the body language & I will never risk hurting a married woman by bedding her man (2) men who didn't care that I was intelligent... it was not my mind they were interested in

Yes, I did come across some "good men" whom I dated (my mom joking referred to "the boyfriend of the year" club) & even marriage & settling down

Then divorced.

and, for me, it was liberating ---- I got to walk away from trying to starve myself to lose weight that was simply not going to go away (it was a result of heavy steroids necessary to heal after an auto accident)

sure, it took a bit of time to become confident in my heavier self -- I hit 180 & held

I walk... ALOT... when my body will let me
I eat right... not even as much to keep my weight from going up but to keep my body from flaring up on me


some things that I noticed..... as soon as I accepted myself & got comfortable in my skin, the men started showing interest...... and those that showed interest were much more genuine in their interest than the vast majority of guys when I was "smaller" & "fit" --- and they are "good men" who are interested in conversation & are looking for a relationship (with sex) rather than just getting laid


The one thing you can do to help...... is to embrace yourself

if you want to lose weight, then figure out what way works for you
if you don't want to... or don't think you can just yet... then find a way to accept yourself just as you are

 

[Magicola]

the moral of the story is that no matter how attractive you think you are, you are infinitely more so when you feel confident

 

[ShyJake]

am I the only guy who thinks that intelligence matters????

You're not alone. Intelligence matters a great deal.

 

[JasonGuitar]

I have dated BBWs, skinny minis and in between. For me, a pretty face, a sense of humor and CONFIDENCE go a long way, regardless of what someone's body looks like. Sex/chemistry is important too, but saying BBWs are good in bed and that's ALL they are good for is just insulting.

I have gotten along really well with some women because of things like humor or music, and that has added to the attraction which only intensified the sexual relations.